Why were there Venezuelan nationals at your cabin, including children? This question is to Chelom Leavitt. She has very, very strong allegations against her for crimes against humanity. You are giving a platform to a very dark person. Are you one of them too, hosts?
@Genya0811 күн бұрын
Thank you🙏
@Bellesawyer13 күн бұрын
Disorienting. Yes
@fredrobertson50728 күн бұрын
Been here recently....very refreshing to hear Marks views that I can relate directly with...my wife and I are in the early stages of healing....THANK YOU!!
@kristenkeller6741Ай бұрын
Wow! I got nothing from my parents. This is so good. Love the way Stacy Goulding shares her perspective intimacy.
@kristenkeller6741Ай бұрын
Thank you for this. Very interesting. Unfortunately, mine was Hard, Hard, Hard. I'm hoping for a great fresh start to a new companion that wants similar things in life!
@PJB-To-beАй бұрын
Takes your breath away right. Having your breath knocked out of you mentally and emotionally by those you trusted and loved. Takes a long time to heal. May be not till Christ destroys the wicked and brings the dead back to life. But forgive and then let go. Make a new way for yourself and be kind to you. Love you, love yourself. Be couragious and find other people and love them too.❤
@user-uc5oo2iv6w10 күн бұрын
💯
@nancyayotte2297Ай бұрын
It was my wonderful, loving mother who was obsessed and enmeshed with me. She knew since it happened to me at 14. I found out two years ago I'm 58. It wrecked my effin world and brought the original trauma back tenfold. My siblings cannot understand how I feel at all My mom is 92. How dare I be mad or hurt or BETRAYED. at mom. I can't ever tell them how I really feel. I'm full of self hatred from the original trauma and now I'm like who the hell is my mother? Why wasn't I important enough to get me help? Never even asked if I was ok. Hey mom I WAS NOT OK. AT ALL.
@kristenkeller6741Ай бұрын
Saw you on 5 this week! I enjoyed your comments on there too and it brought me here. Thank you both for your choices that have brought you here today even though your today was a year ago. I'm excited to learn more about your work and what you both have to say!
@annaglazier2700Ай бұрын
Great interview! Really liked all the information and learned a lot.
@jerrilipscomb49902 ай бұрын
Throw anxiety and depression from death of loved ones, in with Absolute Betrayal PTSD from the people you've devoted most of your time and efforts to, what a hot mess. I don't think I'll ever be trusting of anyone ever again.
@nancyayotte2297Ай бұрын
❤
@joanebel52072 ай бұрын
Yes this I experienced. Painful
@robertcarter68873 ай бұрын
Curious, what is considered growth. Seeking validation within society. No thanks
@maryanndeveau81283 ай бұрын
Dr. Lee is 199% !!!!!-& Beyond brilliant !!!- Maryann D.
@cindy77333 ай бұрын
wow. i've never experienced that kind of love
@hclements38843 ай бұрын
This is amazing, life changing content! This needs more views!! Thank you so much for making this interview available.
@utahmarriagecommission3 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@angelaraycroft2333 ай бұрын
170..7th comment ❤
@rosemaryallen21283 ай бұрын
I was so shocked, my hair fell out. Then I couldn't believe anyone else could care about me. But by dint of nurturing friendships, and doing thorough research into why weak people do awful things, I have recovered my equilibrium. Despise the betrayer and love yourself! And give it time.
@utahmarriagecommission3 ай бұрын
Thank you for watching!
@joyyyy7774 ай бұрын
hi
@utahmarriagecommission3 ай бұрын
hi :) thank you for watching.
@DaveGarber19754 ай бұрын
“'Soul mates' are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to find a mate with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.” ― Spencer W. Kimball
@utahmarriagecommission3 ай бұрын
thank you for commenting and watching our videos, that is a very insightful message.
@patriciawilliams10684 ай бұрын
😢yes
@annaperez73085 ай бұрын
This was one of my favorite episodes- thanks!
@annaperez73085 ай бұрын
I love this podcast!
@coreyhabbas5 ай бұрын
This is so right on 💯 I wish you could do a video about setting boundaries to protect marriage and relationship integrity - content that educates people about what microcheating is and what leads to betrayal. Loyalty and integrity are everything and so many folks are clueless. God please help people get better at their commitments 🙏. It’s heartbreaking to see the lack of standards with which people treat eachother. Thank you for making these videos.
@utahmarriagecommission5 ай бұрын
Great suggestion!
@priscillal43216 ай бұрын
Thank you. You nailed this topic. So relatable and such clarity to a very common experience in marriages .
@frutina10006 ай бұрын
Unconditional love deep and absorbing every day is Christmas
@alisadunn54437 ай бұрын
@Tyler Patrick, I wish I had the hope you you have with regards to addiction with my father. Add in a child with a hearing disability..and the shame that the parents have because of her.
@robnicholson58547 ай бұрын
Totally worth watching!
@smuir61048 ай бұрын
Women love men who are men..... I personally hate that comment. I am a man whether she, or you all like who I am or not. For a while I actually questioned my masculinity, did I have enough testosterone and such, it was very emasculating. One day I decided I don't care if she thinks I am masculine or not, I like me, and I am a man. I don't think it gets flipped on women quite the same way. Women get to be just women, but Men have to prove their manness? I'd say that is wrong. Men are who they are, good characteristics and bad, but they are still Men! Not to be crass but that is determined by what is between your legs. So when comments like this are made, it ALWAYS devalues someone, and does it to the core by attacking who they are at the very core. I would ask you guys look for different words to describe what you are saying. The principles might be right, but it literally goes straight at your balls. This is especially the case when you get older and nature doesn't treat you nice, and physical problems hit really close to the heart, ED has got to be one of the cruelest things on the planet, but then add this "you not man enough" style comments on top of that, and it is destructive! So I will say now I am a man, and if your definition doesn't include me, then your definition is inaccurate, and needs changed.
@annaperez73088 ай бұрын
Thank you Cox family!
@barbaraalbert56008 ай бұрын
Like a therapist... been healing my trauma..... received a 'text of termination ' after having been inexplicably enraged... increasingly reactionary mode . My body knew. My conscious is still in cptsd mode. Happened the end of November. Disorienting??? Don't know where I'm at... grieving.. so beyond pissed numb and shut down. Learning I'm missing more time than I'm alive...wtf... Thanks
@melkerner9 ай бұрын
Hard to get out of this place when it is acknowledged that she won't return physical affection, will hold hands but always at a distance. Will not initiate touching, but will accept side hugs, peck kisses, but ZERO actual intimacy. Not arguing, sometimes says I love you, but refuses to kiss or be close. Been together 22 years, this has been growing slowly for 15+ years, less and less until nothing for the last 6-7 years. If it weren't for the kids...(adopted so post partum is not an issue - but overload and stress most likely are). Any date or alone time are consumed by discussions on the kids, functional discussion about what to do, when, etc.. or checked out with cell phone, browsing, reading, or TV. (Bored and numbed out - everything is focused on numb out - no real connection unless forced - then total check out afterwards) certainly avoidance of all intimacy beyond just hand holding - hand holding! (as if that is satisfying in marriage)
@utahmarriagecommission9 ай бұрын
Whew! I’m so sorry to hear all this. I’m sure you’re feeling not only frustrated, but isolated and a lack of real connection - for quite awhile now. Here’s a few thoughts. First, here’s a link to a free webinar I gave awhile back (kzbin.info/www/bejne/oJrVZIOHi7Kjgbc) where I share reasons (including many of the ones you mentioned in your comment) about why couples drift apart. Then I share a few tips on what couples can do to create connection. There are other free resources on our strongermarriage.org website. I also recommend looking for a good counselor. When this type of pattern is created (which is really common actually), it can be challenging to work through and change. I don’t know all of the dynamics, but I’m guessing when you approach and seek connection of any kind, she backs off a bit, so a cycle has formed. There could be all kinds of other things going on that I’m not aware of, health, mental health, physiological reasons (low hormones, energy, all contribute to lack of sex drive and desire for any type of closeness). Again, I’m so sorry about this frustrating situation that sounds like roommates instead of best friends and lovers. There is help and hope and all kinds of resources, including any books by John Gottman to read together. There are relationship and marriage education workshops, assessments, etc. Again, please visit strongermarriage.org for more information and tips!
@alexleggett6270Ай бұрын
Sorry to hear that you lost physical intimacy with your wife. I experienced this issue in past long term relationships and it become a problem that I became determined to solve. The way I handled it was I wrote a list called My 5 must haves for an amazing relationship This list was five things that were NOT negotiable. About 3 months into a relationship I would sit down with the girl I was dating and read the list out loud. I told them that If they were not ok with anything on the list then I'd prefer to go our separate ways and I would feel no ill will. If they are ok with my list I would gladly continue exploring the relationship with them. The 5 things are.... 1) Agreed upon conflict resolution protocol 2) We must have Sexual compatibility 3) We both must be curious about and research healthy relationship habits 4) Decide in advance how to part ways if it doesn't work out 5) We must know where we are going (Are we moving in together for example) (when is our next date?) etc... I discuss each in detail especially sexual compatibility which also includes physical intimacy I simply state that I don't date women that are not sexually compatible with me or begin to lose sexual compatibility over time. I calmy explain that a healthy sex life is a healthy and very important part of a relationship and that it serves as a barometer for the health of the relationship. If it begins to degrade over time that signals the relationship is no longer healthy and thriving and I dont remain in relationships that are not healthy and thriving. I make it a point to not shame or blame but rather state up front what I expect and give the women the opportunity to either stay, or leave. And I actually am happy with either scenario. If the woman stays then she is also interested in participating in keeping the relationship and sex at a healthy level. If the woman leaves then she can go find a partner she is more compatible with. Which means I will also find someone im more compatible with. Which means I get to have the healthy sex life no matter what. So this is a long way of saying that you need to state your expectations and boundaries and be willing to walk away. I understand you are in a bit of a different scenario because you've been married and have let this issue brew for far too long. These issues need to be talked about up front to make them most effective and less painful. So you will have to have a come to Jesus moment and decide if you are willing to walk away. It really comes down to that. I notice that women don't respect men who won't or can't walk away. And women can't love a man they don't respect. And if a women doesn't respect you she won't want to have sex anymore. Also keep in mind you can still enact different forms of walking away without divorce. You could go sleep at a hotel for a week. You could rebt another small house and live there. get some space between you and your wife whatever way works best for you. If she threatens you with divorce you'll have to be ready to call her bluff and come to realizeyour marriagemay have ended long ago. And honestly if it gets to that point I suggest going to see a therapist or counselor because you will need a support structure around you. If your wife doesn't want you to be happy if you bring up issues with her in a calm reasonable way way. Then it may be over. But things could also turn around and you and your wife may work it out just fine too. It could go either way. I hope for the latter. Good luck!
@createone1009 ай бұрын
None of these videos about bids for connection provide enough concrete examples of small bids. These are the glue that hold relationships together, or the knife that cuts them apart. I am still looking for a video that does a good job of explaining bids for connection.
@utahmarriagecommission9 ай бұрын
That is such an excellent point! What are some small bids that you envision as that glue?
@createone1009 ай бұрын
@@utahmarriagecommission Saying ‘good morning’, a kiss when your partner comes home or goes out, reaching for a hand, asking ‘can I bring you anything?’, looking out the car window and making an observation that actually gets a reply, a touch when your partner walks past, remembering what your partner especially likes, a little smile of acknowledgement across a room. There are so many opportunities in a day for these connections. But it is hard to sustain them when they go unreciprocated. Thanks for asking.
@annaperez73089 ай бұрын
Such a beautiful story of hope
@benkroff22059 ай бұрын
Sam and Ember, you are two beautiful humans. Thank you for doing the work and sharing it with us.
@sybilfisherable9 ай бұрын
Very very helpful!!!
@utahmarriagecommission9 ай бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@katrinabennett27599 ай бұрын
Amazzzzing!!!!!!
@utahmarriagecommission9 ай бұрын
We are so glad that you enjoyed this podcast episode!
@thelouiebrand10 ай бұрын
Well in Utah you can have multiple wives so your chance at success is much greater. Well, I guess failure as well. Lol
@saimadisetty580510 ай бұрын
God is good for keeping us together. God continue to bless me and my husband sai dutt madisetty. In Jesus name. Amen.
@bubblesbydiana119210 ай бұрын
Pregnant partner? Come on… absolutely no acknowledgment of womanhood.
@utahmarriagecommission9 ай бұрын
At the Utah Marriage Commission we seek to be welcoming to all people in their stage of life. We understand that this can be a divisive topic and so that is why in all of our videos we seek to acknowledge and celebrate marriages in whatever way they may look. Additionally, we want to celebrate woman and their roles as mothers and wives. Thank you for your comment and perspective shared on our channel.
@beccaproper482310 ай бұрын
Be quiet (don’t react when you’re upset) Be wrong (admit your fault) Feel loved Get loved (go somewhere that you are unconditionally loved, not as a victim, but to know who you are, be safe) Do something loving