Children do not scream for nothing. Figure out what is causing the toddler to need to scream. Ignoring a screaming child is absolutely NOT the thing to do. You are teaching that child to not feel important and they will learn not to trust their feelings and that the world is a scary and unloving place. Absolutely disregard what these people are saying. DO NOT ignore your child's needs.
@Ingrid-sb6myСағат бұрын
Daycare makes kids violent- it's lord of the flies. Children should be with their moms.
@Private-wj4nd2 сағат бұрын
A 3 year old shouldn’t be in school- period.
@lupegaehring23622 сағат бұрын
I stayed home with my daughter.. best choice i ever made
@sydneyharbour-bridges80903 сағат бұрын
Resource guarding. My dog does this with toys and other dogs 😂
@natashalinkletter43843 сағат бұрын
so if there is behaviour that needs a consequence in that tantrum what do you do? say they are having a tantrum and they hit someone or throw something or break something do you still ignore that and then say let’s go to the park once it’s done?
@natashalinkletter43844 сағат бұрын
do you tell them you are rotating the toys? like if they ask where all their toys went do you explain? or just state these are the toys you have?
@margaritatowl72485 сағат бұрын
Do you have advice for supporting children to respect body autonomy/ acknowledge people's "no"? I work with a child who is very friendly but gets over excited and can end up hurting her friends as she can't find a way to stop herself. It's not agression, it's just not understanding that sometimes a hug is too tight/unwanted or that people don't want to be touched. Any advice?
@user-bv3ek4ex7m5 сағат бұрын
A child, at 3 and a half, should have consequences right away. Of course daycare needs to communicate with parents, but also having more consequences at home, several hours later won’t help. There probably isn’t enough good supervision in the room at daycare.
@astudent99056 сағат бұрын
I agree with this, however i would monitor it clsely because children need to be socialized by age two
@judiumstead54845 сағат бұрын
socialized with who...sure as hell not non family members or those w/o your values.
@Kubus776 сағат бұрын
Maybe ask the kid: 1) if it can recall the situation 2) if it can say why it did it (no guilt tripping) Afterwards you might be able to guide the kid towards other stress/emotion regulating behaviors. I am not a big fan of those long term consequences. Around that age they probably can't really grasp the situation, since for their time perspective it was AGES ago.
@Indykitty16 сағат бұрын
Can you stop calling kids brats...
@EdwinMaarleveld6 сағат бұрын
She didn't.
@kristenglenn70269 сағат бұрын
I like it but I’ve noticed more with teachers that if you point out a concern some of them tend to run with it & really hone in on it!
@Przepoczwarzenie11 сағат бұрын
I dont even think yelling works in short term. I think we get mixed kids yelling with memories of our caregivers yelling and we feel scolded and feel bad about ourselves and we absorb kids anger.i never saw kid with tantrum reacting to yelling withlouder tantrum. This is how tantrum transforms to child abuse. What we do with yelling is our own emotional relief.
@user-mr3ww5gy4j14 сағат бұрын
What is the big stuff?
@user-mr3ww5gy4j18 сағат бұрын
And if they don't learn from their behavior then what?
@Anabee318 сағат бұрын
I'd find out WHY: is he getting enough sleep, is the teacher or a student cruel? Etc. If it's just that he'd rather stay home, I agree (By "cruel" I mean actually cruel. Not unpleasant or difficult.). He's probably in kgtn. VS grade 1. I didn't go to kgtn & did okay. (it was the early 70's & kgtn wasn't available at my schl back then)
@user-mr3ww5gy4j19 сағат бұрын
That's great my situation is flipped it's at home with me the single parent and not at daycare and what are these consequences you keep talking about how do I know what a consequence is it's effective for hitting screaming and aggression. My toddler has been doing this since 1 and a half and is now four!
@KarolynneNaylor17 сағат бұрын
I had the same type of issue, my little one was doing both home and daycare. i found that he wasnt sleeping well and adjusted that time which made a huge difference. I also cleaned up his diet and spent more one on one time with him. He may be trying to get your attention. Try timeouts too and follow through. Or taking the toys if they are slamming or throwing. Good luck. I hope this helps a bit
@user-mr3ww5gy4j17 сағат бұрын
@@KarolynneNaylor can you explain more about how you do more one-on-one time? I didn't get any of that when I was a kid with my parents so play with parents is foreign to me. Also I'm a single parent and I'm doing everything myself without family support so can you give me tips on what to include one-on-one?
@gabrielleswann672914 сағат бұрын
Watch super nanny videos! Very helpful and inspiring!you can do it- you are smarter and stronger than a child!
@adararelgnel269510 сағат бұрын
@user-mr3ww5gy4j sit with him and do a puzzle together, colour a picture together, have him help you put baking ingredients in a bowl and mix, tickle him and laugh with him, go to the park and go down the slude with him. That's one on one time with a 4 year old.
@EdwinMaarleveld5 сағат бұрын
Great that you ask for help and seek information. It sucks that you haven't had an example of this and that you have to do it alone. -Try to find the reason behind behavior. -Know, and really understand, that a child has to learn how to manage emotions. -You need to teach handling those emotions. >Lead by example (a great thing during them growing up), for instance: when you are sad, it's ok to cry (but don't meltdown, it would scare them) and by this you are showing that it's something that happens and is manageable. When you are frustrated show a healthy way to deal with. It's ok to show you are taken aback, but also show that you make a plan to move on. >However leading by example isn't enough. Especially when they are young. You need manage the emotions for them. When there is anger or sadness hold them (without changing your stance if you said no to something) and help them process that big chunk of emotions going through their body and brain. Hold their hands, put a hand on their back, stroke them, breath with them. But don't (always) smutter them. Like always hug them very tight when they cry. That sends the message that their emotions aren't valid. And when there is more calm you can address the issue with a little more distance (let go of one hand, or both, or get them of your lap and hold them tight but standing on their feet). This gives them more room to do the rest of the managing / processing (a bit more) on their own. Of course their emotions toward something doesn't change it (mostly). They still have a cut, it's still time to sleep, you still need to go away, their pet is still dead. >And then combine leading by example with helping them. Make suggestions ('you could make a drawing for/about your cat'). Ask questions ('what would make you feel better' (not what we would be a compromise)). Make a plan together. You let them process the emotions in a healthy way after the big chunck has passed their nerve system. -Again, no means no, so you need to stand your ground if needed. That becomes easier if you are a safe person to them, meaning that 'you do what you say and say what you do'. A promise of consequences or something nice needs to be followed up. But if you can't make your promise or it was to unrealistic, that's ok. Tell them. 'Mommy was a bit harsh, I'm not ok with you behavior, but 4 minutes is enough to think about it. I'm very sorry I made you go to your room for an hour.' Normal consequences need to be followed through! Look at some things supernanny shows, however be mindful to my first point. For example when a child behaves bad in a supermarket because they aren't allowed to get candy. Instead of going in full consequence-mode, you could also manage their emotion. "I understand that you really want it. I have the same problem. I also want it! But we can't. Their is not enough money / we already have at home. When I see this (point at a candy) I get sad that I can't have it. Do you feel the same? Yes? For what candy?" Have a dialog and end with saying bey to the candy or make another plan like making a list at home together with both your favorite candy. Or agree to have a candy at home (together!!). Acknowledge, support, show trust, speak through, make a plan, stand your ground.
@melissarussell136322 сағат бұрын
Oh, you are speaking my sons language… hide and seek for 10 mins as my consequence?!? This was so great, I turned it down so he couldn’t hear it 😂 ! I’ll figure out another consequence for me, reward for him. I love your videos and suggestions, thank you 🫶🙏🏼❤️.
@torie51322 сағат бұрын
Love this approach.
@Ditto4634 сағат бұрын
Why? Day care environments are notoriously overcrowded and understaffed. The child probably feels overwhelmed and over stimulated. Punishing it for demonstrating its distress isn’t going to solve the issue, it will more than likely lead to this very young child shutting down. The approach quoted here is punitive and about forty years out of date. Everything she suggests is based on punishment/ power exertion and not looking into where/ why a behaviour is demonstrable. I have had the privilege of going into nurseries for 14 years to train staff. The majority of them are not remotely interested, are unqualified and are NOTHING like they present themselves to parents.
@PeaceOfMakeКүн бұрын
How to ruin the fun of learning 101
@luluacevedo1755Күн бұрын
My 3 yo tells me another toddler is constantly hitting her or pushing her at schoo her…what kind of advice should I give her?
@kelsey7731Күн бұрын
What's that word.... perseverance
@sossoft5 сағат бұрын
It's also called lazy parenting not making the effort to find out why your 5yo kid, whom you leave daily in the care of strangers, hates going to school already.
@SammiLeekКүн бұрын
I have an autistic daughter age 6. How do I stop her from screaming and tell me what is wrong?
@lizstolte26346 минут бұрын
It’s hard if they aren’t very verbal, but definitely try asking in many ways. Show pictures, give options, sing a song about it, show them a video. Whenever something works, keep rolling with that
@enochpage1333Күн бұрын
It’s a blessing to hear how well you know kids and how to raise them. So many clueless parents these days. So thank you for filling the knowledge gaps that opened when most of us Americans lost community.
@RoxyDamyКүн бұрын
OMG it's like talking about my 2 years old!!!! And the word NO!!! OMG everything is NO NO NO 🤯 I feel like I'm doing everything wrong and soooooo hard to ignore it 🤦🏼♀️
@pienkunicornКүн бұрын
I mean thats kinda true. But if the kid is really miserable in kindergarten (at 5), its a very real possibility that he checks out of education entirely by grade 3. This is worth looking into a bit more. He could also just be too young. Its ok to pull him out and try again later
@tegannottellingКүн бұрын
Never give in to a tantrum, you will create a monster
@jordanwebb3854Күн бұрын
Letting them help with tasks, with the baby if they want (I ask my five & four year olds if they want to pick out babies clothes in the morning.) Also getting one on one time with them. Even if it’s just a couple minutes of giving them your full attention. Telling them how great big siblings they are.
@user-mr3ww5gy4jКүн бұрын
I wish you would have been my parents
@MR-ww1zfКүн бұрын
Love this
@tnn805Күн бұрын
I recently used this with both adult and child clients. Worked perfectly well for both. Yelling is a behavior. Put it on the behavior board.
@user-mr3ww5gy4jКүн бұрын
How do you avoid getting hit, hearingear piercing shrieking screams for an hour minimum, and spit at by your 4 year old?
@poketube6224Күн бұрын
Nice advice
@Kira-kg4klКүн бұрын
I just don't react when my little one has a tantrum, just stay calm and wait for him to realise he's not getting anything out of it, I see so many parents either screaming at their kids or just giving in 🤦♀️
@dreamindessertКүн бұрын
That doesn’t make sense to have a double standard for yelling. This is telling a kid it’s ok to yell Becuase they aren’t an adult.
@shannon-nw4gq2 күн бұрын
Is there an age where no yelling is allowed to go onto the behavior board for the kid, like a teenager?
@keiranoakes25052 күн бұрын
Are u my next door neighbor cause u look just like here
@marybeth36602 күн бұрын
Now how do you handle adults who act like this 😂
@chelseaallyce1452 күн бұрын
I do agree to an extent but it's really not just THAT simple
@ADobbin12 күн бұрын
My mother spanked me when I had them. I didn't have them very often or long.
@mustwereallydothis2 күн бұрын
I just convince the kids that I have bad hearing and can't hear them unless they speak in a normal tone of voice. It took a while to get it going, but once the first few were convinced, they all kindly taught every new child who came into our home.
@adararelgnel26952 күн бұрын
Looool I love that
@Kira-kg4kl2 күн бұрын
I will never not play with my child and parents that don't bother enfuriate me
@angelr4272 күн бұрын
If everybody raised their kids with your methods, I wouldn't hate them... ❤
@MC-rw3lc2 күн бұрын
💯
@vcr68543 күн бұрын
What if they don’t want you to play in their world? They never ask, and if the parent asks they either don’t respond or say no…what then?
@ashleybellerose71043 күн бұрын
I yell. I yell because i get pissed off. Its been 11 years of me asking 100 times nicely and then yelling. Its so annoying. They dont gear me unless im screaming
@adararelgnel26953 күн бұрын
You can avoid a little bit of it by making sure the child has got enough sleep, food in their belly and their not bored out of their minds. But yeah, even after all that, some kids tantrum a lot. I love how you make it seem like your confidently braving the storm. I just love that. It's not something you need to avoid.
@sandwich74573 күн бұрын
They could care less or they couldn’t care less?
@Telly.3 күн бұрын
They're used interchangeably so often that it caused semantic shift, and they now have the same definition even though only one is grammatically logical.
@Ngarsal843 күн бұрын
I was stuck in tantrum stage with my son didnt know how to deal with it, one day I saw your video on KZbin and said to myself you were sent to me by God. Since then I have learnt a lot from your experience and feel my life with my kids are getting brighter day by day thank you so much! I don't miss any of your videos ❤