Hi Cairn, I love what you said here and really appreciate your words about what I'm doing. It sounds like we share some values! I find it tempting to slip into cynicism and a sense of hopelessness at certain things, but I definitely share your belief that things can work out for the better, and I see the way we process things and express ourselves as contributing factors to the kind of world that will emerge in time. Really appreciate you!

I am not surprised at all. I'm glad I never read it as a kid!

Yeah, I can see that happening - selling access to ai using their artists' music.

Thanks Cairn, I really appreciate that. I love this book so much - great to meet someone else who is drawn to these ideas. I see you're into music too - massive part of ritual for me!

It was an absolute joy to have you on, Lizzie! Loved our chat (and getting to listen again when putting the episode together!)

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Thanks Donna, I'm so glad you enjoyed it - and that I decided to add the images (that was a bit of a late decision!)

👏ha very good! Coaches coaching coaches to coach coaches to be coaches. Those at the top of the pyramid can afford golden broaches. Unlike most.

Oh that's really cool! I can imagine that taught you a huge amount about listening/communicating at depth.

Great to hear from you Greg! Absolutely - sensitivity is such a vital (and normal) part of our collective survival and flourishing

@@thegentlerebelthe information your putting will help younger men.

"There will always be more beginners than experts" - yes! It's nice identifying who you DON'T need to speak to/impress/attract. I'm coming to a similar place - I just need to be for people I want to help, support, be with. Oh yeah, you DEFINITELY know what you're doing when you're in your ice photographing flow.

Yes, that's very interesting and common! I felt that happen in my undertaking too - a kind of desensitisation where you become numb to the human experience. Partly a coping mechanism for overstimulation to emotional/sensory stimulation and partly mere exposure.

Oh wow, yes! I've not known of ant death spirals before. Lost in a loop. Terrifyingly familiar!

Yeah, it´s the perfect treadmill. This is what happens when the instinct's limited behavioral repertoire encounters unforeseen problems. Don´t be silly, kids- you have so much more potential than imitating others, which don´t have a clue either (26:51).

Thanks Don, I really appreciate that

Ha I definitely relate to that! I wonder what they would have thought if we had got out and into the next one. They'd have probably followed us, thinking we'd seen something wrong with the one that we were in (not realising the thing was them!) 😂

Thanks Angie, Im glad you think so! It has become a bit of an unhelpful trend in my view.

I agree 100%. I'm all for looking on the bright side but when it veers towards bypassing...@@thegentlerebel

Thanks so much, Heinrich! I'm really glad you found it affirming and helpful for your program. Sounds like you're doing great things. I'd love to hear more sometime. Feel free to drop me a message through my website if you like! (andymort.com)

Absolutely! Beautifully put. Aesthetics without soul.

So glad that speaks to you, Donna! I am so into all of that. Resonated deeply!

My understanding is that mixed states are situational responses. A cocktail of primary states used to meet the biological imperative of safety in the present moment. If the autonomic nervous system senses a threat, it mobilises the defensive reactions required to confront it. We have a dominant defensive state (sympathetic or shutdown) which I believe is the state the nervous system found most conducive to feeling safe in our early years. It seems that defensive mixed states are different cocktails the autonomic nervous system creates to respond to situations where it can't run/fight/hide. Which is where the appeasement and fawning seem to sit. If we are stuck in a defensive state (protective feedback loop), the nervous system is unable to recognise/connect with safe environments/people so will seek and sense threats instead even when doing things we want to do. That's why there is an emphasis on reshaping the nervous system to anchor in a state of connection before anything else. When we are anchored in connection, we have more control over using those other primary states in ways that assist our personal goals and intentions, without tipping over into them completely. From connection, we can start to reshape the protection patterns that are stopping us from doing what we want to do.

Thanks Monica. I don't quite follow what this refers to. Please do clarify (I think I missed something!)

Thanks Monica!

Thanks! Oh I know - it sounds far too grown up. Not ready for that yet!

Amazing, thank you so much! I’m glad you did too

Thanks Nancy! Glad you enjoyed it.

Ahh that’s so great to hear! I’m really glad that made sense. That damn grimace 😅

Aww that’s so great to hear! Thanks for letting me know! 😅

@@thegentlerebel We are doing great!😅 Glad their are others😉

So very true!🙃

Thanks Sonia! Yes, that's exactly it! I'm glad it made sense to you 😀

Thanks, Donna! That's so nice to hear! Glad it helped take the song further for you too!

Thank you so much. Really glad this landed so well with you!