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This is just part of being a kid guys .. once you hit 30, you stop caring about any of this stuff.. it's just what being young and figuring out who you are is all about. "cool" doesn't really have a definition - it's just someone who thinks they're doing something that is admirable to some number of other people whether it's fashion, personality, the way you hold yourself, or even the deeds you do. Best advice I would give as a 39 year old is just don't think so much about what other people think of you - be 100% yourself and focus on your strengths, whilst improving the areas you feel are weaknesses, and keep rockin in whatever way you wish!

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i kinda don't want to be mysterious anymore after watching this

22:22 long guys i'll take that as a sign

i love your style of filming it’s so cool!

A "week" in 13 minutes 😅😅 Do a literal week or DO NOT post !

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great vid overall! glad this popped up on my feed because this is something I’ve been thinking about as someone who reads a lot on public transportation and am very aware of how I am perceived lol. my only note is regarding Sally Rooney’s writing - I’ve read both Normal People and Beautiful World Where Are You and she does the whole no quotation marks for dialogue in each of her novels. for me at first it was hard to get into, but once it clicks, everything flows sooo much better than traditionally written dialogue. I think it actually serves to further symbolize the themes of (mis)communication present in her books - it further blurs the line between what is said and what is left unsaid.

I agree 100%, and as a person who lives in a country where books are excessively expensive, every time I go to buy a book I buy it only because I know I REALLY want to read it and not just to enlarge my bookshelf, and that mentality has accompanied me all my life.

girl this is so real because everything i do feels like its being done for someone else even when im trying not to show off my cool taste in music or book.as a kid my parents taught me not to show off like at all so i would want to tell all my friends about my trips and stuff and it felt extremely wrong so i found other ways like i dressed nice and wanted people to notice without making it obvious and had books and listened to good music and played it in the car anf stuff idk what im yapping about but yeah i feel like its a way of showing off without being obvious

Hi, i just got your video randomly. Enjoyed it very much, looking forward to watching more videos from you.

Great video! I totally agree with u I hope your race went well

In germany we have a website that I use like a library. You can buy used books there and resell them back to the website after reading. The delivery only needs 2 days.

I personally don't care about the performance aspect. I mean I also like to show off, how cool my taste in music is when I wear a band shirt, or like my fashion sense in general, when wearing something fashionable. Also it´s like veganism, id rather like people to be vegan out of trend, than not at all. But the consumerist aspect is fckn dangerous.

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I read a lot until I started high school. Like easily 100+ pages every day. Since then I have often been too tired and spent too much time online (I have ADHD). I have only read one fiction book cover to cover this year 😭 And 50-80 pages of four other books lol.

I get like half my books from library (currently reading Maurice and In Memoriam by Alice Winn). And a lot of old public domain stuff freely downloaded. Mostly I only buy books if my library doesn't have them. I did buy Secret History on kindle for easy referencing - I'm writing a Secret History/Like Minds fanfic and it was only 5 euros. Having 20 physical bookmarks in a book would be a pain lol.

I don’t think a book has served its purpose once read, for me there is quite a bit of sentimental value, and tbh it makes me feel nice. It’s not that deep .. but i do feel called out.. though i do read my stuff..

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girl get a different mic i beg of you the mouth sounds 😭

i'm annoyingly one of those people who annotate nearly every book they own because it helps me comprehend it better and get more out of it, but for the vast majority of people (and still me when I know i'm not gonna be as invested in a book) libraries NEED to make a comeback. they're also so underrated for vibes. Like, people want the studious book lover vibes so badly? Go to a library and read the books there!! They're so incredible, and if you aren't like me and don't scribble in books, people should definitely utilise libraries. Loved this video. Consider me subscribed 😎

Wow this actually kinda called me out. I do enjoy reading, but like you said a lot of it is performative for example I'll be out in public and think wow I'm gonna take out my book and read yeah everyone's gonna think I'm so smart. Don't think that's gonna change anytime soon tbh but it's good to be self aware ig? Love the vid, you should consider starting a podcast!! I'd eat that shit up thank yu

love this! also so proud of you, you smashed the run!!

THIS THIS THIS I’m struggling with how isolated I am. And admittedly it’s not healthy. But then I look at my mother, women I know and I’m like 😬 Not just men, but “friends,” too.

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I've seen some copes on the internet but this one is on another lvl

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I mean…ur right.I leave people that don’t benefit me at all,but I believe that I will meet a good man and all that.same with friends.I’ve tried dating,but once they f-d up I move on. im afraid to settle for less.I don’t think it’s high standards,in fact,it’s healthy standards for sure.Sometimes I even question,why people date at all if not to marry and have kids(if wanted).what’s the point of “having fun” and waste time on wrong people?if I look for a man,he better be a provider and be intended for a partnership.many guys my age(20) just looking for someone to dominate over.that’s gross.hopefully I’ll get at where I want to be,and won’t repeat my mother’s mistake.

Im a mid-20's guy and I find what you said pretty accurate. In my experience tho, since last year I tried to date a lot more (never dated or hooked up before because of selfworth issues and people pleasing in the past) and I realised I had a lot of trouble finding a partner I was interested in. Mostly because finding someone who has done the internal work I have done in the last years and is capable of showing genuine love is hard to come by. Makes me really doubt if my standards are too high because of my higher selfworth or I'm just not a good potential partner because of this. I also find most people arent confortable with deep conversation while I thrive in that. I dont want to settle and i dont want to settled for. I could go on and on, interesting subject hahah And yeah, clubbing sucks hard 👁👃👁 Anyways, good talk, I love the way you think. A breath of fresh air to hear someone talk about the subject in this way :)

I never jumped from one relationship to another and I kept asking myself how people use to do it. For me, to get into a relationship I need to be 100% sure that I want to be with that person and how compatible we are. The consequences were my long standing singleness that, to be honest, doesn't affect me that much daily if wasn't for this social pursuing of being in couple for social capitalization. I wonder how upgraded my brand and vision of others have of me would be If I, a 30's single female, had a boyfriend/husband. But that's it. Do I feel my singleness is a bad thing on my weekends when I am going to see a movie by myself? No. I have friends, a good family relationship and dates that can supply my sexual needs. But it's something I keep asking myself. Why am I afraid of being alone, if being alone for me is ok and easy? I would love to get into the mind of people that never be alone and figure out if I am doing something wrong or the contrary. Does the person have this magnetic power to call the desired ones easily and I'm not? Or I just don't need to lower my expectations to be in a relationship because I'm comfortable enough and these people aren't?

oooh girl this is a fantastic sentiment. So many people despise being single and therefore jump into relationships, solely for the purpose of adding company to their lives but beyond that adds nothing else. I have worked so hard to cultivating a life that I enjoy and developing the relationship, trust and love within myself that my mindset is now, someone has to come along and truly add something meaningful to my life in order for me to change it. Do I think this means I am now better at scouting out people and will probably have a healthier relationship when it comes? Yes. Does it also mean it is 1000x harder to meet someone and view them in that regard? Yes.

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24:17 i dont agree with that. people usually use this to reject beautiful womens success in entertainment industry. yeah obviously those womens beauty helped them but majority of beautiful people have amazing personalities and smart minds at the same time they develop personalities as they grow just like us and i also think people doesnt have to over stress to have friends if you have common interests with people they will talk to you even if you considered ugly by the society. i think this whole theory of ugly people have to be funny in order to have friends but pretty people doesnt have to do much is mostly a lie

It’s important to note that you are 19, I can say as someone in my late 20s my perception of self and beauty have changed drastically through my 20s. Also our understanding of what is old is deeply influenced by media and beauty standards, aging has brought me so much peace mentally and physically and has made me feel… hotter? You will feel completely different! I felt ‘awkward’ until I hit 25:) you got plenty of time to figure this stuff out. I can confirm I have bumped shoulders with ‘gorgeous’ people and eventually you get used to the wow factor of their beauty, and realize honestly, they are just human. And I think we project a lot on ‘beautiful’ strangers and center them in our mind as more important than they need to be. Also being surrounded by less shallow people/spending less time on socials brought me back to earth and helped me chill out on fixating on my attractiveness level.

This is so weird, you seem cool and everything but the fact that you did an entire 40min monologue to say how much beauty doesnt matter to just contradict the entire thing by saying you did not give a chance to that guy because of his looks ... today's society i guess. Live your life, dont loose your time giving this topic so much energy. You are taking a part in highlighting this superficial topic, the title of the video by itself is a problem. Dont take this personally tho

About the body neutrality thing. From what I've heard in psychological lectures, it is a part of a bigger picture. You need to be able to compare yourself with other people around you just to navigate life. Where is your education, salary, beauty etc on the social scale. For practical reasons. Like, if you look this way, and it's similar to beauty standards in this country where you live, you have an option to work as a model, for example. Or you know, you potentially have some extra points in approaching people you like (might also not work). But! It absolutely should not determine your whole self-worth. You need to be most important person for yourself, even if you poor, sick, don't have a prestigious job, or if you don't look the way instagram people look. It's a constant conscious choice in favor of yourself over any social approval. As in, still live your life and do things you are interested in, prioritize your own well-being, while making decisions etc. Sorry for the spam, I like to talk about those things.

About the first part of the video and the movie situation: there is a reason why people can't force themselves on other people, right? Why would you force yourself to be romantic with someone who you are not attracted to? It's like self-h*rm almost. It's normal to treat people differently based on how important they are to you, or weather you like them or not. (I don't advice being mean, obviously, but like neutral vs more affectionate and willing to have more compromises) Also, part of treating pretty people better is biology. They are pleasant to look at. So it's kinda like you don't know them, but they already gave something good to you. And you want to do something good in return. With social based beauty standards it's expectation, that you will live better if you hang out with them, I guess. 🤔 A lot of surgical augumentations, although they may look good on photos, have this uncanny valley effect on me personally tho, to be honest. Like why do you have a hard surface inside you boob? Is it a bone there under a skin? Is it a round tumor? Humans don't supposed to have that. 🥲 Lip fillers look like person is constantly swallen. Bro, are you sick? Why your lips look like a blister? On photos it's really cool tho, because it's pure geometry and compositionally more pleasant to the eye proportions.

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