Talking about my life… To the point of no recognition of nor the interest , only disappointment, and by rule , a kid without direction especially from those that supposedly raised me, does have the distinction to go astray because being rejected as a way of life does have a tendency to make trouble in ways that are cliche in practice, and communicated in expressive ways which turned out in some measure of success depending upon the effort spent. Healing from self harm is … So if your kid has talent in visual arts , let them create, if they receive joy from it let them create. Don’t stifle it through your ignorance of what it is to be that state for hours, and only get them fed with nutritious genuine foods. Some exercise, and allow their path as it shows itself to the child. Certainly beware of problems that they haven’t any life experience with , and learn for yourself to some knowledge that’ll assist your understanding of their abilities and nuances of perception and personality. This woman knows her stuff. Don’t let it die out just because you have a different notion of success of your child. In some ways it could have a catastrophic outcome in their life.

I'm amazed how so called intelligent humans are more interested in there own egos and sounding intelligent, when in actual fact. If we as humans where so smart then why would they assume that the interlects before them where correct in the first place. It's quite funny watching intelligent humans hitting a brick wall. Becouse they where on the wrong track in the first place. Don't trust what your being told it's another lie in a world of many. Sounding intelligent means nothing, if the reality of the truth is If out of perspective with the inerlect. I am the only human that knows the truth about human nature, Witch is just a term that these so called intelligent humans use to Justerfy there lies, Of a road they all know is a scam a (dead end ) From the beginning of the take over of us and our planet To the powers to be , and there ownership of it all. OUR STOLEN WORLD AND INERLECT IF YOU EVER WANT TO KNOW THE TRUTH LET ME KNOW L.J.M. THATS ME AN UNEDUCATED TRUTH ABOUT THE EVILNESS THAT STOLE OUR PLANET AND ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE PLAGUE OF ATROCITIES BEING INFLICTED UPON THE CHILD AND ITS PLANET.

I want to express my profound gratitude for Dr. Schwartz . His work has helping me heal deep trauma wounds and grow spiritually 🙏

The glass by itself is a design therefore connected to art, it's never not art.

In reference to Empathy and art I do think if you read allot of novels this will likely increase it. I think art is more linked to emotions as opposed to empathy.

Surely there is a difference between talented and gifted? I'm thinking this based following comments about magic. Also, Does getting in a flow state relate to being gifted at something? The one track giftedness seems similar to people on the other end of the extremes - the knowledge that people who have learning difficulties tend to have a spiky IQ and can score highly in certain areas but this might not translate into an actual outcome?

My child was identified by testing in pre-school as "highly gifted" and we allowed her placement in a "highly gifted" program in elementary school which had many benefits--small class size, specialized curricula, French classes, etc. but, in hindsight, I regret our choice for several reasons--she had to be bussed out of our neighborhood and found it more difficult to develop friendships close to home; she reported to me much later that, throughout her elementary school years, she didn't know she was smart because compared to some of the other kids in her class (one was taking college-level mathematics in elementary school), she felt "stupid." I regret our decision to place her in a special program.

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Wait, I owe something to the community and the world? For what? Since when?

Thanks for the nice podcast, Scott. It was very interesting. I enjoyed your questions. I found it too difficult to watch you, however, because of how blurry your face was around the edges. To keep the "Better Up" hat logo from being seen, you sacrificed the clarity of your eyes and the expressiveness of your face. Keep up the great content!

Wait, so f*ggot and fascist have the same root?

Great conversation! I immediately bought Seppala's book and am now enjoying it.

the bible is nonsense

I have to say I have looked at IQ tests and don't get them at all yet I spend my days gardening and doing artwork and appreciating God so that makes it easier to think I might be a closet savant, ha ha!!!!! Or not. Love this talk, thanks so much.

Thx for this and all you do Scott. I am a 52 yr old recovering addict who is an unplanned father to a 3.5 yr old boy. I am a poor, uneducated, carpenter. His mother who I've been trying with much effort to raise him under one roof, at least has her MSW which I'm sure whoever reads this knows doesn't exactly mean financial security, tho there seems some possibility .. Anyway, I'm constantly wondering what survival tools I can offer my child (that I wont fumble in the teaching) that he will be able to use in this increasingly hostile environment of western civilization. Neither his mom or me have much family so he will be alone. I'm trying to focus on nutrition and minimal technology and some kind of faith based spiritual community. I'm athiest but I see the importance of community and I feel ok with the trade offs religion offers. I just want him to feel a part of a community. Anyway, I know I'm rambling; I'm at work but wanted to comment with a snapshot and tell you how meaningful your content is. It is currently a piece of what makes me feel alive and keeps me rooted and hopefully growing. So thx again. Strength and love. P.S. Kennedy 2024!!!

Toxic positivity is when you need to unload and your friend or whoever never let you express your true feelings if you are complettely overwhelmed. They block you from expressing what you are feeling because they block out any wnat they percieve as negetivety from you or themselves because they fear they will lose control over their positivity so therefore they cannot be empathetic to you and shut you down so they can keep that rehearsed and contrived control of posetive vibes there is no room for them to hear your meltdown or whatever. What is important is just being heard and allowed to let it all out without judgement. You can be posetive and hear a friend tell their own sincere and authentic feelings without being dimissive like the person has the plague and you might catch it.

Why do Amanda and Chris look different on the screen than Dr. Kaufman?

somewhat interesitng episode. she kind of gives me a bit softy feelings vibes. also ne thing about your pdocast i feel like is the lack of actionable information. like utalk nicely and all but the amount of valuable informaton to apply ot ones own life is not that large.

Richard needs to do Sam Harris next 😂🙏☯️🙌❤️🔥

Hey Scott, how's your agreeableness goal for the year coming along? One standard deviation yet? Great episode as usual !

44:38 interesting concept here from this story

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She looks like the combination of Angela + Jenna (from The Office)

Awesome episode!

What a profound, humble and raw conversation. Completely second what you said, Scott - Corey’s book is just gravy. Corey’s work and dual continua model is the first thing I teach my students in positive psych and I remember when I first learnt about it from one of my mentors. There’s an army of people out there who understand that you, Corey, have been working in the shadows. We are big fans of your contributions to science and perhaps we need to express it more often - including directly to you. Thank you for this 🙏🥹

I've been following your podcast for a year and a half and I've learned a lot from it, so thank you very much for that. I was wondering if you could do an episode that talks about using psychology in acting?

I appreciate that you don't discount the magic of manifestation.

Thank you both for doing this podcast. Im seeing what looks like camaraderie between you two. It’s a breath of fresh air. I find the practice of meditation and the practical application of pure nondualism to be the only thing so far that’s helped me navigate an increasingly hostile, polarizing environment we have cultivated for ourselves. It’s sad… I keep reminding myself we are part of each other as one whole, and everything we see is a projection of some inner state on some level. It keeps me coming back to “what’s my part in seeing things this way?”; how am I playing into this? I’m no academic, so I’m grateful to get your perspectives. What I do see is a frightening progressive shortening of our attention span, in addition to the massive shift in expectations of comfort vs. perceived difficulty with respect to work, school, daily physical upkeep of everyday life management duties and such. My father was a Silent (1929) and looking back I do feel blessed to have had some great habits and thought patterns modeled in my family, plus that positive outlook many Silents did have. I think PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY was the hallmark trait my father instilled in me. I believe we have done this to ourselves unwittingly by providing so much comfort and ease in daily life, plus allowing media and video games and such to program ourselves to expect less from ourselves and more from nature and the world around us… as if things just “happen” without more interaction from us humans. It’s like watching a child play a video game about “gardening”, where an avatar throws seeds at dirt, then the plants magically blossom and the avatar wipes its hands across a screen and all the produce is magically transferred to a market stand for sale. That’s what seems to be lowering the expectations in the mind… yikes. 😧 When everything gets easy and comfortable, complacency follows. I’m afraid we are engineering a society of entitled, incapable yet depressed citizens who don’t know how they got into that mess. Self destruction follows. That’s what I’m seeing. Hopefully I’m wrong. ❤❤❤ Thanks again. Keep encouraging people to work harder than they think they “should have to” because it IS good to be capable, and not have to ask technology for all the answers. The path of least resistance makes for very weak muscles. And yes… at the end, I do believe from experience that choosing to turn the mind towards positivity and embracing each other is that: A CHOICE. Positive thinking and healing doesn’t “just happen” to us. I think I see a pattern… a theme. CHOICE, PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY, TAKING ACTION in the physical world, experiencing life directly versus having that separation from the world and each other, which removes the real life real time feedback we NEED to understand what we are putting out there. Things don’t “just happen to us.” We are making this world… we are forgetting our power. We expect everything to “just happen” without our involvement. We are taking away the feedback that tells us how we truly affect one another when we rely on screens and online interactions. You’re onto something there. Big time. Society has removed REAL socializing with one-way screen time interaction. A recipe for disaster.

Lisa saying that these displays of emotions almost entirely socially constructed, not biological, is just simply wrong. I would appreciate you challenging her on this, as I know you know better. It should be obvious that biology plays a role, across cultures, when boys show most emotions when competing, and not in other social settings. And still here, the display of emotions differ very much among the two sexes (anger in boys, crying in girls).

"Im great cuz my grandpas had money to pay for my classes since I was a baby and now Im succesfull at life" uh huh and? What about the suzuki method?

What? Emotionally intelligent people can recognise a real or fake laugh. He just hired people pleasers. I'm not sure but I'd think for the business of space, you'd want honest people around you right?

Host looks like if Wayne Static didnt do drugs and went to college

This was one of the most important conversations I have ever heard. That you can be flourishing and have bad mental health. That you can languish one day and then flourish the next, and flourishing is not this big end state to achieve and is a process. This has also helped me a lot with my own program creation on purpose in midlife, which clarified many questions and curiosities I had. Thank you both.

Thank you. more positive psyhology please. its the best area of psychology imo and vastly underrated

38:30 thats so raw and real and i experienced that when my mom passed away and my entire family turned their back on me. I was ready to end it all because at the time i thought if im all alone in the world then i dont matter so whats the point of living. Thankfully through hard work and lots of therapy and medication i was able to come out on the other side but it definitely wasnt easy

so many gems in this conversation! thank you

I'd personally like to thank both of you gentlemen for sharing this discussion with us and I'm looking forward to reading that book,

The Psychology Podcast, I love your channel so much, I just had to subscribe!

Great show and fabulous questions

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55:05 These real life demonstrations are phenomenal. Evidently this is something Mr. Schwartz does quite often. Highest kudos to Mr. Kaufman for being willing to go there. The contribution is indeed profound 💜

love the metaphor for school... why do we shame kids ....... thank you Scott and Lisa

I've been trying to say that for ages but I find people turn into defensive mode😊

Thank you for the realization ❤

Just the tone of his voice conveys a lot of tranquility. Furthermore, the topic of adolescent emotions is very interesting.❤❤❤

I am just an average person and I’m 100% for, being loving and kind to ALL people.

This is my college writing professor, he changed my pov on writing 😊

Scott do you ever actually push against your interviewees' models or question them? The idea we have fully fledged parts within us with their own 'essence' and these parts have parts - also fully fledged with their own essence - and so on is absurd and could very easily be harmful.

I loved the Big Bang Theory so much that I still watch it.❤❤❤