Actually these days most educated women back home are living in nuclear families. So, yeah if you expect that any girl from "back home" can live with your parents, please discuss beforehand. Cuz tbh most of the them would not want that for themselves. And especially the ones who saw their moms struggle their whole lives living with in laws. I am saying it once again PLEASE DON'T BRING WOMEN FROM BACK HOME ASSUMING THEY WILL LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS. ASK THEM FIRST. IT IS THEIR GOD GIVEN RIGHT TO HAVE A SEPARATE SPACE. DO NOT ASSUME!

Thanks for the heads up and advice, Maimunah. Before we got married, my husband did tell me about his plan to live with his Mum and i did say i dont mind with that. But the more im getting to know his Mum, the more im afraid to live under the same roof. My Husband also hasn't mentioned or not even initiates a discussion when we'll possibly live separately from his Mum.. and that makes me even more worried. I think, eventually, i have to initiate the discussion with my husband before it's too late.

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Omg soo smart❤❤❤❤

Dear Sister ,Salaamalaikum, Maa Sha Allah you are a hijaabi, it will be so nice if you potray the true essence of hijaab.Your make up is not in line with the hijaab concept.Do think about it .I am sure if you study /listen to the genuine scholars ,you will find the truth. No offence meant.

As I guy I’m looking for a wife that will live with my mum as my parents are divorced and I only have sisters that will end up getting married within the next few years and move out. So basically I don’t want to leave her on her own and islamically you can’t abandon your parents anyway

But before marriage you can speak your minds and say you’d prefer to not live with your in-laws...

My mother in law was 54 when I got married and had lived in the UK for 25 years, but still followed the 1963 mother in law rules. She waited all her life for her oldest son to get married because she couldn’t wait to rest. 😂 Imagine her disappointment when we told her we weren’t going to live with her and her husband? She has been furious about throughout our 30 year marriage. I think I would have ended up in a nut house if I had lived with her. Honestly. She is horrid.

This sounds like what i went thru and after 5 years ended in divorce... alhumdullilah no kids...

Always clear these things befure marriage and 💯 alot of the time they agree and the hiuse never comes

Wow can i just say you look beautiful in pink and purple where is the clothing and hijab from?! 😍

You should have told me 4 years ago 😭🤣

In a nutshell, familliarity breeds contempt and distance makes the heart grow fonder. Healthy boundaries are imperative for maintaining a healthy husband-wife relationship, that healthiness in turn will feed into the other relationships in their lives. Living with in-laws is a cultural tradition from India-Pakistan-Bangladesh, not an Islamic practice. It's also worth noting that a woman bears no responsibility towards her in-laws, she can certainly choose to extend care and kindness to her in-laws of her own volition, but in terms of caring for the elderly, her responsibility is towards her parents.

Am actually depressed right now " they just moving in out anytime they want" 😢😢😢

Full face of makup is perfectly normal my sister right....

My name is Maimunah

As someone who has interracial marriage, I agree that we think marrying someone from different culture is easy and adventure but it is not easy. Make sure you are ready for it, keep emotions aside and think about it. The most important part is the emotional support of your partner.

It's so nice🎉 Cause I wanna use nail for ASMR but I can't use acrylic

Let's avoid Tabarruj & not being excessivein adorning ourself. Avoid overly exposing our beauty & jewelries before non mahram men. Waulahualam.

R u sure ur in a marriage I don’t want to make assumptions but it sounds like u hate it at ur in laws and in ur marriage

I have an issue fellow muslims and I honestly need advice please .. so I met this man last year and he demanded my hand for marriage right away. No haram relationship Alhamdulilah. He told me early on that he is planning to stay with his parents since he is the youngest of his siblings ( although his married brother and sister are living just 10 mins away form their parents') and I don't know what got into me and I approved with the condition of not exceeding one or two years with them before we move out and he agreed. Now, last week was our betrothal and the wedding is in 8 months. But deep down all along I have been terrified of and hesitant about the idea of living with his parents especially that I am still 22 and I want to pursue my studies and work eventually. I have talked about my feelings a couple of times with him before my betrothal but I always end up convinced as to why living with them during the first years of marriage is better.. Now that my aunts, uncles and friends know about it, they cannot stop warning me about the risks and cons of it saying that I won't bear it and it has never been a good thing for the wife to live with her in laws cs problems are inevitable and that tremendously affects the quality of the marital relationship ..sometimes leading to divorce..nd ofc that's the least thing I want..Now, I feel it in my guts that I should tell him about my desire for a separate accommodation but deep down I feel like I'm doing him harm cs I didn't come clean about it all this year and now that our nikkah is only months away, I am discussing this big of a topic. wouldn't that be considered injustice? and if he ends up disapproving and therefore ending this relationship, would I be punished by Allah for doing him injustice or is it simply my right to claim although belate? Dear muslimahs, what would you have done had you been in my shoes? My parents all along had different opinions which put me in even intense confusion as to what path should I take; Mom was against the idea given that she herself spent the first 12 years of marriage with her in laws and her story was painful and Dad seemed okay as long as the man is religious and respectful there's no harm sacrificing a few years before having ur own house.. I am utterly confused and I don't know what to do.. please help

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Look when it comes to sharing in reality nobody wants to share anything it's much easier having your own things however with sharing comes many blessings and many benefits as well as many disadvantages, in life you need to learn to balance all things and to do that you need patience. One of the greatest benefits of living in joint family maybe having the benefit of easier financial affordability however that comes at the expense of being able to be a great team player and dealing with other people's problems however if a wife has high level of team player skill set when leaving in a joint family with just the parents of the husband who are not haram for her, there is a potential that the husband doesn't need to work all the hours under the sun and he will be able to look after his parents as well as look up after the wife with greater management of time and no party will ever have to suffer alone however great sacrifices are required from the wife side, but at the same time the wife will earn a lot of reward from Allah and also the wife will not be required to work to provide any financial cost towards the house which will make it easier for her to practise her religion more easily, however by moving out it becomes very expensive for one income to afford a property and also time management becomes a big problem for the man as he then has to run between the parents house and the wife. All these things need to be discussed in advance of the marriage. When the woman goes out to work it's very hard for her to find Islamic job in non-Islamic countries and also by going out to work you both and bring problems home which then makes home life hard and also the woman will not be able to practise her religion easily and in Islam man are answerable for their household to Allah so everything can easily become messed up because once someone experiences money by working outside and not listening to the husband very rarely what they want to give up the addiction money brings. May allah guide us all.

Girl take the money and rent a home... move out, he can either move with you or you can divorce... dont live with those people... you are allowing those people to abuse you. You are a grown woman and should never check in where you are with your inlaws. ❤ Salam Alakum

Inshaa Allah, we have to make sure we’re being mindful as Muslims do music and wearing hijab properly 🤍

what man enjoys living with his mother and family together with his wife. they have no privacy.

Where did you buy them??😊

This is exactly like my husband's family. Four sisters in law. Same story. Its almost eerie how much the details match.

It's not like people 'back home' are okay with living with in laws. Maybe the rural population, to some extent, would accept it, but they would have their problems too. Also women here are independent too. They have been living in nuclear families (for many generations) too. You have no idea what life is like here. We don't all live in joint families and are less used to housework (are more dependent on hired househelp) than ever before. A LOT of women work full time. A lot of women want to stay away from in laws.

Incredibly stupid. At 01:36am why aren't you doing wifely duties for your husband/partner. This is why there are so many beautiful, charming and educated BUT single brown girls.

Is that the biggest room 😭 i hate the uk

Shukran ❤I will try this

Its recommended to live separate in islam to fullfill all your needs and have privacy

Such extreme makeup. Pretty sure you prob look great without it.

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You are BEAUTIFUL. So happy for you.

If it's elderly parents yes. If not needy parents no but be kind❤❤❤❤❤

Don't know about other cultures but in subcontinent living with in laws have following problems: 1. No Islamic purdah if brother in laws are also living in the same house. 2. No privacy. I subcontinent, many middle class houses have one one bathroom and everyone have to share that. Awkward situations happen. 1 room will be given to each couple where they will live with their kids as well. 3. Very obvious power/ control struggle. 4. Mother in law expecting DIL to serve her and other family members. I personally don't mind serving my in laws if they are really old and weak but it should not be considered as an obligation on me. 5. You can't really enjoy most beautiful initial days of your marriage Bcz of constant observation on when u are sleeping, when u are getting up, where you go etc 6. Upbringing of children is affected.

Talk to your husband now and that you have no privacy when they come over every week. Otherwise, try this for the next 50 years because what you see is what you get. Sorry!

No, do not live with your in-laws.

Thankyou so much . Married for 1.5 years ,your video gave voice to my feelings !

This is syleti language.bangladeshi most of the people can't say and can't understand syleti...you can try to do direct bangla to Urdu

MashaAllah sister that was so helpful can you just tell me how you keep them safe and not sticky

Pakistani and Bangladeshi is not a mixed race marriage is an interethnic marriage. Pakistani, Bengali and Indian belong to one race. In India there is several ethnicity Kerala speaking Malayalam, Gujarati, tamil, Kannada etc

Accepting it seems like you’re settling but still unhappy?

What kind of pin did u use? Bobby pin?

Can we make wudu with these on?

I’ve been living 3 years with my in Laws. And I’m ABOUT to get married and I will keep live with them. Basically I’ve been together with my boyfriend and his parents all along. I wish this felt less like a threesome with his mother. I really need to work on this.

My mother lives alone in the house we grew up in. My sister got remarried several years ago and she and husband moved in with our mother after their wedding. It actually works out great for them. Their bedroom and bath is upstairs and my mother's bedroom and bath is downstairs. Brother in law has the finished basement as his 'man cave'. Everyone has their space. I think it's a case by case basis and works for some.