"Martin Asks Anything" 😂

It tends to run in families. I just want peace & a good normal life 😂. I’ve been slow learning how to either have teeth & speak up or distance from problematic people. little unnecessary things DO add up…thank God for my more contemplative content life now, as kindness alone has limitations, in the face of ingrained agendas.

this did not help all it said was hypnosis like bruh bfr

Earplugs

Overcoming it by moving out and never EVER living under someone else again.

thank you...thank you again for your time for teaching us....i really appreciate it...i learned from you..may god help you more

This has been the most informative and practical video yet. To the point and into a solution. Just having people validate the problem, even in the comment section, brings some relief. I've suspected that it has something to do with loneliness, and vulnerability, and depression by extension. I also don't like being heard. I practice singing and I'm always conscious of being heard. Even if I do it anyway, I always sense a tightness in my body even at a micro level. I never quite enjoy myself. I really struggle with repetitive noises. Door slamming is one of the worst sounds ever , if ever someone wanted a confession out of me that would be the trigger. I jump out of my skin. I live in a building with 20 units per floor, sigh...

Okay but how do you know the logistics of the relationship? What if she was sending inapprpriate pictures and flirting with that "childhood friend" ? She couldve very easily lied to make herself not be the bad guy

Thank you👍👍

This is the first time anyone explained what happen to my body while I was in psychosis and schizophrenic

A few years ago I had a rapid weight gain for no reason. Before that, I had been slim my whole life. I tried all the diets and nothing worked. Then I came across Medical Medium books where he talks about rapid, unexplained weight gain being caused by a messed up liver. I tried his cleanse and I started losing weight almost right away! The liver is an overlooked reason for weight gain in many people. If you gain weight because you eat a bad diet then eating healthier helps however this was not the issue in my case.

Injun stuff. No harm intended. You know. Ojibwe. Chippewa. :))

You could also help them learn to deal with criticism, because they might had a bad teacher and learned the whole concept wrong.

THIS VIDEO DRIVES ME NUTS!!!!

I’ve lied about my education plans, and the progress that I made. To catch up to those education plans and fulfill them in a timely manner, i lied about being laid off from my regular work hours and that i’m on casual. I lie every day that i claim i’m at work. I’ve lied about a friend of mine in Washington and claimed they are a different, older friend of mine I lost touch with. I hate it. I can’t stop. I want to stop. But if they assume everything’s okay, nobody will be mad. They won’t judge me for my history of laziness. For my lack of drive. For taking so long to get my shit together.

I dont get the third tip

Someone should ask Trump this question

100% my mum. She is 87 and I’m 56 and I didn’t know until I went into therapy that she was narcissistic, but when I began putting boundaries in place, oh boy the rage and anger from her and then the victim playing was off the scale. My sister in law has the same trait, everyone thinks she’s wonderful but my brother says you can’t say no to her as “the attitude” starts. He’s basically married our mum and so the cycle begins again as I can now see these traits in their daughter.

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Thank you for this video, it helps me a lot. I'm going through something. Yet when he said nothing is permanent, it was enlightening and freeing. I believe there are things that I need to accept when things don't go out my way. Thank you.. I'm much better than what I'm thinking negatively about myself. I'm the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.

Thank you for this video. I am in my first long term relationship and I became aware that my jealousy and not trusting my partner has affected our relationship so much and I don't let myself enjoy the fun things about a relationship. My jealousy and insecurities roots from the friendships I lost and people talking shit about me, making up stories about me back in middle school. I lost friends because they did not want to associate themselves with me because they felt that they were going to be hated on for hanging out with me. This has affected me so much that I would be jealous of my boyfriend having girl friends because I am scared that he would leave me like those friends did. I am scared that he would get bored of me, find someone more attractive and more fun to be around than me. I really want to overcome this feeling of insecurity and jealousy. I really appreciate this video. It really helped.

wow. thank you sir. i feel a little better now.

Door banging driving me crazy. And it’s so depressing.

This is definitely correct. Most can take criticism. Narcissists feel as though they are perfect.

I am just wondering. How do you know if the reaction isn't a form or PTSD because of constant bullying over a number of years? Couldn't they just be reactive because they are in a fight or flight mode due to PTSD? I'm not defending the Narcissist, it's just that, I get defensive due to being bullied a lot over the years. Now if the critisim is warranted, I will own it, but if I feel like it is unwarranted, I can get extremely defensive. How can you tell the difference?

I’ve been doing since I was a child. To the point I bleed. I hate it and when it’s bad, my coping doesn’t work (guitar, video games, playing with worry beads) It’s honestly even screwed up romantic relationships. If they don’t know me well, they think I’m screwed up or even have herpes. I’ve tried anti-anxiety meds, and I don’t like them even on/off I use substances. So not only is it risky if I get hooked, but I don’t get relaxed from taking them. I honestly don’t know what to do. It has ruined some relationships because when I would abuse stuff, it would get worse. So even when I’d be sober, it would still happen, causing people to think I was crazy or under the influence

Reminds me of Vegeta from DBZ. "You say I'm arrogant, I say damn right! That's pride!"

Donald Trump-malignant narcissist & Dark Triad personality traits.

narcissist's have a tendency to not like me. I didn't know this until I was in my 50s.

I'm a really bad person i hate myself i have broken many people trust including my former best friend because of my lying habits he still accepts me but i hate myself i haven't been able to gain a single person in my life that i haven't lied to. Mostly because it involves some kind of benefits from people. I stick with people with people only to gain their aattention and trust. im not smart enough but smart enough to take advantage of them. Sometimes blackmail them or scam them or to gain small favours from them i hate myself.i thumbs*ck till now and act innocent when my parents find out what i have done. I really like to take advantage of people innocence ,make them submissive sometimes. It gives me sense of superiority now it has gone out of my hands. I manipulate people as easily as breathing air and leave them with a broken heart which will never heal again iam ashamed.i will never ever take advantage of someone again . I scammed a girl who used to be my friend, i saw her crying to herself. Even hell has no place for me .

The pursuit of attaining happiness perceives lack.

Not every criticism comes from a qualified source. The important thing lies in the conversation and this is criticism. Most people i have met in life can't even engage in a meaningful conversation. Or a respectful one. It could be because they mostly show interest in themselves. And not others. Just because you are fast to criticize this doesn't automatically mean you've got the full picture. It doesn't automatically mean that you are right. It could mean you are in fact the narcissist. It could mean you are a creep spying on people in their homes. Watching as they suffer from radiation (laser) torture.

Covert narcissists would rather use silent treatment, passive-agressive behavior, gaslighting and finding a way to break one's self image. I've never seen a covert narcissist go in rage, only when they realize someone has discovered who they truly are. Which is why so often people can spend months and years thinking they are the problem. Even self-esteem is not as important as self-image, the root factor of self-value, and self-worth and self-confidence. Self-esteem is just the end of a circle.

there's another easy approach, lead the conversation in on self development, the narc will already there start to show signs of being lost, and then at some point launch the question, "what would you say you'd need to improve with yourself to become a better person?".. here you may get shallow replies based on income, material stuff, looks, etc. but the highest level narcs will laugh and state that they're perfect, even possibly state that they're better than you, and everyone else..

you can also be malicious criticizer and provoke someone to react, and push blame on him

Pre-existing mood, mental state and occupation are bigger factors than personality. If I'm feeling good about life I can handle criticism and learn from it. But if I'm feeling lousy I'll react badly. Also some occupations like acting or being on TV - reward prima donna behaviour. It depends on what you are doing [or failing to do] and how you are mentally than on who you are. Better hallmarks of true narcissism are being controlling and manipulative of others to get what they want. example. Ask them if something unimportant is true or not - they will be inclined to not answer by saying something like - "John says its true". They evade personal responsibility by passing it off onto someone else - at work this will be a junior, a senior or an advisor - never themselves. I suppose what I am saying is they cannot handle being called out on something - remember "they know everything and they are always right".

100% true. Spot on.

Some of your words seem to be cut out on purpose. Pity Im sure it was something nice

If U are live that will be great 😔

Hi I may did some bad thinks I stole my uncle's money 😭

How do you measure "self-esteem"? Stuck? I thought so. Self-esteem is a construct, and is unmeasurable. It's a hollow catch phrase. I need 2:13 of my life back having wasted it on this video. By the way as an educator for four decades I observed useless counsellors spend their days trying to label students rather than helping them, and I grew very tired of it.

I like the visualization techniques.

Very helpful just now to have run across this Thank you for being short and concise.

You will occasionaly see two narcissists having a long clown fight in Utube comments, with each one trying to have the last insulting word. Very entertaining to watch.

I’m a proud narcissist. And I admit to lashing out if challenged…..but only to those I deem inferior. If you’re my intellectual equal or superior, I will accept your criticism.

Is narcissism becoming the dead horse that we keep on kicking? Negligent, complicit, and complacent people is a far greater pandemic today than narcissism and with more severe ramifications. If the sheep would stop voting election day no narcissists would have power.

This is good advice unfortunately it doesn't work with all narcissists.... Some narcopaths are putting on the image of a saint and they never show their true feelings. Those narcs just keep harboring their resentment against you and planning some horrible revenge which could be extremely damaging. After a long time they can unexpectedly turn into a demon and you have no idea what caused the switch. I know this from personal experience...😢

Thank you, Mark.

Do you really have to identify a narcissist though? I would say their pretty easy to spot. At least in my experience.

The "N" word often goes by the term: exceptionalism.