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This pepped me up this morning- thank you. I will lift my head up (as I always endeavour to do, when it hangs down with a heavy weariness). I will walk forward proudly today into the world of NT’s. We will be heard! Thank you Kieran.

I think the main thing I don't "get" about neurotypical culture is the status-hierarchy thing. They never lose this sense that status hierarchies are important, while I just try to treat people well, whoever they are. This can come off as rude or insulting to people higher up than me in the status hierarchy. I ignored this behavior in high school, thinking people would grow out of it. But they don't. Neurotypical people are at least as insecure as autistic people, just in different ways. I can deal with neurotypicals best one to one; in groups they are too complicated for my social radar to navigate.

Be skeptical of a perspective that makes you feel good, justified or validated on the basis of being a victim. It feels empowering at first, but ends up being quite toxic.

Autistic people are similar to Apple Macs living in a PC world.

Thank you

So why is it called double empathy if its really only half?

My problem exactly

Good content!

had this minimized while i listened and that shattering glass sound set me off.

We loved watching this in session together today as two ND's learning about our brains!

Excelente!! Thank you so so much ❤

I'm quite sure it's not a problem for real Humans, but rather for us autistics...

Leading to misdiagnosis with ADHD and overmedication. Then the drugs prevent you from using your attention monotropically and you slowly get burnt out and become more prone to meltdowns ("dysregulation") and anxiety, while your parents, doctors and even you yourself believe that that the stimulants are "helping" because your scattered attention system is more superficially available

It's lovely to see Dr. Nicolaidis present their study. (If you enjoyed this one search for the much longer presentation by Dr. Raymaker!)

You missed connecting a star in the lower right quadrant.

MOST OFFESNSIVE IS THAT YOU'VE ASSIGNED YOURSELF THE VOICE OF AUTISM - BUT YOU'RE NOT MY VOICE! WHAT ABOUT OTHER AUTISTICS THAT DISAGREE? OH! YOU SHUT THEM DOWN! YOU'RE NO BETTER THAN THOSE YOU CRITICIZE!

wth awesome video!!

I think it is interesting that the colored dots being in order was labeled as the neurotypical type. Until specified in the video, I assumed the logical dots were representative of the autistic group, since autistic people communicate more straight forwardly and logically. But the video’s assignment illustrates the exact societal assumption of normativity that it was talking about

Thank you for this, I can't talk and say what is going on though it's debilitating socially and painful doing your best and if (chance/masking) aware enough to jump through benefit hoops and being just enough to fit in. Honesty could be key

WOW thank you so much for making this video! This was super informative as an autism mom 🙏🏼 God bless you!

I think this should be expanded to all neurodiverse individuals. People woth ADHD have just as much trouble relating to people who are neurotypical, and we easily get dismissed because we come off as flighty. I have been fighting this battle for YEARS...ever since I noticed, at 19 years old, that my brain isn't wrong, it just works differently (although I wasn't diagnosed until I was 36). I have been asking the people close to me to meet me halfway in communication and it wasn't until THIS year (I'm almost 40 now) that I got just one of them to understand why they arent entitled to me always communicating their way. The problem is systemic and deserves to have some attention brought to it!

Thank you for succinctly explaining this, I am Autistic and the validation is most helpful ❤

I feel like I've solved the double empathy problem, when I encounter it, by simply abandoning the idea of having a position, or stance of my own, and dedicating my energy and critical thinking power to putting myself in the shoes of whomever I'm talking to. I'm also high functioning, and didnt find out until I was 31, so I sort of did it that way as a survival mechanism. It worked, but I hav3 a very fragile sense of self, and self worth :/

Is that why I was able to do my SSDI form but then had a meltdown after caz I was overwhelmed and my mom was being bitchy and I snapped?

The illustration is so good

I feel like theres a misunderstanding that the majority/"normal" expressions of emotion arent socially learnt. I find that its more culture specific and as such its easier for say two americans one with autism and one without to communicate emotionally than it would be for either to communicate with a Kazakh. Autistic emotions and communicative approuches are somewhat condition based but vary more between individual than the majority who are more emotionally and linguistically conditioned to fit with socities expectations.

Ugh… I worked at a daycare for almost two years, SAW kids go downhill after they got sh @@ts This wasn’t hearsay I SAW it. One child who was completely potty trained and completely healthy after sh&ts began complaining daily with her tummy hurting, began pooping her pants almost daily, got dark circles under her eyes, and other issues. Other children were back in their Dr office only days afterwards from complications from them, My niece ended up in intensive care for 21 days and quit breathing on them 3 times and was put on a ventilator…. Right after her “ well baby VISIT…. My cousins boy at 18 months had seizures right after sh and had never ever had them before! And these are only a few instances, I could go on and on with stories like these which aren’t hearsay! Now, mms, I have no idea about and would not try it, probably at all, however, Zeolite, ( heavy metal detox diatomaceous earth, …) And keto diet, etc can all help as well as magnesium baths she used half a bag at a time on her 18 month old( what my cousin did with her son after his seizures which helped a LOT)

Thank, watching this New Year’s Day 2023. January is always difficult for me. I get burnt out every December and leads to depression and anxiety at the start of the year. I have ADHD and on waiting list for autism assessment and have realised my mental health crisis is actually extreme burnout

I need to do more reading on this to fully get where it's coming from and if it's backed up, but it does FEEL right if you know what I mean

From my lived experience as an Autist it has always ALWAYS been neurotypical people that have trouble with empathy and truly looking at things from another person's perspective. When I have difficulty understanding others I do research to shore up my knowledge, to me it seems like most NTs just expect people to bend to their will rather than empathize with others and god forbid they spend 5 minutes a day educating themselves.

Very insightful and highlight relatable as a fellow autistic person!

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That’s definitely not how levers work. 😂

Sometimes I wish we had a community that's exclusive to Autistics and NTs are now allowed in

At some point, it's on you as to how you react to the world.

Hey are you an advocate. Or just an asvocate for autism 😊

Thx😊

This explains why I can't focus even after doing my best to prepare for a productive work session, even on ADHD meds. I've been completely underestimating the impact of the sensory environment around me.

Thanks, Kieran. I have 75 years of autistic memories - you didn''t mentin the EST, which was standard in the '50s and still is in lots of places.

Great questions! Thanks

Amazing video. I feel seen, I am crying.

Thankyou ❤❤❤

will you accept that your video be put online with credit on another chanel, with translation in french, for accessibility in France? or maybe you'll accept to integrate the subtle in french if I give it to your team? @theautisticadvocate #theautisticadvocate

I love the square trying to fit in a round hole graphic!! Excellent video. I will be sharing this on my discord server with my Twitch community. Thank you!

Yes exactly. I hate the term “on the spectrum” as if there’s a fear of calling someone autistic. “I am autistic” is who I am, “I have autism” sounds like “I have a cold” and that’s it’s not a part of everything we are

2:35 We should all just use the square hole. It seems like an easy fit for everyone.

speaking of sensory disregulation the shattering noise at 2:52 was extremely disorienting to hear while wearing headphones, it gave me a panic attack, please include a content warning next time if possible or remix the audio to bring down that noise in the mix, it is much louder than your voice i understand that this probably creates a good impact for someone who doesn’t understand what the disregulation is like but holy cow as an autistic person watching this messed up my whole morning

They want to keep the focus on autistic children so that they can maintain the broadcast that autistic children can be reformed to neurotypical. It supports their prejudices and allows them to use tactics like medications that will make them look correct by dumbing down our differences and make us look more Neurotypical as if THEIR assessment of us is correct and should be believed and accepted. Back in 2010 and 11 even 2009 they were talking about making a vaccine for autism. In my video I said go ahead and make a vaccine and you will never see a Einstein again. I expressed that neurotypicals and autistics are interdependent, we are co-dependent, autistics can do things that neurotypicals can't do and neurotypicals do things that a-typicals can't do. Back then the spectrum was the brainwash of the day so without a better expression of it I stated that on the spectrum neurotypicals fail to realize that they have their own and they have a negative end as well as a positive end as they claim autistics do. In my observation neurotypicals are very overt where autistics their opposite counterpart are very introvert on their negative ends up their spectrums. I described it as a semisphere with a line in the middle, a-typicals on one side and neuros on the other. When they meet in the middle they can be very difficult to tell apart. I pointed out that neurotypicals have difficulty accepting differences and will go so far as to genocide a group who is not like them. We're on the neurotypical "low end" we go within ourselves introvertedly and only react when we feel cornered or extremely exasperated by the minimal life options neurotypicals bind us with. Neurotypical expectations of autistics are equivalent to asking someone to walk backwards and do everything in their life with their hands behind their back and breaking their necks to see what they're doing their entire life. Who wouldn't become depressed under oppression like that. I expressed that neurotypicals needed to acknowledge that they have a spectrum issue too (although I acknowledge this spectrum issue isn't what they defined it as, as you brought out and I stand corrected from the old days it's just our wiring and our wires are not identically mapped to theirs) a negative and a positive end just as they claim autistics do and they need to deal with their negative issues before they go pointing the finger at other people and that like you say I expressed that they have a disability when they cannot see the good and rightful place in/of others. I expressed that both cultures need to realize that if they accept each other as inter/codependent counterparts who BOTH have differences both positive and negative traits they can begin to work together in a very powerful and productive way, supportively, instead of neurotypicals trying to destroy their counterpart that they truly need. Neurotypicals have their own disability of being very fearful of differences. They have issues with self-perception and feel that they are superior. They feel compelled to stamp out all things different that give them Triggers. They're the ones who like to keep up with the Joneses, be the same or better than others in the things they consider within socially normal limits, but non-neurotypicals (autistics) don't struggle with cultural societal unity issues in the same way and from the same perspective. Autistic strengths are that we like to learn and pioneer new interesting things and the weaknesses are that we don't often finish it because we think it out to the end and then we are satisfied and the mission is complete in our minds, we found the answers to our questions. But the neurotypicals have positives that they don't mind doing the same things the same way every day and they do finish what they start much better but they're negative is they don't have the type of thinking ability that allows them to invent and creatively construct something from nothing. Employing/campaininge/spreading the need to ... complEment and complete ... eachother will be of great strength in difusing and exposing their lack of understanding/fears/phobes/motives. Can you see where I'm going with this. In Fact IF TOGETHER we autistics spearhead from the front and neurotypicals endurance push from the back using our neurotype strengths, WE could accomplish amazing feats, if only they would work together peacefully. I felt quite alone putting my videos up getting trolls responses and very few views but I kept being hopeful and finally a Doctor a person with an with a doctorate degree approached me and asked me if he share my perspectives with his colleagues and use my content in his lectures so I said while I reserve the right to the intellectual property yes you may and so he did. Well I'm sure there were other people with the same perspectives he did mention that he hadn't seen anything or read anything like it I think because it was so unpopular at the time. But I kept hoping and watching how/if it would grow and over the years it kept growing from small seeds as I consider myself one back then and here you are among many other very caring people spearheading this campaign to regain/aquire our rightful status in society. I love that you called it a civil rights issue because that's exactly the words everyone needs to hear. I know it wasn't me alone who was trying to speak out then and it's not you alone at this time and we can see that as a community when we take pride in ourselves we strive to stand up for and OWN who we are and claim our rights, it will happen. We don't have to have public (the word for when people go out in large groups and try even with violence to lobby for their rights) but in a more intelligent and stealthy way just as it is taking place over these several short years we can overturn it from the inside out. We need an autistic Professional Community to obtain the rights to be the ones who are the qualified designated persons to evaluate and make the diagnosis of our "race" (genetecs) for lack of better words. And if autistics have no choice but to be seen by neurotypical doctors they should have to provide autistic approved training not neurotypical approved training documents and it should be documents of successful completion so that autistics can select doctors who are properly educated about neural diversity. They should also have training in "phobe" for the lack of a better word, I apologize I lose words, the kind of training that helps doctors not to discriminate due to their own inner fears and ignorances or cultural influences. We had a place in the world back in the day when there were tradesman who taught apprentices things like alchemy, glass working, metal smithing, tanner's, and the list goes on. Neurotypicals came to us for the things they needed. The gradually they shut down these avenues for us and reconstructed factories that are automated by machines and now humans don't even know how to farm for themselves. Some of the light we brought into the world has been turned into darkness by the way it was used and even used against us. Having an autistic managed culture would help us to better foresee and protect ourselves against outcomes like those. And I want to express it's not us against them or they against us so much it's the ignorance is and the prejudices and man oppressing man to his injury. Which is a worldwide problem for everyone. But there are more of us than are actually in the statistics and so with education like you are providing worldwide cuz I'm in the US, we not only pioneer the gap of prejudice against differences for ourselves but we show how to overcome it to the whole world enough from under and not from over sort of way just the way an oak tree pushes through heavy soil and thick leaf litter and grows into a full-grown tree with a great deal of value, the same sort of approach that the native Americans used for their rights by changing laws without public demonstrations but stealthfully, working in compliance with laws and the government and not against it. Those of us who can speak and advocate for others whether publicly or privately can push through all the "debris" that is being thrown in front of and on top of us so that those who aren't able to speak don't have so much to tread through and eventually we will have a rightful place in the world. You hit the nail on the head!!!! And gave people like me words!! It is our civil right. And it's also our right to manage our own conditions!!! To be the authority of who we are and be defined by our own culture. I use the word race because just as different races have different physical mental and emotional traits there are as much if not more differences in these things between neurotypical and atypical people. I hope someday we'll shed the word autistic because it was a label put on us by neurotypicals. We need to think of how best to express who we are as neurally different people. That is only a matter of time. It is... ONLY... a matter of time. There may have to be some legal actions in supreme courts peacefully in order to maintain the respect for our community but it's absolutely possible and the way things have moved so quickly it will absolutely occur. I was having one of those days today and was trying to build myself up with the videos that are helpful, searching for deeper things, when I came upon yours, subscribed and I'm so happy and proud of us as a whole, myself, and YOU and you're very humble approach as a pioneer!!! Please keep up the good work!! I will definitely support you and share your videos as often as I can.

Thank you and in agreement with what you say, I've said/advocated since 2010 it's not a disorder it's a DIFERENCE. The disorder is the lack of understanding not who WE are. I'm so happy to see this clarity finally standing up in the autistic community!! We've been here since the dawn of time!!! We have a rightful place in this world!!! Incorrectly defining a person or refusing to acknowledge their identity is the worst type of identity theft that can be inflicted on a person.