I was the kind of kid that wanted my autonomy. More than anything else. In order to get away I moved across the continent.

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Very useful tips, thank you!

Mindfulness in DBT, weekly Diary cards or logs, can help with mindfulness and increasing self-awareness. EMDR for triggering memories and memories maladaptively stored, multiple channels to process. All can help

You are right in this. My mother causes me the biggest frustration. I hate my NPD father and grandma, so I don't care about them, only emotion I have towards them is kind of a kill instinct (which I'll never act upon). But my mothers feels totally okay with the fact she never ever done anything.

I'm 50 but like a scared child. I'm alone and just feel the need to be cared for I'm so anxious and depressed all the time. I have nobody, no interests no work and severe social anxiety that stops me going anywhere. I feel stuck and have no will to live. I identify with this.

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6:35 it's an issue for friends and family but what about the individual actually dealing with grieving the pain of the traumas. My personal experience with this is that it leaves me feeling like a burden because I have no choice but to heal and deal with the flashbacks and processing of multiple countless traumas yet my behavior or lack thereof is labeled as an issue. As a child the trauma was so severe it altered my development and mental well being brain chemistry etc a child is not emotional mature enough to process complex traumas when they are barely even in school and have begun basic learning. Survival patterns are created until the person is mature enough to to process the state that have been left in. Not to mention that some traumas are naturally mental suppressed for preservation of self and life. Which a child can adapt a sense of dissociation before they even realize that it is happening. This mechanism continuing into adult hood when the brain is too overwhelmed to deal with life. Not only did I have to live through my trauma as a child and survive but now I have to deal with remembering it or digging it up all over again so that I can heal the inner wound within myself that are causing unhealthy relationships and connections. This is my personal experience and I can barely manage dealing with this and not having the urge to unalive myself based on the natural premise that I'm in so much pain I want to end the suffering. If I or my healing is an inconvenience/issue for anyone they may leave my life. I most likely don't need the extra pressure to be something I am not to please another person. People need to accept people where they are and maybe try to offer more support/compassion instead of placing their healing on a timeline and setting unrealistic expectations on someone who probably is doing their best to survive just like everybody else. Not meant to be insulting and I'm not upset purely hoping to discuss hard subject matter that most won't. I am safe. Thank you for your content.

3:20 occured through me in adoption.

There's an interesting pdf chapter online by Nancy McWilliams phd from her book. The chapter titled is Masochistic (Self-Defeating) Personality Disorder. Easy to find online. The book is Psychoanalytic Analysis. I find narc parents cause this in people.

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You had mentioned sexual abuse being the main cause of disorganized attachment. Could severe emotional abuse be enough to cause disorganized attachment?

How is emotional flashback different than a trigger?

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Thanks very much for this video 😊 much of this rings true. As a result of my autonomy developmental trauma I find it very difficult making choices. Choosing a partner. Choosing a career. Choosing whether or not to get out of bed! Pretty much everything. Please could you offer any further advice? One video I watched suggested the only way to tackle this is through intimate relationships. But I can't choose a partner! Any help would be massively appreciated. Thank you 😊

Excellent!

Thank you so much for this video! I appreciate that you listed our symptoms that I could name and improve.

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Oh goodness. This one is my brother all day long. We are trying, again, to form a relationship. We want to have one but 90% of what we have in common is the abuse. I’m so over it and at 50 he can’t even begin to work on it. Ultimately I think we will remain estranged and make contact maybe every 5 years or so but he really wants “family”. Maybe someday down the road you could cover how the siblings of trauma can have a relationship post trauma.

This is me, so much of it.

I think I am a chameleon type...

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