They will regret WHEN THEIR NEW RELATIONSIP OR JOURNEY STARTS TO HAVE THE WORST MOMENTS AND MAYBE THE PERSON THEY CHOSE STARTS TO HAVE ENOUGHT OF THEM OR THE RELATIONSHIP GOES STALE AS IT HAPPENS MANY TIMES AND POOF

Mine left me because I don’t have my own place and he doesn’t have his own place. Lol so ridiculous. I mean isn’t it…? If he liked me enough he’d have found a way. Now he’s either found or he’s still looking, for a woman with a place so she can let him live with her. He’s ignoring me and I literally have no idea if he’ll ever write again. I’m so upset

I'm low and lonely without her 💔 I cried a thousand tears when she said goodbye 👋 I'm balling my eyeballs out over her 💔

they come back, they always come back. after 15 months my ex saw me for the 1st time face to face in a managers meeting (long story). and yes, with putting in the time with therapy, gym, not chasing ever [1st chick that's dumped me that I never pursued or asked for a 2nd chance, I accepted it and let it be.] my ex the entire time was checking me out and trying to be coy about it, however everyone picked up on her behavior. for example, whenever I discussed or spoke on a topic in the meeting, she had to add on right after me and when we we're talking about things we've done. I could hear her in the background giving explanations to things I said but yet she had no idea...yes it was hilarious watching/listening to her talk like she still knows me. lol so at the end she was being skittish and walking around and pretending she didn't see or recognize me, it was so obvious both my managers and her supervisors noticed. so...I just started talking to her directly and I advised her of a research project going on and because of what she's doing, it would be beneficial to be included. Her voice softened and she was talking about her schedule, the entire time I was leaned up on a wall just watching but I balanced the right amount of direct/indirect eye contact. space wise, we were about 3 feet apart....her eyes were the dead giveaway, I looked directly into her eyes and mines were calm and collected, hers were rapidly darting back and fourth and she was triangulating....that's all the confirmation I needed :) at the end as she walked of to join her group giving a tour, I softly said, " it was good seeing you." she took 2 steps and stopped herself dead in her tracks because I caught her off guard and she responded in a soft voice, "it was good seeing you too." they always come/circle back, especially when they fumble you. never chase or beg someone to be in your life....ever :)

NO. It didn't take a while. She went home to visit her parents. Two weeks later, they had convinced her to move back home. The next day, she said that there were people all around and all that she could think about was me. She moved out two weeks later. She still is not sure. She is in Purgatory. Sadly, my female friends have found out that she is gone and are circling already

My ex contacted me pretending to be someone else so I said “I recently got this phone from someone “ if they want to reach me they can contact my mother. If you’re pretending to be someone else why would I blow my cover? Imo they will feel the loss even more.

Everytime you get sad and miss them remember how they left you. Remember how they tried to demonize you to justify their decision.

He wrote to me at 2am over a month ago. I wanted to ignore and wish I had but I took your advice about the acorn. I wrote back 5 days later (usually I reply same day) and ever since hes ignored me. His text had x in but I didn't put one. I asked how are you? He hasn't replied and he's never ignored me for this long. How do you know when this is it, that's the end? It's very stressful not knowing but one thing I do know is I'm not reaching out. Deleted all our photos. His number. All the chats.

Most of them aren't alone. It's not loneliness that inspires them to reach out, yhey reach out when they get dumped or dump the rebound, the person who they tried to change and turn into you.

I’m a dumpee 😢

Almost been a year since she decided to leave. How do you know if they are reaching the is point though, I’m restricted and unfollowed on socials so no idea at this point

Been 3 months since my ex girlfriend left our 5 year relationship. We see each other in the gym she’s completely not acknowledging me, not even hello how are you. We lived together with her 3 teenage boys. It hurts but I’m at the point where I’m not completely over it but I’m as sad as I was in the beginning. No idea if she’ll come back. In public she avoids me completely and runs away (not literally) but it shows about her more than it does me when she behaves this way.

It means nothing

Some people need to accept that their ex isn’t for them. 4 months since my breakup and I’m realizing she wasn’t the person I thought she was. She tossed me aside like I was nothing and replaced me instantly.

Thanks!

If i hear this guy one more time..."find someone better" im gonna unsub and never watch these kind of videos again.. I am better off alone..i dont another annoyance in my life like it was with my ex...

Hi Vincent, didnt know you look so good. I need advice if can help me out.i caught my girlfriend sit into another man car.i did No Contact 4 month she blow up my phone 250 text message i left UnRead.Last Saturday she came outside my house with a gift.i thought ok maybe i should tell her i dont want a cheating girlfriend.she said NO Sex She didn't Cheat.if i take her back am i a Cuck?am i weak telling her Male friends and delete Ex bf number.She said i Stress her out after saying ok reluctantly.am i controlling?now She ghosting me since last Saturday and flakes on our Sunday church! Did i Push her Away accusing her as Cheating?

This is sooooo stupid... the devil is working hard... keep no contact, self-care, heal and surround yourself with healthy ppl

He used to reach out but now he's stopped. It's been 3 weeks since I replied. It's been almost month since he last messaged me. He wrote to me at 2am so obv that's deliberately insulting. I was going to ignore and tbh I wish I had. But you always say to respond to breadrumbs so I did. I wrote I'm good, how are you? He marked it as read and hasnt replied. Now I don't know if he's ever going to return. He dumped me a hundred times but always came back. This is the longest he's gone without replying. Do you think he'll be back? :((((

He’s right, my partner left me for someone else. He was back within 3 months but then cheated again a year later. It’s shredded my self esteem, but I’m finally accepting the problem is with him not me. I deserve to be loved properly. Thanks for this video.

I am working with my ex. He is my boss. I thought of leaving but if i would have left his company there would be nibody who could do my job and it would hurt the customers in the end. Plus loosing a love is one thing. Loosing his complete life and future is another thing. I respect his disission and never tried to in touch with him about privat subjects. But still he is angry with me...

You women sure know how to pickem huh? 😅🤣

Does being in the same gym standing 10 feet away from each other count as the entering your orbit

1 year today and she is still with that who she monkey branched to

Stage 2 at 15 months, she been with her rebound for a year so doubt she will come back

Ive been in stage 1 for 5 months. I just wanna learn to accept the L at this point. Theres no way shes coming back.

Normally to still be in stage 1 after 4months…….?

Let your heart speak Then no contact ( maintain it as hard as it is , hopefully you do not slip ) Let go ( the rule of focusing on you and attract without trying hard anymore ) Live life If it happends for the person to come back , you hold the cards

Ewww….never go back w an ex, ever

What if she watched since our break up, her behaviour towards me never changed. She will immediately watch all my social media activities. She even posts sad quotes and sings my favourite songs.

The purpose of no contact is for the Dumped person to heal and grow, it's not guaranteed your gonna get you ex back but they will take notice of your growth but in the end you heal and grow

I don't know if you're aware or not but you seem to repeat yourself many times during some of your episodes. Just a bit of feedback 👍

My ex slept with someone else a week later

An ex showed up at my doorstep unannounced after two years of no contact. 😂

Mine reached out after I sent an email with a final letter. She said and I quote “I wish we were able to be friends only and with no drama. It sucks that we cannot be and when we talk it always turns into drama” I replied “Although I do appreciate your sentiment, I can’t authentically be just friends with you, I still have feelings for you. There are questions that I’m sure you don’t want to answer. If you change your mind in the future please feel free to reach back out to me. Understand I never wanted to be an option I only want to be number 1, your “best friend”. Was this a bad move? Was this a reach out from her even though I emailed her and she replied? Is all hope lost? I miss her more than air. This sucks but I haven’t replied or she hasn’t since then. It’s been a month now and I feel like I’m in no contact now with her. It’s been 7 months since she broke up with me. I acted really needy and begged but then only reached out once a month here and there. Can anyone help?

Yes! Let's hear from the other two.

How can they be in a single honeymoon phase if they already started dating shortly after the break up… my ex is just distracting herself right now by other people and she seems so happy on social media without me. We were planning on moving in together… I’m devastated.

Had to move to same town because of an opportunity to move forward and improve my own life. Have bumped into him by chance a few times... Chose to ignored each other. But there was this one incident where he was in a line at the store right behind me. When I turned around and he realized it was me, he left lol! He's in a new relationship now that I seriously doubt will last because he told me once that he will never change.(What he said when speaking of ex-wife) So, Personally, I believe he's somewhat narcissistic...this new relationship is nothing more than his new supply *fake... His present woman is certainly no better than his ex-wife who supported him financially because he NEVER worked in the 17 yrs of marriage , or myself. He's a weak man who probably"doesn't know how" to live as a single man... He'll continue to take, take, take from anyone while giving very little if anything in return.... who wants a man like that back? Good riddance to rubbish

My ex broke up with me 3 months ago n shes only been dating the new guy for 6/7weeks. Met the family on week 5 and doing all the things you'd do if you been going out for years. We were dating 3 months before i met the family and before we started speaking weekends together.

My ex baby mama contacted me and we met up and had a conversation about our son but her boyfriend had recently cheated on her and she started talking and showing affection to me and kissed me but I don’t what to think of that

I just here going through Vincent's videos. Giving advice. I was here 2 and a half years ago when my ex left me. I haven't been here in a while. I'm doing just fine now, and you will be too. Just give it time. Im living proof.

My problem is that I chased my ex for over a year. I was in an 11yr relationship with him when he broke up with me and its now been 17months. I didn’t find any of the “ex back” info or videos until 10 months after chasing and begging and then I tried no contact but I would reply if he sent me a message. I only made it 2 months and I asked him to meet with me because of a loss in my family. I know I shouldn’t have done that now. He met with me but it wasn’t fun. So I didn’t make any progress to re-attract him. I then tried to be friends with him and would reach out “as a friend” for w fee months but he was actually ignoring me now and replying days later. He actually asked me to meet up with him and a friend of his randomly in February. I went and I was positive and fun and he said he missed me. He seemed very happy to see me. He kept the meeting very short though and ended it after 1.5hrs he said he had to go to bed (it was only 9:30pm) The next day he messaged me in the morning and seemed interested in me but after a few texts he disappeared again. Then he sent me a Valentines gift a week later. I sent him a message to thank him and we sext chatted a bit (I was trying to rebuild attraction) he ended it after a few texts though and I didn’t hear from him again for another week or 2. This went on to the end of March. He was texting me once a week or so very superficial messages or sex related and then disappear. I finally asked him not to contact me anymore. I told him the superficial and inconsistent relationship didnt feel good to me and its confusing and unhealthy for me. I asked him to only contact me going forward if its important or he wants to work on our relationship. He said “ok” but he started sending breadcrumb messages after 30 days of radio silence. I ignored his messages because they were not important or asking to talk or see me. Then it was his bday though and I sent a “Happy Birthday” he replied “Thank you!!!” And I said nothing. I just thought it was polite to send a simple message and end it with that. He sent another message a few hours later saying he thinks of me and my family often and hopes we are well. (I didnt reply. I think that was just a guilt message) Then a week later he sent a message saying he went somewhere and the smell reminded him of me. (I didnt reply) A week later he sent a message saying he went to the dr and he is overdue for a colonoscopy and he asked if I picked him up last time, and he also asked about some charges on his credit card. (I still use his credit card for my own purchases as we were together so long he sees me like an ex wife he should still help financially) Since this message regarded his card and health I replied and sent the date of the colonoscopy and let him know the charges were mine. He replied and said thank you and goodnight (it was late like 3am) Then a week later he messaged me to say he met some guys at an event and one is a guy I almost dated that I had told him about before. He said he met him and asked if he is the guy I “fooled around with” (which is not what happened) I wanted to reply and tell him what the story was but I thought his message was inappropriate given our current relationship so I didn’t reply and of course he hasn’t said anything else yet. He has been sending one message a week this month and last month. I don’t know what it means if anything? I will not reach out to him ever again on my own. I tried so many times and got rejected too many times. I know that it has to be his decision if he wants to ever see me or talk to me again. I just don’t know what he is doing now and looking for some insight. Is it good or bad for me to ignore his messages? Thats the part that I wonder about now. I know I can’t reach out to him anymore and try to talk or see him, but what should I do when he messages me (which has been weekly) and his messages are not asking to see me or talk and he is not apologizing or saying he misses me.

@vincentbos great video. Any chance you can do a follow up with Tom to see where hes at now?

Sounds like a Dismissive Avoidant, and he was too fixated on how she was showing up versus not giving a f

I think that grass in not greener on the other side, and yur her best option..15 months? are you kidding me!?

i've done this in the past, i would say manifestation is really powerful and indeed we got back together again after 4 years of separation. But be careful, just because you can doesn't mean it's right. After a year of getting back together we again broke up. He was worse than the first time. It wasted my time and broke my heart again.

Im honestly beginning to hate my ex. She reached out after a week of NC to say that she loves me too. Then nothing for over 6 weeks. I can see that shes on SnapChat n shit even tho i try not to look. She's been adding people back that she had blocked when we were together. Still hasnt added me tho. Honestly, i wasnt perfect in the relationship, but i wasnt bad. I honestly and genuinely loved her and was willing to work for us. I never deserved the villainization or discard that I recieved from her. Her brain is broken. Stay away from avoidants. Just because you treated them the best they've ever been treated, doesn't mean theyll stay. They'll just idealize you in the next relationship and itll be the reason that one fails too.

If you were genuinely good to them & they dumped you to monkey-branch to someone else or thought that the grass would be greener elsewhere, DON’T EVER TAKE THEM BACK! Let them see the repercussions of their bad & selfish choices!

I won't want him back because he entered into a new relationship...so obviously he's been having sexual relations her that makes him dirty to me because of this thstes a deal beal breaker... wish him the best but thats crossing my boundary ..dealbreaker 😢