What is a Fantasy Bond?
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@Horse_Milk33
@Horse_Milk33 19 сағат бұрын
NJ drones brought me here The EGG guy
@KingShotgunHobo
@KingShotgunHobo Күн бұрын
I did step 1. i did step 2. currently working on step 3.
@ryanmarable2195
@ryanmarable2195 7 күн бұрын
What?! 😂
@youshallnotpass2140
@youshallnotpass2140 9 күн бұрын
So those of us who have been shamed and abused since early childhood are basically screwed...
@rhondamathis1323
@rhondamathis1323 10 күн бұрын
Lamotrogine
@rhondamathis1323
@rhondamathis1323 10 күн бұрын
What he said
@BrainLicker-c3n
@BrainLicker-c3n 10 күн бұрын
Going through this myself in therapy it's so right it hurts
@bigbang259
@bigbang259 11 күн бұрын
You are not as right as you think you are. 1. For animals is not like one golden medal. No, generally it's enough to have just one or two in your pack who is worse who is weaker and who will be a victim so everyone else survives so no it's not one medal it's rather everyone except one 2. Some animal freeze. But not because they are terrified, not so clever man. This is because predators are less much less likely will eat something that doesn't fight back. Fighting back against a predator makes sense only if you have chances to fight that predator. But if something cannot fight back I mean cannot win the fight and also cannot escape then pretending notliving is the best strategy because predators don't like corpse
@sylvie5894
@sylvie5894 11 күн бұрын
I wish more was discussed about how to actually heal rather than philosophizing about it please.
@marissalyons6685
@marissalyons6685 14 күн бұрын
What is the book she is speaking about?
@vivvpprof
@vivvpprof 14 күн бұрын
It's a stunning contrast between the comments under this video and other fragments of the interview, where most people say stuff like "Oh yeah, this is me!! It's so hard to live with this!" or "This was my ex! She/He was so hard to live with" or "That's what my parents have done to me!". It's easy to self-diagnose with attachment styles to validate the feeling that you have it hard in life. Here, on the other hand, nobody's relating. 🤔🤔
@truthseekertree
@truthseekertree 15 күн бұрын
Avoid Sally Riggs, she was charging $8,000 to desperate long COVID patients, then telling them not to stress out. Lol. She suddenly quit her business, and became a disability travel agent. I'm sure she won't take advantage of that population either.
@ambrosia9
@ambrosia9 19 күн бұрын
******* The abuse of Intelligence gathering******** During the 1980's my father, a filipino navy recruiter married a black woman, my mother. We resided overseas on Clark Airforce Base and due to internal biases with intelligence we were not provided immediate base housing. Instead we had to reside in the provinces until federal intelligence could coordinate with the military in house us in a particular fashion. The neighboring duplex was selected based on the dynamic of our family.A filipino man, a black woman and their bi-racial child next to a dominant black nuclear family was carefully arranged to observe the interactions. Both my parents both were assigned remote inner ear communicators that allowed them to receive very specific instructions that would be influential in later having federal analyst influence a customized homicide. At the age of 6 year old I would be secretly evaluated by federal intelligence on the campus of WEISTMEISTER ELEMENTARY. My father would also follow inner ear communications to place me in neglectful situations. One situation in particular placed me alone with a strange man who would be under instructions to lay back on a folded cot and anticipate my response behavior. This would assist federal intelligence in helping the filipino navy recruiter disassociate himself from the black wife and child. Federal intelligence who instructed the navy personnel to leave the child in the room allow so that "analyst will research study the response behavior of a 6 year old who was exposed to a strange man's penis. The verbal exchange/ conversation between the 6 year old and strange man enraged the analyst who considered the 6 year old incestuously attracted to the filipino navy recruiter. The child avoided homicide malpractice while under anesthesia the surgeon attempted to conduct a random sex change to remove the child's genitalia without intial consulting before the procedure. This would have resulted in shock, confusion & self destructive behavior. However the attempt was avoided and federal intelligence immediate contacted the U.S and began preparing the marital affair for the Navy recruiter. On the couple's return from the Philippines the filipino navy guy was provided the follow narrative to be repeated: " THATS NOT MY KID, THATS YOUR CHILD" Both parents having inner ear communications allowed federal intelligence to intrude on their bedside manner and control the conversation between the couple. The couple returned to the United States and the Navy guy continued to receive remote communications to bring the 9 year old to SEE NOTICE OBSERVE the new navy office. The child and the mother would go on drive and the navy guy would be provided the opportunity to cheat with a younger blonde mistress. When the affair was happening , federal intelligence immediately accessed the assigned inner ear communicator of the wife and informed her to drive back in a direction where she would catch her husband having a marital affair with the younger mistress. *** THIS RACIALLY INTIMIDATING EVENTS WAS PLANNED BY A BIGOTED, DECEPTIVE SADISTIC WOMAN ( WOMEN) WHO ENJOY COORDINATING RACIALLY INTIMIDATING SCENARIOS SPECIFICALLY FOR THE BLACK WOMAN AND THE CHILD SHE HAD WITH THE FILIPINO GUY***** The couple divorced and federal intelligence seized the opportunity to use intelligence gathering to select specific details through the child's development & adolescence to perpetuate a lie that the child was a potential threat to other white children. This was due to federal intelligence arranging the father to meet and remarry his younger blonde mistress. ( THIS WOMAN OR WOMEN INVOLVED HAVE SHOWN YEARS OF BIAS AND CIVIL RIGHTS VIOLATIONS THROUGH THE USE OF FEDERAL INTELLIGENCE GATHERING WITH A DISREGARD TO HUMAN LIFE) The filipino navy recruiter's family would participate in also following remote inner ear communications to also racially intimidate the child by positioning a photo of the navy guys new family. This was positioned for viewers, especially the child to also be racially intimidating similarly the way the mother was when federal intelligence accessed her inner ear communicator to catch the affair so that the woman or WOMEN can NOTICE OBSERVE their strategic approach to effectively traumatize a black woman unable to defend herself from the abuse of intelligence gather carefully coordinated to do harm and degrade humiliate the black woman they originally resented overseas on CLARK AIRFORCE BASE. ------ The above events took place before the internet was created ------- The filipino man remarry his younger mistress while his family participates in following inner ear communications defile influence the child the agency attempted to homicide by trying to remove the negro child's genitalia. The intention was to cause shock, confusion and self destructive behavior. The ex-wife still receiving federal intelligence remote instructions unaware that she is receiving instructions from the same agency who attempted to murder her child, help her husband cheat and who caused her divorce. The ex-wife single mother still follows specific instructions since the early 80's. After years of abusing intelligence gathering for the purpose to murder the child they wanted dead on Clark Airforce Base. United States Intelligence coordinates an extreme form of charades to have the victim SEE NOTICE OBSERVE presented activity so the victim will question, wonder and assume what is happening without the participants or analysts confirming , denying but anticipating what the victim will think or assume. By inflicting paranoia and provoking thoughts and assumptions, this operation-program that involved app developers hackers and hidden surveillance also pretends acts presents false impressions by mirroring the victims behavior, mirroring the victims laptop cellphone platform to form various ways to mentally emotionally traumatize the victim. * hacking * hidden surveillance * inner ear communication/ spy/ eavesdropping ( BY SECRETLY LISTENING TO PHONE CALLS THE AGENCY CAN DETERMINE THE UNSPOKEN INTENT OF EACH INDIVIDUAL THEY LISTEN TO / LISTENING FOR BULLSHIT, LIES) * coordinating public form of charades * coordinating online content in suggestive ways to steer influence bait the mind to form its on answers * forming media in ways to patronize the victim ( YOU WANT TO BE FAMOUS/ YOU ARE SPECIAL BULLSHIT) * slight forms of agitation that others with inner ear communicators follow from the analyst who attempted homicide, racial intimidation and caused a couples divorce. This misconduct and civil rights violations since 1981 has been proven by app developers cyber professionals who refer to the victim as an N-word derogatorily. THE INTENT TO TRAUMATIZE CONFUSE AND INFLUENCE SELF DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR. Michael Quijano of San Antonio, Texas received assistance to cheat and place a child in neglectful situations for federal intelligence to express their own internal biases.
@omalone1169
@omalone1169 27 күн бұрын
I thought it was shame?
@RobertRyan-q7b
@RobertRyan-q7b 27 күн бұрын
I had challenges in my relationship, but thanks to Father abulu, my partner came back to me and now I'm happy with my family!
@1937D
@1937D 27 күн бұрын
Withcompliments
@DontBurnTheAmericanFlag
@DontBurnTheAmericanFlag Ай бұрын
Aww, the poor little baby men in the comments threatened by a woman with intelligence. Pathetic. Do something with your lives instead of crapping on other people.
@porkchoppeaches
@porkchoppeaches Ай бұрын
Amazing. Thank u
@dl7423
@dl7423 Ай бұрын
guy is truly ignorant beyond comprehension
@natoslayer2907
@natoslayer2907 Ай бұрын
Intimacy means love. And love is easy to develop a fear of loss with because it feels so good. And when you fear to lose something you are no longer free. You become a prisoner of your desire to retain what you have. The root of it is the human desire for autonomy. I think for many people autonomy is more important than love, happiness, and pleasure. The only way for love to be compatible with people who put a high value on their autonomy is for them to be with a partner that makes them feel more powerful and free than they would feel alone.
@caterinadelgalles8783
@caterinadelgalles8783 Ай бұрын
How do I do that, Vlad? 😊
@AdamWEST-yu2os
@AdamWEST-yu2os Ай бұрын
It's not about the patient. It's about making everyone else feel better.
@AshleyQuijano-p9o
@AshleyQuijano-p9o Ай бұрын
The intelligence surveillance being used to Inflict paranoia and trauma originated when my father, a Filipino Navy Recruiter was stationed overseas in the Philippines on Clark Airforce Base Philippines during the 1980s. After federal Intelligence was able to arrange my father's marital affair which resulted my parents divorce. I am now experiencing the presence of intelligence activity and pre-meditated psychological tactics which started in 2019. The controlled surrounding activity involves remote communication through others, hidden surveillance, hacking and Eavesdropping. Without physical confrontation from analyst who originally instructed others to place me in neglectful situations at the age of 6 years old. This when I avoided Homicidal malpractice while under anesthesia. The intent was to conduct a sex change operation without consulting me so it would result in shock and confusion. Today federal Intelligence presents controls the surrounding activity after years of familiarizing themselves with my behavior patterns. This agency begins to psychologically induce behaviors responses phobias by presenting images, situations and narratives to mentally emotionally provoke me. *** THESE APPROACHES ARE PRESENTED LIKE AN EXTREME FORM OF PUBLIC CHARADES GUESSING GAME**** By presenting planning or a staging situations. Federal Intelligence begins to establish a fake false sense of security safety and trust, very similar to how the agency established a fake bond with my father, Michael Quijano, a Filipino Navy Recruiter who received various remote covert instructions overseas. When he was provided the opportunity to cheat on his marriage. Federal Intelligence analyst would have formed a pattern or familiarized themselves with my father's behavior without ever meeting or confronting him. Our federal Intelligence agency covert surveillance and communications was to entice reel bait my father into cheating with a younger mistress by fake bond relationship established through the previous instructions tasks he received. TODAY FEDERAL INTELLIGENCE REVEALED THEIR PRESENCE TO CAUSE SHOCK, PARANOIA AND MENTAL TRIGGERS AS A PRE-MEDITATED OPERATION THAT IS CONTAINED SO THAT FEDERAL GOVERNMENT WHO ENABLED BEHAVIOR EARLY NOW BECOMES THE REPRIMANDER TODAY. THEMED OPERATION CAREFULLY CONSTRUCTED PLANNED AFTER INFLUENCING HOMICIDE MALPRACTICE, MU FATHER'S MARITAL AFFAIR, DIVORCE, RACIAL INTIMIDATE, HACKING AND EAVESDROPPING TO ALSO EVALUATE ASSESSE ME IN HOW TO EFFECTIVELY TRAUMATIZE AND INFLUENCE SELF DESTRUCTIVE BEHAVIOR WITHOUT ONE INDIVIDUAL FROM INTELLIGENCE FBI OR LAW ENFORCEMENT CONFRONTATING ME. THIS MISCONDUCT HAS TAKEN PLACE SINCE FEDERAL INTELLIGENCE OVERSEAS COMMUNICATED TO THE U.S IN PREPARING PLANNING MY FATHER'S MARITAL AFFAIR. ***" Isolated since 2019 to apply various psychological techniques and hacking ability with today's modernized technology ( wifi streaming)***** ****At 6 years old federal Intelligence who displayed extreme prejudice during the 1980s has continued to pre-meditate non-confrontational techniques leading up to 2019 Co-Vid 19 pandemic*** *Allowing the victim to notice observe derogatory hints and suggestive references to cause paranoia anxiety *
@LANOfMilk
@LANOfMilk Ай бұрын
😭😭😭
@NacidosparaLuchar
@NacidosparaLuchar Ай бұрын
great video, Dr. Siegel! your insights on emotional balance are really enlightening. however, i can't help but think that the idea of achieving complete emotional balance might be a bit idealistic. isn't it more about learning to navigate through our emotions rather than trying to balance them perfectly? what do you all think?
@dejaesn
@dejaesn Ай бұрын
Maybe this is the explanation for how BPS has so many expressions.
@lukerodrigues6955
@lukerodrigues6955 Ай бұрын
Wow, I'm totally fucked.
@DevoidVoid
@DevoidVoid Ай бұрын
Real . Honestly gaining self awareness and insight is half the battle
@noblevision2024
@noblevision2024 Ай бұрын
Follow the buddha he is the one who interpret about living in this moment very clearly
@Jamiet-lk8xq
@Jamiet-lk8xq 2 ай бұрын
My son is screwed.
@nitirajdaby2554
@nitirajdaby2554 2 ай бұрын
He explained it better than my Professor ! Teaching is definitely an art !
@beastlifestyle163
@beastlifestyle163 2 ай бұрын
Childhood sexual abuse is interlinked with homosexuality
@Unknown-x2n4g
@Unknown-x2n4g 2 ай бұрын
I have an ongoing case with the district of spokane washington district court, where i have seen habitual behavior that individuals of intent have put off per se my case over a year and four months of learned fear. These individuals are not stupid but believe i am. And thus they treat me and other minorities with threat and imptudence. Thank you jerks for teaching me that i will never succeed accourding to your limited mind activity and manipulation. You are the cause of evil in this place, around the world and you placate my intelligence.
@aquarious2468
@aquarious2468 2 ай бұрын
Brilliant teacher
@CameliaWeisenburger
@CameliaWeisenburger 2 ай бұрын
TLC waterfalls
@axewieldingmilena
@axewieldingmilena 2 ай бұрын
My last 10 people I've dated have been so afraid of the love I have given the. And that makes me so angry. Why are people so afraid of my love? And my love is healthy. It's nothing toxic or obsessive. Just normal regular love and I don't understand why they get so scared of that since isn't love what we want more of in life? Especially in this hard cruel world?
@4seasons546
@4seasons546 2 ай бұрын
This mans micro & not so micro expressions of pleasure as he describes men abusing women is suspect / telling. Seems perverse.
@Don-v1n
@Don-v1n 3 ай бұрын
How to stop a father who cannot control his sexual desires in his mind towards his own daughter while he constantly denies it?
@TVSoaps-c8n
@TVSoaps-c8n 3 ай бұрын
Feel sorry for the kids
@tt1899
@tt1899 3 ай бұрын
I couldn't really name ,what happened to me,but now it makes sense.I just dont't how to get better from using dissociation daily as a child and lived for almost 40 years in this half conscious mind and being suicidal most of my life but it feels better to learning about it.
@kenabyss-000
@kenabyss-000 3 ай бұрын
its weird how the refer to the ideation as a voice..
@amandamassyn7227
@amandamassyn7227 3 ай бұрын
This opens so much for me! This is freedom from such pain. There is hope. Thank you, Dan.❤
@williamkarl-gustafmoller8492
@williamkarl-gustafmoller8492 3 ай бұрын
If a man asks his girlfriend "what is it about me that drew you to me?" And the grilfriend answers "I like the way you make me feel." The man would be wise to conclude that the answer given is entriely a self-referential answer. - - However the fantasy bond can be so strong that, again, form become more important than function. However dysfunction doesn't scale well.
@NicolePutur
@NicolePutur 3 ай бұрын
Same 😂
@LastEarBender
@LastEarBender 3 ай бұрын
Yes - and each had a different theory of who I was. My father was great until the first time I expressed an opinion that didn't echo his own - after that point, it was rare to ever have positive interactions with him. On the other hand, my mother constantly babied me, which I absolutely resented.
@tinokshenishba
@tinokshenishba 3 ай бұрын
And to fathom that there was an entire generation raised by mothers who held to the gospel of letting a baby cry it out. This alone would explain the state of society as it is.
@CoverdaleDon-n2g
@CoverdaleDon-n2g 3 ай бұрын
Maggio Hills
@sylviamonroee
@sylviamonroee 3 ай бұрын
not the men here hating on gilligan lmao
@PaulBoyd-s9l
@PaulBoyd-s9l 3 ай бұрын
Clementine Summit
@JeanneHornak-v1j
@JeanneHornak-v1j 3 ай бұрын
Scotty Place
@Counselingtherapyonline
@Counselingtherapyonline 3 ай бұрын
Mindfulness training can be immensely powerful for the treatment of anxiety, depression and other forms of emotional stress, especially when you learn how to meditate on the thoughts and emotional reactions that create stress.
@GalbraithMike-y5t
@GalbraithMike-y5t 3 ай бұрын
Robel Green