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Amen!

❤ love this video!

Thank you Sharon! This is some of the best advice I’ve ever heard on love! Had a rough week with my boyfriend and just feel like giving up on love, but you made me see it differently. ❤

Thank you for this video. I am not the unfaithful spouse but this gives a lot of clarity 😊

this statistics make me sad. I've never been married nor do i have any kids. I'm in my early 50s and I still desire to have a solid and healthy marriage. These statistics tell me I should give up hope on ever getting married. I feel I missed out on something i desired very much.

The woman I like has been married at least once and divorced. I think her heart is into it but she also likes to do her own thing too. Maybe she hasn't found a man who can love her deeply when she wants it and then give her space when she wants it. I would marry her i a second and I can provide the deep love that she needs at times and give her space. I think if she finds someone who is willing to do that her heart might open a little more.

Dating a twice divorced woman. She doesn't seem to take any accountability for failed marriages. It's insane.

Me and my ex dated for 6 years, from jan he started distancing himself from me. Than on 11 feb he started talking with someone else and on 17 feb he broke up with me because I picked the fight for some reason till 1month I was convincing him to get back he also used to give me mixed mesaages like he miss me and after 15 to 20 days he slept with someone else. According to him that other girl tricked him to sleep with her because she is madly in love with him and she is ready to leave every thing for him even she is ready ready to keep the baby if she gets pregnant. I don't know what is going on. Can we call it a affair too

Truth bombs.

What about when they change after years. Cos I asked to separate and then ended up had an affair. But now I can’t seem to feel like I can start again with him. I’m in love with my AF. How do I get over this.

Do men also get affected differently? My affair partner doesn’t seem to miss me as much as me. My hb just told me to stop singing with my affair partner who I got close to. But when I asked how my affair was feeling he said he was fine.

Surely it is the person not the feeling of drugs ? My affair partner is different in every way to my husband. 😢

Thank you for this video. My husband says he no longer has the desire to be fully intimate. That it is just not there. I know this is an embarrassing topic for him, and I want to acknowledge that, but to me, that doesn't mean we shouldn't talk about it. I asked him if he would talk to his doctor about it, and he said he would, if he remembered. I wanted to be hopeful, but knew he wouldn't 'remember'. And he didn't. I don't have the guts to straight out tell him this I something I need. What if he isn't willing to try to fix it? Is this an ultimatum?

My wife lives behind her safety walls and refuses to allow herself to fully commit to our relationship. Sexless marriage for 15 years, hasn't kissed our touched me in 8 - she expects fidelity, monogamy and me to accept forced celibacy and be happy like this. She simply refuses to discuss with medical professionals about the deadness. recently told me she "never liked sex - never in her life" - which lead to me wanting an explanation because if she knew this prior to our relationship ("never" being the key word used) - and she wonders why I am confused and feel that I have been deceived into marriage and adopting 4 children with someone who KNEW she was going to withdraw and take away physical affection and sex. It's always the unattainable - undefined condition that will make the distance go away, crazy making. every time I ask for affection and sex, she accuses me of being needy, or being a narcissist. Puts me on the defensive and removes the responsibility of her addressing that particular elephant in the room.

Yep - sexless marriage for 15 years, not so much as a kiss for 8 years in June - anytime I communicate my needs for touch, intimacy and sex in our marriage - I am being needy and accused of being a Cluster B personality disorder and a Narcissist. I am too needy and overwhelming. 8 years, and I am needy because I need touch in relationship. Pulls the DARVO and she just won't address her problem.

Sexless marriage for 15 years (even before Perimenopause), nothing, not even a kiss for almost 8. She simply has zero desire and refuses to seek help (medical or psychological). Ignores what our marriage therapist talks about, and is happy within her walls. Lazy, checked out - but says she loves me and isn't going anywhere - but won't engage in anything resembling physical affection to try responsive desire. She simply states she is happy to never be intimate or have sex again in her life - in fact she says "I never liked sex" - which is the complete opposite of what I experienced with her before marriage and the first 4 years of marriage. NO assault, violence or coercion - she is just gone....

I do not understand why when a marriage fails people have the need to find someone else. It only creates more problems. I raised 2 sons on my own and have had a perfectly happy fulfilling life.

Marriage has little to no value to men unless they want kids.

Thank You Sharon you are the best learned alot from you

I'll say that it's the same thing that broke the 1st marriage (had one). I'll go further to say that it's not something within you that broke it. it is marriage itself that is the cause of a broken one. divorce is one of the worst things you can experience in your life. getting married pretty much guarantees divorce no matter what you do. let me state the obvious- do not allow yourself to get married and you'll never suffer divorce. 2nd, 3rd+ marriages are essentially expecting to get out of a hole by digging faster.

Glad to see it is somewhat common i keep working because i dont want to b at home

2 problems I see, wrong partner choice (worth looking into the cause), and poor behaviour on my part (equally important to repect upon). I'm one marriage down, looking at another relationship 4 years on. Scared shitless, but have an open partner who is going through the same thing. Hard work, requires trust and safety. Good luck guys...

What if you’re married to an alcoholic and they refuse to admit that they ave a problem.

Pay attention men. These women are the reason you should not get married. Never satisfied, always complaining.

Wife is working always late, always out, always out on some theatre... I think its better to just check out. I do not even care if there is a divorce or not.

Hi, I watching you for the first time. I am in a similar situation. I have found in my 30 yrs that you have to decide if you are willing to settle or to leave the situation & find your own happiness

I worked too much and distanced due to the chaos of the household. Wife disconnected and cut off all physical touch / intimacy, resulting in frustration and anger at being replaced by the dogs, kids and cell phone. Working hard to reconcile, but no kissing, physical touch or sex for years and years has taken its toll - not a very good chance of recovery at this point

Why did I pay for the ebook when the exact same information is being presented here?

Nailed it .26 years . I filed for a divorce 5 weeks ago. He didn’t try . Anything . That’s exactly what happened, we had a disconnect and couldn’t reconnect?? I don’t know if that’s the best way to explain it, but for me it is. EVERYTHING you’re saying is exactly what I’m feeling.

So if both were single divorced from her/his spouse and met him would it feel the same connection to him?

I’ve read so many relationship books, explored 4 religions, been on a continuous quest…but I still feel flat with him. It’s like I’m doing all these things and he’s just happy to coast along behind me.

And 80 percent of all divorces are started by women. 95 percent of second marriage divorces are started by women.

BASICALLY... YOU WERE ACTUALLY THE PROBLEM. THE WHOLE TIME... WITH EACH AND EVERY MAN. YOU WHORE WITH... KEEP GOING.

What about 4th marriage???

Experienced divorce attorney here. I approve of this video.

I just started talking to a man. He’s been married and divorced 4 TIMES and all I heard was blaming his last wife, no accountability at all. Red flag 🚩

Women who want more? Oh yeah- you all want more - it’s called monkey branching. Most women haven’t mentally developed pass the age of 14. Disney and feminism gave you all a Huge disadvantage from the jump. Why men with resources don’t want to marry.

Didn’t know what to ask for and didn’t want to HAVE to ask for it. Wanted it to be organic. Amen.

Change can be good or bad the question is what would you want to see him change and what are you offering for him to change, cheat code is treat him with recpect and honour his present and you can ask him to change almost anything once it increases his status in your eyes, bringing even more respect and honour

Marriage primarily as to be base on obligation by both parties, there are things that they depend on eachother for, for a marriage to work, the love will come as we carry out our obligation, obligation are the foundations on which a marriage stands on, as such financial support, emotionally support, domestic duties allocated to one or the other, attitude toward eachother, and priority as to what is most important to the relationship rather than individuality, let's have a conversation so we can understand better what want in a marriage. It would be better if marriage was a written contact stating what is expected of eachother, it can't be base on a feeling's as feelings are unbigeous

I don't think it's a bad idea depends on who you're talking to, I'm 56 my wife and I are having issues and I talked to my 85 year old mother, her wisdom help pull me through, I talked my brother who went through a divorce he had good sound advice for me. On the other hand my wife will not talk to anyone, family members nor professionals, personally I don't think that's a good idea to keep everything bottled up and deal with internally totally by yourself, it all depends on who you're talking to the reason you're talking to them and make sure that it is fall in confidence, I hope my children come to me if they ever have issues in their marriage.

Love your channel Sharon Pope!😊….except it’s as though I’m talking to a brick wall with Husband.

When this happens there’s no changing it it’s over

I love I had the advice and essentially teachings from childhood onwards really. I wish I was brought up with it … unfortunately by now I am 40 with second struggling marriage… I have never been wealthy or my partners so get professional help is difficult ( essentially I would love to use your services but do not have financial background for it, never had) … self help is difficult as my brain gets too easily overwhelmed and confused, counselling has never lead to moving forward progress ( that is the only option I barely could effort and I have to be the one to organise and pay for it) … what are my other options if not other people?

It’s Tuesday and I just realized I may be doing this to my wife. I had no idea. I don’t want to be like this

Im still not married yet ❤

Wonderful content.. thank you 😊

Can cheating also be a cause of childhood trauma / avoidant personality? How do you form a healthy relationship with someone who has anger issues/ resentment / entitlement and difficulty being vulnerable?