I've watched it more than a hundred times😂

I believe that's the point of the film. Death isn't bad or ruthless or vengeful or brutal or anything. He has a duty to fulfil. And while he realizes how much potential he has to be a friend, a lover, a consultant, a family member ..., that job needs to be done and can not be escaped.

@@NiVi192 nicely put

Yes,but,Alison did say that when ever she walks in the room this look comes over his face like "what does she want now",which indicates she relies alot on her father's money.

She is hurting herself and creating unnecessary drama and tension, because it's all about her. Very high maintenance. Makes the whole party thing a total turn-off.

You cringing over there?

With all respect.... What man gives a fuck about cake

Hard to say the reason without knowing the man. Sometimes its not about what you do that's wrong, but rather its because to some, it can be hard to express one self. I know this because I'm sometimes like that too. The most you get from your dad is probably just a nod, which can be confusing. The closest analogy on how it feel is probably like when you first hold a kitten and you don't know what to do to avoid hurting it. Some people are like that, either from life experience or just how they are taught as a child. You might expect to hear him say "Good job" or "Nice work you did there" but to people like this, that sound insincere and sometimes feel wrong because it didn't quite feel right, like the word is a massive understatement. It certainly won't do to overpraised it as that too feel wrong and sound condescending. So in the end, they just be quiet, maybe smile a bit and probably nod. Its not that they don't know how to love (else, he wouldn't even have your mother in the first place) but more like being awkward and not sure how to express themselves.

I've never had that talk with my dad either. I suspect more people haven't had that talk than have

It's entirely possible your father came from a generation or culture of men that didn't dare to break with traditional modes of behavior when it came to male role models. The strict disciplinarian, the stoic lawgiver, etc. There are more than enough examples of that all around us. I would hope that he had feeling for you, but it's sad that you never felt that. It sounds he was pretty divorced from the courage needed to feel tender or vulnerable. Fwiw, not every child will have that "talk" where the parent expresses an over-arching love or pride at some conclusion, or as an epiphany. Usually, that comes out over time, in the context of every day events, or transient asides; a gesture, a gaze, a chuckle. The "talk" you seem to idealize isn't really a thing. What would be nice is if you simply knew, because what else could it be? Hope you've found solace since then.

I always felt like he was doing an extra little "ta-daa!" moment for his daughter's sake. :)

doesnt it though.. she had me at " Oranges from Seville"

OMG a table full of fancy cake...... I'm in!

I get that, I work at a kindergarten so we celebrate like 3-4 children's birthdays each month with cake and everything. Now I don't even have cake on my birthday I just stopped liking it.