I was the kind of kid that wanted my autonomy. More than anything else. In order to get away I moved across the continent.
@zahraaa.n.77448 ай бұрын
this is great video... please make more videos
@jorgeascenciophoto Жыл бұрын
Very useful tips, thank you!
@paulgutierrez6236 Жыл бұрын
Mindfulness in DBT, weekly Diary cards or logs, can help with mindfulness and increasing self-awareness. EMDR for triggering memories and memories maladaptively stored, multiple channels to process. All can help
@Thysta Жыл бұрын
You are right in this. My mother causes me the biggest frustration. I hate my NPD father and grandma, so I don't care about them, only emotion I have towards them is kind of a kill instinct (which I'll never act upon). But my mothers feels totally okay with the fact she never ever done anything.
@justinebourke9449 Жыл бұрын
I'm 50 but like a scared child. I'm alone and just feel the need to be cared for I'm so anxious and depressed all the time. I have nobody, no interests no work and severe social anxiety that stops me going anywhere. I feel stuck and have no will to live. I identify with this.
@SarahElise-so3sy Жыл бұрын
@justine Bourke I feel for you ❤️ There is help out there, you matter, and you deserve to be happy and heal and you will. Go and get the help you deserve ❤️💪
@user-bk2jp7gz8i Жыл бұрын
Very good
@krystinmetz5944 Жыл бұрын
6:35 it's an issue for friends and family but what about the individual actually dealing with grieving the pain of the traumas. My personal experience with this is that it leaves me feeling like a burden because I have no choice but to heal and deal with the flashbacks and processing of multiple countless traumas yet my behavior or lack thereof is labeled as an issue. As a child the trauma was so severe it altered my development and mental well being brain chemistry etc a child is not emotional mature enough to process complex traumas when they are barely even in school and have begun basic learning. Survival patterns are created until the person is mature enough to to process the state that have been left in. Not to mention that some traumas are naturally mental suppressed for preservation of self and life. Which a child can adapt a sense of dissociation before they even realize that it is happening. This mechanism continuing into adult hood when the brain is too overwhelmed to deal with life. Not only did I have to live through my trauma as a child and survive but now I have to deal with remembering it or digging it up all over again so that I can heal the inner wound within myself that are causing unhealthy relationships and connections. This is my personal experience and I can barely manage dealing with this and not having the urge to unalive myself based on the natural premise that I'm in so much pain I want to end the suffering. If I or my healing is an inconvenience/issue for anyone they may leave my life. I most likely don't need the extra pressure to be something I am not to please another person. People need to accept people where they are and maybe try to offer more support/compassion instead of placing their healing on a timeline and setting unrealistic expectations on someone who probably is doing their best to survive just like everybody else. Not meant to be insulting and I'm not upset purely hoping to discuss hard subject matter that most won't. I am safe. Thank you for your content.
@yourpathtothebestemotional4226 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree! Thank you for sharing. I hope your healing journey continues.
@krystinmetz5944 Жыл бұрын
3:20 occured through me in adoption.
@krystinmetz5944 Жыл бұрын
A therapist let me go during some of my hardest time because of my resistance to change.. she said there was nothing else she could help me with ..I went on to numbness, unhealthy coping skills and loss of self and even became homeless..but I'm here now and ready to hope again
@PN.mod202 жыл бұрын
There's an interesting pdf chapter online by Nancy McWilliams phd from her book. The chapter titled is Masochistic (Self-Defeating) Personality Disorder. Easy to find online. The book is Psychoanalytic Analysis. I find narc parents cause this in people.
@yourpathtothebestemotional4226 Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the great resource. One can never have too much to read!
@PN.mod202 жыл бұрын
Interesting videos attached on Mentalization and how it is a sign of BPD..... kzbin.info/www/bejne/g2HQemhoeLuSj8k This video talks about hyper-mentalization and how it is a bpd trait that causes relationship problems....... and another video here..... kzbin.info/www/bejne/eXaQqpyci5ucqJY
@anjalijha69132 жыл бұрын
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@micahstrava54672 жыл бұрын
You had mentioned sexual abuse being the main cause of disorganized attachment. Could severe emotional abuse be enough to cause disorganized attachment?
@paulgutierrez62362 жыл бұрын
How is emotional flashback different than a trigger?
@FalconMilleniumable2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos, you deserve way more views
@yourpathtothebestemotional42262 жыл бұрын
Glad you like them!
@daniellee54132 жыл бұрын
Thanks very much for this video 😊 much of this rings true. As a result of my autonomy developmental trauma I find it very difficult making choices. Choosing a partner. Choosing a career. Choosing whether or not to get out of bed! Pretty much everything. Please could you offer any further advice? One video I watched suggested the only way to tackle this is through intimate relationships. But I can't choose a partner! Any help would be massively appreciated. Thank you 😊
@yourpathtothebestemotional42262 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing! I will have some courses on this coming out soon.
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
Excellent!
@yirujiwang3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video! I appreciate that you listed our symptoms that I could name and improve.
@yourpathtothebestemotional42262 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you enjoyed it.
@robertpaul84553 жыл бұрын
How’s it going?!! Liked the video, good job! Have you thought about using Promosm to help you grow your channel?!
@rachelvasquez2523 жыл бұрын
Oh goodness. This one is my brother all day long. We are trying, again, to form a relationship. We want to have one but 90% of what we have in common is the abuse. I’m so over it and at 50 he can’t even begin to work on it. Ultimately I think we will remain estranged and make contact maybe every 5 years or so but he really wants “family”. Maybe someday down the road you could cover how the siblings of trauma can have a relationship post trauma.
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
So sorry to hear that Rachel! Stay tuned because as we get more into depth on each type it will help improve relationships in general. Even if we learn to have grace and understanding for those with difficulties it will help form whatever relationship we want with the person. We learn to build successful boundaries and not take their trauma responses personally.
@rachelvasquez2523 жыл бұрын
This is me, so much of it.
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
Stay tuned I will do more on these types!
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
I think I am a chameleon type...
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
Well you might have trauma on several levels but you sure do look like you are taking great strides to heal. Thanks for watching my channel!
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
What does alcohol consumption do to melatonin production?
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
Good question. We know alcohol disrupts deep sleep for a number of reasons but I will do some research on the specifics and post in a question and answer session.
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
@@yourpathtothebestemotional4226 Awesome thank you so much!
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
Very cool!!! Thus is my favorite thus far
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
This Is excellent. Thank you!
@yourpathtothebestemotional42263 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome! Hope you are doing well Kyle!
@kylehansen6393 жыл бұрын
@@yourpathtothebestemotional4226 I am well, thank you! I hope the same for you. I have become a recluse which is weird in a way but at the same time brings a wave of peace or a time to defragment. The conflict is that I THINK I'm not being "normal" or "healthy" by my withdrawal from new or casual or cont relationships. So I guess my issue is feeling peace within not having various or new or cont relationships but at the same time knowing it isn't healthy to not have those? I'm confusing I know but have had sleep issues, stomach issues ect . You hit that nail on the head. What should I do?
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