I recently did a dungeon for the first time where one of the bosses creates an AoE where it charges at a random player. I didn't know that, by standing in this AoE, you can tank the charge and stop it hitting the original target. I did mention at the start of the dungeon that it was my first time there. The boss targeted the healer twice in a row, and the only advice I got from them was them putting "TANK!" in the chat when they got hit. To which I could only respond, "Healer...?" Fortunately one of the DPS kindly informed me of the mechanic and also explained to the healer that it wasn't fair to blame me for something that was out of my control. At the start of the game, levels 1 - 50, everyone was very kind and forgiving. I think the problem with XIV starts around level 58 - 60 onwards. A lot of the veteran players at this level forget that not every player in the game has the same amount of knowledge as them, and rather than explain, they just get angry, upset, or distressed while they struggle to get the heads around why you don't know everything they know.

"Fuck it we ball" has carried me through my entire tank career, even in savage and ultimates lol

In case there are healers here, please, use regen prepulls I see lot of people not using it, sprouts or not, but is neccesary to pull correctly

Thank you

I dont have a choice. I ll just go in. Stick to the universal tank basis. If people have problems with it, it is their problem, I only can do my best, consider my teammates, if I make a mistake, I need my Teammates to catch me in every way they can, because that is what I uphold for myself. Stay cool, never be toxic. :-)

I started tanking with DRK recently and I'm a new player at only 2 months in. Still get anxiety before a session of levelling but what's helped me is knowing that I'm doing my best, I'm trying and willing to learn, and I need practice, so the reality is I need to queue in and tank. And I'm not telling people I'm new at it anymore unless I mess up badly now lol, I'm sure they can tell anyway. If anyone has a problem with it and are annoyed or rude instead of understanding what the sprout icon on my head means, then their opinion doesn't matter to me. I'm just here to do my job and have fun and learn.

Any tips on how to communicate smoothly on ps4? That's usually my main issue with tank anxiety, not being able to communicate and the party assuming I'm ignoring them on purpose 😭

Tank ego kills Tank anxiety

I get terrible tank anxiety. I love the idea of tanking and would love to do it, but the fear has held me back time again, especially as I've just recently returned to the game and have forgotten many of the mechanics. But I'll try to remember the wisdom, "Fuck it, we ball", the next time I want to tank.

thank you this is a very helpful guide

Tora

Fuck it we ball got me into doing healer too. I started as a dps but by the time I got to HW, I was a healer main, I got my healers to cap before any other class.

I havent got over healer anxiety but funnily, I've played so much GNB that it is my comfort class. If I'm scared of trying somethign in ff14, I'll go as a GNB and feel more confident. I'm rusty after a long break? GNB. Itll be fine. I'm scared about trying savage? Its fine, go GNB. Doesnt mean I dont have some of the tank anxiety you described, or the fear of people being upset. But it is MY class, its fine. I'm GNB, I know I'm good enough and can and will learn. If they're ass then its on them

Good video, I also maninly main tanks and it is absolutely real

How I would recommend anyone deal with tank anxiety. When I was a kid one time, I was scared of the deep end of a swimming pool despite being able to swim (had lessons in the shallow end). So my dad pushed me in the deep end when I wasn't looking. You know what happened? I realised I was worried about nothing because I can swim so it is ok, and I never had a problem swimming in the deep end again. He knew I could do it, and gave me the push I needed. If my dad never did that, maybe I might be still scared of the deep end now. Moral of the story: Jump in the deep end, go wall to wall pulls. Obviously don't do this if you are not gear synced, but if you are gear synced then go nuts. If you die in this game, you don't die irl. So what are you afraid of? If you never try wall to wall, you are never gonna improve. You might be pleasantly surprised that you can actually handle them, some players are better than they think they are. And if you die? Shit happens, not a big deal. Just try going a bit smaller next time until you get better, then try go bigger when you feel more comfortable. Tanking really is this simple, stop worrying so much and just pull stuff and press rampart and other mits. If things look hairy, press your invuln. Don't be one of these idiots saving invuln for the boss, you will never need invuln for the boss unless you are literally hot dogshit at the game and can't dodge yellow puddles XD

No tank should feel anxiety. As long as you keep a Mitigation up, do your rotation, and don't stand in fire, you're a good tank. If you fail at 1 of those things,the party will still clear most of the time. Tanks and healers are the reason queues pop for DPS players. Even if you screw up, wiping a couple of times is way better than sitting in queue

Get a girlfriend my friend it Just a game..

I recently got the same with Healers... or similar, should I say. Since DT I don't really like healing high-end content anymore because the fights have become really tedious playing healer (much healing/mit needed while moving/playing mechs or massive healing required in rapid succession multiple times in a row and individual players needing extra) and playing min IL Healer needs a lot of planning beforehand/coordination now. I used to play very flexible and use skills where useful (A little routine/planning came automaticly with time) but now it feels like if you don't use every big CD in a "correct" spot you will become a GCD spamming bot (still everything regarding min IL mostly) Also Players seem to have grown extraordinarily impatient now, especially against healers (Even if I am not healing), often causing them to kick healers after a single mistake or two. However, defending/excusing the Healers (if reasonable) does seem to help. I've done it all, healing every Ex and Savage so far except for M4S so far, but it has just become really annoying for me to queue as a healer to a point in which I mainly avoid playing it entirely in high content unless there's only Parties missing healers and PF's take ages to fill

I mostly play Healers, so you'd think Tank's not that much of a stretch in terms of feeling responsible for the party. But dang that Tanxiety is a thing haha. It's ridiculous really, and personally I kind of love wiping because it's great practise and I always joke that nothing bonds a party more than wiping together :P But yeah.. joking's easier on DPS than heals and on a Tank I just feel that responsibility for the party even worse somehow haha. Sooo my Tank babies are only in their 60s and I pretty much only queue familiar stuff on them. Never tried alliance raids either cuz.. how the hail do you guys decide which tank does what? Everyone just Leroy Jenkins that stuff or wut? I once accidentally queue'd for the wrong thing and found myself in a trial that I completely did NOT remember at ALL lol. So I basically just told the group I hadn't meant to queue for this and had no ffin clue what I was doing XD But in the end we survived haha I should probably hang a post it above my screen somewhere with "Fuck it we ball" XD Also, sometimes I just introduce myself as a TIT (Tank In Training :P) makes people more forgiving on occasion hahaha

bruh lemme heal that anxiety lol

Just like with everything you get better by doing it. We also have duty support so run it with npcs too.

I had the same issue after a nearly 2 year break, but I main heals... and let's be real. It's the healer who usually gets blamed for a wipe.

you know how I got over it on my first day tanking? GRAHHHHHHHH TO THE WALL! IF YOU DIE IT IS BECAUSE YOUR FLESH WAS WEAK! SERVE A BETTER PURPOSE AS WORM FOOD GRAAAAAAAH

maybe dont be a lil bitch, its just a videogame cant imagine being made nervous by a game.

i love tanking trials and raids but dungeons give me massive anxiety

It's my first time tanking in ff14 and I had severe tank anxiety that I would watch a guide multiple times and try to memorize before queueing up. Best way to deal with it is just ask your party for any special mechanics or let them know you dont know the dungeon and a lot of the times they'll guide you.

I've been playing DRK in Levelling Roulette, first time tanking in FFXIV, "Any thing I need to watch out for in this encounter?" and "What did I die to there?" foreign concepts for a DPS main appreciate the advice, makes me want to tank more 🙏

Thanks for the vid

is that video of your gameplay ? Why are you so fucking slow ?

You only fail if you don't try.

Tanking didn't give me tanxiety. The WoW playerbase gave me tanxiety. And anxiety about everything else I do in a group in FFXIV. It definitely took a lot of time to adjust to the fact that me missing one mob during an AoE pull didn't mean I was going to get vote kicked for not pulling 100% optimal.

I get an insane amount of toxic dps and healers that flat out just refuse to heal or dps. I want to love it play more and get mounts but this community is flat out garbage that has an elitism problem.

I have always tanked, and find it the most easy job in ff14. All you do is pull wall to wall, rotate your mits. Make sure on boss fights you keep a mit in the chamber for tank buster. Done.

good video, i just started tanking first time ever, i used to play healer. I came from wow (used to tank there) but wow kinda ruined tanking for me, in the duty i was ind i was nerves as hell to tank but i just keep going. I aggroed 2 groups at first to see how the team held up and after that i keep it up.. I do however also do somthing that i used to do in wow called (chain pulling). So far i'm loving it and having alot of fun in ffxiv. even then i'm nerves :( Keep up the good work buddy.

"Fuck it, we ball" is from now on my FF14 mantra. Hope my Tanxiety settles because of it.

this video helped so much with my anxiety on playing tank. i started the game about 6 months ago and as much as i wanted to try tanking in queues, i was always so scared to and defaulted to dps. this helped a lot and i’m considering leveling up my tank jobs!

While i do like FFXIV and overall i think the community is alright i also think it's one of the most passive aggressive fandoms i've been in. I personally can't stand that shit, i loathe and despise indirect people.

Thankyou for this

WHERE YOU GO?! I MISS YOU SO. IT FEELS LIKE ITS BEEN FOREVER, SINCE YOUVEEEE BEEEEEN GONEEEEEEEEE

Yeah, I looked you up. You're ass. Don't make videos about how to tank and whatever when my dog can outplay you. Sick 0s on p6s btw 😂

I hate the thunderbolt 5000! Thanks for this. New tank player here

I just wanted to say thank you for posting this video! I find myself often just getting Dungeon/Trial anxiety while playing FFXIV. This is regardless of my role in the group. I’m mostly a ranged DPS player and even then I find myself getting overly nervous playing something for the first time to the point where I’m reading guides on stuff before so even try something out to have any idea of what is going on. Mostly making myself more confused in the process. The fear of letting others down and wasting time has capped me at certain times in the game and honestly I’ve missed out on a lot of unlockable content because of it. However I’ve been trying to get around those insecure thoughts lately and just get in there to do the thing! I mean guide reading is great but I can’t learn if I don’t actually do the thing to begin with. I’m determined to not let death stop me and this video helped me contextualize some of those emotions better. I mean we should watch out for mechanics and do the best we can, I think that’s really the only thing that others can ask of us. I’ve had nothing but great experiences with the FF community so far so this has helped me get through the A-Raids up until Shadowbringers! #FIWB!

Thank you for this, I was holding myself to an impossible standard again. Thank you

I’m almost blind and really struggle to navigate dungeons at pace. What advice do you have to get pst this mental and physically cal block as I really want to tank?

Tank anxiety is stage fright, it's performance anxiety plain and simple. A DPS or Healer has to *really* screw up before their mistakes become obvious, but if a tank takes a wrong turn in Sastasha because they haven't seen that dungeon in over a year then everyone's gonna see it. You just have to try to remember that nobody is judging you as much as you think they are, as difficult as that might be. Like the video said, just be honest that you don't know what you're doing and remember that failure costs you nothing but a little time.

I accidentally queued into Mt. Gulg without my Warrior stone equipped, and- no one flamed me! After the first boss I even pulled like normal and it was okay (bless that party lol) I still feel insanely dumb for it happening but I think the big takeaway is that, when you tank in 14, You Will Be Fine, even if you make some big dumb mistakes

now...healer anxiety is my new problem

"Guide to beong an good tank" - A healer main: 1. Use your mitigations! 2. Face the enemies away from the rest of the party. 3. Use your mitigations! 4. Check with your healer on how hard you should pull. 5. Use your mitigations! That's it! As long as you do at least 3 of these things I'm happy. (That last one is important. I cannot stress how annoying it is trying to keep a tank alive who wants to pull the entire dungeon at once, but won't use a single mitigation ability the entire time.)

I get Tankxiety because I've SEEN a lot of people be shitty while I or someone else is tanking. I'm not going to sprint all the way through the dungeon, but apparently some DPS have it in their head that if the tank isn't going fast enough they need to pull for the tank, and that is NOT something I appreciate at all. And the times I have called someone out for doing it when I am the tank has left me with a bad taste in my mouth, because every time it's something along the lines of "get good scrub" or "deal with it, we're going fast"

Started the game 1 month ago. Played trough realm rebon and now im sitting here with my lvl 60 Warrior afraid of playing trough dungeons cuz all the orher dungeons i played with npcs. Its my first mmo i played so far i didnt know you can get anxiety from a fucking video game😂