When people engage in shameful acts in their private lives, when these ppl go into the public they feel the need to fill the space with loud noises and inappropriate sounds. If you pay attention by being observant you'll notice. This is how those ppl have "conversations" and the rest of us have no choice but to remain silent because it's just a one person show at that point.

This entire pod cast has been my entire life with him for over 35 years…😢😢I’m out for 3 years now. I am so very peaceful

If, men do apologize. They don’t mean it!!!

Most (97%)men won’t change since they don’t think they do anything wrong.

What i need in this moment is a bit of alone time, to pray and do beadwork and watch a movie.

God out of the church. Churches are breeding grounds for narcissistic men. The concept of men “leading” their wives is not what Jesus taught. It’s Bill Gothard’s notion of authoritarianism. These human ideas subjugate women and are antithetical to Christ. In these environments, women and children are scapegoated and vilified when we speak out against abuse. These systems and ideas are erroneous, sinful, and pathological.

This might be the best video that relates to my experience in my marriage that I have found on the internet. Thank you for explaining this so well. The “garage door” YES! As a parent who is home when she gets home I can relate to this anxiety. It’s horrible. And was landmined the other night after a friends wedding. Thought we had a great time, all went well. On the drive home she says that she wanted me to be more affectionate with her and touch her more to make her feel wanted. I complained apparently about taking pictures and I also stared at another attractive woman and she was jealous. None of this said in the moment. None of it is reality. It’s like there’s no winning. Truly an emotional wrecking ball. Still effecting me days later. Good to know I’m not crazy. This was very helpful to hear. Ty !

Currently trying to leave, but he controls the money and I’m not working. I’m so exhausted emotionally and physically. Depressed and frequent panic attacks. I’ve reached out to friends and family for help, but they don’t seem to understand. Unfortunately, I’ve been here before. But, I had more money and was able to Rent a room with an amazing woman that helped me on my healing journey. Looking back, I ignored the red flags….there were so many other amazing qualities and the love bombing was the most extreme I’ve experienced. I also suffer from CPTSD , from a narc. Parent. I’ve tried so many methods of healing over the years. Feeling hopeless at the moment. If anyone can recommend good support groups, I greatly appreciate it. I just want off this roller coaster ride, that’s literally making me sick. 😞❤️‍🩹

Divorce problem solved ,,,let some other idiot deal with your drama needs that’s why marriages have up and downs now adays everyone call everyone a narcissist you People here try to analyze everyone you really don’t know the individuals

Thank you so much for all your videos. I watch every single one of them……and I share. share, share them. I pray the Lord Jesus, blesses you blesses you and your loved ones. From JANESVILLE, WI

I do it to my self all the time, specially when it comes to my cultural background. I admit it came from listening to my partner do it to me over and over in front of other people. I am working on stopping this...

Still trying to revive from this 2 years later ..

My only problem with this and it is very aggravating is that this whole episode that I was truly looking forward to absorbing, is victim blaming. Why is it that only a man can be a narcissist? Every single thing said in this episode has touched me to the core and then I hear men being blamed, men being the aggressor, men being the narcissist. Why?

My sister and father are both this way they love being emotionally abusive .It's causes my depression ,anxiety , diabetes ,insomnia she says she don't care she means it .

They never change while you’re with them! The opposite of what we are told…do more

Amen! “just do more” for the abuser DOESN’T WORK, It Harms Her & He Eats it

Great podcast. I have been married to my covert nacissist husband for 25 years. Thank you for sharing your wisdom so we can make sound decisions. It is draining to live with a covert narcissist and I am reafy to be free of that.

I am a man (male) that where under abuse constant gaslighting in 6-7 years i am a small spec of myself a fading shadow and am trying to explain to people what happened to me and how and I am desperate for all the validation that i can get......You people have no idea how emasculating it is if people should see almost all your videos when you always talk about the poor poor women. Just saying you could do better......

The problem with teaching narcissists how to be genuine and gentle in relationships is that they do not possess kindness and gentleness and inquisitiveness naturally. and unfortunately my narcissistic spouse learned to say “oh it must feel frustrating” or be asking “tell me more” but really don’t care to listen to any answers nor to take them into consideration because the center of the universe still remains with the narcissist the rest is just learned pretend and it is even more frustrating to the victim on the receiving end because seemingly narcissist learn to “ sound empathetic “ or interested in spouses answers but in reality they do not care one bit.

I am dealing with a narcissist.. I know he needs help, however, he doesn't admit it.. after giving up and me going over and over again about the issue, laying things out, I somehow see some change as of today.. however, deep down inside, I am afraid the situation would spiral and I get tangled into the drama again

We have always had difficulties in our relationship. No need to go into the history! The one area I find most painful, is when we are mixing with others. It is incredibly painful for me when my husband will make subtle jokes about me or asides. He will let me make all the effort and then not show the support or validation by word or gesture. We are ageing now and there are always at least two angles to look at things but I just feel an intense sadness. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

OMG.. This is it

Well I finally got divorced after 31 yrs …. Took about 3 1/2 yrs to be done . Officially divorced aug. 2023

Unless a victim has vast sums of money, they need a safe place to live and recover. THEY need to change and they can't until they are safe. That's so very basic, yet no one seems to know. Narcissists destroy support systems. FML

Being candid, this is a great video describing and explaining emotional abuse but to be honest the emphasis saying her and him, makes this seem sexist. It can happen to either sex. Maybe it happens to women more, I don't know but as a man experiencing this kind of abuse from my wife I am kind of offended.

Excellent! Thank you! Only, the person I'm dealing with won't even consider that treatment is needed or that something is wrong.

Speak to the abused husbands. Wives ruin relationships and families.

Agree

Nope!!!!!

This is exactly what my in-laws do while I am present at their house, it’s like looking through a glass window on the outside. They will hear and talk to each other, as well as my husband but will completely ignore me. Even if I ask the same question as my husband to them, they will only answer him. It’s a very odd feeling, a bit like being invisible.

Can you heal whilst still in it?

I didn't know I was in an emotional abusive relationship with my husband until 24 years of marriage.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom

These men DO NOT CARE. I wish they would, Dr Hawkins…

I'm so exhausted I don't know how I'm going to brake free from this

✅ good video

✅ good video

Super helpful!!! Thanks for sharing

I really pray that the loved ones in our lives would truly truly seek this helps and desire it. Thank you so very much for all your videos. From JANESVILLE, WI

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Is every single marriage video about the woman getting mistreated and abused by the husband. Jesus this is NOT the overwhelming case. You people need to start speaking up about women’s lack of empathy and their narcissism as well good grief.

Add sexlessness or lack of desire. Some spouses like to create a lot of voids. Last year I had so many men hit on me. Strangers love bombing me, and I felt it was because they could sense that my hubby was dropping the ball.

You can not work out a problem with a emotional abuser.

I had my realization in August 2019. We are now divorced. I have watched thousands of hours of videos, read more books than I count (including one of Dr. Carter’s in 2019), and researched ad nauseam. This video is one of my top videos now. It is exactly how things happened (and continue). Unfortunately, my marriage (and some other things) also cost me my identity as a Christian. I hold my relationship with God, but I had to step away from religion for my own sense of safety. The betrayal of the “slow boil” is so much to recover from. I work everyday to trust myself and others again.

I take that she’s in mourning cause knows the true results

Thank you! God Bless.

Don't appreciate the way this video says men are the narcs and women aren't.

This sounds like simping to me. I see no issue in women being superior at being feminine, and no issue with men being superior at being masculine. The trouble is that we are trying to make men more like women, and that makes us inferior, emasculated and disrespected by women. Men need to get their balls back and stop simping.

Yes, I went to get help. She told me that I should get out more, go to dinner by myself, go to movies by myself. Then while I was telling her what was going on, she started to yawn. I stopped going. I then tried to tell my adult children and now they will not answer the phone or come to see me. I am very afraid of everything in my life. Try to stay in the house as much as I can so I do not have to talk to people.

Wow, what a powerful podcast, so much insight and wisdom and the application using godly principles was great. Thank you.