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Muslim women who are against her future husband getting married to more wives should exit the marriage queue. Women who don''t have issues with sharing their husbands should be married first. then the women who have an issue with it could decide on living single or coming into marriage as a co-wife. Remember this... All men will desire other women. Either as an affair (haraam) or as a wife (Halaal) or it will be kept to himself as a desire until death. So there is no need to make a man state in the marriage contract that he promises to never take another wife while you are married to him. You just need to stay clear out of the way of real MEN who want to marry. (You can marry the boys instead and leave the MEN who love and fear Allah the most to women who love and fear Allah the most). So instead of thinking that you are not good enough for your husband and what people will think about you rather think of it that you have married a true and mighty MAN who fears his creator. A MAN willing to take on the responsibilities of another household. A MAN who has honored you and not disgraced you by either secret marriages or affairs. A MAN who loves you and is wiling to continue to look after you. If it is jealousy you are struggling with then improve on your imaan. You have been indoctrinated with haraam Disney fairytales. A message to the men who wish to marry. Never ever agree to your future wife putting in her nikkah that she has the right to divorce you if you take another wife. Should you be head over heals and still want to marry her then list your own agreements in the marriage contract. lets see how this sits with our Disney princesses. Eg. You agree to never ever refuse my intimacy needs even through menopause and past it. No excuses of headache and needing to cook or have to go to work or being tired or... or... or.... You agree to never argue on my final decision regarding our family. Etc....

Sister, we are taught that a Hala has scrects and lies to kzbin.info/www/bejne/n5jWq3aAmdiIqdEsi=ndCRh1woewnbN6bN

If you don’t want your hubby to have 2nd wife be clear about it from the beginning ladies. Plz

First wife should obey the wishes of the husband that Allah had made halal. Second wife should also obey the wishes of the husband that Allah had made halal. It is the responsibility of the husband the treat all the wives fairly and equaly. Allah commands all the wives to obey the husband. These wives will not smell Jannah until they accept Allah's will.

A lot of people cant take care of one wife. Beter tell to those who have two or more wifes and take social securety that is haram money taking by laying to government that they are not married.... In uk and europe a lot of people take social security and said that thfy are not married.... In country of kufr its difficult have to wife.....

Muhammad was a man who practiced adultery, rape and child molestation many times. This is well documented by Muslim scholars. False religion always degrades women. CHRIST always showed them kindness, respect and compassion, even to the woman that the Pharisees claimed to have caught in the very act of adultery. Yet true to form, they refused to bring the man, probably a man we'll respected in their corrupt religion. Impossible to have caught the woman in the very act, yet not know who the man was.

Polygamy is an arabic cultural element of the 7th century. It has nothing to do with being a good muslim. Whether something is halal or haram does not depend on whether it's technically possible or not. If something makes people unhappy and is toxic and rather harmful than helpful, it will turn something into a haram. It was helpful in its own time. I don't see anything positive for ourselves today, it has turned into a privilege for lustful men

Asalamu Alaikum sister Nazma

Be careful.. this kind of marriage comes from Syiah

If more wives stops a man sinning what's the problem? That's why Allah allowed it. Muhammed peace be upon him had more then 2 wives. Also to add he had not much wealth.

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Schade um die schönen Frauen

I want polygamy too, give me 5 husbands

My friends husband refuses to pay any bills in the house, contributes a little towards the food but thats all. Refuses to spend money on his children. He works and lies about how much he earns. She works from home and has a decent wage. He spends all his money on his relatives. He broke into her locked case to find out what money he has in her bank accounts. She bought the house before the marriage. He had told her he wants half her money. He is verbally abusive. Her mother doesn’t want any of her children, who are in unhappy marriages to divorce. My friend loves and respects her mother. My friend is deeply religious. Please comment Nazma as I dont know what else I can say to her. Thank you

Lust of the flesh and of the eyes?

I can be honest about it. I dislike my wife, and I lost attraction to her for various reasons. Im still kind to her, because Allah commands it. Allah hates divorce, and I have considered it numerous times. Have women made themselves available for haram(yes)...I reject. It is not easy.

Stay away from islam. Every thing about islam is bad

This message is to be about peace and pleasure. Firstly, this depends from country to country. In a developed country, women don’t need financial support from their husbands. The government provides for them. Secondly, in a place like Gaza, I agree that women do need a man for support and many other things from those settlers. In developed countries, women do financially and equally help and fulfil their husbands duties as well. Now. If she didn’t, that’s fine; a man can go and marry another woman as long as he doesn’t compromise with his first wife's current provisions and needs. Most women in developed countries are working and helping their husbands; this doesn’t give him the license to go and marry another woman because his duties are being fulfilled by his first wife. If she hadn’t, then he would not be where he is today. So in this case, he must ask his first wife if he can, because without her contribution, we would not achieve this height and position. In Islam, it says that if the provider provides fully, does his bit 100%, and also takes up another wife without compromising his first wife's rights, that’s fine. Go ahead; I would agree to that. If not, that’s not fair on the woman who has been financially, emotionally, and in every way possible supportive of him to get where he is today.

Hoooh, Okay Ill take 3 wives openly dont worry 😁

With all the love and no hate - just want better for you guys. Coming from a different religious background - I think large part of it is unfortunately I have to mention is because of Islam. Not saying that other people from different religious background do not do it, but largely muslims mens when they do it- they do it and they have no fear, ethics, or that morality inside them. They are “hollow” like a kids, walking with ignorance and a veil in their eyes when something that does not benefit them confronts them. When people from many other religious background do it- most sees it as wrong. Why did I say Muslim men do it ? Numbers of women and numbers of cases I have seen it is people either from Middle East, Pakistan, Afghanistan and mainly from Islamic background who walks with this ideology in their pockets. Until this practice is not abandoned and completely get rid of, they will always come back with these ways. I converted to Islam years ago seeing all the good Muslim’s and knowing Islam form their mouth only and their general living ideology. I read Quran and Hadith’s that I started questioning everything- infancy I got into depression and became someone I was not in a very bad way. When I asked Muslim’s around me if the verses I could not digest- all they said was “bother, you can’t read in your room alone with your alone understanding”. Basically, they were saying I needed them to interpret the disgusting things because I got it how it supposed to be ? Did allah give each one a teacher to go over this whole thing ? Was the book not suppose to be the easiest ? Coming back to topic- whether you like it or not, whether you accept it or not today- your kids, and their kids and their kids; coming generations will abandon these silly ideologies and lead a better life. Women will have more freedom to themself and more Independency in every realm. I just wish these things were understood faster on educated people so we could see less women now suffering. All those who are coming to comment on this to say Iam wrong ! Put your religious ego aside and think - for yourself, for future generations, for your children’s. Do you really wanna a create an atmosphere where your children could be next victim ? Rest - Islam allows polygamy, secret marriages, sex slavery even today whether you accept that or not. Anything else than that is your make up to fit the society. You don’t need wives permission to marry another - it’s a “white lie” you can make to keep safeguard the marriage because both marriages are going to b at stake otherwise.

Being a muslin woman it’s a terrible deal

Why would any woman want to play second fiddle (or third or fourth), the reason she is doing it is because she has several/severe drawbacks that she can't get a man for sole herself? A woman can join as one of multiple partners only when they are living in jungles as tribes, or they are very very poor or if there is depression in economy or war.

I think there are 2 aspects in this matter. Firstly men must not do plural marriages on the sly even though they are not bound by Shariat to do so. They should not be cowards. Discuss with your first wife even if she makes it an issue. Give her the confidence that she will be well looked after. This attitude will mitigate a lot of the pain and feeling of inadequacy and also be able to confront other women if subject to taunts and ridicule. The most devastating feeling would be if the news is divulged to her by a third party. The husband must have tons of patience while navigating the issues he will be faced with. Most men have an immense love for the first wife even when embraking on a second marriage. Secondly women must understand that a man can intensely love more than one women and co exist with them. This is a capacity only inherent in men and not women. Women only will give their heart to one man and will never betray them unless the husband fails in fulfilling his marital rights. Even then a true Muslim women would bear things with patience turning to Allah Azza wa Jal for solace and comfort. Next she must also take into consideration that the next wife will also be given an opportunity to live under the comfort and protection of a marriage and try to reconcile with her co wife. A proper Islamic attitude in this regard could give joy and comfort to all three of them. The first wife must also appreciate that the husbands libido could have driven him to an illicit relationship but as he was having somr extent of taqwa he went in for a second wife instead of keeping a mistress

sister there is no reason from the ulema that man needs to get amrried and also there is no obligation to tell ell the wife in advance. after you hve done it yes tell her. Go back to the qiran and sunnah you will see.

Women should think more about their own safety and security, as well as safety of their future children before agreeing on something like this... think of how will you protect your rights legally, in case of any unfortunate circumstances happen, if you agree to do it in a secret.....

These kind of secret marriages are only for lust of men not for a sacred cause of having family

But why?

Polygamy itself is the REDDEST flag in any healthy relationship. This woman tries her best to make it look normal though

You sound like such a nice, intelligent woman. Why are you still in this abusive horrific cult of a religion. It’s demonic. May God help you to leave it.

Either you are Muslim or not 1) If not Muslim, then it is understandable ( however LGBT , sex with consent without marriage/zina/ adultery/ having one wife and secretly doing sex with escorts or having girlfriends) is Acceptable 2) If you are Muslim, then no need to argue of marriages till 4, Argue about equality only or try to be equal, although it is impractical, so you can try only Or Just keep one marriage but don’t commit zina after marriage, be strictly monogamous which is again challenging ,

This was a great video Sister Nazma Khatun

I don't get this content. In Islam, dating and having a GTF is Haram. So, they just get married to make sex with multiple partners legit in the eyes of their religion. Let's stop making it a big deal.

Clearly by marrying as a "second wife" to a first wife who is depressed or has mental health issues, you would be adding to her distress greatly and compounding the problems of the marriage....you would not be helping the first wife or resolving anything! However the biggest and first Red Flag should be that in Genesis 2:24-25, God said that marriage is *one man to one woman who become one flesh* .... Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man ( *singular* ) shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife ( *singular* ), and they shall become one flesh. ( *singular* )" 2:25 "And the man ( *singular* ) and his wife ( *singular* ) were both naked and were not ashamed." ....And this is why in God's eyes he designed marriage as one man to one woman to become one flesh. This is why for a second woman to "marry" to a man and his wife, is not marriage but Adultery, because by becoming a second woman having relations with the man, she will be Adulterating the *one flesh* created by the man and his wife. Hence Jesus taught that marriage is one man to one woman also in Matthew 19.

He will get a second wife to use her So dear women don’t become second wives Just leave your life You don’t need someone next to you to tell you what to do

We men will often stay in marriages with women we have no real love or connection with for the sake of our children. We sacrifice our own happiness and well being for the sake of our children and it is noble to do so BUT it comes at a cost and we will naturally seek someone else if we are not happy in our marriage.

My husband is chatting with another woman I can stop the conversation by calling woman but how I can get attention from my husband while he chatting with another woman. I want to love him and trust but I have issues in it

I need to talk personally please I need a chat with you I do not want to be one who is loved less. I have some ongoing problems with my husband I am depressed he is speaking to another woman.....I am the first wife. Yea I am depressed struggling strooooooooong

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Pologmy is not for war,,,,its for wish and need,,,,just read,,Quran 4:3 verse,,,marry woman u like in 2 3 4 if u can't justice,,there is no war discussion,

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I take my hate off to women who stay in these marriages. I dont see the benefits for a woman. You get a break from your husband? Extra hands to cook food, i feel like its not right. If it was good why do so many women struggle with this? Its not right i feel. The man only love him self. Im a Christians and tje bible speak about polegamy but also feels that its not right because it brings problems. Why would God want us to suffer?

I just dont feel the women's get any benefits to share a man. Its looks like its one-sided when men take on another wife. The woman is committed 100% the husband 50% to each woman. Thats not fair. The women have special days. To be with the man. Thats not fair.I think the man has some healing to do if his first wife is not enough for him. Seems like they fall out of love and wants a new wife. What if women did that to men?

Why be with a husband that keeps secrets from you and betrays your love and trust..? Having a secret second wife or visiting a prostitute , what is the difference..?

Nikha is not recognised legal marriage by the way .... Its ashamed I qas a victim for that at some point. I was puzzled why my muslim husband would just settle and be happy with Nikha not a registered legal marriage .I startarted digging, studying and diving deep in Islam to search for understanding and to my surprise Islam shocked me especially when it cones to women's rights and men's power over women

Stay single or don't merry a married man I wish I, am single 😂

No don’t get counselling first, first divorce him (your husband) first if he wants to or if he actually gets a second wife. We live in England second wives are illegal