Forth❤

Forth❤

Very timely. Thanks Clare :)

In my case, she left and stonewall. In hindsight, I am flabbergasted that I remained stagnant in not knowing how her thoughts worked and allowed myself to be frustrated that we didn't try different methods of communicating. Ugh, I could write for 12hrs straight. I am a wreck. Yet, I can't hate her. I can only stick with, "I understand." Because I knew nothing about attachment styles before our 4 year break up. She's textbook FA. There's possibly BPD, Depression, Ptsd.... oof :( It makes me so sad. I had no idea what I was doing or how to talk to, react to, express feelings to her in a certain way. Could've saved us. God, I miss her. If only I didn't say or do a handful of hurtful things, ALMOST ENTIRELY from that MF Alcohol! :( Ugh. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter if "it's not me," I agree that might fly once. Personally, I'd have a lot more patience than she did, but that was her out. We planned a "whole new us" date, and get serious about future, etc. Felt like we were 100% locked. I felt more love than ever in my entire life... then, boom. The day of.... gone. Poof. I shared this for the next man/woman that will be in my situation. I don't hate her. I can't hate her. How can I belittle her when she is this way because of how her parents brought her up, or was almost never there, or how she was taken advantage of, or how the shitty girls treated her throughout public school? Does your partner or recent ex have a similar story? Be sensitive! It's not their fault. My point is... stop and think. CONSIDER THERAPY! At the absolute very least, which is great if you're hear and reading this. I give a massive THANK YOU to reputable, good hearted therapists like Clare and countless others on KZbin that offer life changing/SAVING information like this. There's endless videos related to this and all the other heart killing emotional and mental problems. FREE. I might've have ended my time on this planet if I didn't dive head first and take initiative to understand the pain. I've learned more about her, myself, why I am the way I am, why she ran, why she sugar coated things to "not hurt me," and just general psychiatry itself in the last 3 months of the worst heartache of my life. KZbin has been my gateway drug to in person therapy. I'm going to make it, guys.

Capricorns ♑️ Has entered the chat! 😅 (we are the ultimate over thinkers)

Capricorns ♑️ Has entered the chat! 😅 (we are the ultimate over thinkers)

Can I ask you your opinion on letting someone you are seriously intersted in about escorting occasionally even if it doesn't affect your current relationship? Because it might cause more damage... been needing to ask another girl.

OMG Thank you

Is this somanic top up work or shadowing or decency work???

Is this like somanic top up approach ?

That's a good distinction. Attachment to what we need it to be or how we need to be makes us ignore reality, and that's the discomfort.

This is soooo true. Thank you

Makes me teary eyed to hear your story and the potential for my own anxious-avoidant attachment relationship. Really looking forward to the 3 day sprint

I am so grateful for you. I have tears. to be understood and have a safe - soft- healing space to go - is so helpful.

Hi. I could't get to the point of this video unfortunately, had to turn it off

How do you know if it’s anxious attachment or your gut

You have knowledge but unfortunately it takes you waaaaay to much time until you go straight to the point. People are losing interest in watching a very long video. Try shorter videos and straight on the subject.

How does one repair it from the root versus repairing and soothing in the moment

How do you go about creating a longer runway?

“In the venting, we tend to attract people at the level of our healing. That’s why it’s important to have people in your circle that are a step ahead… “ 💯💯

2+ minutes in and you haven't even got into the subject. If you want more likes and subscriptions, dont take people's time and attention for granted. If you feel entitled to likes and subscriptions simply because you put out content for free, you'd be wrong.

9:42 thank you for being so real, needed this <3 love all your content already

Just found your channel today through KZbin recommended, and it couldn’t have come at a better time! Look forward to learning from all of your therapeutic videos<3

Struggling with Love? Slide into My DMs on Instagram for a Chat! 💌

Just discovered your channel and have been on a binge! A million times yes, can relate to all of it. Thank you so much for sharing your personal story, it gives me hope! 💕❤

Could you go into further detail about how you blew up a relationship with someone secure?

i think this video literally saved my relationship with such an amazing guy. i send a message sayig "hey", and while i was typing a keep-score kind of text when i refreshed youtube and this came to me (seemed like magic). thank you.

Good stuff! 😊

Powerful ❤

😥 *promosm*

LOVE THE TRANSPARENCY

Thanks for helping me see I am the mountain! I don’t want to be anymore. I want to put the work in to stop overthinking.

Pls help

That was an amazing in depth information pod, please make more on trust and over thinking,

Mind blown! Hear me out…the simple act of rephrasing how we are or what we do when we tend toward anxious attachment in that video, from being in control to being in charge had an energetic (literally) shift for me. When I thought on it, I came to…what is charge? Charge is energy. Energy doesn’t DO anything, it just exists. It only does something when it is focussed or transferred somewhere, and then is absorbed into the place where it is focussed. So turning our energy from an active state of controlling (or attempting to) and instead turning it into a being state (in charge…or in energy), we can sit in a state of peace and vitality (energy), rather than a frantic state of constant action (even if the action is only in the mind). #lateNightPonderings #languageIsSoCool

You are absolutely correct 💯!

CT ! 31 ready to try

Clare I LOVE your content. Every time I see a video or a tiktok from you it feels like you're talking about my exact problems /feelings. Thank you so much for helping girlies like me. I really appreciate you ❤

Super super helpful! In a bit of a weird situation right now and the insight here is really helping me

I am thoroughly enjoying all your content and is 100% relatable. I appreciate your honesty and understanding of what is created by attachment insecurities. I look forward to hearing more from you !

Sadly realizing that maybe I'm the problem....

Thank you for sharing this. My long distance partner has pulled away due to work stress and it's really hard for me to not over think

OMG! This made so much sense. Some of the things you mentioned as being the root from past experiences are things that I can relate to. This gives me an idea to write it out on paper which is acknowledging what it is.

I couldn’t find the audio is it in the caption or?

I will show up better for myself so I can show up better for my husband. ❤

This was so helpful

Your podcast save me this days please do more❤

Sooo good!

You’re such an Ate (big sister). Great advice from you

I really like the point you made about how overthinking is disconnecting! I never thought about that before and it’s so true. It’s so hard to stop and actually feel the feelings.