so my ex is with someone else, but she contacts me for sex and we have conversations like how she is not over me and how she still loves me but not in love with me while cheating on her boyfriend. She ghosts me for weeks and contacts me again for sex, am i being used, why can't i reject her advances, i feel like i have moved on but when she is around me she acts like she's falling for me all over again and me being an idiot falls for her again. and when we do go in No contact i feel like shit, she tells me how she feels shit when we are in no contact but still is with her ex. i have landed myself in a shitty situation worse than we were when we were in no contact indefinitely. i feel like we are using our bodies to get over each other and sometimes i feel like im the one winning the battle but more often than not i feel like she is using me to get over me, i am so confused. FML i want to die

We broke up 7 weeks ago. I had been unhappy about her hanging out with someone who liked her. I voiced my concerns and boundaries about this and she said I was insecure and didn’t trust her. I was miserable and feeling jealous. I begged and pleaded during the first week. Then i gave her a long message telling her i want her back. I tried no contact but she kept texting me every week. Well, now she and the guy have slept together a few times and have been going on dates. She will be going on a trip for 4 weeks with this guy in a week and a half. Yesterday I finally decided to say my final goodbye and told her if she wants to see me she will need to reach out because I can’t keep breaking my heart by staying in contact with her anymore. It felt liberating so I went out last night and got drunk and got laid. During my therapy session today, she called me. She told be she broke her toe and asked me to help her. I told her I was busy but will help her when I was done. My therapist heard everything and told me that I was very clear headed and secure about wanting to help her. Apparently she was hanging out with her new guy when she hurt herself. She sent him on his way to work and called me to help her. I finished my therapy session and picked her up and took her to the hospital. I told her I wasn’t too sure what role I’m playing in this situation but I still care for her and love her so I will help her be the kind and compassionate person I am. She is still going on the trip and said she and the new guy haven’t made it official yet but I think they are going to be together pretty soon, probably during this trip. So yes no contact worked. Took about 20 hours. But she is just using me because she knows I will do anything for her. I know she is moving on to another relationship, and I’m perhaps I’m just being altruistic and caring without expectations. In fact I’m still sitting here next to her while she is resting. I want to tell her to ask her new guy to help, but I also know if I said something like that I will sound like a prick. So I’m just sitting here thinking about how stupid I feel right now sitting here next to her the day after I finally decided to go no contact. I feel like perhaps she feels like I am still her security blanket and I can help her more than her new guy can. So I’m super confused. And I still want her back, just not as much as I did weeks ago. Damn it I tried to say goodbye and she just keeps pulling me back in.

The dumper has no feelings ...just a toxic person..gone

no contact then ex texted me this is the last time your hearing from me but repeats what does this mean

@The Love Chat.... Rory, where are you? No new videos since a long time.

Me and my ex were on the re-attraction phase and well she started to ask more of me and i hesitantly agreed and well in hindsight i should’ve maintained my masculine but the bitterness and pettiness got better of me and i fumbled a little now we’re back to no contact and i feel like we’ve broken up all over again fml please give some advice

I fucked this one up by not upholding my boundary every time he tried to talk. Even when I originally intended to. But he continued to reach out. At this point though… I mean we only really interacted like 3 times directly and otherwise… I was either ignoring or refusing to see him. I only ignored him… after he already knew I needed space and he tried to come up with a date like “okay we’ll see when I come home from vacation” and I at the time agreed. So I figure… ignoring him wasn’t horrible to do. But at this point. I don’t know. It’s only still a couple times we interacted since the break up… I think I have to just give up hope though. And I’m going back into no contact and if he reaches out I’m setting my boundary again. And I’m not going to see him

She said she will block me because she can't resist seeing me and not reach out!

Guess what? I dumped my ex. We had a very toxic relationship, one that had to end. I blocked and deleted him. He never tried to get back with me, a very clear sign that he didn’t care. That was enough confirmation for me to know that I made the right decision. Good riddance.

I need help am in same problem She was traumatised by parents break up , at in 4 yrs she has slept with over 20 men. Hv bn with her thought all was nice until she cheated on mi and she confessed to mi that it was hurting her i deserved a better person. That she loved mi abd neva intended to hurt mi. After 1 week of talking with her is wen she opened the all history and that even previous evening she had slept with her ex. Shez told mi that she once met psychologist to try and stop wat she does coz she doesnt love those men nor enjoy sex but she cant stop herself. She separates from one guy after she gets another buh went to ex because i had split with her Am a medical student . She thi ks i can help her stop her sexual problem if we remain as friends. I dont know wat to do please help mi discuus the topic and find solution for mi

Communication, physical affection, respect

Thank you Rory for your knowledge man.

Yo where you at

Rory can you make a video “she doesn’t know what you’re thinking during no contact” to calm the anxiety pls

Currently going through this

Is it mostly affective on dismissive avoidant?

I’m starting to believe my recent relationship failed because we both are fearful avoidant and raised to be people pleasers and we didn’t communicate all of our needs properly or how to fix issues when they came up because we feel like we can’t talk about that and that we would hurt or upset eachother based on family wounds

Are guys scared of attractive ladies? I'm seriously wondering, I've been told I'm not bad Looking, but why am I single then? I see different women wherever and honestly sometimes I (as bad as this sounds) judge them a little for their exterior appearance. Don't hate me but, to myself I'm thinking, so they have a man, (it's usually a dude that worships the ground she walks on/as it should be), but I have negative thoughts, like oh they can get a man? I'm so sorry, I'm going through a lot right now. Im taking the advice about P.E.R.M.I.T.S. I'm on vacay rn, IV been trying to work out although I had already been working on myself...luv u all Reply if you can, thx❤

Anyone else just feel like straight shit right now? Like there is NOT a person out there for you? That's how I feel right now. I just want to be loved and I feel like there's no one out there that is WILLING to love me back.

Dude, the pain.. it's not as bad as it was but it's still there. I feel so freaking worthless, unattractive.. just plain shitty. It's always there, in the background if not a current thought. I luv u all ......

Sometimes you have to love someone and YOURSELF enough to let them go. I love my ex, and I vowed to do whatever I can to see her happy, even if it breaks my own heart. And she said breaking up would make her happy, so I gave her that. I love her that much. Besides, when she decided to leave me, that means she thinks she can do better than me. I could never be with someone who thinks that. Letting her go hurts, but it had to be done

“Shame on you Brad Browning, you’re Bad Browning” has me in shambles

But where are the videos?? Why were they deleted? Someone has them?

Hi

Thank you, Rory. I appreciate you and your wisdom.

I remember the dating guy and often would look at his videos. He always came across as a very wise person, as well as being humorous. I remember once him making a joke at Craig Kenneth's expense, "It is an email,Craig, not a ticket to Beyonce!". 😁

It was 3 1/2 days and I broke no contact. We used to text each other everyday. Then he broke up with me and it went into radio silence. It was not easy. My skin was crawling. So I texted saying hi to my ex and asked how has work been. He broke up with me because he has no time for me because of his work schedule at a hospital. He works all the time. He answered my hello text within seconds. We then had a casual conversation talking about how we are. We talked about a lot of trivial things. I felt relief but I'm sure he is relieved too that I spoke to him after he broke up with me. He thought I would be angry at him but I'm not. But what do I do now? Go back into no contact? Will this work now that I messed up? I love him very much. I want to be back with him. I don't want to fall into the friend zone situation which I feel he will do.

Thanks so much for this video. All of your work is helping me. I have been working on myself and will not quit. Grateful for videos that uplift me and reduce my feelings of anxiety. ❤

Avoidants are exhausting. Avoid the avoidant. You are expected to treat them with kid gloves but they can do whatever the hell they want without regard to how it makes you feel.

Never thought I would see your face. I remembered that the dating guy left, I typed his name to se if he was back and saw your video on him. I did have a call with you Rory, and he helped me with some emails. I still want to thank you and him, coz you helped me so much when I was heartbroken. You guys, in part, made me be who I am today. The happiest version of myself. So thanks Rory, and thanks to the long gone dating guy.

It’s been 5 years 😢, I think she has moved on..

1 year and two months and still nothing. I hate him so much

Hey I know this is 5 years ago but can you make a video about what to do if she loves me but her parents won’t let me be with her

She is your Ex.... who she bangs now doesnt matter - Ex is past and not future. Hard disconnect and block.

Good points...what makes me feel happy while im doing it...simple

literally said i didnt want anything back before no contact, just to get stuff back in the mail two weeks later. Another punch in the gut

My ex contacted me after 6 months of no contact, he was the one who initiated breakup and left, our relationship was 7 years older and he came back to me with lots of love bombing such as i cant replace u i love you i miss you wanna see you wanna love you... my responses were no so validating i acted cold bcs i suffered a lot of pain when he left so my coldness was obvious... he did this love bombing for straight 4 days and then started acting cold and distant.. this made me feel anxious.. i send him a quote and a short text on whatsapp.. he read my message and left on seen. This is hurting me how can someone pour love and then acts cold. This is disturbing me a lot feels like i lost all of my strengths and healing i have done in these 6 months. May this rat rot in hell for such a narcissistic behavior.

1. I am grateful for my friends who care for me and my wellbeing 2. Grateful for my body which helps me exercise and feel better 3. Grateful for these videos !

This happened with me two weeks before our relationship was perfect, but suddenly after 1 month she started being too busy and after 1.5month of our relationship she texted me a long text saying she is not ready for a relationship ,she feeling lot of pressure, etc. I was in love with her now I'm in a shock

Brad Browning 😅😅😅 Oh, we love you Rory! 😊

Ryan why did you move Megan in with you then cheat on the bitch?

Ryan why did you move Megan in with you then cheat on the bitch?

thank you for clearing my mind

This made me laugh 'talking about never' 🤣🤣

thank you Rory

who cares if the ex reached out? chances are they are just breadcrumbing you, or hoping for some validation from you once they see you start moving on. they may even reach out to you though they’re chasing someone else. they say they want you to move on, but really they toy with the idea that you’re always going to be pining for them. it’s all about them receiving validation and an ego boost. it’s never, never about them feeling sincerely regretful about the way they’ve treated you.

Thank you for mentioning the bs league system.. Teen movies have a lot to answer for! To whoever reads this, please understand there are no leagues. There are simply people who fancy you, and people who don't fancy you. That's it. For 100s of years, people have got their heart broken and this will continue until the end of time. We are not alone in this. You're going to get through this. In the meantime , sleep well, try to eat real food and get a bit of exercise. It's good for your mental health x

It’s been a year and a month. No contact since the breakup. He dumped me

Hey Rory, I used to watch ur all videos unless u did ur face reveal. It was a mysterious voice that healed us all (messiah).

Nope they moved on before they left.