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@darianroscoe1017 3 сағат бұрын
NTA. Since your parents "gave" you the money to move out and you don't need to repay them, there is nothing wrong with the idea to get an apartment. Stress is not good for you or the baby. Perhaps you need to move out on your own or in with your mom if things are quieter there. If it were me, I'd rather be on my own than with a husband like that.
@andrewmarsh8762 4 сағат бұрын
NTA, as sad as her situation might be, it is not your place to fix it, even for a short while. But, i would go to HR and make a complaint about colleagues attitude to you, that is unprofessional and there is no need for it. If any of your colleagues feel that bad for her, then they can take her in.
@saraclark85 4 сағат бұрын
No. This is a tough situation for everyone and you need to move out as soon as you can afford to. It cant be much fun for everyone in the house so a move as soon as possible makes sense
@zhmw 5 сағат бұрын
My husband and I evicted our 34 year old daughter out of our house. A few years ago, we sued her for custody of her daughter, our grand-daughter, even when our daughter was living with us, she wasn't looking after her daughter properly. So, we evicted her, and kept her young daughter to raise on our own. We are now suing our daughter for permanent custody of her daughter, our grand-daughter. And if our grown daughter ends up in a homeless shelter, oh well. That's just tough love. If she isn't going to be responsible, if she isn't going to control her temper, if she isn't going to seek therapy, if she isn't going to get a steady job, etc. she can seek shelter elsewhere.
@kalika473 14 сағат бұрын
This makes no sense. If she is not there for a group exam that requires everyone to be present then of course she is not part of the group. No teacher would allow that. Either this is all made up or you are at an extremely unprofessional university. How does adding one person to a group of 3 make it the group of 5 you said was needed? Why would a "class representative" expect you to respond to messages during an exam? This entire story is complete garbage.
@tucagwathiel3380 12 сағат бұрын
I would say that they probably added another person to the group after her. But since it's about her, it was not needed to mention that. That or, just because the policy is for groups of five, does not necessarily mean that policy can be fulfilled if there aren't enough students in the class for every group to be divided into five like that. I've had that hapoen before in past classes that required splitting into groups. It's also possible they mean that they've stopped respond all texts from her completely, not just the one during the exam. :)
@ellenmlevine 15 сағат бұрын
NTA. Stand your ground. This is your child.
@meltdown6165 15 сағат бұрын
Comfort does not mean full on consumerism, buying stuff you dont need to keep up with the Johnses.
@cynthiaoconnor7185 16 сағат бұрын
NTA. Why should it be up to OP to talk to the teacher? Also, I find it odd that I just posted a comment two or three days ago that appears to have been plagiarized to this story.
@aec9174 17 сағат бұрын
George Carlin did a routine many years ago wherein he said, "Your name can be spelled S-M-I-T-H and you can pronounce it "JANOFSKY" if you want to!!" Always loved that!!
@benjaminshropshire2900 17 сағат бұрын
If you name is spelled "John" but you say it is pronounced like "Bob" then, you are correct. (But expect to get a lot of strange looks and to correct a lot of people the first time they read your name.)
@darianroscoe1017 18 сағат бұрын
A little bit of an asshole. You should have notified your professor of her not participating instead of just taking her name off. Both should have been done so it was clear. The professor would have then called her in for a good talking to and possibly found you another partner to work with. Not so sure you totally did the right thing...I just think what you did was incomplete.
@janetbarnes280 49 минут бұрын
University students are technically adults. Complaining to the prof instead of taking care of business is childlike. The uncooperative student is the child. She complained when things didn’t go her way. She also shirked her responsibilities. I would bet the professor was not interested in getting in the middle of that drama.
@Emily-gy2ef 19 сағат бұрын
Time for a new family tradition!
@andrewmarsh8762 22 сағат бұрын
NTA. What she is showing you is blatent and deliberate disrespect. Cultural differences are one thing, chosing to be late all the time is not acceptable. Send her packing.
@darianroscoe1017 23 сағат бұрын
NTA. My son, William, used to hate it when people called him Bill. Once at school, he won an award and was called up on stage by the name Bill, and he did not get up from his seat, received the award after the ceremony. He was asked why he did not come up and told the man simply, "You did not call my name. My name is William or Will." Don't let anybody make you respond to a different name. Ever.
@Boomette53 22 сағат бұрын
Exactly! And also, I’ve never heard of anyone named Nicholas going by Nico. If they shorten it, it’s Nick or Nicky. I think maybe what’s really going on is that some people think Nico sounds too “ethnic“. They need to get over it. Also, teachers & administrators at the school should use the name the a student and his family specify. Changing it on their own is not okay. If this continues to be an issue, the excellent foster parents need to schedule a meet with the principal and relevant faculty. If that’s not effective, maybe the school district needs to get involved. Pretty much the only thing this child has of his own is his name. NO ONE has the right to take that away! And I love the name Nico - it’s cool!
@janlange3839 Күн бұрын
Those people are terrible! You are NTA! Hang in there. You have the most wonderful, supportive foster family!
@gene8172 Күн бұрын
You have no obligation to respond to them if they are intentional not using your real name. You also have no obligation to accept anyone’s wisdom regarding your name.
@saraclark85 Күн бұрын
No. They are very rude!
@donutdude1934 Күн бұрын
Assuming the long-form of a person's name is ridiculous, because even if they have a "proper" first name, you could still be wrong. I knew a guy named Brad. I thought it was short for Bradley. A lot of people thought it was short for Bradley. His legal first name is Bradwin.
@jackee1054 Күн бұрын
Of course you are NTA. These people may as well be calling you "Steve". Nicholas is not your name, not even close.....the whole argument is ridic.
@michaelarrigo4375 Күн бұрын
No and I love his foster family’s support for it. Personally I think that a name forms a major part of someone’s identity and the extended foster families’ attempt to convince Nico to change his name is an attempt force into a role and identity that fits into a narrative that the family has composed and make Nico an accessory to that narrative, if any of that rambling makes any sense
@666toysoldier Күн бұрын
It would be hilarious if everyone would get together and agree to respond to Smith's wife with "Smith? No Smith working here."
@saraclark85 Күн бұрын
Nope. What they did was awful. You need to protect your daughter from them. Also think your wife is a bit dodgy too. Would keep an eye on that relationship
@gene8172 Күн бұрын
Tell them all to phuck off, it was an unconditional gift and if they want it, they are welcome to sue you in court. In fact, you dare them to sue you. Otherwise, tell them to go piss off.
@kalika473 2 күн бұрын
She's trying to guilt you into not paying it back. If she doesn't pay, or won't tell you when she will pay then talk to a lawyer or take her to small claims court. I've lost pets suddenly, and guess what's the first thing you do? You pay the cost, and pay back the people who helped you out. Losing a pet sucks(I cried for months when I lost my Zara), but she is milking it for all it's worth. She made a commitment to pay you back. Hold her to it or you will never see that money again. You aren't being unsympathetic, she is stonewalling you by refusing to even discuss the loan. If she said she needed some time, or could you wait until the new year, that would be fine, but she won't even discuss it? That means she doesn't plan to pay you back ever.
@darianroscoe1017 2 күн бұрын
NTA, but when my son went to visit my ex, his new wife told him to call her mom. Needless to say, I went ballistic and put an end to the visitations (my ex went through wives like I can go through a box of cookies...lol). So there's both sides to look at. Maybe she can call you mom when her birth mother is not around. Talk to her so she understands this.
@wendyblaauw2578 2 күн бұрын
Ask to come to therapy with her and call her out there.
@saraclark85 2 күн бұрын
No. You were put in a difficult situation and defended your husband. In an ideal world you would have said nothing but saying what you did doesn’t make you a bad person
@saraclark85 2 күн бұрын
No. Its a hard situation and i really feel for poor Rosie. She wants stability and obviously loves you. At the end of the day her birth mum cant look after het and give her that stability. What were you supposed to do say no? And you are not playing happy families you are a happy family; something her mum cant give her. And her mum knows that which is why she is lashing out. Honestly not sure what you do now but keep loving Rosie and be prepared for her to backtrack on calling you mum due to her birth mothers selfish reaction. Good luck and remember there are no perfect solutions.
@ritahighley7506 2 күн бұрын
May be he did want the dog for himself, but the kids also did. Yes u work long hours but so do others and still have pets. I work long hours and still have pets.
@tkralva.6668 2 күн бұрын
Live animals should never be surprise gifts. They should always be given with consent. But this sounds like a slightly disfunctional relationship. And we only have one side, there are likely to have been more discussions based around how she misses not having a dog, alongside the discussions about waiting to get a dog. So mixed messages. As for the separation? That just tells you that all is not right and there are serious issues. Maybe the woman is depressed and difficult to live with? Maybe the husband is depressed and needs to build a bond again. There is definitely something seriously wrong.
@juliaclarke2978 2 күн бұрын
Give the children their food first for a very good reason, they will be happy and fed whilst the grownups can spend more time at the table talking . Also a grown man grown up can wait for a few minutes, you give him what he wants at the beginning of being in the family , sets a bad precedent for the rest of your sisters life with him .
@Boomette53 2 күн бұрын
“Even though we share a common parent, we are not family.” Sounds like she needs to see a therapist. And whatever administrator or teacher let any other students know about 0P and half-sister’s relationship should be disciplined, and possibly fired! Worst case, OP may have to change schools, if that’s feasible. No kid should have to go through this. The father seems to have no qualms about messing up other people’s lives.
@tj3859 2 күн бұрын
Here’s a life lesson. Anyone hits your car, use your phone to take drivers picture and vehicle that was involved.
@tj3859 2 күн бұрын
Well I’m 1/2 Italian and what my Mom who was 100% Italian woulda called those men is a bunch of Dime Store Dagos. Totally classless.
@jleonas 2 күн бұрын
Making dishes she can eat is plenty of compromise.
@nosmoking8082 2 күн бұрын
They're both a**holes. Him for getting the dog despite her saying they should wait, and her for saying to return it after the kids saw it.
@pama.6410 2 күн бұрын
The guy is telling you it is his way or the highway. He wants the separation and wants to do whatever he wants. Do you have a spiritual person you can talk to like a priest or pastor because he is pushing you into divorce against your will.
@rebekahcreates 3 күн бұрын
A man that threatens separation when he buys you a "present" against your desires is one to let leave if he takes the opportunity. NTA
@saraclark85 3 күн бұрын
No she just needs to let it go. Why is she so obsessed with you?
@NeversurrenderMM66 3 күн бұрын
Now that you know where he is, your Mom can get him for child support. That will most likely get the affair kids to leave OP alone.
@dhtisme7034 3 күн бұрын
Your the asshole.
@darianroscoe1017 3 күн бұрын
NTA. If you do not chose her to be a sister, then she is not. Just tell her she is an affair partner's daughter and will never be more than that and to leave you alone.
@susangardiner 3 күн бұрын
Its understandable.
@wolfy7531 3 күн бұрын
You should write off the $2500, you will never get them back. The lessons learned is that you should never borrow money within family.
@zhmw 3 күн бұрын
Time to move out of state, or better yet, move out of the country. Get a teaching English job, overseas. At least, move far enough away from sister. Family should never be used as a 'last minute' babysitting service, and definitely not to be emotionally manipulated to babysit children.
@Steve-ou8nw 3 күн бұрын
Even before social media or the Internet, these overly social people were causing problems.
@lynnetrathen4587 3 күн бұрын
NTA it’s a present 🤣🤣 I’m thinking dad hasn’t really asked for it back 😂😂
@suehenderson9862 4 күн бұрын
Okay, as someone who borrowed money from a sibling for emergency pet surgery, perhaps wait a bit. (My pet lived.) Express your condolences-a pet loss can indeed be devastating. Re-approach when she’s calmer and hopefully less defensive. Offer for her to repay in installments if she’s strapped. Don’t give her the option of not repaying but let her have some control over how she does so. If none of this works, you’ll know the money was a gift, not a loan. Don’t loan her money in the future and try to move forward to rebuild trust. Is $2500 that you won’t really miss worth a ruined relationship? That’s if this scenario actually happened. 😏
@Boomette53 3 күн бұрын
This. OP sounds pretty cold hearted to me. Yes, it was a lot of money. And yes, she agreed to pay it back, in a moment when she was desperate to save her dog. But the vet bills came to $7k. Mom & Op gave4,500, leaving $2,500 for sis to cover. So she probably doesn’t have it. And OP pressing her for it just added to her distress. If OP doesn’t need the money right away, she can pay it back in installments. If he was earning interest on it, he can add that on too. Or if he wants to be a total dick, he can keep acting like he is, treat it as a straight business transaction, pressure her for the $ or castigated her for not paying him back, and ruin a family relationship. Doesn’t sound like he’s ever had a pet that he loved & lost. He might not care much about other people, either.
@darianroscoe1017 4 күн бұрын
NTA. She never had any intention of repaying you. Give her another month, then sue her.
@saraclark85 4 күн бұрын
Ah no this is bordering on abusive behaviour from your husband. So sorry you have children with this man but even with children you have choices. Hope he grows up soon