🥰 thank you for your kind words!

Biggest gift. Truly.

It is very exhausting. Turning toward our anger with tenderness and curiosity is immensely helpful. I like to think of my anger like a toddler: the more I ignore it, try to keep it quiet, the louder and more frenzied it becomes. When I sit with it, ask it gently, "What do you need?", visualize it like another part of myself (perhaps a much younger me), the more that part of myself feels heard, acknowledged, and loved. I will even talk very tenderly to myself: "It's okay, little Morgan." It sounds simplistic perhaps, but it has made a huge difference in my inner world.

Raising children (especially when they're small) is like being on constant overload. Lots of stimulation and energy are directed toward keeping them alive and safe. When my three kids were young, I often struggled with not "spilling" my frenzied nervous system state onto them. Being depleted physically can absolutely make it more difficult to manage our emotions. Take care of yourself. You've got this.

Yes! Love doesn't lack boundaries.

I hope I always maintain a level of curiosity that allows me to stay open to changing my mind with new information.

you're very welcome.

@morganmotsinger I am curious. You are very well versed in psychology. Yet you're able to somewhat dumb it down for the simple folk like myself. Where did you get your education?? That is not a slight or backhanded comment either. I am truly impressed by your inner and outer beauty.

"Dr. Google" 😂 This is a great insight--even if something is wrong, it doesn't mean it's the end of the road.

Beautifully put. I like to imagine we're all parts of a gnarled oak tree. Even as the leaves die, they feed the tree. Nothing is lost, only repurposed in the big cycles of life and death.

Thank you for your comment. Perfection is an impossible burden, especially for a child. For whatever it's worth, here's my two cents: we are all unique. There has never been a time in history when you have existed in that body, that location, that family environment. You are one of a kind. The paradox of truth is that we are also all part of a cosmic dance that doesn't begin or end with us. In the dance between these two realities, we get to play. Permanence/impermanence. Unique/same. Time/eternity. What I think is eroding the soul of mankind is the promise of self-actualization through effort and accumulation of stuff, and when people realize that doesn't work, we don't know what else to turn to. What does work? A sense of purpose, deep relationships, meaningful work, a healthy relationship with Uncertainty. These can be cultivated. You are not a burden. You don't need to be perfect. You just need to be you.

You're most welcome. Thanks for being here.

Thanks! I appreciate your comment!

You’re very welcome. 💛

It’s SO GOOD! I now love watching it with my kids.

Hard to bust out of others’ expectations, but well worth it!

It is unbelievably hard to carve out time for self care. Often it ends up being less than you need, but better than nothing. Big hugs to you!!

I am so glad to have connected with you here. Your tender heart and compassionate care shine in medicine and the world!

@@morganmotsinger thank you for your kind words. You are truly diamond in the sky and such a gift to the world 🌍🌍🌍

Falling in love with the journey, regardless of where it ends up, is the key to life satisfaction

Thanks! Happy to be a challenger when it pushes us to investigate our inner world a bit more.

"People would rather have a fairytale rather than the truth." This is a great way to sum up how people avoid difficult things, like shame-filled relationships that aren't working. It's easy to get pulled into fantasy as an escape, but it's worth doing the work to create a life you don't have to escape from. Thank you for sharing your experience and insight!

In some cultures, sex mentorship exists! Shame really does a number on people, and creates so many hidden issues and problems.

I'm so glad you found this conversation helpful! I learned a ton talking with her, and I'm very grateful to get to share this insight.

love you! Thank you for your encouragement over the years

Yep, self-loathing means a storm inside, even if it's sunny outside. Hope you find something useful here.

You're most welcome ☺

The exhaustion with little ones is STRONG! Thank you for sharing your experience here and how you've changed as you've grown. "To become the best humans they are capable of being"--so powerful!

wheeee!! Here we go!!

Thank you for your kind words!

This helped me feel a better. Struggling with major depressive disorder

@@akshaysingh6347 thank you for sharing. I'm glad this helped in this moment.

I hear you. This really is an encouragement to change our internal state, even when our hard circumstances don't change.