I can’t believe how low I feel.. I can’t eat shit

I just had to subscribe thanks Dr

My problem is, that I don't remember what I used to like or enjoy. And if I ask my family they don't know either. So what to do?

I've been wondering, forgive me if you mentioned it in your video and i didn't caught it: How do you share the idea with your patients without them adopting «if all adulthood is failure why bother trying? i will certainly fail» like it's predetermined when they already have these beliefs and feelings about failure already?

i'm someone who like danger i:e: taking risks like rock climbing, surfing or jumping into the deep end of a pool shouting cannonball yes i'm a daredevil but acrophobia is something i struggle with so advice how to overcome this phobia.

All my impulses lead away from people.

Thank you Dr. Randy. Your videos are nothing less than inspiring and I appreciate the time and effort you take to make these. Your way of explaining, processing, and using the information you provide is so well thought out and put together. These videos are so beneficial when it comes to understanding my life, and how to make better decisions. Thank you ❤

I can't believe more people don't follow Randy. So sad, we would all be better off.

Love your work, practical, no nonsense & actionable

Holy crap I feel so seen and heard and called out on. 😂😅 thank you. ❤ this gives me hope.

I wish i could go home with strangers. I feel so undesired.

I’m so tired of anhedonia. I’ve tried everything but nothing helps, therapy didn’t help at all, therapist put me on pills I felt worse so I stopped going and wasting my money on her. Idk what to do now I feel like a walking cardboard faking a smile

I think the knot for me when i experience anhedonia is not that i expect to feel pleasure, but that i expect myself to live up to my potential, and be able to make a difference, and feel like thats what im doing. I dont feel entitled to pleasure, but it is unsettling when i cant find meaning or the drive to make the world a better place (in small ways). Usually anhedonia is my cue to rest my soul, because im exhausted

anhedonia is definitely no joke i’ve had emotional blunting from ssris for years and now experience anhedonia after stopping meds that i took for 4 years, recently got fired bc of it wishing one day it’ll pass🙏🏻🙏🏻

I have suffered from anhedonia for as long as I can remember and nothing has ever changed that. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an old woman in my early 60s.

So my parents had me, infused my brain with genetic faults, neglected me my whole life, and IT'S ALL MY FAULT! How's GO GET F#@KED sound?

So I have this, and I just had a possible breakthrough: I went to a football game and sat at the highest seats available (my friend bought the tickets and I didn't know what I was in for). The steps were steep and I worried about the collapse of the tier and I started out with a panic attack, but got it under control when the game started and didn't have any more issues the rest of the night

Recently made a career change towards arboriculture and one of the traits of the trade is tree climbing. I'm fine up until about 20 feet. My equipment is life rated, I have utmost trust in it but there's an uneasy feeling that slows my productivity immensely.

Adulting isn't taught at school because many teachers are proto-adults who never fully developed the full set of adulting skills. University lecturers are even worse. School culture encourages compliance and obedience rather than independent thought and behaviour. The only thing worse than a teacher is a teacher's aide.

I can’t drive over high incline bridges, I can’t go on high rides with drops. I can be in a high build or cross walk over an overpass. It’s affecting my travel in life.

The problem in wealthy families and i mean all G7 nations because no one here even on food stamps is worried ablut Maslows hierarchy of needs which 90 percent of the world is busy fulfilling is there is more depression and existential issues to deal with for young adults . As a parent of young adults and i migrated from india , so i saw a tougher life, i thought they would fly given the reaources they have bit it ended up in failure to launch a. I see it now

Dear Sir, First of all, excuse my English but I'm French so English isn't my 1st language. I'm a 42 year-old woman who has completely failed to launch. Yes I know, my age is shocking since failures to launch usually range from 20 to 25 years-old ... I am completely dependent on my parents both financially and emotionally. I went to college and fell into a very severe depression at the end of my studies when I was 25 ... which was exactly the moment for me to launch, get a job and become an autonomous adult. After that I went back to my mother's house and stayed in my bedroom for nearly 12 years. Because our relationship became more and more conflictual, my mother forced me to move into a studio apartment 4 years ago but I often wish I was still living with her because I feel so lost being on my own ... My parents give me money and I'm on disability for bipolar disorder. I have no social life, I stay in bed all day, I can't cook and even taking a shower requires all of my energy. The only times I go outside are for my medical (psychiatry) appointments. I feel completely stuck and I'm extremely worried about the future since obviously, my parents aren't immortal. I also wish I wasn't such an awful burden in their lives. I don't know where to start to turn my life around and I'm terrified it might already be too late. I'd love to have your opinion about my situation and maybe some much needed advice. Best regards.

Love your Asia story. My first time to Asia was also Hong Kong and my first Dinner was also at a McDonalds hahaha

I wish he talked about vertigo and physical reactions to heights. Definitely good info but my balance gets off and my depth perception gets out of wack.

Shame and guilt are destroyers of peace of mind

Approaching is hard. The panic. The terror. The pain. The inability to think. The heat. The dizzyness. The nausea.

The only thing i like doing is hosing, it might sound strange, but it relaxes me.

"life is inherently difficult" so true. And so many kids these days are so coddled that as soon as they get thrown in the real world, they label it traumatic.

What an amazing explanation and exposure plan!! I've never heard anyone else attack the fear of heights like this!

This was extremely helpful. I’m really glad I found this video.

Hey sir i have a question For the rainbow refugee sponsorship refugee status is required?

This is completely biased. Many people have to care for parents who are in no need of help yet they make their children do everything for them. My own mother does this out of laziness. I have been cleaning and doing her laundry for over 30 years. Cooking, cleaning and walking her dog, cleaning her yard, fixing her car and washer and dryer or paying for her heating bill etc. And why does this guy say it’s mostly males who use this phrase? What proof of such a question as ever been examined? Sounds like bull snot to me. He has a hate for someone he believes fits his criteria of codependency of their parents.

Is there a way this could translate to going down a demon slide. I want to overcome a negative childhood experience

Asking for things, people staring, being seen in a place where Im the black person and walking in a broad area, being at work, people asking me personal questions and having to confront someone.

Thankyou very much. ✌️🤗❤️

Bravo, Thank you

This topic is very close to me because I'm desperate to help a relative. Also, I want to comment that the restricted lives women have been forced to lead in certain times and places led them to have distress, and this was used to criticize women in general.

is there a difference between anhedonia and emotional blunting? i feel like i may be experiencing the latter as even negative emotions seem to be non-existent. negative social media comments don't bother me anymore when they used to anger me, reading articles of terrible things happening to innocent people or kids suffering from leukemia used to make me sooo sad and now i feel nothing and just keep scrolling. i know this isn't me and i want my old brain back

thanks for making these randy! you're great at explaining what you're talking about and makes for really entertaining listening! keep it up :)

How is it supposed to go away when on antipsychotic medication? Please, i need anwsers.. i can't go off them

This is EXACTLY what my mom did to my brother. She complains but he is who SHE created. He is so messed up now. And the thing is, he does want to do a little more but when he tells her to stop cooking for him and washing his clothes she just does it anyway without his consent (literally goes into his closet and gets his laundry without him knowing). He's so embarrassed by it but also hasn't had any practice because she never gave him the chance. If I were not naturally more independent I would have ended up like my brother as well smh.

I force myself to do thinghs. Sometimes they seem fun ...for amoment ...and then I ho tumbling down into darkneas ...it is getting worae and worse ...even though I tried professional help ...

I’ve been sober just over a year.. did therapy, all of it. From outside I have the life.. beautiful family, home, health, job etc. yet I feel empty. This video is spot on. And strangely these comments have given me comfort. I’m good with sobriety but I need to find joy within myself again. He said it’s feeling blah.. that resonates so profoundly.

I've been sober for 5 years after 30 years of destructive drinking, i have been anhedonic for the last two.

I can experience pleasure in the moment, it does not last long. I can neither look forward to things nor look back on past experiences fondly.

I don’t see why this is a problem

Ah, then the reverse must also be true. If I'm feeling joyful/happy, and I can't trust my gut feeling because it may be incorrect and/or inaccurate to reality, so maybe, in reality, I'm really miserable. Double bind.

This reminds me of “Peak Performance”, the idea that we need to be in a peak internal state to perform at our best. Klickstein writes about this in The Musician’s Way and says the truth is that great performance comes from many different internal states. If we believe that we, or the conditions, need to be “peak” or “perfect”, we will simply defer action and in the process limit our lives. Thank you for your videos and great books. Take care.

Very good video thank you

I've noticed people who push this narrative of "not enough access to mental health" get very uncomfortable and dismissive when one points out that compared to most of the world, there is more than enough support and access, yet in many of these supposedly poor countries with poor "mental health" services, people generally tend to be more well-adjusted, happier, and don't see themselves as depressed or having some other disorder. I think people don't like to admit that the way of life in many developed countries is simply not conducive to health or happiness, and these "inferior", less developed countries get a few things right: proper diet adequate to actual energy needs, physical activity, close-knit healthy social groups (ties to family, community, friends) instead of isolation and extreme individualism, lack of rampant consumerism.