socialized with who...sure as hell not non family members or those w/o your values.

She didn't.

I had the same type of issue, my little one was doing both home and daycare. i found that he wasnt sleeping well and adjusted that time which made a huge difference. I also cleaned up his diet and spent more one on one time with him. He may be trying to get your attention. Try timeouts too and follow through. Or taking the toys if they are slamming or throwing. Good luck. I hope this helps a bit

@@KarolynneNaylor can you explain more about how you do more one-on-one time? I didn't get any of that when I was a kid with my parents so play with parents is foreign to me. Also I'm a single parent and I'm doing everything myself without family support so can you give me tips on what to include one-on-one?

Watch super nanny videos! Very helpful and inspiring!you can do it- you are smarter and stronger than a child!

​@user-mr3ww5gy4j sit with him and do a puzzle together, colour a picture together, have him help you put baking ingredients in a bowl and mix, tickle him and laugh with him, go to the park and go down the slude with him. That's one on one time with a 4 year old.

Great that you ask for help and seek information. It sucks that you haven't had an example of this and that you have to do it alone. -Try to find the reason behind behavior. -Know, and really understand, that a child has to learn how to manage emotions. -You need to teach handling those emotions. >Lead by example (a great thing during them growing up), for instance: when you are sad, it's ok to cry (but don't meltdown, it would scare them) and by this you are showing that it's something that happens and is manageable. When you are frustrated show a healthy way to deal with. It's ok to show you are taken aback, but also show that you make a plan to move on. >However leading by example isn't enough. Especially when they are young. You need manage the emotions for them. When there is anger or sadness hold them (without changing your stance if you said no to something) and help them process that big chunk of emotions going through their body and brain. Hold their hands, put a hand on their back, stroke them, breath with them. But don't (always) smutter them. Like always hug them very tight when they cry. That sends the message that their emotions aren't valid. And when there is more calm you can address the issue with a little more distance (let go of one hand, or both, or get them of your lap and hold them tight but standing on their feet). This gives them more room to do the rest of the managing / processing (a bit more) on their own. Of course their emotions toward something doesn't change it (mostly). They still have a cut, it's still time to sleep, you still need to go away, their pet is still dead. >And then combine leading by example with helping them. Make suggestions ('you could make a drawing for/about your cat'). Ask questions ('what would make you feel better' (not what we would be a compromise)). Make a plan together. You let them process the emotions in a healthy way after the big chunck has passed their nerve system. -Again, no means no, so you need to stand your ground if needed. That becomes easier if you are a safe person to them, meaning that 'you do what you say and say what you do'. A promise of consequences or something nice needs to be followed up. But if you can't make your promise or it was to unrealistic, that's ok. Tell them. 'Mommy was a bit harsh, I'm not ok with you behavior, but 4 minutes is enough to think about it. I'm very sorry I made you go to your room for an hour.' Normal consequences need to be followed through! Look at some things supernanny shows, however be mindful to my first point. For example when a child behaves bad in a supermarket because they aren't allowed to get candy. Instead of going in full consequence-mode, you could also manage their emotion. "I understand that you really want it. I have the same problem. I also want it! But we can't. Their is not enough money / we already have at home. When I see this (point at a candy) I get sad that I can't have it. Do you feel the same? Yes? For what candy?" Have a dialog and end with saying bey to the candy or make another plan like making a list at home together with both your favorite candy. Or agree to have a candy at home (together!!). Acknowledge, support, show trust, speak through, make a plan, stand your ground.

Why? Day care environments are notoriously overcrowded and understaffed. The child probably feels overwhelmed and over stimulated. Punishing it for demonstrating its distress isn’t going to solve the issue, it will more than likely lead to this very young child shutting down. The approach quoted here is punitive and about forty years out of date. Everything she suggests is based on punishment/ power exertion and not looking into where/ why a behaviour is demonstrable. I have had the privilege of going into nurseries for 14 years to train staff. The majority of them are not remotely interested, are unqualified and are NOTHING like they present themselves to parents.

It's also called lazy parenting not making the effort to find out why your 5yo kid, whom you leave daily in the care of strangers, hates going to school already.

It’s hard if they aren’t very verbal, but definitely try asking in many ways. Show pictures, give options, sing a song about it, show them a video. Whenever something works, keep rolling with that

Looool I love that

They're used interchangeably so often that it caused semantic shift, and they now have the same definition even though only one is grammatically logical.