Brainwashing book teaching women to be paranoid schizophrenics and that all men are predators. Brainwashing and the author is manipulating women. The book has the word "he" in it over 500 times.

The threshold of belief….such a good way to put it

I'm not a married man but I thoroughly enjoyed this! I wanna pursue purity in my life because I love God!

I wish I could share this with my old church

Very much needed convo!

I needed to hear this! Thank you so much!

I think grooming takes on a different name when it's with adults: it's brainwashing.

Thank you

It’s hard learning this early on in a relationship too. My bf of almost 5 months struggles with porn addiction and has openly talked with me about it. As someone who had the same addiction in the past, I am relatively patient and understanding with him. Hits hard thinking about the future though. I think it’s time I need to tell him straight that I will never willingly marry a man with a porn addiction; that that is a recipe for a disaster of a marriage built on secrets, shame, guilt, and intimacy issues. I need him to put the effort in or else (as much as this hurts me to say) our relationship will not last. Not saying I’m a perfect Christian myself, I have a *lot* of growing closer to Christ to do. Best thing I could probably do is encourage him to join right with me to get closer to God, and to pray over him.. that might be the only thing I can do on my end

Someone tried to groom me, and since I wasn't attracted to him at all, I was just creeped out by what he was doing. So it didn't work when he tried to groom me.

This is wickedness, and satanic, i am so ashamed that a pastor of the sda church preaches this kind of demonic way of thinking. I am absolutely flabbergasted.. you need serious repentance

I had a boyfriend for over 4 years. Boy was he shiny. Cars, motorcycle, fancy clothes, beautiful upscale apartment. He is a porn addict through and through. All the women think he is the catch of the century. Let me tell you, he is shiny externally, but so dull internally. He is a small man with ED. One night I found him slumped over in chair, porn on screen, underwear off. He fell asleep acting out - so digusting. That was the beginning of the end. I walked out and then started to miss him terribly. I came back, but you know what? He didn't want me back. He said he felt free. He could do whatever he wanted without boundaries. So yes, he chose porn over a loving relationship. And I am so happy I am out of this relationship. These porn addicts are abusers in the worse way, make no mistake. Everyone - do what you feel is right, but this gal is out of that situation and life gets so much better - I promise you!

I think that she is giving this example to paint a larger picture. The example is extremely helpful because she is explaining it in a very clear manner.

You have blessed and guided me ever so much Sarah!!! Thank you for your soul saving work in clarifying God’s word and will for his daughters enslaved and bound in dangerous, crushingly toxic marriages. And we have been made to feel that we cannot leave and honor Jesus at the same time. God bless you dear sister!

Very good example of subtle but scary perdotory/manipulative behavior, and very possibly grooming!

Thank you for sharing this reading. ☕🫖 New to your channel, It felt like I really needed this message in my life today. Greatful 🤍

The light went out - but it didn't The light went out - but it didn't matter✨- my first thought, as a new viewer, was that you looked very beautiful. The shaded soft-lighting was very relaxing and pleasing :-)

Yet they promote marriage in the church? This is a leader. A leader protects his sheep and a leader does not tell the wolf to physically abuse the sheep. A pastor who condones rape…what is that saying? SMH!

This was absolutely beautiful ❤

15:56 I grew up in catholic school believing I needed to be like a porn star so that I could be desired by a man :( I think it just made me more prone to making sex feel like it should be given as relief… I do feel automatically like a failure when I realize my husband watched porn during the day. He acts completely different and doesn’t know it. I feel so upset to know I’ve given myself to someone who never respected me.

Just found out after 2.5 years of being married that my husband had been hiding his porn addiction behind my back. I just caught him a week ago doing things that I never could’ve imagined. He keeps saying we’re going through a tough time, but he invalidates how distraught, confused, and frustrated at why our marriage was suffering. He kept saying everything was good and that I need to relax or chill out until I had the proof. He doesn’t want me to leave him. He only started therapy the past week because I threatened leaving… I feel lied to, deceived, and betrayed. He doesn’t hit me, he doesn’t abuse substances, but that doesn’t make what’s been going on feel any less than abusive… I really feel I’ve uncovered an affair and have been told to “shake it off” by him.

The difficulty is every relationship is the honeymoon phase. Differentiating between love bombing and puppy love or honeymoon phase is extremely difficult. I’ll just not be interested in letting another predatory FEMALE in my life ever again. I’m more than a 6 figure income, 4bdr house and gone working most the time. Predatory females are everywhere.

I love how she always says he/him like females aren’t addicted to porn too my wife watched porn behind my back

Excellent video and thank you ❤

I went through this a few years ago in a church and still feel shame about it. There was a narcissistic leader in a church who targeted me and he ended up being manipulative, a gaslighter and just all around a piece of doo do. He would stare at me for really long periods of time without saying a word. Never spoke or said a word but the predatory stare, which gave me the strong impression he wanted to dominate me. When I told someone else at the church exposing their behavior they launched a smear campaign against me. One of my good friends became their flying monkey and I developed panic attacks as a result of this. It’s awful, truly awful what these monsters do to people. My spidey senses went off when this man approached me knowing my hometown and details about me that I have never ever shared with him or barely anyone in the church.

Reminds me so much of a church musician I dated!

As a 58 year old Christian man I can say that I have never been pressured for sex by a woman. The pressure men get from women is for money. I worked with a man who was 60 years old divorced and retired from the state of Arizona with a good pension. He met a 35 year old woman in church (I believe) with six kids. She was real friendly and they dated a very short time and then got married. After a year or so the woman said that there was too many last names in the house so he adopted her six kids. Once the adoptions were completed she divorced him and demanded child support for the six kids which he had to pay. When a woman stares at me and is friendly I ask myself how much is this woman going to cost me?

I thank God 🙏 my doesn't care, when we first started dating she found a box of VHS taped, she said what is this, I told her, she said 0, that was 18 years ago, haven't heard anything about it since. That's how it should be.

Even before we were married my husband has always been super honest about his addiction. He went a long time without it but I think he learned to use it as a coping mechanism, so of course it eventually reared it's ugly head. After having kids it definitely got worse because I don't think he was prepared for how busy and stressful being parents can be. He is still pretty honest about it and will come to me and tell me when he is struggling. But there have been times when he's tried to hide it too. This one time, it was really bad and I caught him. I got our kids to bed and then I sat him down and told him the ugly truth. That if he is going to choose to go down this path and not get help, I'm not going to stick around to watch him self-destruct. I told him that he 100% is cheating and that if he wants to stay married, he has to ACTIVELY be trying to get help and build trust. And then I said, "This is all on you. I can't force you to do anything. I just hope you know what you stand to lose." So far he's been doing okay, but there's a lot of trust than needs to be rebuilt and I am scared that someday he'll just take a turn for the worse and I'll lose him to porn.

I recent found out out about my husband's (addiction?) He had lots of videos and pictures. Thousands. Toys I'd never seen. Toys for him. Bookmarks for every porn site you can think of. Visits adults stores so often they're favorites in his Google maps. So pretty sure addiction. I was broken. I struggle with long covid. I panic and get bad anxiety. I don't think as well as I did 2 years ago. I can't speak well. I depend on him. And now this. I don't know where to turn. I'm lost. I'm just lost.

Now only talking to a woman is now considered grooming. After hearing this shit I'm not talking to another woman again ever! Have fun with your paranoia and loneliness bitch!

Financial abuse can happen in familial relationships too where one person is helping the other but exerts a power dynamic to keep the helped person stuck

It's a simple proposition You either accept or reject it. You are just mad that your platonic relationship isn't more important to him than sex

Thank you for sharing this. We really do have an epidemic in our country of domestic violence.

Someone needs to tell this fake pastor that slavery is over. Amazing!

I don't believe this, and women follow this man!

From someone telling me what to do and seriously trying to manipulate me and isolate me from so many things that define peer pressure and grooming. being groomed at 20 years old right now is very sad and depressing. He kept telling me "Alcohol got people laid" and I just was not interested when he said that he just wanted to make me think I should drink when I turn 21. My creepy neighbor just kept going on and on about all these things I should do. I'm a guy who is not interested in substances or anything, I rather stay sober and be born with it forever.

It sure as hell does NOT

Amen!

OMG!!! Yes!!! I have recently started trusting myself more by saying.. I have a DATABASE others don’t have! I can sense a predator - when no logic points to it and everyone else says I’m ‘triggered’ But only now am I starting to trust that..

I'm only half way through but this doesn't sound like grooming it's a guy being overtly perverted. She should have just said woah and stopped answering and avoided him from then on. Sounds like your friend is kind of naive.

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How does grooming and trafficking work for a grown up in their 30s?

Hello, who is the man in this video? Where can I find his channel?

Thanks !! Your such a Wonderful Effective Teacher !! Much Appreciated !!

Did this POS ever go to jail

I don't know why this video doesn't get more likes! Good info , excellent delivery.

Omg……

Amazing video! Thank you so much. I absolutely needed to hear this today. You are so right about counselors not addressing the bigger picture of addiction. We've been through SO MANY marriage counselors and no one was helpful; his addiction and emotional abuse just kept getting worse. Now that we are in a therapeutic separation, he has finally accepted his addiction, and he is in treatment. Meanwhile, I am taking good care of myself, and I have found a wonderful individual therapist and a great 12-step group.

This IS NOT someone "grooming" someone this is a person who is fliting outright, making it clear their intentions - the woman could had several chances to hang up or stop but continued - men and women have been doing this for centuries