As well as the difference between urgency and importance.

Unfortunately, many of us adults were raised to manage our parents emotions. They didn't have the capacity to allow us freedom to express ours... many of us had to suppress them for decades until we got to a place to develop a language for emotion, discover our unintegrate parts, and experience our nervous system/attunement and create space for ourselves and others to process thru emotions🤗. Thank you, neuroscience community... Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Mate, Pete Walker, Melody Black, Pia Melody, John Bradshaw, Bessel van der Kolk, Dick Schwartz...

BTW- I got to this place in my journey thru AA! My sponsor recommended I watch The Great Santini! I realized my sponsor was concerned for me and had compassion knowing I was raised in a similar environment as the screen writers experience. I was sober long enough in AA and eventually open minded long enough to make it to an ACOA meeting and hear them read about the inner child (my parts) and reparenting (self nurturing/protecting)which then got me curious about CPTSD Therapy and attending EMDR, EGO State work. I'm almost three years into treatment for my childhood CPTSD. I hope every parent can develop healthy attachment Gordon Neufeld promotes! 😊

Because you heard something that touched your heart and helped you to let out those pent-up tears.

You’re right. I just realized I were missing so much during my childhood and adolescent life. I felt sorry for myself as a younger child. How lonely and how lost that child was without even knowing it back then.

Hi Ruo Yang, thank you for your heartfelt and inspirational insights. I was pleasantly surprised to see the Chinese idiom "拔苗助长" in the comments, which fits perfectly in this context. I watched a full conference session today titled "The Natural Roots of Empathy" on this channel and came away with many valuable takeaways. In our modern society, we are often prone to focus on result and are tempted to put form before spirit. This not only backfires but also leaves lasting effects on an individual’s well-being and negatively impacts society as a whole. I also feel deeply grateful for Dr. Neufeld's work in empowering us to become intentional and mindful "gardeners" who nurture the natural development of children. By cultivating an environment bathed in the sunlight of loving relationships, we help them grow with caring hearts, ultimately developing the capacity for empathy and the ability to bless the lives of others. 希望能有机会和你更多地交流🧡

The amygdala, the processing part of the brain for emotion (part of the limbic system) sends messages to the lacrimal glands, which release the tears. Thank you for your question!

There's a link the notes below the video

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Hello Sonny, I think you have missed the point about dependency. I was a career school teacher, working with almost 1000 young children. I can tell you that Neufeld means that we, as any meaningful adults in a child's life, need to be there when our children need us, when they feel unsure of themselves. When they know that we are there, even if we are in the background, this dependency, even at a distance, gives children the confidence to go forward and explore their world. When the meaningful adults do not comfort their child who is feeling tired, afraid, unsure of themselves, the child will usually withdraw, feeling fearful and even rejected. Really take time to watch children and you will see this.