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@kuzco7061 6 күн бұрын
Quick Question: Are we all Aquarius or what?
@nikhampshire 5 күн бұрын
@@kuzco7061 I’m a Libra ♎️ ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@kuzco7061 5 күн бұрын
@@nikhampshire yeah, we all air then
@TheForhekset 9 күн бұрын
Im think Im aromantic, ive never had a romantic relationship with my sexual partners. Maybe a romantic relationship would work for me with the right person, but if I'm unatached my whole life I'd be cool with that.
@joleh6077 14 күн бұрын
I'm still learning but I think I may be aromantic. I love sharing affection and care with everyone because I genuinely just like appreciating human beings and enjoying social sides of life. I can role play romance really well and it's fun to do it as a form of temporary play, like when you role play scenes from a movie. When partners start showing romantic gestures not as play but as proposal or confession I get really weirded out because I don't understand it. I get the ick because I feel uncomfortable TRYING to pretend I love it. I understand un/conditional love, but romantic behavior is weird to me.
@GhostKingDeAngelo 17 күн бұрын
I'm still pretty young and I have never dated or even felt romantic attraction to anyone before so I have very little information to go off in terms of where I fall on the aromantic spectrum. I may "just be confused", I may have not "just not found the right man" yet, and honestly I'm ok with that. Truly realizing that the label is what I make it has helped me so much already. When I was doing research into the aro/ace spectrum I found I related more to the subcategories than the larger Aromantic/Asexual identities. I was worried that maybe I wasn't actually aro or I didn't "deserve" the label cause I might one day like a man romantically. Then I realized it didn't matter. If you know for a fact that you are aromantic then good for you! If you know you never want to date anybody, then you go ahead and never date. But if there are others out there that don't know where they lie on the spectrum or think they don't "deserve" the label, please understand that it really truly does not matter. The label is whatever you make it. It can be a huge part of your identity, or it can be a simple fact about you like your eye colour or favourite ice-cream flavour. You don't need to tell anyone if you don't want to, you don't even need to decide definitively on the label now. You wouldn't judge a straight person for discovering they're gay and then later realizing they are bi, you wouldn't call a trans person a fraud because they used they/them pronouns before later fully transitioning, don't judge yourself for changing the labels as you see fit. I know what I just said follows similar points as the last section of the video, but I felt like it was important and could be said again.
@nikhampshire 16 күн бұрын
@@GhostKingDeAngelo couldn’t agree more! Well said! Thank you for watching and adding your own spin on it! I appreciate you!
@Iamveryhuman.notrobot 17 күн бұрын
I love love, from an outside perspective I think it’s the most beautiful thing in the world. But I can’t understand the feelings of it
@CJH71587 17 күн бұрын
Classic from 2020! 💚
@CJH71587 17 күн бұрын
1 more month, I'll be reaching my 1st year anniversary of being aromantic (11/30/2023)!!!! 💚🤍🩶🖤
@ali773n Ай бұрын
I just don’t want to be in a relationship. I’ve never been in a relationship. And I really like my space. And not everybody had to be in a relationship.
@yanawilliams6302 Ай бұрын
One thing stuck out to me. Being in a relationship and feeling like you don't want to see the other person after some time. That was a very similar experience I had with one of my relationships. It's what really pushed me to consider if I am aromantic. Loved your video, casual, very real. Glad to have come across you!
@nikhampshire Ай бұрын
@@yanawilliams6302 thanks so much for watching and sharing a bit of your story!
@smge1it3 Ай бұрын
Still active?
@randomplaylistshere6616 Ай бұрын
I just want to be really good friends with people and I mistook that for crushes
@nikhampshire Ай бұрын
@@randomplaylistshere6616 I feeeeeel you! Haha
@Desimere Ай бұрын
it's difficult to distinguish between what's he's saying about his experience of not wanting to be limited, and people who say they are poly for the same reason. To me personally, romantic attraction as a concept doesn't quite make sense since what is a "romantic relationship" is so specific to the culture etc. But i do have a desire to have a person in my life who i can be close with and spend time with effortlessly, without having to go through the effort of socializing. It doesn't make a huge difference to me whether that relationship is friendship, romantic or whatnot, as long as everything is consensual. I don't see too much of a difference between a romantic relationship and a friend/roommate, apart from sexual stuff, and the fact that it seems to be much harder to make friends stick around, compared to the situation when i call them a partner. So if there is no expectation of monogamy, what are the limitations/requirements that make someone feel like they are aro and are they the same ones that would make someone not want to be roommates with their friends?
@nikhampshire Ай бұрын
@@Desimere people that are poly still seem to be able to engage in this sort of romantic intimacy which to me has a sort of infatuation to it (based on what I’ve observed or what people say) it usually seems to come with some sort of exclusivity or something that differentiates it from how one loves their family or friends that they aren’t sexual with. Even poly relationships seem to have partners they’d want to nest with or sometimes a primary etc. as an aromantic person I just don’t ever feel those feelings back for anyone. I do enjoy companionship and spending time with people but my love for my friends who I am not hooking up with is the same for the ones I do is p much the same for my family. It feels to me there’s a different sort of intimacy that most deem as specifically “romantic” that I just don’t feel I have access to 🤷🏽♂️
@Desimere Ай бұрын
@@nikhampshire i do have that feeling of infatuation in general, but to me the meaning of that feeling is that i have the wrong idea about a person. It seems to me that when alloromantic people are a couple for long enough to really know each other, they don't actually feel that feeling anymore either, and that feeling of infatuation people have is generally reserved for fantasies, which they often project on real people. I believe that when people stay together long-term as couples it's more of a friendship thing, and well, maybe sexual compatibility as well. So to me that feeling is rather insignificant meaning-wise. Usually that infatuation is strongest when the person feeling it is abandoned/hurt, which makes it look more like some evolutionary defence mechanism for security and not a good predictor of the ability to get along and stay together. Since the existence of that feeling doesn't correlate with any metrics of long-term happiness/life-satisfaction as far as i can tell, it has no meaning. It's like farts or sth, a meaningless annoyance, so why would it be called "romantic attraction" and put on the same, comparable level as sexual attraction. I keep expecting to hear about other people feeling something different, something more significant and long-term, so i could just see myself as different and move past this puzzling phenomenon, but i never have.
@enchanted_wildflower_ Ай бұрын
Have you heard of solo polyamory? I'm trying to find out if i am aromantic and some of the stuff i hear aros say sounds like a problem with the common type of relationship structures. My relationship style is solo polyamory rn and to me it seems kind of related? Idk, just a thought i had
@nikhampshire Ай бұрын
@@enchanted_wildflower_ I personally don’t think I ascribe to the poly label. As I understand it, poly people can be in romantic love with multiple people, as an aromantic I can’t romantically love anyone. However, becuase poly folks can get different things from different arrangements I do have some poly friends that are cool with the fwb type of arrangement that I’m usually looking for.
@enchanted_wildflower_ Ай бұрын
@@nikhampshire I mean I don't really understand the difference between romantic and platonic love which is why I think I might be aromantic xd. But there is a specific type of polyamory called solo poly, where you don't aspire to live with any of your partners or do all the typical things of the relationship escalator. So what you said really reminded me of that because I think you mentioned not wanting to progress past a certain point in a relationship, basically the relationship not "going anywhere", or that's how I understood it. They say solo polyamory is living a single lifestyle but while being in relationships. You basically don't see yourself as part of a unit with the people you are with, since the commitment level is rather the one you would have with close friends. For example you talked about independence and not wanting to have to tell someone about all of your plans and being able to make decisions without having to consider someone else like you would in the typical romantic relationship. The way I understand it in a solo polyamory arrangement you can do that. I don't know if that's something that applies to you specifically of course, but something that stood out to me is that a lot of aromantic people seem to not want the typical relationship with all the steps on the relationship escalator. Often times what I heard people say is that they don't want to do certain things that normally come with being in a relationship and I always just think that relationships don't have to be like this. Personally I mostly identify With the relationship Anarchist label, so maybe my perspective is just very different and i also don't really understand the difference between romantic and platonic love so idk. It was just a thought but of course I don't wanna invalidate your experience or how you identify at all
@nikhampshire Ай бұрын
@@enchanted_wildflower_ yah I also ascribe to relationship anarchy personally. I find it most closely fits the way that I’ve been navigating my friendships/relationships for years. Thanks for watching and commenting! Love hearing different people’s insights!
@JamieJenkins2001 Ай бұрын
It's so nice to see something here from the perspective of an aromantic that isn't asexual, I feel like we're often overlooked even in the aro/ace community. In fact, the reason it took me so long to realize I'm aro is because I assumed romantic attraction was what I felt when I had a mix of sexual and platonic attraction at the same time.
@farisakhtar4824 Ай бұрын
I don't think you need to date or be in a relationship to know if you are aro. My parents used to question me on this when i came out to them, as I've never dated or had a romantic relationship yet. People feel romantic attraction to people they don't know or only know in a non romantic way, that is what a crush is really according to allos. I asked my dad how he could know he couldn't have romantic feelings for a man if he had never pursued one, he has still not given me an answer.
@Emperorerror 2 ай бұрын
Thank you
@sooso0000 2 ай бұрын
Oh wow I relate so so much to the autonomy part. And the ‘what do I gain from this, if I give all this up’ I always thought I was just selfish… but if I’m being fully honest with myself, the type of fulfilment I get out of ‘romantic’ bonds I can very easily find within my platonic and friendship bonds also, and there I get it without giving up so much… It feels validating to hear somebody voice the same things
@nikhampshire 2 ай бұрын
@@sooso0000 you are not alone my friend!
@mrsnobody309 2 ай бұрын
its so confusing cause i only like hookups when the person likes me romantically but when they dont, like they want the same thing as me i feel like an object, a piece of meat. I dont know what to do with this information if i am aro cause then does that mean i will only date for sex?
@Lolcoca 2 ай бұрын
Not only I’m aromantic and also asexual ! And plus, I have a logic mind so flirting was, is and will never gonna work for me ! So goodbye 👋 ✌️
@himbeerfalter 2 ай бұрын
I’m definitely 100% neither aro nor ace… but I have a veeery high suspicion a very close person is… xD We had a wonderful start until we got into a much more earnest relationship… and especially I started to have expectations based on my previous relationships and also the way I was brought up and what the “world” (songs, movies, books…) taught me up until that day… and it crumbled while we both tried our hardest to keep it together because we really like each other… I now understand more and more that his need for being independent isn’t cold or a lack of emotion… and it also doesn’t mean that he likes me less… it’s just how he is and what he needs to be happy… and my needs are vastly different… xD it took me a while… lots of counseling, healing, tears, grief and meds to get where I am now… I still think that we can be a very good couple… that we complement each other… he keeps me grounded while I help him to get a little bit out of his shell… ^^ but it’s a lot of work to make such a relationship work… and also other ppl to fulfill my need for closeness, romance and physical touch etc… Your videos are immensely helpful to get an understanding of this person I so deeply care about… things he cannot express himself but I see him clearly when I listen to you talk… Also the label part… 😘👌🏼 8:31 A label can help to get a better understanding of ourselves and the ppl around us… but they don’t define us… everything is constantly changing and I think that’s beautiful… we’re still growing and we’ll always will if we don’t stop to be curious and open to the world around us…
@nikhampshire 2 ай бұрын
@@himbeerfalter omg love this message so much. I appreciate you taking the time to share so much ☺️🙏🏽♥️ glad yall are able to work through stuff and see eachother as you need to be. So happy that what I’ve created has touched you in such a way and been helpful. Warms my lil aro heart haha.
@Vampgauche 2 ай бұрын
I’m aroace but physically attracted to men, to the point I get crushes but never want to advance them, like being in a relationship. I tend to just want to be their friend. I’m asking if there’s a label for this, aro-ace but physically/aesthetically attracted to men. Is that hetero aroace? Is that a thing?
@12gt13 3 ай бұрын
I first came across your videos a few years ago when you were active on this channel. Since then I’ve been trying to find a community of other aromantic people, whether online or in person. I’ve been unsuccessful. It’s hard to connect with people who share similar experiences as you when you can’t find them 😩
@ArsenicJellyfish 3 ай бұрын
I personally don’t really want to be in a relationship, I just wanna have a best friend/roommate for life so I’m not alone lol
@nikhampshire 3 ай бұрын
@@ArsenicJellyfish companionship Is not the same as romantic attraction. Many of us want companionship ❤️ I feel you for sure!
@LordNeptumis 3 ай бұрын
Man, its so hard to find videos about being aro but still having sexual attraction. It kinda helped connect the dots for me. Its gonna be hard for me to fully commit to this but this video has helped a lot more than most of the ones I've watched. You've explained things reallt clearly and im grateful for that man. Im so glad for you not have a checklist of things. All the videos that have it make it sound so rigid and like it HAS to be that exact experience to be a sign of being aro. ( oof, now i gotta talk this out with my partner, [ dont worry, he was aware of me questioning my identity] )
@FudgeYeahAmerica 3 ай бұрын
I love how my asexuality is so similar to aromantic feelings and relationship dynamics. I honestly feel so lucky to be apart of this queerness, to this view into such a nebulous thing. Thank you for your insight!!
@ahrimzhorc 3 ай бұрын
i love that this exists normally i just finds things for either ace or aroace which is fine, but nothing that is JUST aro 😭
@wallaceshawn-zk8iw 4 ай бұрын
I've come out to my mom & she was accepting. She wasn't really surprised since i haven't dated a Woman since i was a Teen. I haven't come out to my BFF or the rest of my mom's side yet but they would mostly likely be accepting as well. I also feel for those who may get a Negative response from Friends & Fam.(35 yrold Aro/Ace by the way)
@nikhampshire 4 ай бұрын
@@wallaceshawn-zk8iw happy to hear it went well! My experience was v similar with people just noting that I hadn’t dated anyone since I was a teen. Hope you’re able to come out to the rest and they all are as accepting! Thanks for sharing your story! ♥️
@wallaceshawn-zk8iw 4 ай бұрын
@@nikhampshire Thank You! You got yourself a new Sub! ❤️
@wallaceshawn-zk8iw 3 ай бұрын
@@nikhampshireUpdate: I told my BFF & he was Cool with it 🙂
@nikhampshire 3 ай бұрын
@@wallaceshawn-zk8iw we love to hear it! Thanks so much for the update! Glad to hear you’re living your truth more and more openly and it’s rewarding you! ❤️
@wallaceshawn-zk8iw 3 ай бұрын
@@nikhampshire ❤️
@FUCKINGBOSS 4 ай бұрын
Hi, Aromantic here. So, I can catch feelings for a person very easy, once they're being kind to me. But I've never ever dated ( or wanted to date) any of my crushes. I just love the inspiration, the "butterflies in your stomach" feeling that comes with being in love. I have always hated the romantic-coded things. Like they create some kind of boundaries for me in terms of how I should act. Like, if we're on a date- I'm supposed to..... And I can't stand the fact that someone is expecting something from me. It may be some kind of PDA or something. And someone proposing to go out- alredy feels like a demand and invasion of my space. And I'm also asexual. So yeah, hello from fellow Aroace🤘
@yee58 4 ай бұрын
omg this is so helpful thank you
@nikhampshire 4 ай бұрын
Love to be of service! Thanks for watching and leaving some love! ☺️
@lucasa.203 4 ай бұрын
idk if you're still active but I wanted to ask your opinion on what the difference is between sexually active aro people and 'fuckboys' ?
@nikhampshire 4 ай бұрын
A fuckboy is someone who is really only interested in getting what they want by any means necessary. They’ll omit truths or even lie pretending they want a relationship just to hook up. Or even if they are upfront about just wanting sex they are otherwise just selfish and inconsiderate of the people they are with feelings. As a sexually active aro person it’s not “just about the sex” for me. Just becuase I don’t want a romantic relationship doesn’t mean the person isn’t still a person. I still treat them with respect and want to spend time with them outside of the sex. We’re still building a connection it just isn’t romantic. A fuckboy is just about getting their nut. IMO anyways.
@lucasa.203 4 ай бұрын
@@nikhampshire I assume you've been in a position where you've told a girl upfront that you weren't into the whole romanticism stuff, but she still ended up developing feelings. What did you do (or what would you do)? I appreciated the reply!
@nikhampshire 4 ай бұрын
@@lucasa.203 depends how they’re acting on those feelings. I mean one can’t control their feelings only how they respond to them. If they’re falling for me but are able to still understand that I won’t be able to reciprocate but they are still happy with our connection and able to manage that then I can be ok with it. But if they’re getting feelings and are expecting my behavior to change or their behavior changes towards jealousy or disappointment or other negative responses because I’m unable to reciprocate the feelings then I suggest we just go back to being regular friends for both our sake. And anytime! Thanks for watching!
@jerrimenard3092 4 ай бұрын
I am Demi romantic. I often can't fall in love and be romantic until I get sexual with that person. Even then it's not a given. I often get afraid of being rejected or not loving someone " the right way". Romance produces anxiety.
@jerrimenard3092 4 ай бұрын
I am a lot like you. I enjoy sex but I don't get romantic until I am satisfied physically. If I start to talk about carriage rides and buy them little gifts, that means I am getting my back put out good. If they pull the sex rug out from underneath me, that's often the end. I know its strange for someone assigned female at birth, but it's my style. I don't know how else to put it.
@cradica 4 ай бұрын
5:40 someone called me homophobic for pointing that out
@lenabanana9356 5 ай бұрын
I'm 100% comfortable with my asexuality, but I had my doubts with being aromantic. This video was extremely helpful and just genuinely so comforting. Thank you so much!!
@bow_n_aro 5 ай бұрын
Hey, thanks for making this video! Ik its a bit old, but it just came up on my recommended, and it feels like it came at just the right time in my life. I'm also aromantic (or at least somewhere on the spectrum???) and I've recently been giving some thought to figuring out dating, since I think I would like to have a life partner, but I'm super intimidated by the idea of starting dating, since I'm somewhat late to the game and I feel really lost and like I'll have to figure things out alone. So stumbling across this video felt really nice; it's good to know that I won't be alone if I do choose to start dating, and that there are other aros out here who are figuring things out for themselves. I just really appreciate that you've shown that it absolutely is possible to be in a relationship as an aromantic person 💚🖤
@nikhampshire 5 ай бұрын
Divine timing! Love that these videos I made years ago have been still helping people. Thanks so much for watching and sharing your experience! I appreciate you!
@Tico1993 5 ай бұрын
This video was very helpful! Thank you so much! Recently, I've been entertaining the idea that I might be aromantic, it just feels right to me! I'm a 31-year-old, cis, gay guy that hasn't had a romantic relationship, it's just sooooo hard for me to connect with people romantically. I do have very meaningful and fulfilling platonic relationships that make my life WONDERFUL. I also want to add that I have a secure/avoidant attachment style, so, sometimes I wonder if it's just my avoidant style acting out or if I have "commitment issues" that I have to "fix", but I don't want to "fix myself" just to subscribe to societal expectations. Also, why do we need to have a hierarchy for love? Why are romantic relationships more important than platonic ones?! I'm sooooo happy that we're discussing these topics! Loving all the comments!
@nikhampshire 5 ай бұрын
So glad you found my videos and found them helpful. These are definitely important conversations to be had and I’m glad to help in my own way to gettin into them! I really appreciate you taking time to watch and comment!
@DreamerInDisguise 5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. Sometimes I worry about not being Aromantic because "I haven't tried hard enough in the relationships. Maybe I just haven't found the right person." But this is really helping my doubts and I feel more sure
@Shmeebi 5 ай бұрын
I was about 80% sure that I was aromantic but not asexual going into this video. Now I'm completely sure👍
@nikhampshire 5 ай бұрын
Ayyy! Welcome haha. Thanks for watching and leaving some love!
@XFadedXSunX 5 ай бұрын
“Oh, I’m Aromantic-Pansexual!” “Choose one.” “…”
@beefwillington9415 5 ай бұрын
I just binged basically your whole channel, and this video really opened my eyes to how I can date while being aromantic. I never thought you could detach dating from "romance", which has held me back as someone who is repulsed by romance. I am in the same camp as you where something like cuddling for me can be platonic or sexual, but never romantic. As soon as an action of mine is taken in a romantic way I involuntarily get the ick, bc I never want it to be taken in that way. It's been confusing that I've wanted to date people that I like hanging out with, but then as soon as romantic affection or labels come into the picture, I want to wriggle out of my own skin. I've been the one to initiate every one of my relationships, and the one to end every one. (And usually end up in a more casual sexual relationship afterwards lol) Casual dating opened up my eyes to how I can approach dating in the future so that I don't waste time forcing myself to endure experiences that make me uncomfortable. I relate to your videos a lot, thanks so much for putting this content out there!
@nikhampshire 5 ай бұрын
So glad you found my videos helpful! I definitely noticed a lack of content around this topic and wishing I had some resources myself so I decided i would make some for others! Thanks so much for watching and leaving some love. Best of luck with your journey! ❤️
@Oraldisaster101 5 ай бұрын
Three years late to this conversation but I think what you were getting at is that there are a few different goals/purposes for the LGBTQIA+ community. There is a definite political need for queer sexual and gender identities that doesn't exist in the same way for queer romantic identities. The community so to speak has been just as much about organizing and advocacy as it is about creating a socially/psychologically safe space. Aro's tend to need the social/psychological community support more than the political.
@Mori-man 5 ай бұрын
What an absolute chad!
@Mori-man 5 ай бұрын
Hey, I am definitely, 100% aromantic, but I am only like 95% sure I am asexual, sense I do have libido, it's hard to be 100% confident that what I am feeling isn't attraction. Do you have any advice for closing that 5% of doubt, or maybe do you think I am miss-categorizing myself when I say "I am aroace"?
@sophiiiiaaa 5 ай бұрын
I've really enjoyed this video as I'm going through this reflection on this exact topic since my last relationship stopped because i wasn't falling in love and quiet sure it won't happen. I feel like understanding you are aro is long and complicated because everyone tells you that if you are not interested it's only that you didnt find the right person, that you need to see a therapist to understand why you can't have romantic relationships, that you have a heart of stone. All of this really hurt me and I was so sure something was wrong with me / broken within me. I've thought that being 100% lesbian and quitting being bisexual will solve all my problems and then I realized i was really happy being single since years. I've been in one relationship which was so bad because i couldnt express or feel (this kind of ) love while having to pretend i did. I want deep and light relationships, sometimes only platonics sometimes intimate but gosh i'm so happy to stop feeling like I'm missing the best thing on earth (how ? I feel allos arr suffering so much ). One thing though that kept me from labeling myself as aro is that I did fall in love but it only hurt and I have no will of being in a relationship with them. I just wanted to stop being in love and have a nice friendship and may be benefits with them.
@nikhampshire 5 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for watching and sharing! It’s definitely a journey we all walk but hopefully you’re find what makes you happy and pursing that type of dynamic!
@kaj00b0y 6 ай бұрын
The moment i get into a relationship i immediately lose all feelings and the whole thing becomes more of a chore than something enjoyable. this is also not the fault of the women ive dated, because most of them where objectively really amazing people. This whole cycle of me wanting to be out of the relationship has shortened over time, it has got to a point where the whole thing lasted a week. i think its time i stop waiting for the "right person".
@nikhampshire 6 ай бұрын
Sorry to hear you’ve had this kinda difficulty but definitely sounds like you’re tryna fit into a box that ain’t for you. Time to start exploring other paths. Check in with yourself and determine what are your wants, needs and limitations when it comes to how you interact with others. Romance, companionship, sex, frequency, physical intimacy (cuddling etc) emotional intimacy etc. you gotta really be honest with yourself on what it is you actually genuinely desire and feel comfortable with as well as what you don’t enjoy or actively repulse you about those relationships you’ve tried in the past . Parse it out and purse connections that have the aspects you like and don’t have the ones you don’t! Easier said than done, I know but so worth the effort! Thanks for watching and sharing. Best of luck on your journey!
@_g0r3c0r3 6 ай бұрын
its so hard to find videos abt aromantic without asexual god.. i respect all aroace but as aromantic sexual person we really need more content js abt aros.. almost all the other channels always bring asexual into it
@adrianace1725 6 ай бұрын
Great video! Although I've indentified as asexual since 2001, I've only recently now learned more about aromanticism. Looking back it helps answer a lot of questions in my life. I'm fully embracing being aro nowadays! 💚🖤
@moatemsulongchar8418 6 ай бұрын
I went into 3 relationship and in all those relationship I wanted out the next day. 💀😭
@stevebear6295 6 ай бұрын
I don't know why u don't go and make your own space instead of just attaching yourself to the ace community. They don't want to see the sex.
@LunaticReason 6 ай бұрын
I might be on the Aromantic spectrum but I am not sure. I have sexual attraction but I dont have a strong desire to persue a romantic relationship although I would be open to one if it came along. What would that make me? I have so many frriends,, family, strangers asking me why i am single and arent looking for someone and I feel meh why should i?
@DragonforceSCGS 2 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I am kind of in the same boat. I am in my thirties and I was wondering for a long time whether never having had enough of a desire to actively pursue a romantic relationship meant that I was somewhere on the aro-ace spectrum. Somewhat recently I have had my first relationship that came about quite naturally without much of a typical "dating phase" and lasted a couple of months, where I definitely understood that I very much can experience romantic attraction. But now that it is over, here I am again in this state where I do not feel neither the pressure nor the desire to pursue anything new, and I am none the wiser and still wondering whether I would fall somewhere on the aro-ace spectrum.