Yes! You have developed the magic trick further. Spot on! I congratulate you!

And sometimes count to 30…or do as I do, go take a walk (no driving!) and by removing yourself from the situation, you give yourself the calm to thing over what just happened

Wonderful analysis sir

Cool. See you in ten years when this video'll blow up

So is it essentially just stopping the situation for a moment to think if the “correct” response to it? Doesn’t really sound like “thinking on your feet” to me

That might be true, but then on the other hand, I've sat in so many meetings that were absolutely useless. The days I've sunken into worthless discussions that could have been fixed by a simple message or email or loom video, it's just time I'm never getting back lol. I guess having a split of in person and online would be ideal.

Not quite right. There is nothing wrong in feeling pity for themselves when the situation is horrible. It is the right of the victim to feel sorry for themselves. That is why they are the victims. There is no really difference between sympathy or empathy. It is more or less the same. The right thing to do is to express empathy/sympathy, give help and encouragement. And I would say, the other side is obliged to give help and learn to feel with the person. Otherwise, go away.

Narration and animation really goes well and amusing to watch ❤

The dogs deceased isn't available anymore...

So women aren't empathetic cause they never make people feel better.

I'd differentiate it like this: - Cognitive empathy: ablility to recognize someones emotions and the ability to understand why someone is feeling a certain way - affective empathy: ability to feel someones emotion WITH them - sympathetic empathy: a mix of both cognitive and affective. You recognize the emotion and feel the need to help them out of negative emotions. You offer support because you understand and feel their emotions. I myself lack everything but cognitive empathy. I understand emotions and their causes, but never have felt someone elses emotions or have had the urge to actually console someone who is having a difficult time. I still try to help those people i like alot because i dont want to be seen as a bad person, but in truth i dont actually do it because i feel like it

So true! Thanks for the thought.

Powerful message as always, Dr Paul. Always good to remember that however important we may feel in our professioanl life, we are replaceable in work, but not within our family.

Why are some definitions like this and other ones other way round? What is going on? Why can't humanity just agree on what words mean? 😮

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And here I thought that: Empathy was ACTUALLY FEELING what another was feeling, both good or bad feelings. Often times, with the latter, it leads one wanting to lessen the bad feelings in another in some way (because you are hurting along with them). While sympathy is about UNDERSTANDING their feelings or situation, and why another may be hurting. IF there is any motivation to help the hurt person out, it's more likely from an intellectual or compassionate point of view. Silly me!

woah wait so therye not the same word?

empathy is the downfall of global society. it is impossible to help everyone

So how does the dog cross it?

When i was young my dad minimized. Just about any problem i may of been going through you know some one else always has it worse I think maybe that's were i first began to be empathetic to feel others pain because of what he said last 5years i guit listening to thst tape in head minimizing my emotions im just as important an good as any one else ill tell you one thing most of tgese tarto readersdont have a inch of empathy or sympathy. The things

I listened to this two times i really don't remember the last time ive ever been shown either always the strongest one for everyone else except when patronized an pet me like a fucken dog asking if ok. To know better to say im ok ot fine cause if not they Walk away sh and don't give a shit no victim truth. Only

Thanks

Bro thinks the world is all happiness rainbows

sympathy = you acknowledge the pain and you might offer help empathy = you feel the pain and you're likely to offer help apathy = didn't ask + don't care sociopath = you acknowledge the pain and you're happy that they're suffering

Thanks

Found this very enlightening, thank you!! 😊

I’m confused, lol. Are you saying ignore the thing that’s bugging you or tackle it because your mind has prioritized it for you by making it bug you until you deal with it?

How do you keep them happy? Pay attention to their work needs, their personal life needs, or both? Other?

What you really need is to empower victims and do t stand in the way of their justice

Empathy leads to correct action regarding others ... whereas sympathy often does NO such thing.

Disgusting neoliberal victim blaming. For anyone interested in how the exclusionary function of empathy as a filter of human social understanding is damaging the ways we research and relate to those who are neurodiverse, I strongly recommend reading the philosopher Erin Manning's essay titled Not at a Distance, on Touch, Synaesthesia, and other ways of knowing

Good, great.

these animation videos are wayyy underrated

Love the video, can’t wait for more I’ll definitely be more self aware in my conversations 👍🏽

Thank you for the video. I really appreciate the effort ❤

I understand empathy as being able to imagine oneself in another person's shoes, sympathy is looking at another person in those shoes and thinking "oh that must be terrible, poor you." I think a good example is probably gender. I think people, generally, empathize best with their own gender, but less so with the opposite gender. It's a problem in gender politics (when discussing issues like feminism or men's rights), heterosexual dating, etc. I can honestly admit, as a woman, I have a hard time empathising with men on many issues, whereas other men can. Men often can't empathise with women, I'd argue they're even less able to do it than vice versa.

Basically entire course of psychologists and how therapists work in a nutshell.

Agreed

I agree. Thank you for the help.

Fantastic explanation😊

Great video. Succinct and spot on.

Looking forward to what you share this year. Hoping to see a return of Sticky & Chip 👍

what’s wrong with acknowledging that you’re a victim. every self improvement video I’ve watched condemns this “ victim mindset”. I genuinely think it’s healthy to admit you have been a victim of something & then move through healing instead of trying to run from the word or feeling.

This is really quite simple... Empathy= feeling someones feelings, whether you have experienced yourself is irrelevant, whether you do something to help is irrelevant. The point is simply that you have the ability to FEEL someone else's feeling (positive and negative feelings) Sympathy= feeling sorrow because someone is hurting, or in a difficult/painful situation. Regardless whether you help them or not or have been in a similar situation or not, you feel your own sadness for their pain. E.g I feel in my heart a pain (empathy) for my neighbour who has been evicted and is struggling to find a home, but i don't feel sorry (sympathy) for her as she probably shouldn't have broken all the windows and spray painted on the walls.

Similar approach to non-violent communication - empathic guessing to get to the real feeling, then to the underlying need (which is either unmet or met, depending on whether the feeling is negative or positive, respectively).

I'm spellbound by this. I read a book with similar content, and I was absolutely spellbound. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

Both are physically impossible.

Empathy is how you make someone feel better in the moment sympathy is how you fix a problem always choose sympathy

Forgot the third response option that's very common in the individualistic West: don'tgiveafuckery. 😎

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