Thanks for checking it out!

@jillbuccheri6993 oh really? Please explain. I'm very curious to develop a more multi cultural perspective. I haven't heard of that specifically.

@RandyScandy I agree 100%! And yet people often believe it's a much harder road to go down than being a victim. It's hard to accept something is your fault, it's easy to blame. What they don't realize is how much harder it is long run to be stuck and disempowered! And there's almost always someone willing to hear your story and share their victim mentality with you to strengthen it.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo excatly. Well said Again. Cheers to you and your loved ones.

@RandyScandy cheers to you as well, thank you for watching!

@teejay1646 😆 yes, there are a bunch of dudes in the world like that...I spent 10 years bartending watching people drink their lives away and yap about nothing... this is one of the most important conversations you can have... the story we're telling ourselves in our own mind and if we're taking ownership or playing victim to the circumstances of our lives. Thanks for commenting, though. Helps either way.

Yeah, I love Nick Saban and was definitely disenchanted by Meyer's NFL performance with the Jaguars. I expected some hate on this one. Yet, this is a solid book and concepts.

Exactly! There are much bigger problems that are normalized.

Literally! I slept during math class in high school too! Honestly useless. All that time and never learned about it finances that are so crucial as soon as we exit school.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo i was doing advanced trig in 10th grade. financial math would have been soo good.

@evankaden657 Yes, sir! Perhaps not for all things but for most! It's unfortunate that we don't often learn these things.

Hey man, thanks for watching and giving feedback lol. While I can agree that psychiatry has gone through a significant evolution over the past 200 years, the antiquated methods and their underlying principles have surprising parallels to modern practices. 1. Patient shares symptoms. 2. Put it into a category/diagnosis 3. Prescribed an agreed upon substance. 4. Monitor subjective symptoms and side effects I could go to the doctor right now and explain that I have depression or can’t focus and get prescribed an antidepressant or adhd medication quickly and easily. I have watched many people do this...It’s no secret. Whereas another person experiencing depression or trouble focusing for an entirely different reason whether biological, psychological, or emotional could get prescribed the same drugs. Modern pharmacotherapy seeks to restore balance in neurotransmitters within the brain, which matches the historical goal of restoring balance in bodily fluids hundreds of years ago. While the substances and methods have changed, the core idea of balancing internal states remains. Before, it was various substances, including opium and early sedatives that were historically used to manage symptoms. The development of psychopharmacology has revolutionized treatment, but the principle of using substances to alter brain function and alleviate symptoms remains consistent. Brain scans, specifically a QEEG map, would allow a psychiatrist to determine the specific issue in a person’s brain such as underactivity, overactivity, dysregulation, or poor connection and how it might differ from another’s to determine a personalized treatment approach as well as to determine if that specific drug is having the desired effect. Reference Dr. Amen and his work if you are curious what it looks like to take a more futuristic approach.

Thanks for watching and the feedback. I appreciate your perspective and could certainly see that type of situation as anxiety inducing. Yet, social anxiety disorder (SAD) specifically is, "a term that includes nervousness in any social setting whether one-on-one or in a group social engagement" that causes an avoidance of social situations. This is a chronic mental health condition in which social interactions cause 'irrational anxiety.' People that have social anxiety often are overly concerned that they are showing signs of anxiety such as blushing, trembling, racing heart, shaking, sweating, etc. In the situation you described, anxiety would be rational and justified, as they are being physically and verbally abused as well as trapped. The situation Toby faced was going out in public and having anxiety because he would embarrass himself with his inability to speak clearly. You can imagine it's your turn to talk and you mumble or trip over your words and everyone goes quiet, or you try to talk to a girl, and it sounds nonsensical, and she looks at you funny. People that can speak clearly have a clear advantage in getting what they want, being perceived as confident, competent, and liked by others. What it sounds like you are describing would better be explained as trauma bonding, in which an abused person forms an attachment as a survival mechanism as they receive intermittent reinforcement of reward (pay) and punishment (abuse) making the victim prone to comply (fawn) to try and lessen the abuse. This is also a fight or flight mechanism of the nervous system (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) which is not ideal for handling conflicts, but I get the trouble of not being able to fight or flee and the struggle to stay calm in this type of situation. Yet, Viktor Frankl was able to keep himself regulated and calm in a concentration camp, as described in Man's Search for Meaning, a bestselling book...so it is possible. Fixing his brain allowed him to speak clearly and not fear social situations, it allowed a part of his brain that wasn't activating properly to come online and turn his thoughts into words with ease rather than stumbling, stuttering, and embarrassing himself and kicking him into the fight/flight response. This does not mean he cannot sense danger and loses his ability to sense danger. Quite the opposite, when you measure HRV and use this technology to regulate your nervous system you can create a MUCH better balance between the fight/flight response and the rest/digest/calm response which allows you to respond more appropriately to danger rather than burning yourself out living in fear all the time and thinking it's normal or there's no way out. This also allowed him to talk to others and create friends, get a girlfriend, create a business, and build it by moving into public speaking which he would have never done if he had not done this work. He would likely be single, working by himself, burnt out, lonely, dysregulated, scared, and struggling to make human connections to this day.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo "condition in which social interactions cause 'irrational anxiety.'" This is not true at all. You can check any official medical description of Social anxiety disorder - and it is specifically described that the cause of anxiety is fear of criticism and scrutiny from others. It is not general unknown anxiety. Otherwise it would be called GAD. This way you are coercing sufferers to believe your definition and you hypnotize others into misdiagnosis. " People that can speak clearly have a clear advantage in getting what they want, being perceived as confident, competent, and liked by others. " This is not true at all. Those who are male, hetero, wealthy - they will have advantage. Gays would no, for example. We all know that females earn much less money than hetero white male working the same job - and getting that job is reserved for stereotypes. "Viktor Frankl was able to keep himself regulated and calm in a concentration camp, as described in Man's Search for Meaning, a bestselling book" I have actually read this very book when I was in obligatory conscription army service in my country, which is not wealthy and it looked a lot like concentration camp - and his advice did not help me with panic nor anxiety. Also what I learned is that Viktor Frankl in his speeches did not support idea of CBT that we use will power or discipline on ourselves. - Q: Determinist notion “Man is machine” "Man is computer", “Man is product of its instincts"? Frankl: Man is something like a rat in experiments, psychological experiments. YT Viktor Frankl: Self-Actualization is not the goal - "Fixing his brain allowed him to speak clearly" If he is no serial killer - there is no need to fix anything. He is not abnormal psychopathic criminally insane person. If we reject ourselves through thinking that our brain is abnormal - we will develop personality disorder, toxic shame and inner critic - which are all motor of social anxiety. " it allowed a part of his brain that wasn't activating properly to come online and turn his thoughts into words with ease" Social anxiety is not the same for everyone. It is rather a spectrum. What you are describing here is stuttering - and many socially anxious people do not have that particular issue. Socially anxious have inner critic and toxic shame - and this cannot be cured with lobotomy as much as we could not cure accidently cutting ourselves on paper by amputating our arms or legs. "This also allowed him to talk to others and create friends, get a girlfriend, create a business" This is because he never had social anxiety at all. He had socially anxious symptoms - but not SAD. He was shy and neurotypical. And as neurotypical he was easy to adapt to NT world. - Frankl: An abnormal reaction to an abnormal situation is normal behavior.

@ranc1977 I did check the official medical description, not that it matters because neither of us are referring to a clinical diagnosis...I do also hold a degree in psychology and this particular guest has a masters in psychology as well. "According to the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition), the criteria for diagnosing social anxiety disorder include: 1. **Marked fear or anxiety** about one or more social situations in which the individual is exposed to possible scrutiny by others. Examples include social interactions, being observed, and performing in front of others. 2. **Fear of acting in a way** or showing anxiety symptoms that will be negatively evaluated (e.g., humiliated, embarrassed, or rejected). 3. The social situations **almost always provoke fear or anxiety**. 4. The social situations are **avoided or endured with intense fear** or anxiety. 5. The fear or anxiety is **out of proportion to the actual threat** posed by the social situation and the sociocultural context." Social anxiety disorder often leads to avoidance of social interactions, which can severely impact an individual's ability to function in daily life. Treatment might include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), medications like SSRIs (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors), or a combination of both. (Which he would easily could have been diagnosed with by these standards and yet was able to avoid by using this technology) We are describing social situations that gave him anxiety that he was able to overcome through activating parts of his brain that were underactive, which had a host of positive benefits for him. What is the point of arguing definitions? I can't help but feel like you're missing the point and also not making one of your own but instead triggered at the use of the phrase 'social anxiety' in a way that doesn't line up with your beliefs. Again, I appreciate your view. If you did watch it, and the comments but nothing we've said needs any amends, so thank you, and I'm going to now shift my attention. I wish you all the best, sir. You are clearly a deep thinker and have my support in that. Carry on.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo You basically tell this person that he is only accepted and loved conditionally by other people. That his self worth must be trauma bonded through fawning and people pleasing the masses. That he is only ok if the society accepts him. That is horrible message. This is group think, herd mentality and we seen in Nazi Germany where this external locus of control leads to. You forced him to believe that he is only valid as human being if he complies to the given social norms, and that he will have wonderful life without any problems if he only scapegoat his social anxiety as the only problem. Also, DSM clearly states that mumbling and stuttering is NOT social anxiety: H. The fear, anxiety, or avoidance is not attributable to the physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or another medical condition.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo I forgot to add my final thought. CBT approach of symptom hunting and hypercognition where quick diagnosis is given to totally unrelated issues (like mumbling being mis-diagnosed as social anxiety) - leads to the tyranny of shoulds. Perfectionism. The message to our brain is: we will be worthless unless we perform circus tricks ordered by people in some authority and our whole purpose in life is to make ourselves invisible so that other people do not have to worry about our problems and our needs. And that our only job in life is to be a door mat and pushover for others who dislike us being anything else but passive pushover, without our own voice and soul. People like you would make Nikola Tesla sick and abnormal and make him spend his focus in life in fixing his symptoms - and the world would be without invention in AC-DC electricity, wifi and radio. You are the modern version of witch hunt and Spanish Inquisition - that hunt anyone appearing "abnormal" and to force ableism into others to become squares that fit the narcissistic matrix system.

I needed that. Spent far too long editing this for what it is. Thank you!!

Just melt my heart right out of my chest! Gosh. Thank you!!! 🙏🏼 😍

I am glad you enjoyed it and thank you for watching! Was there a particular topic, theme, or part that resonated with you, inspired, or helped?

Right!? His No B.S approach is intense but refreshing. We all need some honesty in our lives from a loving person that means well.

I'm not sure what you mean Dino. lol I have definitely been a stoner, not currently. What is sad? I'd love to make sense of this comment. I appreciate you taking the time to watch and leave feedback.

@@EvolvingPotentialCo you don't get it because you were a stoner once . You'll see (?). Only time for you will tell (?).

@@EvolvingPotentialCo PS. I worked in rehab for many years .

@@dinomiles7999 I wish I knew what there was to "not get", what you're calling junk, what's sad, or why you listed all those names. Again, I appreciate your attention and yet I don't know what point you're trying to make other than, "I don't get it." I am open minded and happy to learn from someone who worked in rehab for years.

Thank you for watching Linda! ;) It is a powerful thing to decide that you are the author and not can you write your own story but that you can rewrite old disempowering stories that have held you back and been on repeat for years.

Thank you! Is there any particular part or topic that resonated with you specifically so I can ensure more conversations like it happen?

Thank you brother.