You find when you hit burnout you just wanna sleep or be destracted by a hobhy and just want to switch off from the outside world?
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 күн бұрын
Great question!! Yes, this is definitely one of the warning signs. If you'd like to see if you are in burnout or not and if so, what your Spicy Pepper level of burnout is, you can take the quick 3 minute quiz right here: whittingtonwellbeing.com/
@ScottyPimpinATL27 күн бұрын
Unmasking infront of co workers has gotten me into trouble...every single time. Once that person enjoys your personality, it becomes a drug. If you put it back on, then all of a sudden, that person doesn't enjoy you as much since you are now turned off and in autopilot and a shell of your actual personality. When you find that person who understands you, others become suspicious and cospire, you have an agenda against them since I open up to 1 and not all of them. Then people think I personally dislike them, but I genuinely know they never whoukd like me anyway.
@BeyondChronicBurnout23 күн бұрын
I'm sorry you've had this experience. There is so much to the harmony and alignment with our authentic selves in late identified life and the journey that brought us here doesn't always feel safe in the beginning. A lack of feeling belonging and authenticity are two of the biggest energy drains contributing to burnout in my research with emotional safety being #1. Unmasking or UnVeiling as I call it, is a reconnection and alignment with your higher self the self you have always been but that hasn't felt safe to emerge. Welcome, I am so glad you are here.
@JamieJenkins2001Ай бұрын
Excellent video! I'm someone who only smiles when she's happy, and I actually do smile but some people think I don't because I always look like I'm bored or annoyed in photos (it's just my natural expression). I've always refused to do fake smiles for cameras and I'll be in my usual "mouth slightly open" expression in photos that I have all the time when everyone else is smiling, as a result, I got nicknamed "Sourpuss Jamie" by some as a kid for this. Funnily enough, when the sun's in my eyes I make that squinty face that looks like a smile and at first glance I look like I'm constantly smiling. and so people often take photos of me when I'm outside. Like in my photo taken at the beach last summer, I'm not actually smiling but making a "the sun hurts my eyes" face but I still love the photo so I use it everywhere (also, it's the only one that does a good job of hiding my turkey neck, I'm 23 and my neck looks older, sloped at a 45 degree angle despite the fact I'm quite thin, 130 pounds at 5'10"). Thankfully people stopped asking me to smile for photos because they know how uncomfortable it makes me.
@BeyondChronicBurnoutАй бұрын
Jamie, thank you for watching and sharing!! OMG so relatable with the "sun in my eyes squinty smile" How much energy does it feel like you use when you are asked to "smile" vs. when you smile because it naturally is happening?
@JamieJenkins200121 күн бұрын
@@BeyondChronicBurnout Natural smile uses 0 energy, fake smile uses so much energy, and the fake smiles never look real or convincing. People have learned the best way to get a smile out of me is do something that makes me smile.
@WendyWallace-m3rАй бұрын
Oh my gosh - I just found you/this....THIS is me. Thank you. I feel more hope right now than i have in years....
@BeyondChronicBurnoutАй бұрын
Hi Wendy and WELCOME!!! I am super excited you are here and found me. If you are suspecting neurodivergent and /or disabled burnout due to co-occurring health conditions then you are in the right place. Have you checked out and taken the 3 minute Spicy Pepper Burnout Quiz at Whittington Well-Being yet? If not, this is a good place to start: whittingtonwellbeing.com/
@sarahjoy6704Ай бұрын
Great video, thank you :)
@BeyondChronicBurnoutАй бұрын
Glad you liked it! Thanks so much for watching.
@AishaMBudgets2 ай бұрын
What a cute video! Great edits!
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
Dan did those and he is so super talented! Thanks for watching.
@truthseeker35032 ай бұрын
I am Autistic, late dignosed and work NHS, initially supported but frequent burnout exasperated by work and no help has led me to being unsupported and on the verge of bullying.
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
I am so sorry to hear your experiences and bullying is one of the worst. Please know that you are not alone. Working in healthcare is one of the highest risk categories for burnout and layer in a wonderfully wired brain and body and you have an even more intense experience of burnout and its symptoms. Have you taken my Spicy Pepper Burnout Quiz yet? If not, it is a great place to begin. I will add the link here for you: energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1155744
@thetiffanysimms2 ай бұрын
such a fun episode. and i love how you asked "what do I have control over"
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
Right!? It is the place that feels safest to begin to me. What would you add to this list of things we have control over in our blood sugar regulation Tiff? I know you have some good ones.
@digitalmarketersifat2 ай бұрын
Awesome video
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it! Did you try the activity along with us?
@FairandSquare-zq4fk2 ай бұрын
We would like for you to interview Andrea. Would like for her to speak about her personal experience with the intersectionailty of being autistic and asian. Thanks!
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
What a great idea! Thank you for watching and sharing the suggestion.
@layonmiabd2 ай бұрын
Dr. Nicole Mahly, is truly a kind hearted person. I have benefited a lot from watching his videos.
@BeyondChronicBurnout2 ай бұрын
She definitely is one of the kindest people I know. Thanks for joining us in this conversation on blood sugar and burnout. We hope it was helpful to you and always love hearing back if you try any of the tips or ideas.
@XaltaTarot-qs2hc3 ай бұрын
22:22 the word yu're looking for is pheromones
@loverainthunder4 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@BeyondChronicBurnout4 ай бұрын
You're welcome! So glad you joined us for this conversation.
@kendallwalter86215 ай бұрын
'Promosm' 💕
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for watching and commenting! Super excited you are here!!
@michaelvandenheuvel3175 ай бұрын
Yes this is true. Stand and listen.
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Thank you for joining us for this conversation. Thomas always has the best insights to share.
@michaelvandenheuvel3175 ай бұрын
Listen!!!
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Awe, thanks for watching and taking time to share and comment Michael!! You are so sweet. Which of the top 3 stood out to you most? Is there an exercise you would like to try first?
@samanthamansi11845 ай бұрын
I thought it was fibromyalgia maybe burnout now I think about it and yes lose my executive function
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Burnout shows up in a variety of different ways based on neurotype, physical disability and co-occurring health conditions and is often misidentified. I had that happen and doctors thought it was "just my POTS" however it is not just one or the other it is how they layer together. I'm so super excited you are here and welcome!!! Fibro is part of your energy system and how you navigate your energy so it does factor in, however it is also important to discover the sustainable and abundant energy that is already yours and how fibro is part of your Energy Mastery. The first step is identifying your Spicy Pepper Burnout Level with my quiz, it will also tell you if you are not in burnout. This first step will help you get the road map to Energy Mastery that aligns with where you are today to make this easier and faster to reach your Thrive Destination. Let me know if you have a question or need a resource along the way, I am here to serve. Welcome to the community! -Carole Jean
@BlueRoseHelen2525 ай бұрын
I am self diagnosed at the moment after having both our daughters assessed at the ages of 12 and 14 years old in November 2023, we are waiting for our son to be assessed for ADHD which although he's been on the waiting list for 2 years nearly and were told it will probably take another 2 years waiting before he is seen. UK NHS. Looking back I think my peri-menopause started in 2019 but I also ended up with a chest infection which moved into phenomena just before COVID was really taking hold in the UK, I noticed several signs like weight gain initially around my middle and even though until the phenomena I was active with 3 young kids I could never loose weight I don't eat much food or lots of sugar etc so there was no reason I shouldn't loose weight, well after that I had a couple of UTIs then all of a sudden the brain fog, face hair, exhaustion and I'm talking I could not sleep at night for the insomnia and the sheer exhaustion I was glad the kids were at school all day because I would be up all night unable to sleep for restless leg and anxiety and couldn't rest, then during the day I would fall asleep as soon as the kids were gone from the house at 8.15am and I could not even move until 3pm sometimes 4pm when or after they were home again, 😢 I have always not slept for long but I suddenly could not stay awake. I didn't get the night sweats that was the only thing in think, i get occasionally warm but not bad, when I was awake i had no energy so was basically making dinner and doing a wash load a day and then spending my time trying to sleep or being asleep. My bones especially my joints like my elbows and fingers and legs were in excruciating pain all the time , but it was the migraines that eventually when I had a 10 day migraine I gave up and went to the doctors after having researched all my symptoms that had taken from 2019 to 2023 to creep up onto me...me going to the doctors after self diagnosing myself as being in perj menopause was the best thing I ever did she put me straight onto patches and i had a blood test which showed me as suddenly being type 2 diabetic even though i hardly eat and don't eat excess junk foods etc (she confirmed that it was probably brought on because I was sleeping soo much and unable to exercise because of the exhaustion and so it was peri menopause induced through inactivity) well within 3 months of being diagnosed as type 2 my bloods were taken again and were back to levels well below the markers for type 2, so now my hormones are sort of in check with the patches the brain fog has gone I don't feel like I'm going mad anymore and I can sleep for 4 hours straight at night and I have been awake most days all day since 2 days after starting the patches. I wish I had known the other symptoms of peri menopause as in had 13 side effects in total when i totted them up, itchy skin (all the time) being another of them too. I saw my doctor in July 2023 and had been suffering in silence for around 4 years before realising something wasn't right. I think there needs to be a proper study into neurodiversity and the effects of peri menopause and menopause because I had to dig deep to find the information that I found all while suffering with imposter syndrome about if I might be autistic as well because of the research that sounded like my life story when reading up on autism in girls while waiting for them to be assessed. I also wonder if the study should include people that self identify as autistic or ADHD or both. I had my 3 kids from the age of 32 my eldest is 14 now, middle daughter is 12 and our son is 10. I will be 47 next month and I am still undecided if I should be assessed myself. I was mortified when after having such awful painful periods from the age of 10 my whole life when my middle child also started at the age of 10 the first day of starting year 6 and both girls have both experienced Painful periods so I made sure they were seen by the doctor because it was awful watching them suffer like I did. They have both been put on a mini pill which has helped a lot with pain. I just wish that had been an option for me when I was 10 I missed out on soo much due to cramps that went on for months...... Sorry for the rambling I just feel us women deserve to finally be heard, and that more study need to happen for Autistic and neurodiverse women and self diagnosed women to be included in the studies too. 😊
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Helen, thank you so much for sharing your story and journey. It is so important that we do share and let others know they are not alone and that experiences can encompass so many different things. You have so much to share on the other side of this and your girls are very lucky to have you as their momma so that they have a better experience through womanhood. Sending you all the best!!! - Carole Jean
@fleischliebe4305 ай бұрын
Allistic ADHDer here. I had a burnout in college and it took me about 5 years to recover. and what you describe sounds like what I experienced.
@rainbowstarks5 ай бұрын
This is so great!! Super helpful. Thank you
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
I'm so glad this was helpful to you. What is the hardest part of burnout for you right now? I'd love to share any helpful insights or resources to help. Carole Jean
@rainbowstarks5 ай бұрын
@@BeyondChronicBurnout Hi Carole! Thank you for asking! I think the hardest part for me is coming to terms with my new limits, and the fact that this isn't just about recovery, my whole lifestyle needs to be adjusted to a pace that I can cope with long-term. And that includes saying no to people I love and disappointing them. It feels lonely because not many people fully understand why I am suddenly saying no more often, and living differently, so I've got to be radically on my own side and be prepared to potentially be viewed as selfish. I am also afraid of how this is going to go when I re-enter the workforce. for me, earning money is inherently tied to overriding my boundaries for others. I'm curious to know if it's possible to fully honor our limits AND make a living. that was a long answer LOL. thank you for listening <3
@naturaldiabetesreversal5 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experiences and for being so open and vulnerable! You're an inspiration! It's amazing to see how you were able to work through your recent challenges with such grace, using your burnout and energy tools. And I love the Carole Jean sense of humor sprinkled in 💗
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Awe my friend you just made my day. I laughed aloud at the sense of humor sprinkled in part, that is so nice to know that my sense of humor resonates with you. I make me laugh, and I love to help others laugh too. I can't wait for our interview!!!
@naturaldiabetesreversal5 ай бұрын
@@BeyondChronicBurnout I always enjoy a good sense of humor, and yours is great! 😄 I'm looking forward to it as well!! 🙌
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Get your copy of my book "Unleashing Sustainable Energy" and get started on your Energy Mastery today: energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1154818
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Take the Spicy Pepper Burnout Quiz: energize.whittingtonwellbeing.com/products/courses/view/1155744
@aspiemepoetrybanks68195 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉I loved this
@BeyondChronicBurnout5 ай бұрын
Yea!! I am so glad you enjoyed this one my friend. Thank you for joining us for this energizing conversation.
@aspiemepoetrybanks68195 ай бұрын
@@BeyondChronicBurnout thank you, I got to listen to it while twisting my hair and my hubby was snoozing 😴. So thank you for posting otherwise I'd miss vital information, I remember not feeling like I belong until I moved away from family, sadly. I'm just grateful I accepted myself which took years after my diagnosis.
@krisma17896 ай бұрын
I appreciated this podcast.
@BeyondChronicBurnout6 ай бұрын
I am so glad! Is there anything that you would like a specific resource or direction on regarding managing burnout at work? I'd be happy to help.
@elifdurmus82436 ай бұрын
I really enjoyed this, but also think that the question in the title was not necessarily answered, nor the question "how do you manage adhd burnout in general?" Oliver Fenghour focussed much more on policy changes necessary than what we can do. Which is of course very important, but then the title is a bit misleading.
@BeyondChronicBurnout6 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching and also taking time to add what we can address more directly. For general information on ADHD/Autistic Burnout, I have loads of resources here on the channel and also a book specifically sharing the road map to Energy Mastery called "Unleashing Sustainable Energy" that is for ADHD Autistics. Let me know if I can share answers to a specific you have around burnout. I am happy to help. -Carole Jean You can access the Spicy Burnout Quiz along with the book here on the website: mindyourautisticbrain.com/
@elifdurmus82436 ай бұрын
thank you for the response :)@@BeyondChronicBurnout
@Sharminshosii6 ай бұрын
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@BeyondChronicBurnout6 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching. If you have a specific question around burnout you'd like answered or a resource you are seeking please let me know as I am happy to help and share.
@aspiemepoetrybanks68196 ай бұрын
Love this ❤
@BeyondChronicBurnout6 ай бұрын
Thank you Leah!
@SunShine2024-t2w7 ай бұрын
Thank you for this conversation.I identify with so much of what was said❤
@BeyondChronicBurnout7 ай бұрын
You are most welcome! I am so glad that you found it helpful and connecting. So excited you are here and can't wait to get to know you better along your journey. If I can be of help in any way around burnout please reach out. I am here to help. Carole Jean
@MJ-jm6oz7 ай бұрын
You are wonderful Carole!
@BeyondChronicBurnout7 ай бұрын
You are so sweet! If I can answer any questions for you on burnout or the energy body appraisal just send me a message here or on Instagram and I am happy to help. Carole Jean
@SunShine2024-t2w7 ай бұрын
Thank you.I appreciate that.Going thru a confusing process of sifting thru the effects of childhood trauma and also possibly adhd.Finding out more on both autism and adhd.Unfortunately I do not have any relatives who could have maybe provided evidence from childhood except school reports.I am considering getting a diagnosis privately.I have completed a couple of online tests which say that I am on the spectrum but I feel a formal diagnosis would go a long way so that it’s either ruled in or ruled out
@BeyondChronicBurnout7 ай бұрын
Getting the external validation is really important for some folks and if that is what would be most helpful to you my friend then don't give up looking for a provider who is skilled and trained at identifying adults and who is neuro inclusive and trauma informed. There are resources available now to find providers who meet this criteria. Let me know if you need any resources on this. I can't locate the link I had in mind to share at the moment but will circle back when it drops in my brain. Carole Jean
@SunShine2024-t2w7 ай бұрын
This is so powerful and is spot on and I have found it so helpful as you both give a very clear and caring view.Im currently in the process of self diagnosing ❤
@BeyondChronicBurnout7 ай бұрын
I am so glad this was helpful! Brian and I love to be part of your journey. Welcome and know you are not alone. I see you friend.
@naturaldiabetesreversal7 ай бұрын
Ooh, 'burnout was keeping me broke'... that's such a great observation and I think it's true for so many. You talked about recovering from burnout and having that bandwidth to work on your money health, which I think is an empowering thought for those struggling with this issue. Bryan, I LOVED when you said 'plan for the best and make sure you're okay with the rest'! Great episode Bryan & Carole Jean, your whole conversation really puts things into perspective!
@BeyondChronicBurnout7 ай бұрын
Hi Nicole!!! I am so glad this episode spoke to your heart. This is an often overlooked element to the burnout conversation and Bryan was the perfect person to have on and share more about this. I appreciate you watching and can't wait to hear how this episode serves you.
@okilani8 ай бұрын
This was amazing
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
So glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching and sharing. Have a great rest of your week!
@Autism360Support8 ай бұрын
So helpful!! Thanks for sharing this information on energy!
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful! What stood out most to you around energy?
@OntarioSheltie8 ай бұрын
This is so me, I’m tearing up listening to this. I’ve struggle for so long… I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago but realized recently that I’ve been heavily masking autism my whole life. I’m 44. I started surgical menopause in 2018, but my AuDHD has gotten so much worse in the past 1-2 years. I do ok at work but I can barely function in my everyday life and feel like such a failure. I’m looking into getting an official diagnosis because I desperately need help.
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
The menopause experience is different within our neurotype and there is still so much to share and learn. I've noticed that in the last few months so much more of my physical responses to stress and sensory have elevated in areas like sound and smell especially during certain times of the month now that didn't happen before. Keep in contact and community with all of us as we do this together and support one another. So glad you are here!!!
@Truerealism7478 ай бұрын
And how does one no if we have cysts on penal gland
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
There are symptoms like difficulty sleeping as one of the biggest, but the only way to know for sure is with a scan of your brain.
@Truerealism7478 ай бұрын
Do you have heds to or hypermobile
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
I fall into the hypermobility category as of right now. Learning more all the time and advocating at the doctor's office has been an experience all its own for sure.
@Truerealism7478 ай бұрын
@@BeyondChronicBurnoutdo you have stretchy skin in places seams it's all together the subconscious brain is week collegen this is why it can't stand stress did you have pain with your burnout
@tabatha95779 ай бұрын
Do you have video recommendations for supervisors of autistic employees? I'm on the spectrum but I don't even know how to have adjustments for myself or discussions with my boss. Great observation on why we overwork. Didn't realize that's why I push myself so hard. 17:35
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
Hi Tabatha and Welcome!! Yes, I do and Oliver and I have two Lunch & Learn recordings that dive into this exact topic along with resources for both you and your manager. Here is the first one: Managing ADHD Autistic Burnout at Work: resources.mindyourautisticbrain.com/products/courses/view/1155097 Here is the second one: Q&A on Managing ADHD/Autistic Burnout at Work: resources.mindyourautisticbrain.com/products/courses/view/1159391 There is a section in each of these portals to add in any specific question you have and we will answer you directly to help out. -Carole Jean
@saotree47119 ай бұрын
so excited for this book! ever since i first heard Shell on a podcast earlier this year - I have had that thought in my memory and it kept popping up: I wonder if her book is out yet? ☺ great convo you guys... thanks so much. I have been in a cycle of repeated burn outs all my adult life and got diagnosed adhd at 55 and have a few others now too! all happened when I had just made some major life changes and decided to go back to work after leaving at 22! so before it's too late I really want to try and uncover what work I should pursue coz the work I'm in does not fit on many accounts.... that was a long waffle I know ..... what can I say 😏soz
@BeyondChronicBurnout8 ай бұрын
I LOVE that you shared and the waffle is what we do in this space so no apologies here my friend. Shell is so great and her book is expected to be out around the first of the year. Be sure to check out my new book, Unleashing Sustainable Energy so that you have the energy and more to lead in your new career path. So super excited for you and it takes massive courage to enter the workforce after time away. I was terrified at first however stepping into a field that is in alignment makes all the difference. Sending you all the best and if you have any questions around the transition and managing burnout I am here to help. -Carole Jean
@saifjassim60679 ай бұрын
Becuse I heard of it on a diffrent app once
@BeyondChronicBurnout9 ай бұрын
Here is Joe's Instagram account. I think he is on TikTok more now for videos.
@saifjassim60679 ай бұрын
Can I get his channel
@saifjassim60679 ай бұрын
I saw his channel once show me
@CJenkinsMusicLover9 ай бұрын
19:25 I mention being accused of Fauxtism,or fake autism. The Spotify auto transcript (which helps a lot) generated this wrong. It’s a word coined by an AutismMom.
@meechipeachi9 ай бұрын
Lovely! I haven't heard a lot of other people talk about the difference between rest and sleep period I tell my friends that we need rest, and most of us rest while we sleep.
@BeyondChronicBurnout9 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!! So glad that this helped reframe rest and sleep.
@dangol68489 ай бұрын
Is it likely that females with autism and adhd will have sex with strangers to avoid a connection ?
@BeyondChronicBurnout9 ай бұрын
No. What makes you ask that question?
@sherronburns94099 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this insightful episode! I am new on my autism journey, 46 & self-diagnosed. The realisation dropped in as a slow recognising around 4 months ago, and the last 8 weeks have been so much validation, information and a deep knowing in my bones! I even think I have autistic burnout from processing the realisation of autism, and revisiting my whole life through this lense. I have listened to 37 episodes of Melissa's podcast, it has been so so helpful! Thank you for this further insight into rest, I know the principles of many different types of rest but haven't heard it explained in a way that my brain could understand before. I've been diagnosed with CFS/ME, but wonder if it was autistic burnout all along, and am seeing many times in my life that this was probable happening - dropping out of school and uni, being made redundant from jobs - it's a lot of times that I have felt critised or a failure, where now I realise - Oh, that's just my autism! I'm also pretty sure now that I have Alexithymia too. Thank you 🙏
@BeyondChronicBurnout9 ай бұрын
I am so glad that this conversation was helpful!!! Welcome to the Mind Your Autistic Brain community. I am so super excited you are here. Have you taken my "Spicy Pepper Burnout Quiz" Quiz to determine what level of burnout you may experiencing right now? If not, here is the link. resources.mindyourautisticbrain.com/products/courses/view/1155744 My new book, Unleashing Sustainable Energy, answers those big burnout restoration questions and also shares the steps of The UnVeiling Method to go from Burnout to Sustainable, Thriving Energy. resources.mindyourautisticbrain.com/products/courses/view/1154818
@sherronburns94099 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for the warm welcome to the community! @@BeyondChronicBurnout