Great tip! I'm trying this for two days my 3.5mo baby still cat naps 2,3 wakeup at night but transfer has become much much better. Hoping to get better on length of naps too. How long or how do we move forward towards independent sleep from here? Any suggestions?

This has been a game changer the two times i've used it so far. We were doing pick up and I was baby wearing but at the end of the routine he was not showing any signs of tiredness. I've slowed down the pick up process and do the tour (forgot to even add the yawns, just did a slow, soft melodic voice and exploring the house) both times he was resting his head on me and signing to nurse by the time we reached the room, which is the only way he truly goes to sleep (our next chapter's challenge is night weaning).

Almost 10 months old, getting harder to get him to sleep. He's always been rocked to sleep and transition to cot has been easy. Last couple of weeks its taking longer to get him to sleep and he wakes uo the second i go to transfer him. This can take several attempts to get him into cot so 1 wake up at night can take over an hour to get him back to bed properly

This was very educational thank you!

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Hi Rebecca - Thanks for detailed video and guidance! My son is 22 months and has been used to being rocked to sleep. (earlier it was nursing to sleep, then bottle to sleep which we weaned off some time back) How much time he needs to be rocked isn't consistent even though his bedtime and bedtime routine is pretty much the same everyday. Rocking time can vary from 15 mins - 45 mins and I'm super exhausted :( He gets up 2-3 times at night and asks to be rocked back to sleep. I want to follow your advice above but because of the inconsistency in the rocking time I'm a bit confused. Can you please help?

When should I start this practice ? My baby is two months old and needs to be rocked all the time , she doesn’t lay alone during the day either

Hi, I’m a new mom and I’ve been struggling to transition my LO out from her swaddle. Tried one arm out and the first arm out went great but struggled with the second one as she kept smacking herself and waking herself up. I’ve just purchased the arms up swaddle by watching your video. Hopefully it works ✌️ but I have to tell you, I’ve been watching countless videos on KZbin and no one talks about how tough the transition is, shows you the process or gives you options. It all ends in a 30 second reel. I’m so glad I came across your video.

I raised 3 kids solely by myself. Zero issues. I have my first grandson and he woke at 8am yesterday and was awake ALL day besides dozing off 2 times for 10 mins each. Then we thought he would sleep at night. Nope.. wide awake. Doesnt even look sleepy. Other times he can be perfect. Other times he will sleep 12 hours straight or the entire day. Hes not even 2 months.

Hello! I hope i can get some help. My 6m old needs to be rocked for every nap and sleep. Sometimes i dont mind but lately its getting exhausting. How do i stop this? The thought of sleep training terrifies me. I would love for him to nap and sleep at night on his own. During the night sometimes he'll self soothe in the middle of the sleep and other times he cant. Please help.

Oh my god, my baby needs rocking for at least 30mins. We have to stand up and not sitting, it needs to be lifting our hands up and down like we are doing some sort of weightlifting

Thank u so much for this video Rebecca, this is very helpful. I was starting to get worried thinking my baby is sick or coming down with something. I was planning to take her to the Doctor..... though sometimes she will wake up and start moving her head and showing a sign of irritatation .....she even cries. Does it mean that she still want to sleep, ul also find that when u touch the back of her head she is hot but her body is normal. Is it still normal?

Really love your videos!! ❤everyone keeps telling me my little one that’s 13 months old should not be eating anything at night. But I know that she gets hungry and she needs to nurse. Thank you for the reassurance.

I have to rock my 6 month old to sleep, and he wakes up frequently in the night needing to be rocked to sleep again. Any advice?

How am I supposed to get them to sleep when they refuse? Dark room, white noise, rocking, patting and they are still wide awake?

I'm confused here please can you clearify me cos mine is not just head but forehead and I am very worried .My 9 months old son rubs his forehead on the floor or matrass every time is it normal?

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Sometimes In the Bed before Sleep My baby put his Hand on the Back side of the Neck (Head) and rubbing. Is this normal ?

Baby rubs its ears and head when teying to fall asleep but she does it so vigorously that it leaves marks on her head :/

What age can you take the sleep quiz my babies only 6 weeks she's been rubbing her head that's how I found your page.

I love your videos. I have found them so helpful. My baby is definitely a spirited sleeper. And now 8 months old, i kind of just gave up and do what works in the moment. Feed him to sleep and hold him his entire nap. Hoping that he out grows it and im not creating even worse long lasting habits. He sleeps through the night great (with me) but its the falling asleep part that is a fight and if i put him down he wakes up immediately and will not go back to sleep until the next cycle. But at any rate we get full nights rest and im always looking to improve so thanks for your information.

What baby needs to learn is that daddy and mommy have a job and need to sleep to bring the money to keep the baby alive. God... this is hard...

Just discovered you via this video when I googled “why does my baby rub his head on me?” 🥰

Dear Rebecca, thank you for these videos! They are super helpful! Our 18 months old is sleep trained and has no problem falling asleep independently. However, he recently developed a new pattern of waking up after like 45 mins/1 hour nap and during the second half of the night. He seems to enjoy being taken in our arms till he falls back in sleep again. Do you think we should go cold turkey with "his attemps for co-sleeping"? It is hart warming but we definitely opt for indenpendent sleep, especially during the night. Thank you for your advice!

My three year old goes to sleep in her own bed and loves her room, but gets up every night between 11-12 and gets into bed with me and sleeps the rest of the night. How can I break that habit?

If that's what's called sleeping through the night apparently I sleep through the night but I don't sleep very long😊

My son is 2,5 Years old and needs 9,5 hours of night sleep before he is awake on his own. He needs to be up at 7.30 but how ever we try to go to sleep earlier he will fall asleep not before 10.30 pm. In total he usually has 10.30 hours Of sleep per day. Is that ok? Should I try to place him to bed even earlier than I tried, at 20 h if that could be THE perfect time?

Rebecca, I tried to schedule a "pick my brain" call but your website seems to not be working. Please advise. Looking forward.

There are so many studies out there, legitimate research on this topic. One of the top physicians and experts in childhood development and trauma - Dr. Gabor Mate - has done extensive research and spoken and written endessly about this topic. Look him up. The people debunking are the advocates of sleep training, crying it out and what not. It's interesting that the debunkers are almost always North American. The parents that don't have paid maternity leave, that are forced to go back to work almost as soon as having their babies. Baby sleep is a huge business in America due to this. The "most advanced" country in the world, doing and forcing the most unnatural things...why? Money, money and money. Look at European countries. Almost ALL have full pay for the first year of a baby' life. Mothers are therfore NOT under pressure to unnaturally force their babies to sleep so they can go back to work and function. Nowhere in the world is separation and disconnection between mother and baby forced as much as in America. Brainwashed. Studies have proved the negative affects, they are easily found online. But hey, when a parent is all about ME, ME, ME and whining about how they also need their beauty sleep, there is no hope of a selfless act and uncomfortable sacrifice. So they will debunk to get some shuteye while their poor baby is abandoned and alone in the dark. Makes me sick to my stomach. Here are just a few sources: 1. acamh .onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10 .1111/jcpp.13390 2. www.psychologytoday.com /us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112 /da ngers-crying-it-out 3. theconversation.com/sleep -training-and-babies-why-crying-it -out-is-best-avoided-127044 4. www.laleche.org.uk /letting-babies-cry-facts-behind -studies/ 5. www.bellybelly.com.au /baby-sleep/cry-it-out/ 6. www.researchgate.net /publication/272210021_Why _Not_Cryingit_Out_Part_l _The That Science That Tells Us _ _ _ _ _ _Responsiveness_is_Key 7. drgaborrnate.com/no -longer-believe-babies-cry-sleep/

Thank you!!! Yes! There are so many studies out there, legitimate research on this topic. One of the top physicians and experts in childhood development and trauma - Dr. Gabor Mate - has done extensive research and spoken and written endessly about this topic. Look him up. The people debunking are the advocates of sleep training, crying it out and what not. It's interesting that the debunkers are almost always North American. The parents that don't have paid maternity leave, that are forced to go back to work almost as soon as having their babies. Baby sleep is a huge business in America due to this. The "most advanced" country in the world, doing and forcing the most unnatural things...why? Money, money and money. Look at European countries. Almost ALL have full pay for the first year of a baby' life. Mothers are therfore NOT under pressure to unnaturally force their babies to sleep so they can go back to work and function. Nowhere in the world is separation and disconnection between mother and baby forced as much as in America. Brainwashed. Studies have proved the negative affects, they are easily found online. But hey, when a parent is all about ME, ME, ME and whining about how they also need their beauty sleep, there is no hope of a selfless act and uncomfortable sacrifice. So they will debunk to get some shuteye while their poor baby is abandoned and alone in the dark. Makes me sick to my stomach. Here are just a few sources: 1. acamh .onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10 .1111/jcpp.13390 2. www.psychologytoday.com /us/blog/moral-landscapes/201112 /da ngers-crying-it-out 3. theconversation.com/sleep -training-and-babies-why-crying-it -out-is-best-avoided-127044 4. www.laleche.org.uk /letting-babies-cry-facts-behind -studies/ 5. www.bellybelly.com.au /baby-sleep/cry-it-out/ 6. www.researchgate.net /publication/272210021_Why _Not_Cryingit_Out_Part_l _The That Science That Tells Us _ _ _ _ _ _Responsiveness_is_Key 7. drgaborrnate.com/no -longer-believe-babies-cry-sleep/

It took me four times to figure out what she was saying. The babies cry to see if you're coming and they stop every once in awhile and if you don't come to them they start to cry again.

Hi Rebecca. Thanks so much for this video. It was the best explanation they I’ve ever seen about this topic. But I still need your help. I can’t make my daughter to take naps during the day 😞 I learn to walk with her and rocking to make her sleep and when I put her in her crib she wakes up 😢 or she “sleep” for 5, 10 or 30 minutes max. At night she can sleep better. For example from 10 pm to 5 am most of the days. I’ve heard from a pediatrician that we need to put her in her crib and just talk to her until she falls asleep and if she starts to cry, we just have to talk 🤷🏻‍♀️ or if she’s crying for 10 minutes we can soothe her and start over again. But my heart breaks seeing her crying for seconds💔 What can I do? I’m desperate here 😭 Oh by the way I’ve been trying to do what you teach us in this video and still it’s not working 😢

What is "cry it out"?

I know it is only a metaphor, but this whole process of learning to ride a bike the way we did is unnecessary now. The problem is training wheels don't teach you how to balance at all. They teach the easy part - pedaling and steering, and save the hard part for later, when it is dangerous . But today, there are balance bikes, which are low enough to the ground that kids can catch themselves with their feet rather than falling over, the can use them like a scooter using their feet to push off the ground until they learn to balance, and then, after they have mastered balance, they can put their feet on the pedals. Kids learn the hard part first, safely, and without needing help from an adult, and then they learn to pedal afterwards. No adult support is necessary with a balance bike. I just wish there was an equivalent for sleep!

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Thank you for the great content!

Data shows that sleep trained children have the same amount of wake-ups, they just ask for help less, knowing help won't come. If they're ill, teething or have a particularly rough period, they might really really need the parent and try again despite having been taught that they don't matter and this creates the "need" to "retrain" children, where they will be crying upwards of hours. Nobody will pay heavy money to be told to nurse children to sleep and that waking up during the night is evolutionarily very normal and is a safety mechanism (preventing SIDS, separation from parents, regulating milk supply of their mothers, managing body temperature etc). People want 100% fixes and only populists and liars will dare make such claims. Thus the multimillion dollar sleep-training industry, where you will pay hundreds of dollars for people to tell you that leaving your child to scream for hours until they throw up is A-OK. While some aspects of the sleep training methods may be useful for some people who are struggling with toddlers, I firmly believe that at least under 12m any part of this method should be labeled as child abuse regardless of the reaction or tolerance to it of the child.

I really appreciate you sharing this knowledge ❤

THANK YOU for this video. It’s hands-on and it helped me to reduce the amount of stress around establishing sleep routine.

I just know myself and my child would not survive CIO and be happy during and on the other end. I feel like pick up/put down would work for me, and hopefully her, but i see conflicting info on how to perform this. I read the book by Hogg as some people advised, but it wasn't what i was expecting and i still have questions on execution.

My mother never used bed or my room as a punishment. The belt, wooden spoon, slipper, willow switch, hair brush, or frying pan where her go to methods of correction

This has been the most realistic practical advice I have found on the topic.

Very cool. I'm 19 and not a parent but this is rather interesting.

Hi, Rebecca, thank you for your videos! I have a 4 months old who would only sleep on me, including the night, which is absolutely exhausting, because I have no life ever since this started at about 2 months - no opportunity to do chores around the house (and I have 2 schoolboys, too) or watch a movie with my husband, or take a break. At night he sleeps on my elbow (I'm breastfeeding) and wakes multiple times to feed. And I can't remove my arm from under his head. Since birth we would put him down in a crib, but at about 1,5 months he stopped sleeping for long periods at night and started to wake up every hour or so. I was so tired that I had to take him to my bed. Actually, I coslept with my 2 older boys but I never had a problem of moving away from them.. My new son only sleeps while being held😢 Only time I can take some rest is when he sleeps his day nap in a stroller outside - he can sleep for 3 or even 4 hours. From 11 am to about 2 pm Could you please give me an advise on where to start? Ideally I would like him to sleep in his crib, but currently it seems like something unreal Maybe I shouldn't let him sleep for 3 hours during the day in the first place? Otherwise his routine seems quite good.

Love this going to try it! Thank you!

Thank you!

This is gold! Amazing.. Is the first time that I heard about individual tempers and sleep training for babys.. ❤ so helpful!

I hope you can answer my concern, I know its been 2 years from this post and I know you charge for your services but honestly i cant afford a sleep consultant or trainer due to some unfortunate events that have happened recently. Anyway, I sleep conditioned my baby pretty much since day 1 but of course fed her when I knew she needed a night time feed. She is now 6 month old as of 2 days ago and I thought she would be ready to drop her night feed, boy was I wrong... she didn't go back to sleep at all and she was just on me because she just couldn't go to sleep which she never does... I felt horrible not giving her that feed. I decided that tonight I will give her her bottle if she wants it because evidently she needs it. (I tried wearing her off for 2 nights but it's been a total fail) My question is when will I know when she is ready to drop that bottle. (It doesn't matter how much milk I give her during the day) she still wakes up by 1:00am and 5am. (Her schedule during the day is 7am-7pm) has a morning nap 9:30am-10:00am 12:30-2:30pm 4:50-5:00 power nap. Am I doing anything wrong? Is it normal for her to have 2 feedings overnight... I feel as though I have failed since I hear everyone saying that their baby's have been sleep trained and weaned off their bottles/boobs since they were 3 or 4months and those babies slept through the night. I've never let her cry it out I just conditioned her to fall asleep on her own which she does amazingly. My question is when will I know she is ready to get weaned off, will she do it eventually or will she do it on her own. I feel desperate because im not sure if I'm doing the right thing.

So so helpful. I love the individualized approach. Mine is intense. I did the slow walk around the house prior to starting bedtime routine and it worked. Less struggle and he is sleeping in the crib by himself. Thank you for the advice.

Hi great advice , Wanted to find out if this method works for babies aged 4-6 months ?