Thank you for posting this!

ABSOLUTELY,...........ON...POINT!!! WOW! Thank You!

After nearly 20 years of estrangement/parental alienation, I had to finally walk away. The few times they came back, their financial and verbal abuse would start all over again. They made up lies and accusations of things I never did. I left my ex after 23 years of physical, financial and emotional abuse. I had been to counseling for years and when I finally told him he could no longer abuse me....he turned on our kids and dog. That was the straw that broke the camels back. I sat down with our kids and asked how they wanted to live. I was careful about demonizing their dad and kept a close eye on them and if there was one instance of abuse....I would call in authorities. I told them that the divorce had nothing to do with them. Our oldest daughter was already on her own, so it was only the 2 youngest....14 and 17. I told them that as long as their dad was living, they should have a relationship with him. They decided to live between the 2 of us....and that was fine at first.....then they started spending more time at their dads house. He bought them computers, cars....anything they wanted and I eventually became the very bad toxic mom. My ex jerked me around in court for 2.5 years trying to find a lawyer who would agree with him that I should get nothing. He sued me twice with 2 bogus lawsuits and lost both.....but had to give him the money so he'd sign the papers. The judge got tired of his BS and split the "visible" assets. I ended up with 2 valuable family properties and the income from a cell tower on the one property.....I waived maintenance. This ticked him off to the max and that is when the alienation went full blown. Any time they would come over, it was to continue blasting me and verbally wipe me out. I had to finally just end it.....they are too far sucked into their dads lies. It's sad, becuz they have taken the grandkids too. The lies they have told their children is disgraceful..... And worst than that....they went to a few of my friends and tried to turn them against me and asked them to join forces with them and leave me....thankfully those friends told my kids to go pound salt. Seven years ago....my mom threw me under the bus as well. I am the end of the line. I had to walk away, becuz my physical, financial, and mental health was in the toilet. Sometimes I feel bad....but I don’t want them back....I can't trust them. They are deeply brainwashed and there's nothing I can do about it. I feel sorry for the (grand)kids.....they are being used as weapons to hurt me, but they don't realize what they are doing to their own kids 😪 The whole thing is a mess. The few times I have shared my story, ppl point the finger at me and tell me I must have done or said something to make them alienate me....I must have been a horrible mom.....so I rarely share.

I'm going through this haven't seen my children for year and half and I'm going through family court, I'm never said anything bad about my ex- but she said awful things about me, I'm fighting for my children, I love them so much ❤😢

I chose peace at the expense of losing a relationship of my youngest child even though the judge rule my ex was the alienator. It is more complex than that and extremely painful. My ex's childhood was met with betrayal and among other things both parents who also split did a marginal job raising her. After almost about 5 years of visitation of having the others almost pretty much do the same as they aged to adulthood, it seemed easier to not fight it. There are no as far as I can tell easy fixes. Family court and having a great or limitless financial means can only get yo there half way. Living like that is not really living. With peace even though it is something you cannot pace emotionally, I can live with some calmness. As far as I know my yougnest is doing ok. But he has some consistency and I am just biding time. It is terrible and when you have individuals that thrive on gaslighting their audience, the only thing you can do is not give them fuel which is chaos. The future seems so far to have less contentment without him here but I can control whatever comes my direction instead of just putting more kiln on the inferno.

I literally did nothing to harm my children but hold them to integrity, which they don’t live.

My daughter was alienated then abducted five years ago by a Sunday School teacher. This is one of the best videos I have watched!! Do you have more videos?

Wow 😮 I learned a lot from this video… I’m approaching my first custody hearing and just trying to educate myself. My son is 11 months and his mom is keeping me from seeing him.

Dads are the ones that are always alienated. The mom gets custody 90 percent of the time. Somehow it’s always refrained as “ alienated parents “ let’s keep it real and show the stats!

Chat GPT4.0 : Parental Alienation and Child Abuse in correlation with: Defense Mechanism - Passive Aggression - Cognitive Distortions - Poor Reality Testing - Alexithymia

Who going to do something about this unlawful death sentence

We have a broken-hearted population of millions of parents and grandparents across all western nations. Just imagine what that is going to do to our societies.

Very helpful ❤ thank you!

This is very helpful! Thank you ❤

6:20 Actions speak louder than words. You have to be able to reason backwards, When the Alienating parent shows genuine support for the relationship between the other parent and the child. You know then how the child behaves. They will accept the other parent like this, like a light switch !!!!

And trust in God. Bless you all in your journeys

Wow! How wonderful and enlightening I can see the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow now. Strategies are the key, being alienated is not good by anyone. Start by recognizing the behavior and stand up for yourself as if you have a bully bullying you, let them know you won't put up with it anymore.❤

Thank you for this video. This confirms what I already knew to be true. I hope I can make this info work on my family's behalf. I need any other resources available on this topic. I just found out that their is a law called Coercive Control in UK. And we don't have this law yet. But this law could change the pattern of abused victims if we can Identify and bring it under the scrutiny of the Law.

I know nothing from them for 7 years. They run me over with the social services, the courts and all the money they robbed me. Im not in any statistics. 7 years of hell.

What if you have been so erased by the state help that you know nothing from your kids for 7 years..

My children!! Robbed by the swedish state. 7 years!!!!!!

My life ! But the difference is that the narc did molested a child . They make you suicidal yes

Dr. Harman, Thank you SO much for this. As my husband (the Target Alienated Parent) struggles with heartbreak, bewilderment, rage, and shame and I stand beside to support him, having this video of you to share with him means the world to me. Thank you from my Heart to yours .

My three children are adults. My oldest daughter has two new babies, and I am totally pushed away and I don’t know what to do? My ex is controlling, was actually a diagnosed narcissist and the hurt is so intense.

Is it parental alienation if the child knows what’s going on but is been coerced and threatened Not to talk to or be around a parent?

Great video. It's disgraceful the amount of money required to regain something that you are already lawfully entitled to: to be a parent to your child. I'm an alienated father of 14 years. There are only 2 bodies of experts in parental alienation: the children and the alienated parent. Anyone else claiming to be an expert is in it for the money. If these experts claimed to want.to help, they would concentrate on making age-relative information available for alienated children and use this to sort through the problem. There are too many programs of reconciliation that force desperate parents into an event deeper financial abyss than what they are already experiencing day-to-day.

It's a huge problem, and people like you are pefect to research and help reduce the number of cases of this in the future. Thank you for your work!

Jennifer Harman is a fraud. She could have saved my daughter’s endocrine system and her uterus.but turned her back on her and my daughter’s mental and physical health. Jennifer Harman is a fraud.

Im a targeted parent and its just terrible she has managed to convince my family that iam going mad and will harm my child its has destroyed my entire family and im not sure if ever i will see my daughter again. 💔

I went to see my daughter at school as she won an award prior to this I hadn't seen her for 3 months, she broke down in the middle of assembly and I was thrown out of the school. It breaks my heart as I was in her life for 10 years and suddenly it has stopped. The schools do not care in England you are up against a system that is rotten to the core.

Thank you

English subtitles please

I am an alienating mother for 19 years now after the abusive father used the teens to lie to the police and had me falsely arrested to never see them again since July 18th 2005.

Full custody father here for 13 years now. The mother absolutely unfit NOR ever helped me in anyway, not a single penny! She still gets her time. She has NEVER earned it! However the family courts are as corrupt as can be in this country of the U.S. They way ive been treated and what ive been put through, cause shes a female-ONLY, is absolute nonsense! The system is completely biased! When i tell you that is was an easy no brainer that she lose only decision making rights for him, she earned every bit of it! I’d be in jail for the crimes and court orders shes broke for 13 long years every single fall im in court for NO reason at all but shes a female and represents herself and all these judges are corrupt, and work a 9-5 and only want a paycheck. Parents like her are allowed to waste my time, the courts time, and still make reckless decisions when she has my son with her. Thankfully its only every other weekend and all Holidays as well as most of the summers! It’s complete BS what we have been through, due to corruption!

Every video I watch says that parental alienation is bad but nobody does anything about it. So, these abusers think they can get away with it, which they can.

A pain that will never vanish is what PA is causing.

Court system? Come on, this does not work! What a foolish advice was that? As a dad, you always get the short straw!

14 years alienated and I come back to videos like these to help me get through the day. The hardest part is the worry for my children and mental health

This is the sole cause of the Mental Health Crisis in the United States. Until the US starts listening to the victims, and stops dismissing Court Litigation Abuse, this mental health crisis will incline. My children are in the home of an abuser right now and the first judge (out of 6 judges) wont allow me to talk because she fell for dads lies just like i did at first. The other 5 judges didnt fall for it so my chidlren were safe from dads abuse. Now that one believes him and isnt folowing the laws, the abused child population just grew by two more. Speak up folks, its NOT NORMAL, and NOT OK to stay quiet when your babies are abused. Time to speak up

Thank you for the info

parental alienation is not established professional/scientific knowledge, this is an attachment pathology. Highly encourage looking into Dr. Craig Childress, Dr. C has blogs/videos that crystalizes this pathology. Here's a video speaking to the adolescent: kzbin.info6j2_hLnUJks

You're an inspiration sir!!🙏🏽

How can I get help if this is happening to me?

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oh I lost my children through this who were 10 and 11 yrs. old I witnessed perjury on the stand and ended up having two mini strokes the courts ? did nothing social services did nothing my boys are grown up and want nothing to do with me

I’m 44 now This shit is killing me . A father here!

One of my saving graces in court to gain full legal and physical custody was that my daughters have different dads and the alienating dad (and gf) and my older daughters dad testified because we truly parent co parent great together and his gf and I too. If it weren’t for that, I don’t know that I would have believed me either sadly. We’re still in court (11 years now!) so even though I got custody, the battle goes on. My heart goes out to all the alienated parents 😢

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Basically, the parent who alienates is a bad person. A good person wont talk nasty behind the back of other. Nor will they be nasty towards their fave. Good people have the ability to engage conversationally and do so. The bad people, you hear their lack of ability in their cursings it's really quite simple. The bad people have to put a great deal of effort into appearances to come across as normal. Put a tracker on them to listen and the moment they are out of earshot. And eyesight of the people making judgments. They will begin berating their targets whilst simultaneously harming the children in the matter.

These new centers for exchange, they need to be checking vehicles for child safety restraints as narcissistic parents enjoy putting other peoples lives at risk, even when the lives are their children