Fear of Exile Overwhelm with IFS
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9 сағат бұрын
Tips before and after unburdening with IFS
1:15
Is it possible to retraumatize with IFS?
2:17
A Brief IFS Parts Huddle💕✨
4:36
16 сағат бұрын
IFS Resources
0:52
19 сағат бұрын
Hope for our exiled parts with IFS
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19 сағат бұрын
IFS, Protectors and Dissociation
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19 сағат бұрын
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@Adam-k7z5w
@Adam-k7z5w 2 күн бұрын
Thanks for being here for me Tim. You are very appreciated
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 күн бұрын
@@Adam-k7z5w grateful you’re here too. Thanks for the donation!
@Adam-k7z5w
@Adam-k7z5w 2 күн бұрын
Tim!!! Thanks!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 күн бұрын
@@Adam-k7z5w thanks so much Adam. I really appreciate it!
@perlamargarita8040
@perlamargarita8040 2 күн бұрын
Where's the meditation? 😢
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 күн бұрын
@@perlamargarita8040 you can find all my IFS meditations and insights at blog.faithfullygrowing.com. Thanks for commenting!
@phyllisboyle1162
@phyllisboyle1162 4 күн бұрын
What happens in the drop Ins?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 күн бұрын
Hi Phyllis, I generally lead a live meditation, take questions, and sometimes do a little parts work. You're also able to connect with others on the IFS/partswork journey. Feel free to drop in on a Thursday at 11am CST (US Chicago Time) sometime and I'm glad to answer other questions. I'll send you an email with the link. I believe you signed up for my meditations today so I should have it.
@ClarkeZona-t8w
@ClarkeZona-t8w 11 күн бұрын
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@ryanpage1178
@ryanpage1178 21 күн бұрын
Great video, thank you!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 21 күн бұрын
@@ryanpage1178 you’re welcome. Thanks for the feedback!
@deneddowes
@deneddowes 22 күн бұрын
Thanks Tim. Love your work and all your offerings.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 22 күн бұрын
@@deneddowes thanks for the feedback!
@simoninsilence1427
@simoninsilence1427 23 күн бұрын
Hi Tim. I don't have access to an IFS therapist. Interested in joining a support group. Would you have any links (not necessarily pushing for recommendations, but open to those too)? Thanks so much. I really value the content you post!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 23 күн бұрын
@@simoninsilence1427 thanks so much! You can find my offerings on my website at faithfullygrowing.com/offerings. I’m also glad to meet for a free consult if that would be helpful. You can book that on the website too.
@user-jm6ds5dz3t
@user-jm6ds5dz3t 24 күн бұрын
Yea but Tim where are , or ‘were the exiles (yours 🤷🏻‍♂️) underneath them - those ‘parts - the thoughts, feelings, experiences etc. Not asking you to divulge but isn’t that the idea 🤷🏻‍♂️? the agenda 🤷🏻‍♂️ the idea - mission - to ‘get to our exiled parts ? I Get that we have all these ‘parts - many, ‘depending, n they can be ‘neutral as well, but the ‘emotions, you’re explaining and expressing - were you able to tie that in 🤷🏻‍♂️ or, learn from 🤷🏻‍♂️ heal ? something ?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 23 күн бұрын
@@user-jm6ds5dz3t thanks for your comment. Yes, ultimately getting our parts whether they’re protectors or exiles out of their extreme roles so that our system can be more balanced and healed his goal. I really appreciate you engaging here. Feel free to reach out anytime.
@millionairemom
@millionairemom 26 күн бұрын
Thankyou from England ❤❤❤
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 26 күн бұрын
You're welcome. Thanks for the comment!
@millionairemom
@millionairemom 26 күн бұрын
@@selfledcoach it's great when you have comments. Xx get your friends to comment. Then youtube shows your videos to more people :)
@millionairemom
@millionairemom 26 күн бұрын
And my parts are quieter tonight. I was told its them that keep me awake ruminating in my head for 2-4 hours...
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 25 күн бұрын
@@millionairemom thanks for the suggestion!
@user-jm6ds5dz3t
@user-jm6ds5dz3t 26 күн бұрын
Where do you go ‘during this ‘mechanism ? 🤷🏻‍♂️ Where does, as you call ‘the Self’ go ? Talk to me about that process n if ya don’t know say ya don’t know , or’re not sure, or hmm 🤔. Where do you think ? ‘What do you think ?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 26 күн бұрын
In Internal Family Systems (IFS), the Self doesn't actually go anywhere, but it can get obscured or blended with parts that are more active. When we’re overwhelmed or strongly identified with a part-whether it's anger, fear, or any other intense feeling-our connection to the Self can feel distant or lost. But the Self is always present, it's just a matter of unblending from the parts so we can reconnect with that calm, compassionate center. Sometimes that process happens through mindfulness, grounding, or simply noticing what's happening inside us with curiosity and compassion. If we're not aware, it might feel like the Self has disappeared, but it's still there-waiting for us to return to it. Please keep reaching out with your questions. I'm glad to learn and grow right along with you!
@imranahashmi
@imranahashmi 29 күн бұрын
Thanks for your wisdom 🙏
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 29 күн бұрын
You’re welcome. Thanks for your trust and grace!
@mariahw5638
@mariahw5638 Ай бұрын
I got an error message saying the message was blocked/access denied
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
@@mariahw5638 I’m not sure why. It should work.
@mariahw5638
@mariahw5638 Ай бұрын
If you want to email me at Wilberg.Mariah@gmail I’ll respond and copy/paste what I wrote
@imranahashmi
@imranahashmi Ай бұрын
Very helpful like always 🎉
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
@@imranahashmi thanks!
@karimsabry9502
@karimsabry9502 Ай бұрын
How do I follow that trail exactly??? 👍🏼
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
@@karimsabry9502 for me, it’s starting where I feel the pain.
@simoninsilence1427
@simoninsilence1427 Ай бұрын
Parts Check-In @ 8:34
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
Thanks for the timestamp!
@imranahashmi
@imranahashmi Ай бұрын
Insightful like aways, god bless you ❤
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
Thanks so much for the feedback. I'm glad it was helpful!
@markbarber1756
@markbarber1756 Ай бұрын
I appreciate your vulnerability in sharing about your own internal world. It seems like God set this up so that we can only help others in their deep seated woundedness if we have ourselves been willing to go there in ourselves.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
@@markbarber1756 thanks so much. Grateful for you and that our paths have crossed!
@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210
@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210 Ай бұрын
I'm really starting to recognise this and take responsibility that some people can not meet me where I need and I'm getting better at meeting my self
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
@@cherylwilsherlimberlife7210 thanks so much. I really appreciate your vulnerability in sharing!
@danidelyon7093
@danidelyon7093 Ай бұрын
I like this! Thank you for sharing. Liked and subscribed. 👍🏼
@paulpeckham9947
@paulpeckham9947 Ай бұрын
Learning how one critic or part can trigger another. Being "in-self is being in the present moment".
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach Ай бұрын
Yes, and making space for those parts that react it key. They're doing the best they can and bring us gifts too!
@janegardner604
@janegardner604 2 ай бұрын
Great tool to calm my inner critic!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@janegardner604 thanks so much. I appreciate the feedback and I’m glad it’s helpful!
@markbarber1756
@markbarber1756 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this meditation. I realized during this process how much shame I experience because I get triggered. There is a part of me that knows my emotions are out of proportion to the events at hand - it creates fear that I might act inappropriately at the triggering moment and then subsequent shame that I even had that internal reaction to begin with.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your courage in sharing, mark. So grateful for you!
@steviehurst3854
@steviehurst3854 2 ай бұрын
The way you put self exploration into a concept is extremely helpful.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@steviehurst3854 thanks so much. I really appreciate the feedback!
@paulpeckham9947
@paulpeckham9947 2 ай бұрын
Very helpful strategies
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@paulpeckham9947 thanks for the feedback!
@millionairemom
@millionairemom 2 ай бұрын
Very interesting ❤❤❤
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@millionairemom thanks for the comment.
@rivka8576
@rivka8576 2 ай бұрын
Thank you- I've done this meditation a number of times now after being introduced to IFS and it is always so helpful.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@rivka8576thanks so much. I appreciate the feedback!
@elizakbryant
@elizakbryant 2 ай бұрын
These are great videos. Thank you for your work!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@elizakbryant you’re welcome. Thanks for the comment and feedback!
@AnalogKid-68
@AnalogKid-68 2 ай бұрын
Just embarking on my IFS journey and found this amazing piece on healing by giving the manager(s) some much needed rest ❤ Thank you, Tim - for all you do to help us! 😊
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@AnalogKid-68 you’re welcome. Thanks so much for the feedback. I’m glad it was helpful!
@ab78001
@ab78001 2 ай бұрын
Great message! Maybe my anxious, worrying part is not an exile but a protector part.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@ab78001 thanks for the comment. Generally exiles don’t have a job. Could be the anxious worrying part protecting an exile.
@Frances-Joy
@Frances-Joy 2 ай бұрын
Very helpful. Self compassion is so important for me. Triggers....name it to tame it. May all who are suffering know they are loved.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your comment and encouragement!
@gemmabouwman1098
@gemmabouwman1098 2 ай бұрын
Thank you Tim. 👍
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@gemmabouwman1098 you’re welcome. Thanks for the comment!
@NewAmor1990
@NewAmor1990 2 ай бұрын
You can also send an part to mediate.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 2 ай бұрын
@@NewAmor1990 yes. Great idea!
@GrayMorningStar
@GrayMorningStar 3 ай бұрын
I don’t know why I watched the whole thing but hey sounds cool
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching
@lightningrt434
@lightningrt434 3 ай бұрын
What is IFS?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Visit faithfullygrowing.com and click on how I work. What I have there may be helpful.
@lightningrt434
@lightningrt434 3 ай бұрын
@@selfledcoach I was pointing out that using abbreviations in You Tube shorts isn’t helpful. It arrived in my feed for some reason, but I hadn’t got a clue what it meant.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
@@lightningrt434 good feedback. Thanks!
@Theyfw_ABBY89
@Theyfw_ABBY89 3 ай бұрын
I: imaginary F:Friend S:’s
@ab78001
@ab78001 3 ай бұрын
For me, it definitely feels excruciatingly slow. And yet, I believe that's just the reality of the trauma healing journey. It's a hard slog, at least in the beginning. But I've come to believe there's no other way to heal trauma other than to learn to turn with love to the parts of us that carry this trauma. Too many other modalities promise a way to self-empowerment and self-leadership that somehow avoids the need to engage in a relationship of compassionate curiosity with our traumatized parts. But there are no shortcuts, in my experience. No way to spiritually bypass the task of learning to relate lovingly to our traumatized parts. And IFS is a powerful modality to use in this journey . I suspect once a baseline level of self-compassion and self-care and self-confidence have been awakened within, the process picks up speed exponentially with time.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Yes. I so appreciate your courage in sharing your experience here. I’m grateful for this community and that you’re part of it!
@springwood1331
@springwood1331 3 ай бұрын
I tried a 'normal ' meditation earlier and it made me more anxious, so tried this one and it was helpful and somewhat calming. Also discovered parts have stuff to say, so will journal around that. Thank you for uploading this 💗
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Thanks for the comment and for your courage. I’m glad it was helpful!
@880931
@880931 3 ай бұрын
Huh.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
I'm talking about Internal Family Systems a therapy model that the Inside Out movies are based on. You can find out more on my website www.faithfullygrowing.com
@JackieMiles-xn9bo
@JackieMiles-xn9bo 3 ай бұрын
You have an amazing voice .
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Thanks! I appreciate the feedback and encouragement!
@NewAmor1990
@NewAmor1990 3 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤ thank you for makijg thie world a luittel bit better
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Glad to do it. Thanks for your trust and courage in posting!
@Zoe-es8ve
@Zoe-es8ve 3 ай бұрын
formulating it as "more time than I allow for" brings up a lot of resistance. formulating it as "more time than this recording allows for" or "more time than I allow for in/give in this meditation" or "more time than I allow for right now" is a lot more open ended and to some extent reassuring. but all of that could be a me issue and I don't know why but I think you would really benefit from trauma informed yoga. either professionaly or personally. no clue why that came up in my mind all of a sudden but maybe it could help you or somebody else. although it is best performed in group, Hannah Uiri put up a lot of practices on youtube. so if somebody wants to check it out or give it a try there is that free resource.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for your courage in sharing this. I appreciate the feedback and suggestions.
@niamhmrosullivan
@niamhmrosullivan 3 ай бұрын
Congratulations on your Level 2 training Tim. I am finding your meditations really helpful. Thanks so much!
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 3 ай бұрын
Thanks. I'm glad the meditations are helpful! I really appreciate the feedback.
@tinarice2139
@tinarice2139 4 ай бұрын
This is a great meditation, however, they put two commercial interruptions during it and scaring the hell out of me and my group. Totally ruins it.
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much. I know the commercials are frustrating. You can access all of my meditations in podcast form without interruptions at blog.faithfullygrowing.com.
@xl6mp
@xl6mp 4 ай бұрын
Thank you! Didn't expect for the firefighter to literally be stuck in the mud before listening :)
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Thanks for chiming in:3
@rickylesperance2125
@rickylesperance2125 4 ай бұрын
I’m blended
@autumnanderson7757
@autumnanderson7757 4 ай бұрын
I love IFS therapy
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Thanks so much. Yes it has been so helpful for me and many others too!
@RNS55553
@RNS55553 4 ай бұрын
Are you taking clients?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Yes, I have a couple of slots available. I'd be glad to meet for a consult if it makes sense. You can book at www.faithfullygrowing.com
@RNS55553
@RNS55553 4 ай бұрын
@@selfledcoach how much do you charge? Are you super Christian?
@lets.7860
@lets.7860 4 ай бұрын
Thank you so much, it’s really amazing to have different relationship with your parents. ☮️💖🕊
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
You're welcome. Thanks for the feedback!
@MeganS1995
@MeganS1995 4 ай бұрын
There were a couple ads that showed up for me during this meditation. Could these possibly be removed so that the meditation flows along smoothly?
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Hi Megan, Yes, the ads are frustrating. I’m not sure how to remove them. You can get this post and all others as a podcast on my website at blog.faithfullygrowing.com
@lets.7860
@lets.7860 4 ай бұрын
The advertisement during meditation is disturbing 😢
@selfledcoach
@selfledcoach 4 ай бұрын
Yes, I don’t know what to do about the advertisements! They are frustrating. Know that you can access any of my meditations on my website at blog.faithfullygrowing.com in podcast form without interruptions.