Thank you for this video. Unfortunately listening to music or taking a walk long term wont take the pain away its a distraction

What if there is no coping mechanism and that person isn’t sure how to deal with the thoughts or what they are feeling due to external factors? The main difference is someone who does it to manipulate vs someone who actually has those feelings occurring. There is a difference between manipulating and being responsible for your own experience even if it’s someone else’s fault. It does not help someone by dismissing or avoiding or ignoring them. In fact it may make it worse.

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That’s funny because all of the top three have happened with me lol. My parents did the first two for me and I did the third one. 😅

This is a very good explanation of depression imo. I’ve learnt to live with it and to try to deal with the depressive crashes, when they come. I have some lowish days or not so bad days, then I’ll have some great days, my depression is constantly moving, I have to ensure I manage it the best way I can.😢

Therapy is useless when you have genuine irrational anxiety and melancholic depression. In fact therapy actually made me significantly more depressed because it made me feel like a weak human.

I'd ask for a citation but pseudoscience usually has none

Jesus we live in a soft as Charmin world. Everything is everyone else's fault.

The hair girl! Unrelated but purple is YOUR colour!

Is there a reason you’re actively drinking in this clip and almost spilling down your front when you literally set up your camera to make this video? I won’t be taking any advice from an attention hungry purple haired leftist. Sorry

I love this and it's huge. Too many parents think that creating a relationship with their teen means making their teen responsible for feeling validated as a parent.

It's not the child's responsibility to self-regulate in order too accomodate, the short-comings of their dysregulated elders.

Considering your hair color........what triggered you?

It's your own fault that your teen triggers you, your mom does not dictate your emotions now. People need to take accountability for their own actions and their own emotions and stop blaming everyone else.

Can't take advice from a purple hair. 😅

Yes queen worker moves okay ask you

your hair is gorgeous <3 thanks for the advice

Very informative. I like how it’s focused on understanding and not judging ❤

Mind over matter that shit

When I get caught up in my thoughts, I don't realize it at that moment and after a few minutes I realize that I was caught up in thoughts. It is very difficult to think and observe it at the same time

Also known as "edging your high" [according to a friend]

Mine is 😢

This is great. My favorite urge surfing trick is to imagine a walk that I've done a ton of times. With each imaginary step I think about what I should be seeing, hearing and smelling. Usually, I don't get too far into my walks anymore before I notice that the urge is going down, but I like that this visualization can be used anywhere and without a phone, fidget toy, or another person. If the place that I'm at is noisy I will pick a walk through a mall and if it is quiet I pick a nature walk or a walk through the library.

This was GOOD

The fact your abusing a system made to help actual people who can’t function without a TRAINED service animal is disgusting

Here in 2023, thank you for making this.

Too fast

If it's correctly describing the attention seeking behavior and gets them attention, what's the problem calling it "attention-seeking"?

Im gonna have to dilate after this one.

If mental illness was a person

Hell yes

Each day we stray further from sanity.... No one said anything about worth.

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I can't stop

So true.

Hopefully, your children will have learned to use pronouns correctly by the time they are two years old.

"LIKE" that word was used too much.

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Totally cheering accepting mistakes and awkwardness. I would however note that social anxiety is part of Complex Trauma, and the only problem are toxic people and mobbing, Our emotions are not problem. Self pathologizing approach (that CBT is unfortunately teaching) leads to more social anxiety, neurosis and mental imbalance.

Yes. The next obvious step is to learn how to deal with critical and obnoxious people. Social anxiety is fear of criticism and negative evaluation - therefore it is natural for us to learn how to deal with narcissistic abuse in functional, proper, healthy manner, without explosions, without drama, without withdrawal and without isolation. For example - to document the abuse and then make plans to cut contact, change job and leave the abuser. Long term exposure to narcissistic abuse can cause brain injury - google it. Socially anxious people are kind and nice, they value social life a lot - hence so much anxiety about social situations. When we are open to society - we will attract toxic and unhealthy people in our lives, predators and narcissists who will create Karpman Drama Triangle - so healing social anxiety means accepting social anxiety as guidance, as inner GPS - to learn how to handle toxic people and opt out of Karpman Drama Triangle situations which are common in social life when there are sick, abusive and criminally insane predators.

thank you your videos are really helpful. my daughter was at your practice a couple years ago and it was so good for her

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I notice all the dbt groups are extremely expensive and only cater to upper classes how should poor / lower class people seek DBT programs and or treatment

Thank you for sharing!

This was awesome! It is so important to really find out, understand and dive within ourselves to truly know who we are, how we relate to the world and what areas really bring our best self to life. Once we determine that, we can participate in activities that will illuminate our true essence and help bring us together with others that share our same passions, beliefs, feelings, hopes and dreams!

Utilizing mindfulness is a great way to learn to ground ourselves.

I love this! Thank you for being here in the world to help those in need. This planet needs all of the compassion, guidance, support and positivity that you have to offer!

This is truly the environment that I've always wanted to work in. My heart is SO happy to know that these kind of collaborative dynamics are in the world. I am an expressive art therapist and I'd love to collaborate!

I also felt your relating People Pleasing behavior to early survival needs. To me the inclination to want / need others is kind of hard wired and it could be fueled by the same needy energy. What’s true through, I believe, is it’s biologically appropriate to want others to like / accept you. Belonging, right! Maslow’s hierarchy of Needs. I love the work you are doing!