... thanks for exploration , your words tell me a lot new deep thing, ... I'm from Ukraine, my English is weak, but your accent is nice

Pain is physical and is only felt, suffering is mental and is only experienced. While being lived Pain can be enjoyable at times suffering is never enjoyable while being lived.

Wonderful

Very educational

My mother recently passed away. Granted my mother had a lot of health issues, But I used to get in to political arguments with my brother. And this would stress her out. One time I could not bite my tongue and swallow my pride and I had to respond back and add a few oppinions. The timing was right there when she started decliining. She was having trouble sleeping and her blood pressure was out of control. I can't help but think that if I had just swallowed my pride, she would not have declined like that. I took for granted that time was limited. I should have swallowed my pride for her sake.

I have used this video for many years as I taught Palliative Care to RCW, PLNs and RN. Jim has a wonderful way of teaching. I have wondered if he is still in this world with us.

Wow! What a very poignant story ❤ I am entering Palliative Care and when he talked about "Who's caring for you"? That really touched my heart.

Thank you for sharing these stories and emotions of a very deep subject. Very helpful and comforting.

Dear Ira, A baby sitter for my children, a beloved son of the lovely Byock family that inspired a lifelong devotion for those that will leave us.Thanks, Ira

Very helpful information to a new volunteer coordinator ❤

I loved the last statement in this talk. Resistance to dying causes suffering.

Fantastic. Thank you for sharing this. I am an End of Life Doula and this is a very powerful practice. Present, other-centered, compassionate care. We are not the solution, but we can be a part of supporting and making a terrible situation a bit easier for the sufferers through our mindful presence.

the longer u live, the more u will realize that the only things that truly exist in this reality is merely pain, suffering and futility. litsen everywhere you look in this world werever there is light there will always be shadows to be found as well. as long as there is a concept of victors the vanquished will also exist

I'd like to share my best friend's story with you, not to compare her experience with yours, but to help you find true peace, comfort and hope. God bless you! Family Story Little did our family of six know that Friday evening, September 24th, 2021, would be the last night our family would be complete. We laughed together, played games, sang, and enjoyed listening as our 16-year-old son, Ethan, played the piano for us. I packed a lunch for Ethan for a church mountain hike he was going on the following day. My mother (who was visiting from out of state) and I woke early with Ethan on Saturday morning. He hugged me and smiled, never pulling away or rushing me. He got in the car, waved, said he'd see me later and he loved me. It was hard to watch my "new driver" heading out on his own that morning. As Ethan pulled out of the gate, I turned to my mother and said, "It's just so hard letting go." Little did I know how much "letting go" I was really doing. That was the last time I saw Ethan. He did not make it home that evening. That afternoon, a friend tried to contact my husband, leaving an urgent message to call him back. He tried several times to return the call to no avail. As we were preparing supper, an overwhelming feeling of deep concern for Ethan filled my heart. I quietly blinked back tears. I glanced out the window, half expecting to see a police officer pull up to the house, but no one arrived. However, within a few minutes, a patrol car DID pull into the driveway. In my heart, I feared the worst. My husband and I went out to meet the officer, who confirmed our fears. Hesitantly, he told us our son had fallen off of a bluff and had succumbed to his injuries. Our hearts were crushed; they still are. Yet, in all of our brokenness, deep, continual grief and loneliness, our family has such a blessed Hope and assurance that we will see our dear son and brother again. You see, when Ethan was a young boy, he was saved; he put his faith in Jesus alone to forgive his sins and to take him to Heaven when he died. He realized some very important truths from the Bible that he would want to share with you. His Story Everyone is a sinner. Sin is any violation of God’s Law. God is holy, just and righteous, and He cannot allow sin in His presence. Ethan realized that he - like all of us - had sinned; and his sin separated Him from God. “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God; ” (Romans 3:23) “Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned:” (Romans 5:12) He understood that, because of his sin, he deserved to spend eternity in Hell. “For the wages of sin is death;” (Romans 6:23a) [Wages: price] “But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” (Revelation 21:8) Ethan believed that Jesus, God’s Son, paid the price for all sin when He died on the cross - because His sinless sacrifice was the only thing that could satisfy the just demands of a righteous, holy God. Jesus was buried in a borrowed tomb, but He arose the third day, triumphant over sin, death, and Hell. Jesus is alive today! “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16) “For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast.” (Ephesians 2:8-9) Ethan was sorry for his sin, repented (turned), and received by faith the free gift that God offered to him. “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “...but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.” (Romans 6:23b) Because of this great salvation, Ethan lived his life serving Jesus. He worked hard to spread this Good News to the world. He is alive in Heaven with Jesus today; and because of this great HOPE in Christ, we know we will see him again soon - not because he was a great kid, but because of his faith in the great Saviour! “And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.” (John 10:28) Your Story What about you? What if you had fallen to your death that day - What if you were to die today? Where will you spend eternity - Heaven or the Lake of Fire? There will not be any parties in the Lake of Fire. It is a place of eternal torment for those who reject God's Son. The Word of God is very clear that there is only One Way to Heaven. “Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.” (John 14:6) We did not know that Ethan would step into eternity that day; however, because he put his faith in Jesus alone for his salvation, Ethan was ready to go. Some day - perhaps today - you will take your last breath here on earth, and you will step into eternity. Where you spend eternity is determined by what you do with Jesus Christ. Will you accept Him or reject Him? You are not promised another day or another breath. Eternity begins soon - Are you ready? “...Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved…” (Acts 16:31b) “For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved.” (Romans 10:13) “(...behold, now is the day of salvation.)” (2 Corinthians 6:2c) ****************************** This testimony has been made into a tract form as well, so if you or your church are interested in having them to pass out, please go to libertyfaith.net and you will find our contact info there. God bless! Tribute to Ethan Lakey kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5nSk5aHj5uEmJo

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Beautiful points brother. I hope it can change.

lately im suffeting from pain

Heroine is the answer...if they are dying...what is the concern regarding "addiction about? You ppl are are either retarded of inherently evil. The Easy Answer is One dose of "Feel Good" heroine, then a second dose of "fall asleep heroin" then a family meeting with ZERO Veto and then a dose a Curare. It is as gentle and easy as that. yet you people are either all retarded or Evils.

This is so spot on. thank you. I feel this.

I wanna die, my life is kinda crap, I am experiencing pain AND suffering, how should I deal with this?

Thank you for his great video about a really difficult subject

A moment of Grace😍😍

Feelings of guilt can be overwhelming. For me it seems almost impossible to work through these feelings and my grief is never ending.

Pain is somewhat necessary for our existence but agony is the suffering due to the unnecessary sensitivity of pain from intense injury or torture. In other words pain helps us learn what is safe or not while agony pointlessly makes you scream or moan and wish you were dead or never born. Like a long cramp, abscess toothe, being lit on fire etc. Similarly, these have emotional effects as well. Failing a test is painful but just try again. Being rejected by your crush and they date your worst enemy, somebody close to you dying of rectal cancer, is agonizing to watch. I had to deal with it all.

my mom just died I cant believe this is happening. she should've been here if i wasn't a fcking stupid coward

This was so informative and enlightening. Thank you.

The saddest thing to witness but it is also a blessing too! A very hard decision for a family member to make but its necessary!!

My wife died she didn't deserve it

Mommy

Missing my Mum Joan Johnson, who passed September 24th. Blessing to her and Dad, who died in 2016

wonderful to bring caring people together in this wonderful season of love Roy

I am grieving the loss of my wife 21 years ago; my one son 30 years ago; another son 4 years ago

Excited for the premiere!

Thank you for sharing this. We have a few caregiving videos launching soon- keep an eye out :)

This video has been used as an example as part of our nursing diploma. It was teaching us how we need to remember that patients are people and the simplest thing like holding someones hand or talking to them has a lot of meaning. So yes, we are now being trained this way and I'm very grateful as I've been on the other end of a busy Dr's behavior and I will never forget how awful that felt. It resonated with me.

Thank you grandma for teaching me human kindness and empathy. I miss you :( and miss Bubby too

My step dad and my mom both died at home. He died 6 months and five days before she passed away. It was their wish.

Our health care system in America is really a disease treatment system. We see a patient through the lens of disease. Our medical model is a problem-based model. You come into our purview this day if you have illness or injury and those are the fundamental human health problems. And our goal is to cure, to restore your function and of course to prolong your life weather we can cure or not. And only then do we address symptoms and suffering. So, you have to have a problem. If you do not have a problem and you go to the doctor. The doctors will ask “Why are you here?” Yeah, we do a little bit of prevention, but even that is sort of disease screening mostly. So, we are ill-equipped to really serve people who are living through the end of life at whatever age it occurs. We only see their problems Fundamentally dying is not a medical experience. It is not a set of medical problems to be solved, but that is all we see in health care. The fundamental nature of dying is not medical. It is personal. It is experiential. People live through it. But all the health care sees are the problems. And that limits our capacity to respond. In many pernicious ways. For one thing, people must earn our attention by suffering. You know if you are. If you have advanced illness. Let’s say think about a woman I call Ms. Schwartz. Ms. Schwartz is seventy-eight years old. She has a belly full of colon cancer. She is living in a nursing home because her family lives at a great distance and could not care for her. She has a living will. She has do not resuscitate order. Her pain is currently controlled and her bowel is working. On any giving day will Ms Schwartz see a physician. Will anybody come by and interact with her. In many of the nursing homes in my country. The answer is well not much. That meals and for necessities. Because she doesn’t have a medical problem. She is just dying. Unless of course, she is in the real good hospice program. Because hospice has never adopted this problem-based model only. But in the health care system if you don’t have a problem you don’t get seen. I submitted that limits. Our ability to respond. And from my perspective, it is more than just a problem-based model. We need to move to a human development model. Where we see the end of life just like we see the beginning of life. Where yes there are problems and we need to respond to those problems. And the medical-model, in fact, helps us to do so. That is fine. But we need not be constrained by only responding to problems. But we can see this time of life as inherently turbulent. It is risk-filled. But just like neonatal period, it has the important capacity for our responsibility extends to preserving opportunity. Maybe even fostering opportunities for the individual to grow both personally and within a family. That is exactly the pilot of the care model as brought to the end of life. But in medicine in mainstream medicine still, you know if it is not on a problem list it is not on preview, not our business. What we are doing now as a society and as a health care professional is sort of abandoning people to figure out how to live through the end of life. People, in fact, have said that to me “I don’t know how to do this”” My pain is ok” “I do not know how to do this” And I said What? “To die”. They do not mean it physiologically. Nobody teaches us. We spend our whole life saying. I do not wanna think about it. Do not talk like that. But it happens. And for us as a society and us as health care on behalf of society. And as pilot of care on behalf of the profession. The medical profession in the nursing profession. For us not to at least wonder aloud if this wouldn’t have value for people feels to me like abandoning people. Well go figure it out on your own. What is up with that. People have a sense that

thanks a lot

May I share this in a Power Point presentation?

This so helped me when I lost my wife 18 months ago it is probably the best help I've had and it's so true x

This is so moving. This is what I miss about nursing. It’s the passion to care for other people and not just see my profession as what I do for living but a way to live my life not just for myself but for others too. To see patients and treat them holistically and not just as an object.

I wanted to thank you for your KZbin post. I enjoyed it so much that I featured it on my blog in a post about New Orleans culture. I am a former caregiver of my mother. In the post I interview a good friend who is also a caregiver. Here is the post. Also check out the entire blog. It’s pretty cool! kevymichaels.blog/2018/07/29/interview-with-caregiver-friend-lorenzo-his-caregiving-advice-if-you-cant-love-dont-do-it/ Check out the entire blog and share and follow it. kevymichaels.blog I am not selling anything. I only promote what I like, and what supports messages that I wish to convey, such as your post. Your motivational video on Caregiving was informative and very inspiring, and allowed me to share the news with others. On my blog, I focus on Love, Culture, Spirituality, Health, and Creativity. I'm sure you'll find something you enjoy. Make it a great day! Kevy Michaels kevymichaels.blog

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Such good points are made here. Family caregivers can quickly become overwhelmed, leading to depression, caregiver burnout, and other serious health risks. Some helpful resources for those providing care for a senior loved one can be found here: advanced-homehealthcare.com/category/caregiver/

Always a pleasure to listen to you Dr. Fainsinger.

Superb this has helped me so much after my wife suddenly died a year ago

As a teacher, he shared his story of his love for his wife ( he left the seminary for the love of her), his love for life, and his compassion and respect for us..... even though we were in Junior High. In later years, I met him again, and the loveliness and sacredness for his compassionate had grown.......if possible. So many poems he introduced us to, and such an example to us all.

Thank you!!

So Simple so so difficult for many people