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Listening to a tattooed weirdo is something. But listening to a tattooed weirdo with a British accent is craaaaaaazy

Thank you 🙏🏻

Thank you ❤️

It baffles me too, but they can’t possibly understand if they haven’t been through it, or something like it. Eventually you get a sense before you even open your mouth.

This 👏👏👏👏

I didn't forgive. Just one day I looked at her and thought 'I don't like you. You're a vile human being' and the anger and resentment dissipated. Haven't seen or spoken to her since and it was liberating.

Why is this so true 😅😞

It feels bad 😞 like I'm not meant to do it even tho I know 💯 it's to protect myself. nothing that right have never felt so wrong

Hell yeah preach you a real one

Lol

Spot on mate. Thank you.

Growing up as a hero/mascot child made my brain messed up. I now even think that the real me didn't even born into this world. I don't even know who i am and what my real personality is.

Thank you for this, I was just talking to my son, and I remembered Peter Crone always says holding space for someone, as I listened to him talking I pictured my hands spread open holding space for him. So I like the hold their hand medifor.👍

Hi mate , I remember working with you about 15 years ago.. doubt you’ll remember me but fair play to ya for doing so well for yourself now 👍

Love it, bro. Do you mind if i use this and splice it in my video. I'll add links to your channel, of course. Should get you some traffic. Thanks all the same ❤

Forgiving them doesn't mean they continue to be in your life. Also, it was when I HAD kids that I processed even more and realized they couldn't be a part of my children's lives. But all these statements I've made myself, so I understand when people believe this. I just have to be okay with them not understanding.

I hate hearing "they tried their best". Just because they tried their best, doesn't make it ok. Sometimes their best is not good enough and people can't fathom that.

Cut both my parents off when I had my 6th child and realised I won't have my kids go through what I did growing up. Both parents don't have the capacity to self reflect but will always still try and get in contact with "THEIR" grandchild. My kids are better off not knowing these people.

"You have to be the bigger person." I'm 5'2. Give me the gun bitch

Yeah so much of this bs goes on. "Higher platform" 😂 Josh speaks the truth ❤

So so helpful thank you! As a teenager I remember saying "it's like you want me to explode and that's the only way you will stop" but then when you explain it to other people, it suddenly doesn't sound as bad from the outside so "I'm too sensitive " it makes so much sense now

Thank you so much for this video! My dad was an alcoholic but me and my brother (even my mom even tho they divorced) never left him and supported him till the end. I wished many times it would be different but we never hated him for it. Because we realised it was because of trauma and not having the skillsets to deal with it. The journey was an unending emotional spiral until he passed away in 2021. My dad falls in the category of a very loving parent but with a lot of demons to deal with. Childhood trauma, depression, fear, self hatred, loss of self and not feeling valueble in this society. I do have a lot of trauma to work on because of everything but it has also made me who I am today and definitely made me wiser and more compassionate.

So pleased you talk the truth. I’m in that place now but I know I will get out again

I can't explain how incredibly glad I am to have found your work! So helpful already and just ordered your book here in South Africa!!! Thank you

Hard to forgive when they still continue it today

Just discovered your words and man do they hit home. Feels like I’m hearing myself talk which is huge to someone feeling this way. So for that I thank you. Knowing you’re not alone in your feelings makes all the difference in the world. I see your contemplation and anxiety about what comes next and it reminds me of the struggling artist, pressuring their art to pay the bills then wondering why the bills aren’t making art, remember why you started and try not to self sabotage your current success worrying it away by what comes next. As is the Spiral 🙂

I just want to leave a comment for anyone struggling like I did 3 years ago I was in the most horrendous situation feeling so alone and not knowing how to get out as I was young and didn’t fully understand what was going on. You can get out, and you can be happy. Each and every one of you deserve it

My parents have given me the closure but removing me off their power of attorney. Before that I was open to discussions and still in a place of hope. I now know they don't have my best interests at heart and plan to keep their shit up even in their deaths. I've now morned them, bye mum & Dad

I honestly have lost all my blood relatives due to this. I don't hate, I'm not like that, I pity the people caught up in the smear campaign as they're still in it. I now have a new family with Andy's men's club and it has been the biggest support a man could need. Other men with emotions, absolutely a breath of fresh air. Love your content, keep it up brother.

Thank you for you content brother. Your book and your videos helped me see the truth and I need little reminders from time to time, this is what your shorts are for.

This is what I tell myself constantly... I dont know what else to do

so true, hearing these way too often, everytime when someone is just asking "because they are interested".... Why do people care? It's my life not theirs. I'll never understand. I really never give unwanted advice (or advice) to anyone. Why do others give all the time? :(

I think this is linked to your self confidence and your lack of self, I try to do things that challenge this lacking, but struggle if I feel iam being judged by others, so I try not to be to hard on myself, I developed this from a parents abuse, things have got better there's good and bad out there, don't judge youself, try to do things that make you feel good about yourself and be grateful each day.

I would love to see a video about good things to say in response to these statements… I always get so frustrated that I can’t even think of a good response in the moment

I wonder if they’re defending your parents’ bad behavior because they identify with or engage in the same bad parenting behavior 🤔🤔🤔

The explanation doesn't work

Forgiveness is for you not them. You'll never heal unless you forgive. Recovery is about reuniting with your family. What about your part in this? Have you made amends? Have you expressed any appreciation for feeding you when you were a kid? OMG🎉

My mother actually said that all the time! Never bragged and said she wouldn’t!!!

im 19 and regret not cutting off ties with my father,i completely ruined my life

Thank you for making this video. It certainly is an eye-opener because I never looked at things that way. I also don’t receive any cards. I personally think it’s the thought that counts and it’s a kind gesture to brighten someone’s day. (different generation) It’s not meant to cause anguish, and if that’s what the receiver feels, then it’s probably best not to send cards to that person, so as not to trigger them any further as your care, compassion and empathy will show up as disrespecting someone’s boundaries. We don’t owe anyone anything, and nobody owes us anything either. Treat people with kindness and unconditional love. And keep in mind that, unconditional love does not mean unconditional tolerance. Message received, thank you.

Everything and all things are happening in the mind; whose mind is it? It’s yours. It’s your associations and perceptions as nobody is doing anything to you. It’s how you view the actions that make it right or wrong in your mind. And you must understand that 1. Your mind is not your friend and 2. Don’t believe everything you think as thoughts are merely a by-product of the brain. Your brain’s only job is to keep you upright in a state of homeostasis (handling all bodily functions and keeping everything working) therefore, you cannot make yourself wrong. And since it’s your life, your brain, your thoughts, your journey, it all belongs to you and nobody else. You must find a way to break free and change your thoughts because you are the master of your own ship, you are the captain…if you don’t like the direction you are going, you need to find some way to turn the boat around. Learn breath-work and how to calm your amygdala so it’s not stuck in a state of fear AND, stop throwing up on people by projecting on people.

Thank you. Blessings, light, strength and resilience to everyone who’s experienced abuse. Honour, support and admiration to all scapegoats for their braveness. Hoping children who are abused and neglected don’t develop NPD nor any other condition that implies a life of pain, both inner and inflicted upon others.

Some are dual toxic systems like the occasional star systems with two stars. Both my parents are narcissistic

Had to chuck the grenade in being the scapegoat also I was parentified. It was my job to look after the toxic parent as their lives were to important

So accurate. People don't even realize how dismissive they are.... Unless they've lived in a similar experience. I can sit with anyone's childhood story and offer empathy without justifications. They did NOT do their best.... And I'm truly sorry that was your experience. Period.

You're doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing, Love. Educating everyone who doesn't understand, and giving so many who do, validation, strength and hope. You're doing great. Keep your head up and look how far you've come ❤️.

Such a BEAUTIFUL BeaUtiFul SOUL!!!!

Yes. Revictimizing the victim by not only diluting the responsibility and true ill intentions of the aggressor “I’m sure they didn’t mean it like that, maybe they weren’t that bad and that’s just your impression of things”, but also by questioning the victim by asking: “if it was that bad, why did you stay?, why did you take it for so long?” I don’t judge the initial seemed impossibility of others who are not experiencing the abuse to understand or believe it, because abuse is not normal and it’s actually a good thing they haven’t normalized it hence it sounds u believable to them and their brains try to deny it as it is. We all understand the world from our perspective and project our beliefs unto others (“if I’d never abuse a child, I don’t initially assume someone who seems nice and “normal” and who’s similar to me would”), but it certainly feels awful to be revictimized and have to re-explain the truth and still be questioned. Thank you Josh for raising awareness on this matter. Blessings, light, strength and resilience to everyone who’s experienced abuse. Hoping children who are abused and neglected don’t develop narcissism nor any other condition that implies a life of suffering and pain both inner and inflicted upon others. Let’s break the cycle of abuse , normalization of abuse, and revictimization of actual victims.

Excellent