How to change ones mindset?

This was so helpful. I actually have more characteristics of a fixed mindset than I thought. And to think I thought I had a growth mindset 🤦🏾‍♀️ But now that I know exactly what to improve on, I'll do better.

Hair looks great. You always look great. Those eyes though are so powerful and beautiful!!!! Thanks again for the amazing video. Thanks for spreading knowledge to us. You are awesome!!!!!

"Comparison is the thief of joy" - thanks for sharing another great podcast! Some of these I'm good at and some I can improve on!

So impossibly hot omg

Great video! you gave me a lot ideas for self-reflection now 💛

I just get lost in your eyes. So beautiful and the words are even more beautiful. You are an angel. Thanks so much for existing and being so kind.

Excellent😍😍😍

For some reason I think of the line in Shrek, where Donkey says that they've got layers like a cake, not an onion. Be the chessmaster as in "takes the cake" (destiny) not the fated pawn "giv'er the onions" i.e. win the day/task versus a reason to cry (good or bad).

Hi Donkey! :)

This was super helpful. I love this exercise and will use it going forward. Thanks!

Love your voice. So soothing.

It seems like we have a lot of the same viewpoints. I love the layout of your KZbin! Crazy we’re on the same wave, trying to do the same thing almost the same subs lmk if you ever need any help with anything and I’ll try to help as much as I can! Just subscribed and followed your Inst!🔥

You have a great soul. Awesome aura. Your eyes show how much of a wonderful person you are. Thanks for the knowledge

Hey Love from India ❤❤

Great exercise! Honestly the pausing helped because I'm a slow writer these days. Lots to think about, thanks!

good idea

Excellent

Loved this ❤

Really great concepts and helpful tips, thank you Victoria!

I've dealt with this a lot over the years, worst of all with family. It's definitely a challenge, to say the least, especially when the people I deal with exhibit heavy narcissistic traits; I can barely stand even being in the same room with most of them at a time. Unfortunately, they won't change, even when making them aware of their behaviour, but I guess it's a fool's game. I'll need to really consider what you've said, as it is very valuable info to work with, mostly in regards to how I can better equip myself mentally to approach such difficult situations (and people).

Thumbnail is the hottest pic of you ever. Sorry since this video is about me

Thanks Victoria! This was another awesome video, I enjoy these book summaries with key lessons. Acceptance, Accountability, and one doesn't need to Defend why they're right. Depending on the day I bounce around which ones I remember :)

great cozy video!

love your videos!

Thank you for your podcast, you are amazing!

Feels like the intention of BFF is clear - you want a friend, and so it’s simpler. With dating it’s not always clear what others or even yourself want

Dating apps, as an average guy, are like a kick in the nuts for your self esteem. I didn't get a single match in 4 months of being on there.

Bumble bff only works for girls. I would never use it as a guy. Also Vic ghosted me when I slid into her dm’s. Even sent the resume😂

I've heard a lot about Twinby lately. Does anyone have any feedback on it?

I mean it’s not a dating app you’re comparing apples to oranges.

You have the quality of better speaking

I love your voice❤

Thx ❤ from BR

I listened to this a few times. I don’t understand it at all. But I will listen and watch you speak about anything.

Thank you for this video

Great video!!

The ability to rebound from a percieved failure or disappointment is a true testament of our resilience. Of course, that was never always the case with me, but over time I gradually stopped expecting things to go a certain way (albeit remaining hopeful) and learned to just flow with the circumstances as they come; not resisting or becoming flustered by the unexpected, resulting in a sense of grievance. As you mentioned, our ego can be a hindrance in our quest to achieve or take action, particularly by fostering fear and catastrophizing out of a means of "protection". A little quote by Epictetus that sticks with me on the subject: "Don't demand or expect that events happen as you would wish them do. Accept events as they actually happen. That way, peace is possible."

Looking hotter then humanly possible

Do you consider yourself a complex person ?

Holy smokes your hair looks hot as hell

I will forever remember that ASSUME phrase, I had never heard it before!

This was so helpful to me and I hope you gain more popularity because what your saying is important

I'm only on the 6th minute of your video and I relate so much to what you say. Thank you so much for your video!!!!

As Ram Das said, 'Be Here Now!'

3:31 Clever wording - it's very true. So important not to stray from the present moment, although I'm guilty of doing so, as are many of us I'm sure. Personally, it's almost historically out of the "fear" of the unknown - "uncertainties" I wanted to make certain, but realizing how unrealistic it is trying to control whatever was out of my control. The past is also a factor; wishing certain things were different, what could/should have been if I had made smarter decisions, and that maybe somehow it's handicapped my ability to proceed with the future as ideally as possible. A mere lack of preparation and foresight on my part perhaps - but it is what it is. Nevertheless, simply letting go and returning to presence is a lesson I've taken to heart, though it's a work in progress. If I'm being honest, I don't feel I'm in the happiest place I could be often times, but remember that it could be worse. I guess it's a matter of just trying to make the best out of the hand we are dealt, and never taking the present for granted, as it is all we truly have in our control.

Incredibly attractive woman: "I DON'T LIKE DATING APPS!" Awesome, thanks for being *the* problem. You could literally find a hunk online, within a single solitary day, that would check 9500 out of 10000 boxes on that ratchet demand list but yet, here you are, whining about the process, that has been made beyond easy for women, mind you, up to even women with half of your attractiveness. Imagine lumping yourself and your message in with all the people that legitimately hate dating apps because they can go an entire week without getting 1 single decent match and rot on them for literal years, just because you're delulu and think 100% of the 300 men that would message you every day are beneath your "dream guy". You are you own absolute worst enemy and you have conditioned yourself to be so full of yourself that you would find faults with the perfect man if you were to date him. Just hair tearing-out insanity. Unfortunately, your same mindset of being too good for everyone to be bothered for even a single week online to net at least 10 ROCK SOLID connections, has permeated into all of western womens mindsets (yep, even the middle of the road ones with next to nothing to offer) which is marrying up perfectly with all time records of loneliness, divorce, native population collapse, misery, hopelessness, and on and on. An insidious message camouflaged behind a pretty girl persona. If I wasn't able to see straight through BS like this, I'm almost catching myself wanting to fall for this. Be aware that 95% of men and 60% of woman on online dating do not share the same "struggles" you do on OLD; This video is literally just for the narcissists. Oh, and for the record, those guys you're planning on meAting "organically" in real life, they're on OLD. Sorry to ruin the illusion that there is actually a dream guy under the next rock you overturn and he won't be online already if hes looking for a date. 🤣 This stuff is just Classic....

I wish it was easy. Letting go and starting over. Now that I'm coping with anxiety and depression after my wife left me for unclear reasons, I hope I could appreciate this message years from now when I learn to cope better. Good video. Cheers! 🥰🤓😍

If you lose momentum it’s because you know you’re doing the wrong things. Once you are doing the right things you literally can’t stop. You go to bed excited to get up and obsess over your passion. If you don’t have a passion you need to, otherwise you end up watching videos like this. The real answer is to find the thing you can’t stop doing.

Being discontent with your surroundings is a sign of a chaotic unstable and desperate mind. All places are equal you cannot run from your problems or develop a personality by traveling. I personally don’t trust people who flee one country to seek refuge in another. The thing you’re looking for is not in some slightly different predominantly white country then your own predominantly white country. Notice how no one’s traveling to The Congo or Nigeria. I wonder why..? Because they don’t want to see a new culture and live differently. They want everything to be nearly exactly the same but still achieve the label of “world traveler”. Give me a break.