NTA they’re both 💩 people

This comments section is definitely the husband's family. Dude has SEVERE trauma-induced OCD and has DENIED therapy. He chooses to "cope" with his trauma DURING A FAMILY EMERGENCY even when he was NEEDED. If your family's needs in an emergency don't come before your own need to cope with past trauma, then you are at fault for not getting help. If youe wife needs you to help your son, then clearly A, she's physically incapable of doing it herself, and B, you gotta rough it out and/or recruit secondary help accordingly. She's NTA. It's a simple black and white scenario. Anybody who thinks otherwise is as stupid as the husband's family and the husband himself.

Damn! If keeping in touch with her ex isnt a deal breaker to this guy, she's most likely the best he could do 😅 but this video is a little long for the situation.

Just divorce....i already see where this is going and its NOT going to be pretty....

Bruh no one quit there jobs in a marriage and no half

Why didn't she just ask him

As the first commenter. From what you have said here. YES YOU ARE THE MAJOR @$$#0/3. And it sounds like you enjoy being a petty little <◇nt. Hope this helps with your problim 😊

Girllllllll run

Nta he needs therapy....

NTA!! Nobody needs to lay a hand on anyone. That buddy of yours definitely deserves some jail time.

I don't think it's being an "asshole" but yeah the whole "mom" title shouldn't be thrown around. Same with "dad". Personally I reserve that for bio. BUT I'm the Kate in this exact scenario. Ages are different/genders. Difference is I wouldn't have nor provoke calling me Mom. That's for their real Mom. Best you can hope for is BEING a mom without the recognition! Just be there. Join in and don't push. Offer but don't expect. And just ❤ em.

wtf is AITA?

Your mother an ass NTA

You're kids don't need to see your tits... your husband is uncomfortable.... .....and he's not wrong, if he was walking around with his d*ck out in front of two 10 & 7 yr old daughters that you would protest but you're saying it's not the same...? It IS the same... Your defense/ argument is that it's all about function. You say its natural to feed your baby and that makes it okay.... He could argue that his d*ck is just a natural body part that functions as waste disposal. Show some consideration and at least drape a blanket over yourself.

A Bridezilla will always turn out to be a horrible wife. I feel so sorry for her husband. I’m sure he realized what hell life with her is going to be before the wedding was even over.

No, not at all. She broke up with you, she already got her closure.

The husband can't be like "You're being unreasonable! The kids need help and a place to stay!" then leave the larger brunt of the work to the wife. Then his own mother (the kid's grandparent) is like "nope!" and washes her hands of the situation. Why is the wife the bad one when the grandpartent is doing the same thing. How about if the husband wants to keep the kids, he goes work from home and deal with them? It's super easy to say you'll help when you're not the one helping for the most part. If he was like "We need to come up with a plan to make this work" it would be a different story. But he isn't. He's just "WE need to do this!" and then is just leaving them to her to figure out. In the long run, it's not sustainable. The wife is already burned out. They can't really afford the kids as it is, and she's about to lose her job which will only cause more problems.

yes you are

Two bottles of wine every night? Never eats with you, sleeps constantly, does bar minimum, gets mad if you ask for help? Time to grab the kids and leave because this will only escalate.

I think it wasn’t in OP’s best interest to have dated a single mother in the first place, if he hasn’t than he wouldn’t have been in this situation.

Never never NEVER marry a man who won't defend you to his family/ friends... it will not change the family/ friends will know that he doesn't defend you and they will make a sport of it.... they will know how badly it hurts you... and it will HURT. Friends and i who have experienced and discussed this all agreed that it was every bit as painful as being cheated on... it's worse than being cheated on because it will keep happening over and over again, it will escalate, they will be cruel to you right in front of him and yet things will be manipulated aand will treat you as if you're the bad guy. It's a miserable situation, cause depression and ruin holidays when you're supposed to be happy and enjoying holidays you will eventually get stressed and even if things change it will be hard to enjoy it again. Myself and several friends have experienced this misery and its not worth the psychological and physical strain.

You are NTA for wanting your husband to confront his mother, but I suggest you find the courage to do it instead. Ideally, that would have right after the first breach of confidence.

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Typical woman...

This women is going to have 10 kids because she is waiting for husband to take control of the situation, but he never will because he doesn't really care about her or the children. The most important thing to him is finishing inside. Even if that means his wife is going crazy and each new baby means less money and less attention for the current kids.Get your tube's tied.

NTA for all of the stories 😢

Tell them to shut up. They are stressing you out with their controlling behavior and that not good for you or the baby. If anything happens to the baby, you're going to blame them. That may sound harsh, but sometimes harsh is the only thing that gets through those thick skulls.

So he gave up on his 4 kids to raise a psychopath .... Next thing will be the kid murders someone and gets life without parole and OP will be back asking why his 4 other kids won't talk to him .

The neighbour's daughter turned 21.

Did someone slip the robot valium?

A 7 year old knows boundaries... They are SEVEN..

Pov what my english teacher expect me to write from one sentence

Buy a half fridge and put it in your room op 🤷‍♀️

Last story , end it . Happy Trails

2nd story , don't let them in even to visit . You owe them nothing . Relatives want to complain , they can take them in . Change the locks if you've given out keys . Happy Trails

She's a Come Up Now Ted , if you stay you are too . Happy Trails

Divorce . Never Look Back . Found United Coral Kingdom her . Happy Trails

There we go!!! The 2nd story out of hundreds that ive listened to or read that the OP just walked away. No "last talk" because thats closure for the one who broke things off! Great Job, My Guy!!! 👏👏👏

Birth plans are kind of stupid. You can pick things Like your location most of the time and if you want pain medication and positioning and stuff. But don't expect everything to go according to plan.

Story 1 u are NTA. F THEM.

cheaters must ALWAYS be exposed

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I think the point is that she already said she didnt want water and he interjects and says something along the lines no she wants a water. I think that its more that hes doing something that makes her feel like shes being underminded. If he had an actual issue with her not ordering water he needed to bring it up to her and not act the way he did.

I get why her feelings are hurt, but she’s being completely unfair to OP. Don’t ask for the absolute truth in the hopes that the person will catch some unstated hint that you are supposed to lie to spare her feelings. She is being really vain and selfish and deliberately blew up her family because she wants to hyper fixate on one uncomfortable statement rather than enjoy the 100 nice things OP did, and the commenters are ace wholes for encouraging that negativity.

So OPs ex is not only transphobic, but also abusive and a predator... Yikes 😬 Honestly OP should give Alex a thank you gift for helping him dodge that bullet

2nd story that new wife has red flags everywhere.

OP is an ass.

If you’re the AH, you’re my kind of AH.

There was a comedienne who as a part a story says her boyfriend forgot that a girl can walk into bar, put her hand up and ask, does anyone want to F me, and some guy will volunteer. This guy didn’t realise this.

the only normal people among her friends were those who found it hilarious.