Now this is a story I like to hear. Brought a smile to my face.

@Divorce Coaching for Men that's just a very small piece lol. Right after I got divorced I worked a sweet job for couple months. Then my mom developed full blown alzheimers and my dad lost his mind too. I was their caregiver during 2020. It was so brutal. Didn't even have the energy to worry about the divorce. Sadly my mon passed early in 2021. Then my brother raided the house and stole all he could from our dad. I just dropped everything again LMAO and hit the Appalachian Trail. Best thing I could think of at the time lol. Buy I would do it all again. There is still a lot more to my story for sure. Definitely a lone wolf but it's fun most of the time. Thanks for your video!!

ha . you'll smack the wall in a couple of years and there wont be wonderful " people " anywhere .

Iver, thank you for sharing this perspective. Seriously! It's a common one, and I understand where it comes from. I truly do. This doesn't have to be our stories, though. We have the power to create different ones. I'll share my perspective. It's not to change yours, because yours may work for you. It's merely to give other readers another point of view. I've seen the 77% stat. It might be true, but it is also a convenient way for us to say divorces are mostly women's vault. To move beyond, we need to take 100% responsibility for the role we played in the relationship, period. Break-ups are 100% her fault and 100% his fault. Without this equal accountability, we get the live with some level of blame. This blame cords us stay to the pain of the divorce. It allows the divorce to define us, and hinders our ability to move on with our lives being the person we want to be. Hiding money is financial infidelity. When you are tempted to hide it (which is a natural protective inclination) realize that the money is a resource to either invest in working on your relationship, or invest in working together to create a healthy exit. Use your money to invest in positive outcomes. There is no size of account that eliminates divorce pain, not even Tom Brady's. Hiding money is a scarcity, fear-based reaction. One can't receive abundance when they operate in scarcity. I understand it's scary to recommit. I just remarried. I am familiar with the thought process. However, not committing to anything you choose to do in life is a recipe for a let down, if not a failure. If a person chooses to stay in non-marriage relationships, commit to that 100%. If a person chooses to get married, commit to that 100%. But, think twice before staying in, or entering, marriage if you are not willing to commit 100%.

This is terrible advice. You are preparing for divorce from the first moment of your marriage. That marriage will be tainted. You are treating the woman who probably has done nothing wrong yet as the enemy from the very start. A marriage started like this will not work. If you can't trust your spouse from the beginning to this degree, then don't get married.

terrible advice

A man of wisdom 👏

Don’t marry in the first place !

I think my ex is on the way to feeling this, I can feel it when I'm around her and my child

Same here mate especially after her friends husband dumped her and levelled up

why did she leave ?

100%

You always have hope. However, what's within your control is your decisions, choices, and responses. Her decisions, choices and responses are not in your control. Hope is great if managed correctly. Attachment to hope can be harmful because when an action beyond your control blocks what you hope for, then that hope (or desire) bounces back and creates suffering. The suffering is around wanting something you cannot have.

Dont be a beta wanting space is nothing more than her fn other guys as a tryout to be her next fool to sucker into marriage its over for her and has been for a while buddy

My wife of 10 years advised me that she wanted a divorce. She wasnt helping me with the kids or chores. She didnt want me touching her. She was going to let me have our young kids and the new house so she could "find herself". Two months after she moved out, she wanted to come back, her affair partner was not working out. I could never trust her and I didnt want to go through this again with her later on, so I told her No. I filed for divorce and got it done in 5 months. The kids are grown now and married. Divorcing her and moving on with my life was something I never regretted.

‘I need space’ & ‘ I need to find myself’ means she’s getting plowed or 💯 open to it with ppl she’s already got an eye for. It’s over.

Walk away now. Its over. She wants space? Ok. I believe Bezos is selling seats to space. She will have all of the space she wants. And then some.

This is great to hear, and quite inspiring. TY

You bet. You have what it takes to get through anything. Just ask "how can I..."

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Thanks Brighton. I'm glad you enjoyed them. Is there any one tip that stood out for you?

@@divorcecoaching745 #3 was the best - it's hard, but it works out in the long term.

You bet!

I'm glad you found it too. Reach out if you need anything Kreston