I’m losing my fucking mind

He was great, he treated me like a treasure, i was in love but i always thought what else is out there. - woman

Have you been humbled yet, Baya?

a lot of people in the comments are shaming folks for “the grass is greener on the other side” or thinking people have fomo, which could be valid. but what about those people who aren’t worried about what’s on the other side, or what they’re missing out on? maybe some people don’t want to lead others on anymore. the shitty thing about life is that sometimes things just don’t work out. people grow and change. i agree that love is more than a feeling, but also a choice. you have to choose and fight for your relationship. but it’s completely unfair to stay with someone when you know you don’t share the same feelings/goals anymore. it’s easier to break up with someone when they fuck up, but it’s fucked up to lie and stay with someone just to avoid hurting their feelings. i’d hate for my partner to only want to still be with me or have sex with me because they feel obligated to or guilty about potentially hurting my feelings. of course try to work on things and talk to your partner about your feelings before leaving if you can, but staying with someone you know you ultimately don’t want to be with out of comfortability is fucked up and i would hate that if roles were reversed. unrequited love is shitty but i’d rather grow from that then to have someone lie about the life we’re living together.

Thank you for this!!

Marriage is ordained by God under God for a reason. If you want to remove Father, Son & Holy Spirit and His Word (The Bible) from your life, there is a good chance you will never find peace within yourself or each other. There will always be a greener grass. Real, otherwise or just a temptation from the enemy. it's part of our imperfect sinful human nature.

And then women will turn around and say how terrible men are. You’re all messed up in the head if you really agree with this video.

I’m sorry but no , eventually if you’re breaking up with someone who didn’t do anything wrong to a certain degree you do deserve to carry that guilt , self accountability

Finally! This is just what I needed ✨ it’s hard to relate with other people going through breakups because their reasons are far different from mine. He was actually amazing but you know the rest

If you're breaking up with a person because a spark is gone and that's it, you might want to look at yourself before entering another relationship, the other person is not supposed to complete you or fix a part of you that's broken, thats all the spark was, a false sense of all your problems within being resolved (or the pretense that this person IS the resolution to the problems)

Karma comes back. Godspeed!

I definitely prefer being with him than single. So i tried to choose him over everyone else. But every 6/months to a year i will consider breaking up. Idk, he wont leave because he is infatuated with me and wont admit thay he would be happier without me.

There is no perfect relationship. Sometimes it is as good as it gets in life.

Thanks a lot for this video, Baya Voce. It gave me some support during this break up situation I'm in right now. I feel it confirmed my intuition. I'm glad you said there are no wrong choices, just different lessons to be learned. I can also very much relate to the thing you said about leading with love in doing what's not only best for ourselves but also fair and respectful to our partner/ex partner. It's certainly not respectful and loving at all not to be fully committed to the relation when they are. I put my faith in this decision. Love to everyone out there, on both sides of the situation

Too bad you don’t upload videos anymore, most relationship channels and videos on KZbin are lack of depth and too generic

What category does this fall under? A few years ago I had a grand maul seizure, in my girlfriend's bedroom. Her twin children were babies, but in their own room. Its the only seizure I've ever had in my life. Flash forward to the next day. She visits me in the hospital carrying a box of all my stuff left at her place. I try to console her that we can get through this. She calmly looks into my eyes and tells me bluntly, you think we are a married couple. We aren't. She tells me that if she has forgotten anything to call her ahead of time or she'll get a restraining order order. All the sudden I go from a great guy to a bad guy because I had a seizure. Her friends tell me that they can't even mention my name without her getting mad and demanding my name not be spoken around her. Before this, our relationship, had a pause, due to her starting a new career as a teacher. We got back together and it was fantastic. Her previous relationship, ended poorly, with her ending up a single mom. I was being very gentle and slow with her. She would always say she was looking for a flaw and i was too good to be true. There nothing but full transparency from me. The year this relationship my ex fiancée and me broke up. It was extremely bitter. However, i went over what i did wrong, owned my mistakes and vowed to not repeat them if i was ever in another relationship. Someone told me that i had to go through all that hell to get to her. Then this happened all in a little over a year. Ive never understood it. She treated me like I' was a freak, i felt like I damaged goods. When i did try to date I'd break up because I was afraid when i told them about the seizure, Id be crushed all over again. She has reached out to me three times after this. A very bad actor faking crying apology ... its too much to write. She has a very hard time understanding sarcasm and has zero filter with what she says. I'd like her to be even a little on the spectrum. If she was, everything would make sense. Right now my opinion of her is she just sucks at being a human being.

This is such a good video.

I don't know what to do, I'm moving to another City, but when confronted with the question, would I rather be single or with him? I believe I would choose him a million times, so, I don't fucking know

Desr God you just described my dilema and I dont know anyone close to me who is going through the same

We gonna meet tomorrow for closure and I dunno how i'll tell her how i feel. This is exactly what i was looking for. She's an amazing partner, wife material even but i don't think shes the one for me :((( this sucks but i know it would be for the best....

Nowadays, there's so much tips techniques and tricks that it's sometimes hard to know where to start. But it's not rocket science to get your man shivering with ecstasy just by changing the way you talk. As simple as this sounds, maybe try escalating it a step at a time, go’ogle something like Words od Desire by Celestine Dessike to sneakily crawl into his mind and let it build on from that.

You said he broke off the engagement??? Which one is which???

You don’t make clear what it is you are missing. Is it a deeper emotional intimacy?

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I yesterday broke up with my boyfriend so I am watching your video, despite of the fact that we always got along and still love each other, I had to take this harsh decision becuase fairy tale is different than real life

Very good advice, however, your sound is much too low, had to crank the volume to max to hear you!

I just broke up with my ex because we weren't growing together as a couple or individually, but at the end of the day he was such a sweet person and a great guy. So now i felt guilty bc fundamentally he was a great guy, but theres always those things that you see that builds up that you feel like aren't the best for you. So it kinda felt really selfish breaking up with him. But im glad that i was able to watch this video.

I still don’t know what to do ….

Been with my bf for 3 years, broke up with them every month for the first year, tried really really hard the second year and stayed silent the third year. I’m so numb

I know after about 6 months of a 2 year span. My ex would leave me for simple misunderstandings or disagrievance for if I did agree a 100% with her period I then started to employ A. Boundary or understanding between us if there was a problem, we have to discuss it. But I wouldn't allow her to just return without us understanding each other because her leaving every moment's notice caused me a lot of insecurity with her endurance for a relationship. I told her we have to be able to discuss things civilly and not get frustrated with me. Because I decided we need to be able to understand each other before we can continue on. Unfortunately, this went on for another year. And a 1/2 with her just wanting to move back in. And pretend or disregard what the last conflict was. And heard us up and leaving and playing the silent treatment or casting me as.

I broke up with my bf yesterday. Because i felt like my emotional needs are being neglected. I can't change his whole personality. So i decided to leave. He is a good person with a golden heart. But i can't stay in a relationship where i feel like I'm not getting the treatment i deserve. I put off this decision for 2 years because i was very insecure and thought i don't deserve my fairy tale love. I haven't gotten rid of those insecurities yet. But i don't want to stay with someone i can't be sure of. This video helped me in validating my reason for the break up. I was rethinking my decision because of guilt. But now I'm sure i did the Right thing, even though i may not find my dream love and could stay single forever. Now that I'm single, I won't be expecting someone to love me the way i deserve to be loved. I will have to learn to love myself and I'm ready for it. Thank you god for recommending this video. And i thank the ones who made this video. ❤❤

I feel so related. We're three years into our relationship. I have found something mission since the second and It's been a torture I constantly think about missing my single days. He's a very good guy loyal, and kind and will give me the world. I'm thinking about bkreaking up with him or seprating by the end of this year

Watching this 6 years later. Going through this now. My fiancé ended our engagement a month ago. Our wedding day was supposed to be 2 weeks ago 😢😢

Finally! I can’t find any videos that explain my situation. I love my ex. I think he’s great. I’m not angry or resentful, but I was unhappy. He’s not for me. I carry so much guilt. But my choice would be to be single than there, and I wish him all the luck and happiness in the world.

Ive thought about it so much Ive literally asked myself that question and couldn't come to an answer. Worse he has adhd and I know the rejection for him will hurt worse so I gotta really need to be definite here. Hes hoping for forever and scared he might lose me while Im thinking flip flop all the time. I feel there might be someone better out there for me... but what if I never find it. And i deserve that as Ive survived since childhood until nearly half my lifetime in abuse and I cant bare the thought the rest of my life left after Ive practically exscaped all this (granted with cptsd and baggage 😣...) for once I want to live the good or near enough I always dreamed of... but for now all I got is him... am I slamming the door on a realistic light in the dark and never see that again and Im just having a 'poverty mindset' has honestly Im just starting out and don't feel I really had the chance to date... so how do i know. Something dynamically I feel hes not the one, especially when i felt like someone was and I was excited about prior which didn't get off the ground.. but still gives me (false?) hope that there is better out there, and I feel the urge to date abit more first... but idk Im feeling confused and tired of singlehandedly trying to keep things afloat as a sociatal outcast and abuse survivor and it makes it so much more harder to find someone who would be ok with all that and still be willing to love me... so maybe Im over estimating myself rn too with my hopes and dreams that arent achievable... plus Im not physically attracted to him and I never really had the chance to date someone that I am... but I feel like he has a good heart, makes space for me to be understanding and reminds me he cares... so maybe realistically thats enough but I personally feel guilty and putting him silantly through hell when he senses my indecision and even if hes ok to stay and work it through, for me it doesn't sit right. Like you said I need to be either all in, or out. And a couple of times now i was going to try and break up but every time I talk to him I think hes so lovely or either I lose my words or courage to say it... because to a degree I do love him and he does make me happy... so idk. 😭🙈🙈

Great video!

Can you do more videos on this I’m struggling

this is the first video I see of someone who spoke my actual situation. Thank you!

Fact is that there is no one who is good but God. Let’s keep in mind, while you are unmarried and unengaged, some of you may have the God given freedom to reject those people of the opposite gender of yourself who want to mutually marry you, and guess what? In that situation, it’s okay. When it’s not good is when you are already engaged and married, because then the situation is that you feel lust for someone else or are ungrateful and only care about yourself and that doesn’t work out well in the long run for you, them, and others who are subjected to your bad behavior.

LOVED this episode! Thanki youu!!!

So much of the grass is greener on the other side mentality. The I deserve better. No wonder dating is so f****d up.

Thank you 🙏🏼

Just broke up with a girl who didn’t have any major red flags, but something was missing. I finally did it and feel a whole lot better now. Taking a few months off and and jumping back in the pool.

Just broke up with a girl who didn’t have any major red flags, but something was missing. I finally did it and feel a whole lot better now. Taking a few months off and and jumping back in the pool.

That was excellent advice! Very well spoken!

Womans hypergamy is undefeated. Never underestimate a womans about y to love you one week, then want to leave you the next week...

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Needed this. How does one break up in a healthy way? With a good partner.

Like they say the grass is never greener on the other side if they treat you right

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