Thanks so much! Im encouraged to take action and fail along the way 😊

Hi. I remember a few years ago you had health issues and said you were optimistic about your doc spots and would make a video about it? What happened? Also how's your maladaptive daydreaming?

I regularly watch your videos. I get lot of insights from them. Finally got my answer of why i am always in a rush to do more and tick every task on my list which often keeps me in stress. Instead of sometimes taking it a bit easy. Thank you so much ❤

Probably one of the most compelling and convincing advice that I've witnessed in a very, very long time. Major respect

I needed this so much. Thank you!

I am starting 8th grade, and is my 5th time being the new kid but i am still nervous

I love your videos!! Super helpful

I'm totally the person who makes all the pretty marketing materials without doing what I wanted to do ha.

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Hallelujah hallelujah hallelujah is the highest I praise 3 I

Thank you.

Same here. Biggest regret of my life. Was 40k in debt and college probably cost me 60,000 if other out of pocket expenses are included. 29 years old just made my last payment thiss past February. Paid off 40k in 18 months.

I used to have daydreams. , now it is really a reality money degree and marriage, living it to the maximum

I’m switching schools in the middle of middle school…..yay…..

i see this video is old but still so current this is good genuine advice and as someone soon entering this situation i highly appreciate this video!

I have to do 7 more months before I can quit. Feels like torture. I hate it so much.

If only I found this the year it was posted, when I was 18, I would've literally been doing way better in life rn. I've been daydreaming since I was around 13 or 14 and it (along w depression, procrastination, limiting beliefs, etc) has ruined my life by affecting my grades when I was in school, my work performance since I started working and my relationships. At 25 y/o now and discovering my issues, I'm trying to put my life back together.

Messy middle, learning music on the bass guitar at the age of 70, and I'm avoiding it like the plague.

I'm maladaptive daydreamer too ☺️

I'm switching to a school with a different curriculum because the national curriculum sucks. But it's prestigious, that's why I'm scared.

That happens to me too. I can't even get any sleep because of it. I am ALWAYS having a conversation with someone that's not even real about a topic that's so random, all the time. When I go to sleep, I lay on my bed, I don't ever sleep, I'm just there laying with my eyes closed, but in my mind, I'm somewhere else, totally different person, talking to someone, doing something, and... there's this guy that I like... however I have never even talked to him 😳, he doesn't even know me... I'm always imagining him reacting or just watching me, and so I'm always trying to impress him, be it talking to a imaginary friend about a very intelligent and interesting topic, playing the got theme and/or some pink floyd song in the piano, just because I know he likes got and pink floyd, doing some kind of acrobatics, or just messing with wild animals (usually, some wild Australian spider), because I'm interested in that and I think the guy would find me very interesting too... or just talking about geography, because I know he likes geography and so do I... but, the truth is that, we are not even from the same country and well, he's way older than me... well, just 5 years, that's good actually. It's just all in my head, in my imaginary world. I waste HOURS AND HOURS of my days and nights with this... 😓 I'm, actually, suffering because of it. It's not a good thing. It really is not. I'm 17, by the way... :(

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really helpful Thank u very much❤

Can someone help me with this?. I know its bad and i want it to stop. But i just can't seem to do it. I have been daydreaming since my childhood like many others. This got worse in my teenage and now im 20 and still cant stop it. Obviously music and movies or certain shows affect me the most. I sometimes cant seem to differentiate between the reality and fiction. I go into this new character everytime and start treating others and behaving like im not myself but instead that character. I get mean to people. I get sweet to them. I dont know what i am doing. It feels so lonely once you come out of the character. I'm really feeling so helpless right now. I cant sleep at night. It feels like i am losing on everything that is in my present and my real life. Please help me

❤❤perfect

Back to your old style quick and short videos that I love ❤

I am avoiding doing exactly what you are doing now....coaching, podcasts, etc. 😩

I have to daydream, not because I feel lonely or something like that, but because others simply can't keep up with how long I want to play. I love doing tabletop rpg games (Dungeons and dragons, etc.), but after a session of 4 hours, my friends will stop, like normal persons would. But for me, I could go on for 10 hours or more, I could skip lunch, wake at 8 am exclusively for that if I was able to. Playing with other people simply can't satisfy the craving for immersion and fantasy my brain has, it would be impossible (rightfully so) for them. I have to always remind myself to not be annoyed by people who start talking about their lives or the news while I'll just be sitting there, wanting them to simply play the damn game. So yes, I prefer to complete this with at least 5 hours of daydreaming xD

great speech, you are awesome

What?? Overwhelm is our own fault? Is it someone’s fault if their boss gives them a task then gives another and another and so on, then keeps asking if each of them is done yet in an unrealistically short time? Tasks keep piling on as well as distractions to work on other things. Sure people want to feel calm but what if someone continuously piles pressure on all day every day and when challenged about the load, looking for solutions, says it’s down to poor planning. This is not so simple to fix!

Thank you!!!

My messy middle: Not trying foot ball in front of others Playing it alone Not playing cricket Not trying to drive more Not trying to play sword with others Only playing it alone Not trying to get feedback on my photography Only sticking to perfectionism with insta page on photography Not facing my fears Sticking to perfectionism but with bad mental health and critical self talk

hi shaina, i learned and i think you are right, your advice is great and useful even for me from a country in middle east thanks

hi shaina, i learned and i think you are right, your advice is great and useful even for me from a country in middle east thanks

hi shaina, i learned and i think you are right, your advice is great and useful even for me from a country in middle east thanks

I work at Amazon warehouse I can’t even relax on my days off because I’m still thinking about my job I dread getting up for work but I find myself picking up extra shifts to support myself because I can’t survive off 500-600$ a week after taxes I’m definitely ready for a fresh start I’m 28 & I definitely don’t want to be stuck at a warehouse until I’m 35 I’ve already been working in warehouses since I was 19 I feel so trapped😢

Thank you so much, I truly thank you for these words

Thank you

We can’t just leave our jobs we have bills to pay and families to care for

Needed this today. Saved! 🙏🏽

Why do you (all of you) just like to creating problems over problems and complicate the complicated shitty life we are in! We gonna die, money will not save us from either dying nor pain mostly!!!!! No authentic, groundbreaking, simple, real, practical, not hackneyed and not repetitive thoughts!! You see all the talkings here and there about the same boring shit! And the result is MORE misery!!! People want to be free and healthy! REBELLION (in my dreams of course lol; people are herds to indoctrination and fear)! Plan b, you can JUST try to LIVE the moment, and be content!! “Hard work”, “success” “productivity” are mostly just overrated, delusional, not guaranteed, boring, and devastating!!!! The intrinsic value is mental and physical health, that’s it!!! Being greedy, unsatisfied, delusional, and arrogant won’t help

Wow, so profound! I just discovered your channel, and I love how deep you go. Thank you so much for making these videos available.

1. understand the importance of living in the present moment. educate yourself on the disadvantage of maladaptive daydreaming 2. take action and remain conscious the more you catch your mind drifting and the more you remind yourself to not go there, the weaker the muscle become. it’s a muscle that must be worked everyday 3. choose a time of day to allow yourself to daydream eg: the time time it takes to take a shower (a shorter period of time) 4. meditate

Thank you! I needed to hear this. I care WAY TOO MUCH what others think and it created a lot of anxiety for me. This totally makes sense but it's hard to get this out of the programmed subconscious!

I'm grateful to have found your channel because you explain in a simple, fun, easy to understand way. So I should be fine with being broke now because I am on my way to financial abundance, right, Shaina?

Are you planning to do another decluttering and mindset bootcamp? I would love to participate.

Your title describes me. I wrote a coworker off who became a big hero. See, I'm a student leader at my college's catering business, and I learned that this one guy (let's call him Tom) had signed up for a service by himself. He always seemed like a slow learner, and he has made some mistakes at work, like the time he set the tables with the wrong linens. Besides, he graduated at 20 at a small charter school, he still lived with his mom at 27, and he didn't have a driver's license. I really thought little of him. That's why I thought it was a bad idea for him to do a shift by himself. So I went to our boss. She was upset. Told Tom she didn't think he could manage alone and was all "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen" and she told him he needed someone there to guide him. Well, that night, she and I both learned our lesson. In downtown from a balcony, we witnessed Tom protect a wheeIchaired man from two brutaI guys. At some point, they got Tom and were about to finish him, but Tom saw my boss and fire was in his eyes. He _amazingly_ broke free of the grips on him and scuffIed with the two men. Despite facing _two_ *bigger* men, Tom overcame them. There was more grappIing, swinging, and throwing from _Tom_ than from his opponents. At some point, a man pulled out a pistoI, but Tom got the arm and squeezed it, staring ferociousIy at my boss. It seemed the more he looked at her, the more strength he had in him. He had amazing tactics and strategies to win. While the two men were arres ted and Tom was checking on the wheeIchaired man (who was yes, totally fine), my boss and I approached Tom. My boss apologized for beIittIing him, said he was amazing out there and she wanted him to work the shift by himself, as she believed in him. But he refused and quit. Told her she was only saying all this because she just witnessed him do something heroic. That she didn't _truly_ respect him; it was all conditional, as her "Tom-is-incompetent" view would've stayed had he not proven himself. I think he's right. I feel SO STUPlD. I always thought Tom was Iesser. I didn't *_consciously_* think he was a Ioser. I *_automatically_* thought he was one. Like, I didn't say or think the word about him, but I just felt it in me. But I was wrong. He may have a learning disability, but he is not an unskiIIed fooI. *My boss and I* are the fooIs. We labeIed Tom, and now we're the Iosers who were proven wrong.

I’m going until 6pm today without daydreaming. That’s a start. It’s 9:22 am right now

Amazing video.. perfect timing.. I didn’t blow up the bridge because of your advice .!’ 👏

You got close, but either missed or didn’t emphasize enough a couple of points. Discomfort is something naturally to avoid so to confront it you actually need something else to be even more afraid of that could happen if you didn’t go through it. Second, it helps to orient your life in a way that the possibility of failure won’t negatively affect you, OR figure out if your mind is lying to you that it would be negative if you failed. It would really help to confidently see that you’d be fine even if you failed. Of course, that may take some work.