thank you for your words, I really appreciate it. It does take some time to develop that maturity and learn from your experiences and it is such a freeing thing, I am beyond grateful for it. I hope you are doing well now and protecting your inner peace!

@@veedoublecee605 permanent retainers are easy and comfortable to wear so don’t worry, you’ll be fine

@notvioletta will my teeth shift without wearing a clear one in? And didn't notice that ur username had my name in it

@ that really depends. I know that I have a permanent retainer and I still need to wear invisalign at night for a year. It’s very personal. I’d say get ur permanent retainer first then observe your teeth and adjust if needed

@@notvioletta will my regular retainer fit over my permanent one?

@ okay so permanent retainer is fixed at the end of your regular braces period. Sometimes they put it on both of your jaws, sometimes on one, sometimes you won’t need it

I'm sorry to hear that🤍I hope you get access to medical help & taking care of your mind. Working on my boundaries with people helped me tremendously

What do you mean? How would I address my boundaries with them?

My point exactly

@@dead-immortal honestly it’s just the humidity in the air, layering in thinner fabrics is the only solution

@@vanessamariposalove if your son is young, that makes sense: most children do not need a permanent retainer. However if his teeth start to shift, I would 10000% go for a permanent retainer over invisalign

soen scheiss eifach, thats so untrue

that sucks, I'm sorry. the job market sucks these days, you're either over or underqualified, no middle ground for some reason

@@ReeRee_is_watching_you the thing is, don't underestimate personality in interviews. I know people who performed really well in Uni but lack in social skills, so they don't get hired. If they ask, it's an easy dodge to say overqualified. We even now have one in our company. He got hired because of good grades and a Professor saying he is good. Which he is, but he won't get far here, since emotionally he is on a toddler level and the only thing he knows about the world is his field

woman of color & immigrant combo is hard in the job market, I am sincerely sorry for your experience. I am white (tho still an immigrant myself) and I do feel my privilege and things shouldn't be that way, I hate social injustice. Please remember that it does NOT define your personality and you deserve the world. I feel you and I understand your struggle

@notvioletta Thank you for your understanding of my position and that you have an understanding of your privilege. What bothers me is that many of my German and white friends from abroad don't understand why I have been unemployed for so long, especially if they are male. Brits, Germans, and French refuse to admit to themselves, ignore the reality of the situation or simply don't care that: a) foreigners, especially those who are Muslim and of African descent are not equal to white Europeans, regardless if they have an EU passport, b) women, regardless if they have the educational qualifications, will usually not be promoted above white men who may have lesser education, c) knowing the language and having the credentials do not equate to being hired, and d) POC and women are allowed to immigrate 1) to do the jobs no one wants to do and 2) to have children to replace those in low status jobs because 15% to 40% of European women will NEVER have children. Those in power forget that these children work hard to earn the degrees of the natives. The result of this tomfoolery has been massive riots and protests in France and the United Kingdom because immigrants, who are now citizens or permanent residents are kept poor despite their good educations. What is so egregious is that we have been believing they would treat us fairly if we showed our hard work and loyalty. What is even more bothersome that most citizens in the EU can go anywhere in the world to find work and be respected, but that is not true in their own countries. This needs to stop.

@@fredrika27 You are right on every single point. These are all the long-lasting effects of post-colonialism topped with patriarchy. White cis straight men on top, immigrant women of color on the bottom. I should say that I am still grateful to live in 2024 vs even 20 years prior: more women are standing for themselves and calling out the system that fails them, more people are educated on immigration and colonialism. I wish the progress moved faster and we (and POC particularly) would benefit from it sooner. Let me just tell you that the most amazing, smart, educated, generous and literate people I met in life were neither white nor were they men. And them clowns try to brainwash us into white male dominance, please...

@notvioletta My eyes are welling up. Just thank you for understanding. I've sat in many meetings where I just shake my head at the decision some of these men have made based on keeping themselves in power rather than the good of the nation or even the country. Just so sad.

@@fredrika27 I will ALWAYS stand with women and particularly women of color! I have been through so much as a woman&immigrant and have seen so many people around me struggle and fight to survive, it's killing me. I do believe advocating for women is one of my life missions, even on my modest scale. If you're ever interested, there is a book you might like by Drew Afualo called 'Loud'. She is a brown woman who speaks about how patriarchy is negatively affecting everybody, and she does it in the most hilarious and humane way. In the meantime: the system knows nothing about how beautiful and strong you are, how resilient and brave! I might not know you but I look up to you❤

if you're talking about ego problems, I get. I am speaking about ambition and that should be celebrated

@@notvioletta well I am from Austria, and it very much depends on how you show ambition here. With a smile and positive emotions or with a warrior mentality. And we didn't hire him, even though on paper a great fit, because we knew with him it will be politics and infighting. He had no sense for the greater good and positive moral. I guess in other countries like the US, this aggressive ambition can be celebrated, depending on the company. Tldr, maybe its a good move to go to another country. I also know people who started to thrive after moving, because their way of dealing with things fit in better there.

Btw I am also quite young (35), but now outrank far older people and have seen ambitious, but negative people fall behind, since they are often very good in their field, but lack the statesmanship (we call it) for a higher position. Funny, because in Uni they were far better than me. Not saying you are aggressive, I don't know you. Just something I noticed over time. But yeah, there might also be a thousand other things. And changing countries can definitely help. I also know a guy from Italy who is doing far better here, since his personality matches better :)

@@nBomF I mean if he was selfish in his approach to work, that completely makes sense and your company wouldn’t benefit from his presence for sure

@@nBomF statesmanship meaning being loyal to your company?

full remote is my num 1 goal but it's still not super common in France, I wish! thank you❤

@@her563 that’s a drue come true tbh

I was going to recommend finding a remote position if possible and if you're not interested in leaving the country. Good luck love!❤

@@amanda33333 these are exactly the things I am considering! thank you so much☺️

@@keeraorourke6040 guess what I am but it takes time

Wow❤❤❤i wish someone would help me 2

@@CS-zk6ni that’s a good advice, I fear it’s the only thing that works in the current job market. But after sending over 1000 applications, I should say tayloring each and every one of them gets too exhausting. thank you!

@@primarybinaryprimarybinary go ahead and apply ;) it’s on Welcome to the jungle

@@evremkan2758 loool haha Imma buy a hair spray, legit

@@NorzOrilKern I suppose taking a bus is the only option then and I can only imagine how much of a hustle it is🫠

@@darkness3038 it’s a hustle

@@alisood9200 why, you’re recruiting?

@@kal8344 the news love to blame everything on immigration, however it’s false. Immigrants, students particularly, mostly take the lowest paid jobs. Thank u for the advise but I’m not based in Canada

@@Pigtrapper that’s encouraging to hear, but manual labor is unfortunately not for everyone

@notvioletta most of the stuff I do is more mental than physical. Usually just solving problems

@@Pigtrapper I mean it still requires a decent amount of skills and energy but I see what u mean

She talking about a PERMANENT retainer. That she had to get off because it most likely broke without her knowing. You fkn obviously don’t have comprehension skills.

Can you read or??

damn they shifted even with the permanent retainer? I’m sorry to hear that, it sucks

That’s actually so rude

@@jannatslays it’s just my opinion. I’m not gonna say anything else because I don’t want to start an argument.

@@Funtime.Foxy.and.Gregory what did I even say?

@@jannatslays you said “that’s so rude.” I can turn things into an argument really fast cuz I have issues. (Not trying to use that as an excuse)

@@Funtime.Foxy.and.Gregory yeah it’s rude cuz u said she has a melon for a forehead which is really rude.

thank you! 🫶