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@Axyrqsm789
@Axyrqsm789 Күн бұрын
I’m 10, and I’m pretty mature for my age I do cry a lot (please don’t think for stupid reasons because I’m a kid) I’m hormonal and I really need to cry but nothings coming out, and I feel like I need to scream but I can’t I can’t let anything out
2 күн бұрын
I havent cried in 6 years, im 19 years old and almost every day i get that fuckin feeling, like im going to cry but it never happens. its like that sneeze that you feel coming but never comes out. honestly makes me feel like shit though cause its like I cant let out my emotions, and I have so much bottled up.
@headhoncho7457
@headhoncho7457 3 күн бұрын
Im not trying to throw a pity party and i might sound crazy but so much has happened to me to the point where i buried those emotions against my will if that makes sense, And now depending on the situation im ether unphased or i laugh, It's embarrassing and i hate it. Sometimes i feel it trying to come out and i go back to being unphased.
@sneakerbabeful
@sneakerbabeful 5 күн бұрын
I'm apologize for nof being very intelligent; could you please explain this a tiny bit in the description?
@JustAnotherGhostLost
@JustAnotherGhostLost 6 күн бұрын
I may not always be able to talk to you in person, but you and your videos are such a blessing to have came accross. Please continue doing what you do.
@DouglasHughes-Williams
@DouglasHughes-Williams 7 күн бұрын
how long are you meant to feel like this?
@iVAVi-e8y
@iVAVi-e8y 8 күн бұрын
Since high school and into my early adulthood, I’ve noticed this pattern. Sometimes my eyes will water, and every few months, I find a way to lure it out. Like repeating a certain string of words that feel heavier and heavier with each repetition. It always feels like I’m clogged up, though, like the sadness refuses to leave. Sometimes, I feel like I don’t deserve to cry, like I can’t mentally justify or make sense of these emotions. I’m in an 18-month relationship now, but this emptiness is becoming harder to ignore. It’s sickening, painful, and so incredibly draining.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 8 күн бұрын
good work so far. it makes sense that the emptiness is becoming harder to ignore while you're in a relationship. Over time, as you continue to grow closer to one another, your "shadow" elements will become more and more apparent. This is a great thing! If you have the courage to face the inner conflict, if you are willing to get yourself the support you need, if you can set the intention of doing whatever you have to do to "heal". It sounds like you're dealing with deep, deep anxiety. It's good that you're this observant and psychologically-minded. You would do yourself a favor by gearing yourself more towards this kind of inner work. Dedicate time and space to figuring out what that means, what it looks like, etc. There's nothing more important in life, and refusing this part of you only perpetuates the cycle. I know that it's hard.
@Mikey-Mike_
@Mikey-Mike_ 8 күн бұрын
All my life I’ve been the type of person who always wanted to make people around me comfortable and happy. People always asked me if I’m ever mad or they can’t ever envision me mad because I smile all the time even when talking (I talk with a smile) I have a huge heart and now that I workout and started looking more intimidating I smile even more to humble myself so I don’t scare nobody but somewhere deep inside me I want to cry so bad, I don’t know why. There’s something heavy on my chest but I don’t know what it is
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 8 күн бұрын
It's good that you can observe it. "it" (as if it is a separate thing) needs you to observe it more, and more closely, and more thoroughly. You'll find out what "it" is overtime if you refuse to abandon "it" (which is a split-off piece of yourself - a split-off feeling, experience, memory, etc.) Keep going.
@njn862
@njn862 8 күн бұрын
Im still in highschool and not to sound corny but I've been feeling numb for almost a year now I have so much to be happy for and I'm just not happy and no matter how sad I get i just can't cry...
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 8 күн бұрын
you're not being corny you're being real. I hope that you continue finding avenues to express yourself. I hope that you find out who that "self" is. I hope you spend time with yourself and practice looking inwards without judgement.
@bubbles-7382
@bubbles-7382 9 күн бұрын
I’ve been bottling up emotions for 6-7 years I’m pretty sure and just now realized I can’t cry when I feel I should or it’s in a moment but again nothing and no matter how comfortable I am and what I’m doing I haven’t been able to cry but thanks for the help!!
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 8 күн бұрын
it will likely need to come out with someone you've built a trusting bond with
@lassgo
@lassgo 10 күн бұрын
🫠
@andrewhitchcock4288
@andrewhitchcock4288 13 күн бұрын
I haven't cried since I was a little boy. I was taught not to. I don't want to be one of those guys that needs to cry to feel better. But I'm teaching my kids to be open about how they feel and cry if they need to.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 11 күн бұрын
"one of those guys" you mean a human being. you don't want to be a human being - you were taught to not be a human being. crying is how the body processes wounding. There is cortisol in tears. it's how we shed stress. I'm happy that your children get a better opportunity, but as long as you "don't want to be one of those guys that needs to cry", they'll sense that. And maybe you'll be proud of them for carrying the tough guy torch, because the world is getting less and less cry-friendly as time goes on.
@AnaMariaBarajasOtalora-cx9gk
@AnaMariaBarajasOtalora-cx9gk 13 күн бұрын
This made me cry
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 11 күн бұрын
🙏💪
@barthes17
@barthes17 21 күн бұрын
Anhedonia is a trip.
@PlaygroundBabyRecordss
@PlaygroundBabyRecordss 21 күн бұрын
much love brother
@NewWybeProductions
@NewWybeProductions 22 күн бұрын
I don’t agree with this at all. Maybe this is the case for some ppl, but not for me. I hate small talk because I’m a deeply intellectual person who likes conversing about meaningful and impactful things. I can engage in small talk but I’d rather not… Fact is, there are people out there who are great conversationalists, and engage in thought provoking and interesting conversations, and there are some other ppl who spew the same repetitive surface level sound bites. Mutual interests is what breaks the small talk barrier. And some ppl just ain’t that interesting to be frank
@RainFall-wz2yp
@RainFall-wz2yp 22 күн бұрын
May he overcome his fear and his anger and let me in. May he reach out to me, very very very soon! May he recognize how amazing our friendship really truly is 🙏🏻. May he understand and realize how much he loves me and cares about me and misses me. Misses us.
@scottdaris
@scottdaris 24 күн бұрын
Well, at least I’ll be an exquisite corpse 💅💀
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes 10 күн бұрын
Haha! Just not yet.
@docsgiamma1579
@docsgiamma1579 Ай бұрын
Thank u❤
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Hell yeah <3
@EnguerrandCeuppens
@EnguerrandCeuppens Ай бұрын
You subscribe perfectly what I go trough please can u help
@PandaLunatic
@PandaLunatic Ай бұрын
Great video!
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Thank you, PandaLunatic!
@girthquake2390
@girthquake2390 Ай бұрын
I lost my best friend to suicide 2 weeks ago today. I just feel so numb and flat, it's like I can't tip myself over the edge to let it all out.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
@@girthquake2390 that's fukn harsh. You should fr speak with someone. It's a good metaphor, "tip yourself over the edge to let it all out", like a glass filled w/ water that needs to pour out or it will overflow. It's a good metaphor, but as a reality, potentially very toxic. If you let your friends decision be the thing that helps you move more towards the light, you'll be redeeming his memory. If you don't try to make meaning out of it that way, it will fester and infect you more. Schedule a call w me if you like!
@maricelaortiz1403
@maricelaortiz1403 Ай бұрын
@smallpastels
@smallpastels Ай бұрын
thank you so much for sharing your insights and advice. the things you're sharing speak to my experience in a way no one has before and it's been really helpful. four years after getting away from decades of being psychologically terrorized, my body started giving out in a lot of ways and I've had to slow down and listen to my real self in ways I never even knew existed, just the few videos of yours I've watched have already been immensely helpful. I appreciate you so much 🙏
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
@@smallpastels and thank you so much, for sharing as well. Never stop, and feel free to schedule a call with me.
@g.noreau291
@g.noreau291 Ай бұрын
Yes, but when it's all you know and have known for decades, it turns you into depression... Because after decades, dai in day out, all you've aimed for is unattainable. From meeting friends, to receiving a wee bit of affection (I'm gay but still applies here here), to just getting a weee bit of support, etc... You end up all alone after eveything you've done for others, so good to a ...T and perfection (believe me here) on top of it. But in any case..
@snas1686
@snas1686 Ай бұрын
yeah I kinda did this to myself. not only do I struggle to cry and cant rlly... I also struggle to even speak now. more mute then I used to. I wanna speak but no words come out. just thinking everything I wanna say rather then speaking it....
@llllll9264
@llllll9264 24 күн бұрын
I feel the exact same. It totally ruined my social life so badly and i still don't know how to deal w it
@andriidanylov9453
@andriidanylov9453 Ай бұрын
Deep.
@fabulousandfrugal9048
@fabulousandfrugal9048 Ай бұрын
I’ve had so much trauma happen my whole life. I don’t know how to cry, but the last 7 days have been some of the worst all at one time , tornado hit my house, threatened with my job. My ex just put an ad for himself on a singles group , which my friends thought was a good idea to share with me, my moms husbands daughter today tried to pose as me and have her put in a nursing home for the rest of her life while she moved into the house and I’m 3k miles away. It’s too much for one week really.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. Life is not easy. You must remember how to cry!
@ag1000-l6n
@ag1000-l6n Ай бұрын
I can't even cry when i lose my loved ones and i dont know its good or bad
@Christian_Luczejko
@Christian_Luczejko Ай бұрын
CroooOOked eye, I’m waaaatchin’ you
@leslie5739
@leslie5739 Ай бұрын
Watching this with just any tears in my eyes , very much needed
@lilangiesgaming2957
@lilangiesgaming2957 Ай бұрын
I have a habit of doing this. in fact its gotten so bad that i represe without thinking and qhen i have the opportunity to cry, i cant .. and my heart aches
@shadow_playz652
@shadow_playz652 Ай бұрын
i didnt cry like 4 years and im just 14 😅😅😌😌
@No_Namee111
@No_Namee111 Ай бұрын
I have no friends, there is no one who can listen to me or think about me. I have a family but I can't express my feelings towards them. I am working and trying to keep myself happy. In the end this is God given life I have to fulfill it somehow.😢
@CHAMP_XD28
@CHAMP_XD28 Ай бұрын
Hi I'm on the same boat. Maybe you can talk to me. ❤😊
@eon9554
@eon9554 29 күн бұрын
Hiii
@No_Namee111
@No_Namee111 29 күн бұрын
Hello brothers
@eon9554
@eon9554 29 күн бұрын
@@No_Namee111 hru man
@No_Namee111
@No_Namee111 29 күн бұрын
@@eon9554 doing good brother, how about you?
@reneurbanovich
@reneurbanovich Ай бұрын
It’s tricky!! Good word!
@Dial8Transmition
@Dial8Transmition Ай бұрын
I've been repressing my feelings for like 10 years now, including good ones
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
I understand. You can't repress the bad ones without repressing the good ones. Maybe it's more like *you've been repressing the part of you that feels* (good, bad, and everything). The metaphor is the heart, no? The "heart" is "repressed"
@krokodillemy
@krokodillemy Ай бұрын
Thank you for this 🙏 So, for some years ago i was forced to start all over again, after a dysfunktionel relationship. 45 years, no furnitures, money, children etc. Just me and a cat who chose me at my worst and pourest place. I found a little place, in a little house, with my little cat and with a lot of therapy and inner work I just got more and more happy (grateful and satisfied). And when THAT happened, people started to ask: Dont you have goals in life?
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Haha. WELL, DON'T YOU???? No, good for you. And thanks for sharing. What a roller coaster, goals or not.
@reneurbanovich
@reneurbanovich Ай бұрын
I love that Producing Or Consuming
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Your comment looks like a little poem
@scottdaris
@scottdaris Ай бұрын
This one was gooood. Thanks again David.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Rock on 😎💪
@Cittamatra
@Cittamatra Ай бұрын
We need Buddha's teachings mire and nire now. I did Tara mantras. Shes awesome. She helped me heal ny briken heart..😢
@Max737A
@Max737A Ай бұрын
No one is escaped from this people , good or evil people , this is an experiment , never ending , well come to new dark age
@andriidanylov9453
@andriidanylov9453 Ай бұрын
I wish it be so easy. Unfortunately, we still have economics, prices and taxes are high, vacations are short 😅😁
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Yes. This is all easier said than done, and your comment is a good reminder of that. Thank you.
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
These are really great and also telling questions.
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
That's my job!
@Yellow_The_Nerd
@Yellow_The_Nerd Ай бұрын
I feel this, but the thing is- I’m young. I’m a teen. And I have never had anything bad happen to me, I have a better than average life. So can someone tell why I feel just a little bit depressed, just a little bit numb???? It genuinely makes no fucking sense. All I have to worry about is getting my work done. I’m smart, I’m gifted. So why tf do I feel stressed and depressed?!????? I have literally no reason to be numb. Like why???
@proud_stay8
@proud_stay8 5 күн бұрын
Samee I'm turning 12 in 3 weeks and idk why I always feel the same tho nowdays I feel sad for almost no reason and when I try to open up to someone to tell that I feel sad for no reason and just u know say it out I fear that they will judge me and nowdays I am suddenly feeling left out and just u know like I feel my family always paying attention to my younger brother,my friends leaving me out, I've seen my self walk behind them multiple times and they never looked back not only at school buf also at society when I try to tell someone about my day (my parents mostly) I feel ignored. I sometimes (like rn) want to cry but I have no reason to I just had fun with my friends and laughed a lot but then I...... Im sorry for saying random things but yeah I just wanted to say it out to someone I just fear people will judge me ok and I just get this relief that I won't meet the people that I vent to on sm so what's the problem thank you for reading this ily fuxk I wanna cry but I can't i just want to dissapear in a corner and cry my heart out idk if I'm overreacting but I..ahhhh thanks ❤
@Yellow_The_Nerd
@Yellow_The_Nerd 5 күн бұрын
@proud_stay8 I hope you feel better! Idk. I would give you advice but I’m pretty shit at that. I’m bad at saying things in serious situations
@proud_stay8
@proud_stay8 5 күн бұрын
@@Yellow_The_Nerd haha same glad ur okay I was okay before and now my life is getting fucked up
@saurabhpruthi29
@saurabhpruthi29 Ай бұрын
use bach flower walnut.
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
Well first, I'm never toxic in real life either. 👊.......... So there's that. 😄 Jk No, actually I found this incredibly helpful for a clarifying point. I hadn't quite thought of it that way and I really liked that. You made it easy to understand
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Never toxic gang! That's an ideal to aspire to.
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
I have left so many comments on the comment section of your video tonight... I just wanted to come back and erase this long one because the feedback of understanding isn't really necessary on so many videos. Suffice it to say, I saw this is a great compliment to your other videos in understanding why taking 10 minutes for yourself, especially if you struggle to do so, is important. 🙌
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
Awesome. Maybe I should organize some videos into playlists. Thank you!
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
Great message 🎉
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
Oh my gosh, I love how you said the goal is not to feel better so you don't have to deal with it.... The goal is to have enough internal resources to hold space so that you can deal with it. 🙌
@CoachDavidAdes
@CoachDavidAdes Ай бұрын
haha, oh my gosh!
@meriksen_
@meriksen_ Ай бұрын
I love how you said you don't need to deconstruct and worry about figuring it all out..... You just need to get the internal resources to the hungry part, like a plant that needs sun. That was so concise and clear. 🙏🙌