Women want to be made happy. She expects her husband to do it all. The problem is he has no control over her happiness. Its easy to blame him than to take their own responsibility. A married man today is living on eggshells. A blow up could happen at any minute.

Thank you for your work. You have given me hope and helped me to have hope for the future. I am going through a child custody battle for my 3 year old daughter. My ex partner wants to move away with my daughter. My first daughter from a previous relationship did move away with my first daughter and it's been over 8 years since I've seen or heard from daughter. History repeats itself.

Remove family courts

Stockholm syndrome .. Google definition: Stockholm syndrome is a proposed condition or theory that tries to explain why hostages sometimes develop a psychological bond with their captors. It is supposed to result from a rather specific set of circumstances, namely the power imbalances contained in hostage-taking, kidnapping, and abusive relationships.

Remember "Its cheaper to pay for it" guys

Any guy who has kids in the US has got to be nuts nowadays

80% of divorce are filed by women and main motive is money. Most men spend productive life to support family financially and once the kids are grown up. Women dump men. Menopause is also another reason. So never make women the top priority in life and be a simp husband.

I have to pay my abuser, who lied and provided no documentation at the mediation showing she has income when she does, and a PFA...my wife was very manipulative , very abusive and abandoned me. I was so brainwashed at the time.I begged her back but she wouldn't come back. Once she realized I was capable on without her.She got upset and then she wanted to come back and buy then as shot for what it was. I was even giving her mobecause she was making me feel bad. Once you start getting abusive and violent again ( The same woman who tried to get me killed and fired and evicted and publicly shamed me and even at work), I had to get a PFA. I STILL gave her money During the p f a because she would still show up and make me feel bad and scream at me and threaten me. I think she knew that I wouldn't have her put in jail, That's why she continuously violated it. Now she wants me to cosign.Another car learned for her because, according to her.I have to and it's my job.Uh when all I want now at this point is a divorce but I cannot afford one, But when I said no things got real bad, And then the PFA ran out and things got real real real bad for me, And the money I was giving her didn't meet her needs (mostly her drug habit of meth) she sued me for more through spousal support. Ironically, we both work at the same place, but she had just recently quit before.She filed for the spousal support. She's on ticket to work through social security.So she has been making double income for every year now and it provide any pay stops or anything for our hearing in front of the mediator. But a decision was made and I have to pay the person.I had to get a legal order for protection from abuse against. I have to pay the person who abandoned me And quit their job right before they said they have no income.They need spousal support and got it. I can't afford an attorney and it's $400 for the packet alone in P.A. It's insane to me in any case that a victim would have to pay their abuser in any scenario but in a state and in fayette county, that's the law of the land. I'm scared to death to file the de.Nuvo, For fear of enraging her or having to possibly pay even more money to my abuser.

I’m in the home with wife , It is terrible She can make up any stupid thing and have me in trouble

Family court=the legal way to get paid to steal children from a loving capable parent.

SILENCE: IT'S GOLDEN

Thank you

Great video ladies ❤😊 Thank You!

She doesn't "need" him anymore. With maturing investments she is set and a breadwinner is superfluous. Unfortunately health can throw a curve and you may need your spouse for more than a wallet or maid. Divorce is universally dumb for both parties but not realized for a half dozen years post break. You're 50+ how about growing up?

How about saying to your kids, calmly: "That is not true. Don't believe everything your father tells you." When you say this, you are not defending yourself... Because, if you do not make it clear that this is a lie, your children might think that what the alienator said IS true.

i wish my stated hadn't turned to no-fault.

How is it that the mentioned org’s don’t recognize & research such a psych & emotionally damaging set of effects on children!!!!!?????

so true for me right now 😥😢😭💔

Interestingly, the baby boom generation is the most divorced generation. If you look at the divorce rates and the ages of those getting divorced through the last 50 years, it's always the boomers who are top of the charts. Since the boomers are all over 60 now, of course they are still getting divorced.

I was married to a covert Narcissist for 40years and he has alienated my 2 children from me for 7years I have grieved and I just pray for them As you say I have reached out to help others which bring me joy

My wife is entangled with our property. My wife has uni gree and earns good money.

Thank you for this divorce video, great point! And also, there are loads therapists promoting narcissism but they don’t know what they’re doing to our society. In the 80s, 90s, 00s we abused psychopaths or sociopaths, and now we abuse narcissistic tendencies! There’s no such thing as ‘narcissists’, just people who are sick, like mental health problems , for a moment, etc! Those who are promoting and condemning narcissism are the narcissists because they keep bashing and condemning people without consideration or compassion, and it keeps dividing people as if everyone is a narcissist , and people are believing it as if it’s gospel truth, and when people break up they automatically say, he or she is a narcissist like I did with my ex, he was a narcissist etc, and that’s why we broke up etc, when this happens, the world is like a narcissistic place to live, that’s why we stopped narcissistic games like Gladiators 2000 years ago! So this ‘ high five to the self ‘ by Mel Robbie is uniquely uniting one’s self and people together. So well done for this Mel! So proud of you for doing this and uniting people together, families, friends, and strangers! Best compassionate tool ever! That’s why for thousands of years, Asian people in general and Buddhists put both hands together when they say thank you, even when they’re alone etc! I’m so pleased you’ve arrived at something that can unite people’s perception of themselves in the mirror! Self worth, esteem etc especially when they are alone in this horrid robotic society ….

This all sounds pretty good but climate change might wipe us all out in three or four years. And the dating website stuff is just bullshit nobody’s meeting on websites anymore they don’t work. So all these people are leaving just to go off to be alone. Which might be better than being with who they are with

I was an erased parent. Erased from my child's life by her Mother. Now I am a minimalized parent. I have been litigating in Bucks Cty PA since 2016! And counting. Why? PACS 2904 is not enforced. That is interference of a custody order felony 3rd degree. I am suing for negligence for my ex AND her attorney for $50k since I did not see my daughter for most of 2023. I am now seeing my daughter every Saturday for the past 7 weeks! I will be in court again on April 15. Will the judge award me the $50k or ANY custody make up time? No probably not. I am a member of IC-3 Interference of Child custody Coalition. We are trying to get PACS 2904 enforced. My advice. Represent yourself. Join IC-3, FACE (Family and Childrens Equality) and/or any state specific political group. Engage in civil disobedience Litigate, go after their money, and never give up!

Thank you for this gray divorce video, great point! And also, there are loads of therapists promoting narcissism but they don’t know what they’re doing to our society. In the 80s, 90s, 00s, we abused psychopaths and sociopaths, now we abuse narcissistic tendencies! There’s no such thing as ‘narcissists’, just people who are sick, like mental health problems , for a moment, etc! Those who are promoting and condemning narcissism are the narcissists themselves because they keep bashing and condemning people without consideration or compassion, and it keeps dividing people as if everyone is a narcissist , and people are believing it as if it’s gospel truth, and when people break up they automatically say, he or she is a narcissist like I did with my ex, he was a narcissist etc, and that’s why we broke up etc, when this happens, the world is like a narcissistic place to live, that’s why we stopped narcissistic games like Gladiators 2000 years ago! So this ‘ high five to the self ‘ by Mel Robbie is uniquely uniting one’s self and people together. So well done for this Mel! So proud of you for doing this and uniting people together, families, friends, and strangers! Best compassionate tool ever! That’s why for thousands of years, Asian people in general and Buddhists put both hands together when they say thank you, even when they’re alone etc! I’m so pleased you’ve arrived at something that can unite people’s perception of themselves in the mirror! Self worth, esteem etc especially when they are alone in this horrid robotic society ….

I don’t understand my daughter. She’s 19 going on 20. She is so angry. We don’t even have conversations anymore. I have to keep reaching out she never calls me anymore. It’s so hurtful. I just don’t know how to make things like they were the old way where she opened up to me and talked and laughed. But I keep trying knowing she’s still a teen brain

What about 15 years of marriage, no kids, separated but staying together under same roof with husband's parents in India? No financial support n no job..how a lady can survive???

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Thank you for the valuable advice, yes, the cream rises to the top. Be kind to the alienator and the children see and learn from this. My ex never invites me into his home and leave me standing outside, I do the total opposite and even offer him dinner, children remember so much. ❤ Just be kind and raise above this very evil act.

It’s not just because women are living longer and have better jobs…. It’s because women are living longer and have better jobs and THEY DON’T HAVE RO TAKE THE ABUSE THE PREVIOUS GENERATIONS TOOK FROM CHEATING, LYING, MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE HUSBANDS…. That’s the elephant in the room that people don’t want to talk about! People are not growing apart! People are tired of being a doormat; people namely women! 😞❤️🙏

My grandchildren will not have grandparents. Two are dead. The alienating narcissist doesn’t make any relationship. My malignant covert has been campaigning for over 10 years and I know I’m ejected from the family. The alcohol and jealousy and childhood experiences have made me the hated enemy, he can’t share the kids I raised. Every problem of their childhood has been laid in my lap, along with how sad poor daddy is. I’m fortunate I got to raise my kids. So now the price is my life. It completely changed and now I am accepting that I was tricked into thinking I had a relationship and a family. It was a deliberate long range strategy to pay me back because he couldn’t get to his stepmom and stepsister. My therapist says there are good people but my experience is that there are different levels of bad. That includes mental health professionals. Parental alienation? What did you do that could possibly cause that? No, I am not an abuser. But I made the mistake of not being one. I didn’t alienate the alcoholic narcissist and I didn’t abandon them. Had I known I would have; the end result would be the same. Alone

My own list: 1. He or, she has gotten on your last nerve for the very last time, 2. They should have divorced many years before but stayed together for the sake of the children. 3. He's chased women for years and finally caught one who he thinks is a "keeper". 4. They were unequally yoked (religious background) from the beginning thinking this essential element didn't matter. 5. Their relationship was never maintained. They've essentially lived separate lives.

No fault divorce also became a leverage for women to legally rob the husband’s pension and financial wealth. Most divorces are initiated by women who discover the court will support “walking away” from the marriage with reward of 50% of the assets. The legal system has built a financial windfall from no fault divorce.

Reason 5 - menopause

It is SO hard! At least w/a Narcisstic Sociopath with Sadistic Tendencies -I can tell myself ‘my children’s’ lives are at substantive risk’ -if I don’t ‘disappear’!

Be the calm person in the room. Learn not to react emotionally. (Dr Les Carter's videos Calm Confidence and When an Adult Coaches a Child Against You) Don't JADE (Justify Argue Defend and Explain) Don't punish your children for treating you badly with unreasonable anger, disrespect or humiliating you. However bad it is, it is because they are in pain. If they are threatening to harm you or themselves physically, get help for that. Don't badmouth the other parent. Don't tell others about it - most people don't understand and will judge you. Only talk about it to a professional therapist who knows about Parental Alienation. Educate yourself. Dr Amy Baker talks about the 5 Factor Model. Practise self care and self compassion.

What won’t get mentioned here is that it is still the women initiating the vast majority of divorces, and probably more so at these ages. The men don’t leave. The women do. Taking at least half with them. Why? He doesn’t make her happy. SMH

A couple of years? This can be a decades long journey when dealing with a borderline ex and narcissistic family structure. Be kind to yourself and embrace a greater character not present for your children...

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It is actually a good option especially for those with kids and both want to stay close to kids.

kzbin.info/www/bejne/mKOxpqqHg7Nmp5Ysi=AlYQV6MPMficVdfm Doctor Childress explains that, even though parental alienation is not the official designation, it can be diagnosed using the DSM. Excellent video. Thanks

What about over 68 and already one spouse is collecting his pention?

What about older people getting a divorce where one person is already collecting their pension?

"Till divorce do you part"

Together forever is unnatural

I’m currently separated and living with my kids father. This is the hardest thing someone can do. I still love him but he doesn’t feel the same for me. 😔

It is problematic that so few MHPs understand this and actually become unwittng participants in the abuse. MHPs are trained to validate voice of child, not challenge that voice. That is commendable in cases of proven abuse, but absolutely counter productive in case of false memories.

Thank you for this discussion. Alienation is a BRUTAL child abuse- as are all forms of child abuse. So much education and changes desperately needed to protect chidlren

Thank you 🙏🏽

And in most court cases, the mediators go in and choose the abusive parent because they’re not trained professionals skilled to see Parental Alienation, which is child abuse. Some parents have been in the system for 13 years and have been able to just sit back and watch their families, be severed by the power and control dynamics of the Alienating Parents Using the child as a weapon it is the most atrocious crime anyone could ever commit on another parent and child