There’s me envying minimalism whilst trapped in my clutter core life! If only I could be a minimalist, but my neurodivergent brain is like nope - you’re a clutter to the core!

Definitely wasn't the ADHD resources that made me feel incompetant. It was years and years of switching jobs and being told by every boss, doctor, and mentor that my failure was my fault and I had to just try harder the way that they did things (when I was already working until midnight every night in the office). Useful advice and thoughts in this video. I also lovvvve clear containers and being able to see everything, and I just recently began integrating bullet journal concepts into my planning and it has helped!

Evolutionary lies are behind these kind of genetic origins of everything. For some science types they have no use for emotions or experience. For them everything is filtered through the myth of genetic evolution etc

Absolutely ❤ the shame and judgement makes it unbearable. I am so tired of looking for help to resolve my ADD and getting shamed for being me.

The mechanism at play that helps us take initiative when another body is in the room doing their own thing, is the effect that their calm grounded focused energy has on soothing our nervous system. We co-regulate and this feels safe and reassuring

Spiral Lab I just found you today. I hope you are doing well. ❤

Oh I love you, so clever - thank you for putting this together. Much appreciated.

Very helpful! Thank you!

I’m recently diagnosed at 40. My issue with outsourcing is that I was raised by traditional parents who believe women should be good homemakers and waa things like quote “no man will marry you if you can’t keep your house clean”. My mother has always shamed me for being messy and the times I have hired cleaners she’s treated it like a failure on my part. She likes to remind me she’s never had to hire help. She does it all herself. Never mind the fact she has never had a full time job, never lived alone, was a stay at home mum when raising kids, and is neurotypical. Vs me, working full time, single mum, with (currently unmedicated) ADHD.

Never heard of bullet journal, thanks

NO CONDO!

Procrastinating as I watch this 🙃 great video, great tips, thank you!

Marie Kondo came out and said she actually doesn’t follow almost all the shit she said though, she’s a fraud.

I am so happy I found your Chanel. You are also my reminder that I have ADHD because I spent 7 mins trying to confirm that your tat is a KANDINSKY!! I am rewinding now. 😂

I can’t hang in there long enough to get anything out of this. Frustrating.

It's easy to feel guilty, or think you should feel guilty for doing what you love. But don't feel you need to explain or justify. The adage that if you do what you love you never work a day in your life is too good NOT to be true..

Thank you so much❤

This was so great! I recently found out I have neurocognative disorder. It was classified as "Major" with ADHD in the results. I was looking for some tips and I'm so glad I found your video. Very encouraging! Much love!

I run late, I will be late to my own funeral. I figured out a way to trick myself to be on time, but it requires the help of people (mostly family) asking me to be somewhere on time. The trick is telling me that the arrival time is 2 hours earlier than the actual time of event. But it only works if everyone plays along, and the “trick” is not mentioned. It actually works, but it seems “the people” would rather not have to do that, “because I’m an adult and should be responsible and I should be able to just do it like “normal adults”. It’s very disheartening that the people I’m closest to seem unwilling to accommodate a tiny request, and instead respond in ways that cause me to feel more dysfunctional. It almost seems like they would rather have something to bitch at me about because it makes them feel better about themselves.

why did i start zoning out until she grabbed the camera and was like btw between u and me tangent. speaking in adhd haha

finding you made me feel so happy and contained :)

I disagree partially on the controlling your emotions bit. We have a reduced amygdela response to help our emotions be processed by the prefrontal cortex. This leaves me often overreacting to things and simmering for literal hours or days after the fact. Because I'm too busy feeling the emotion to do the processing that will boost my mood. I often have to remind myself "right, I'm being emotional. I need to take a step back and CHOOSE to boost my mood because it doesn't happen on its own." Its not about denying intense emotions, its about making sure those emotions actually line up with what you want instead of just vomiting them all over the place.

I collect things I enjoy art/ craft supplies, Cd's and more than anything books. I do tend to fall on the hoarding side of things though. Not to the point that everywhere has piled of stuff but my cupboards are full. I wanted to heal before things got worse. So I'm stopping shopping for unnecessary stuff and I started to declutter. Because I fell down the minimalism rabbit hole. I was getting frustrated because I decluttered and still had lots of things. I love my books and CD's they hold memories for me. My boyfriend passed away in May I bought them in the charity shops when we went out together. I also have some that belonged to him. I'm so glad I found this video because I was feeling very stressed. Now I know that I can just keep my things I love and just relax! Thankyou.

I have absolutely no idea what is under my mask. I'm 54 years old, still not formally diagnosed, but a clinical psychologist told me when I was 47 that she had no doubt whatsoever that I have ADHD. I was a gifted child, eldest daughter with driven parents, so yeah, I think I came out of the womb wearing some sort of mask. I felt as though I was never enough, never lived up to my "potential", a word I've come to despise and fear. I think I have become the mask.

There is IMO, a pathological aspect to people who shop as a way of entertaining themselves, then they bring all the stuff they mindlessly bought into their homes and don't put it away or display it - it just sits there among piles and piles of other stuff, so much other stuff in fact that they cannot remember what they have, and they even have multiples of the same or similar items because they just like the "thrill" of buying things. There's also a pathological aspect to people who have purged their belongings down to the bare essentials and have gotten rid of anything beyond perhaps a mattress, one chair, all but a few essential wardrobe items, a few household items and all vestiges of decor, which leaves them living in a bare echoing space surrounded by only spotless hard surfaces. As someone who lived like a nomad for 10 years with only essential items and some art supplies, I definitely felt a sense of freedom, but I also ended up longing for my own space filled with stuff I find beautiful and comfortable. Now that I'm in my own home surrounded by stuff I find beautiful and comfortable, I'll attest to the fact that my life is centered around making enough money to have that space and caring for all that stuff when I'd rather just zone out. Edit: Perhaps it's the journey about having vs not having stuff that's the lesson. I'm not criticizing anyone's path to finding their truth.

Very helpful - thanks!

I was just diagnosed at 40, 4 days ago. I appreciate this video very much. thank you.

This video means so much to me. I really needed it. Thx

What an absurd debate. I've heard as many people vehemently hate minimalism ( just look up I hate minimalism videos on KZbin) as I have heard calling people who love being surrounded by tons of objects mentally ill hoarders. We all have different needs. Some people like their minimal white space and some people like the Rococo lifestyle and there are people who need a bit of both in different aspects of their lives. I feel that as a society we have succumbed to factionalism in every aspect of our lives. Why? They both have their value and everyone should decide what suits them without suffering judgement. The presenters here keep talking about how minimalists are judgmental but refer to minimalists environments as creepy and soulless implying that that people that enjoy those environments are somehow creepy or souless. If either environment disturbs you to the point where you wont go to someone's house because it somehow disturbs you to the point where you can't be there then you are the one with the problem . Live your life and accept other's.

A Doctor with a bondage collar?.........Sorry I can't take you seriously.

So so grateful for this video!!! 24:34 ❤❤❤ I feel validated!

How ignorant of them to throw the term “mental illness” around. Collecting, arranging, and displaying objects is a creative process. Minimalism, to me, is the opposite… a DEstructive lack of creativity.

Unsubscribed from The Minimalists. Thank you. I was late diagnosed AuDHD & felt bad for my happy collections as I was always teased for it & thought they must be 'right'. Love your work!!

Thank you 😭. I'm so sorry about your sweet boy and so glad he has such an intelligent mother. I'm so scared that my son is similar and my husband will not understand it.

I totally did this w my stretchy camisole drawer and never looked back. it just works 100% of the time.

Finallly learning this stuff at 78. Very relevant video…THANK YOU

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This Mary Condo or whatever way you spell her name, was “Ok” UNTIL she started SELLING STUFF?! What?! Yes! SELLING STUFF! That makes her a fraud! Not as fraud in the fraudulent sense but she just turned everything she says into a farce! Yeah, get rid of what doesn’t give you joy but HEY but this from me and after a while throw this away too!

I don't know how this doesn't have a million views & likes! I love your channel!!!!

I rarely if ever trust 'experts'. I read a lot & check everything just like the Buddha taught. And honestly it's made me very unpopular & I don't care as my research has always served me well! My psychologist of 20 years told me I am 'anti establishment' & neurotypicals have always told me I'm a 'rebel' or that I 'march to the best of my own drum'. Actually I don't understand how people DONT research claims? Like I cannot fathom it. I even recently researched canine behaviour & data after enlisting the services of some dubious dog trainers 🤣 My NT mama said that's one of the things she's learnt from me - research!! (Late diagnosed AuDHDer end of 30s woman with autistic child)

Thank you

I have adhd but all my stuff is organized. So im confused about this.

The ADHD industry???

The stark white room she describes with white paper on the books, and all that, sounds like a disorder to me…

The last tip is the best 😅😅 Took me a whole 44 years to realise!!

Lmao. Artist with ADHD denies science. As someone with ADHD, I’m disappointed. ADHD isn’t an excuse to not use proper logic and sourcing.

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I a few people who turned the dining room into their office.

I would say motivation is the biggest challenge.

23:29 yrs true