Thank you so much for this I’ve just got diagnosed with it and I’m so anxious about the journey ahead 😢

Found this video out of nowhere. I love hearing you talking.

lmao girl why you're basically whispering? and that loud music, it's hard to understand what you saying lern how to edit videos first

Congratulations!! Do you still suffer from vaginamus

Lucy you will be so blessed by Revelation, one of the best books of the Bible I have read, so inspiring and uplifting

I can finger myself but whenever my partner try he just can't

Good for you on your list xx you look amazing ❤

SO good to have you back 🤍✨! This was soo helpful to watch - taking allll the tips for life with our first baby coming soon 🫶🏻

Congratulations on your pregnancy, lovely 😍

What a useless video and wat a annoying time listening to you trying to find something but i wasted my time

Hi any updates on vaginismus?

I have felt so alone and broken for so long, not knowing what is wrong with me. I’m literally crying now finding out that I’m not alone and it can be fixed

I think I have vaginismus like i literally have everything that they say but im in a relationship and i literally dont want it at all 😕 I understand that yk accept urselves and love urselves but i really do not want it, I really need help curing it

Hi, how is it going? Is your vaginismus better?

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Thank you sharing this.😔 I got divorced few years back And I believe maybe this could be the reason. I really loved that man but still wasnot able to have any kind of intimacy. I donot know how to resolve this problem. But I donot want to repeat this ever again if I got married.

Your are a gem! I have had this for years. So painful, it has affected my whole life. I agree with all of what you are saying. It has affected our marriage. You are young and beautiful. So glad you are sharing!!

i’m really struggling with my self esteem because of this right now. i feel so guilty and like im disappointing my partner, it’s very relieving to hear about other people that relate though.

Thank you for this. I have put a request to see a doctor about this after struggling in silence for 10 years

Cute baby) interesting, thanks

It’s lovely to see you back Lucy 🥰 x

Does Levi sleep all night ? You ate such a great mum x

Love this ❤

Thank you for kind words, my girlfriend is have problems with this, and you words is helping her right now, I'm gonna support her because I really really love my sweetheart🥺

Has anyone here been able to get rid of Vaginismus? Or worked through it?

You have done women a great service by sharing your story. I am on OB-GYN and have seen and helped many patients. These women feel isolated and embarrassed in our sex-positive culture. They wonder why it seems so easy for others, and hear harmful advice like “just drink a glass of wine” or “just keep trying.. the first time is often painful”. These patients are NOT alone , since vaginismus is not uncommon. There is embarrassment in seeking help because of the contrast with popular culture. You are right when you say we must teach children about sex differently. Christians are taught that sex should be reserved for marriage. Indeed, a stable marriage is the best environment to raise emotionally healthy children. But in advising our teen daughters we should emphasize that sex is good and pleasurable, and is a gift to married people. It is not shameful, and in teaching abstinence we should not imply that it should be. It is a gift from God which we should enjoy in the right place. I would advise any woman with sexual pain to see a gynecologist early on. She should tell the doctor in advance that she has been unable to use a tampon, etc. Then the doctor will be prepared to do a gentle exam, and even if it takes a few visits, limit initial exam to the extent that the patient can experience without pain. If she cannot tolerate an exam, an ultrasound can be used to painlessly image the anatomy. A urine sample can rule out infection. An external exam can rule out hymen abnormalities, which can obstruct the vagina, and which can be surgically corrected (under anesthesia of course). Besides pelvic floor physical therapy and dilators, we can prescribe local anesthetic gel that can be applied prior to working with dilators. The main thing is to allow patients control over how much contact she can tolerate. I think it is also important to encourage couples to engage in physical contact with the clear expectation that attempts at intercourse are not to be done. Some couples have to practice holding hands, cuddling, dancing, and physical closeness without thinking that touch is only to be used in foreplay. All human beings need physical contact, and if the spouse is trustworthy, he will know that patience and little steps will be more likely to lead to mutually enjoyable sexual relationships and a marriage built on trust. Trying to force the issue will be a huge setback in the goal of attaining sexual intimacy. Keep up the good work.

Greetings from Japan. I am also married and have been struggling to overcome vaginismus. Respect your courage to share your story with us! I have a different cultural background, but I recognize some parallels with you. I also have had negative feelings about sex since childhood. My doctor suggests I am obsessed with irrational fear about penetrating. Irrational may be, but I haven't yet set myself free from this invisible hurdle. It does exist. Now I realize how "fear" can be such a massive, overwhelming feeling....

This is so helpful, I feel less alone.

Hi thank you so I have this vaginisum and is killing my marriage I have been married for 23 I still have it I feel like I am not normal ❤❤❤

You stole the truth from Paladin, he gave you fair trial, you gave him no such fairness

Thanks so much for talking about this! I have had vaginismus since I was 22 (I'm 34 now), and have been through all the things - talk therapy, pelvic floor physical therapy, dilators, etc. and although I have made progress, it's still very much a problem. You are so lucky to have an understanding and supportive partner who is willing to go to therapy and work on it with you!!!! What a treasure! I didn't have that and I think that's a big reason why I haven't been able to get over it. And I've been single now for a while because trying to date is so daunting because of this issue! I really appreciate you openly addressing it, because I think there are probably a lot more women going through this than we realize, but it's such a taboo topic that no one talks about it. And I can definitely identify with the anxiety you feel around any physical intimacy leading to sex - that has been such a huge issue for me, too. So it's nice to know I am not alone, and I know many other women will feel this way after watching this video. Thank you!

Use homepathic medicines you will be fine

Are you doing exercises?

I tried to follow you on instagram but I can’t 😖 love your vlogs

I’m 54. Dealing with it surrounding menopause and dryness. I just want to say thanks for this but at the same time your video is a case study for sex education and a case against religion trying to control people especially women. Sorry!!!

Thank you for sharing your experience ♥️♥️

First of all, Lucy I want to thank you for making this video 😊 I am so grateful that you decided to share your personal experience considering that when I was also searching information about vaginismus I could find nothing and felt very much alone. You don't know how much you helped me and I assume so many other people, at least to feel less alone 💖🌻 I just wanted to add that in certain countries like mine it's practically impossible to find a psychosexual therapist, so that can be very frustrating and discouraging. Also, and this is only my personal experience, whilst searching for the dilators you mentioned, they were simply abnormally expensive! Not mentioning the shipping cost. Something that has helped me physically are pelvic floor exercises on KZbin, especially this channel: The Flower Empowered. I just wanted to put this channel out there in case it could help anyone else, and preface the importance of going to a regular psychologist/therapist anyway, if possible in your area, and if you already can't go to a psychosexual therapist, because any mental work is so valuable. 🌈💞🌼 Thank you Lucy for this great video!

i also had vaginismus, and my previous partner was lovely about it, we were together for 3 years but never did anything cus of my vaginismus. He was patient but because the relationship was toxic and he was cheating a lot I think this was why it never happened. My vaginismus was bad during that relationship, i never put anything inside me not even fingers. deep down i never truly trusted him. in the end he left me and months later i met a very secure walking green flag man. It just happened with him, my vaginismus was no longer a problem lol, ofc at first it hurt but i just trusted him so much with everything i was so confident he'd never leave me

How would you get through pregnancy with this?

My partner and I was feeling so desperate after the first try. He told me that there was something like a wall down there. I have never used tampon or anything else to penetrate down there (who would know, right?) I didn't even knew how it should be... Right now I still struggle with this, my relationship may end because of that anxiety. And that gives me more anxiety! Thank you for sharing your experience, this takes courage. You are a beautiful woman and I think your husband is lucky to have you too 😉✨

Thank you for this video.. I really helped me feel okay about myself... Hoping everyone who goes through this gets through it soon and is able to live a more fulfilling life the way they would love... ❤

It's so mentally draining and demoralising. I have always felt like I knew plenty about sex and penetration. Never had an issue putting a finger on or having a partner do it. However, since I've been married it's been a few weeks and we still are hitting a wall....

I developed vaginismus in 1987. I had no idea what it was or why it was happening. There was nothing to read, no one to talk to. Out of desperation, I went to several gynecologists and none of them knew what it was. I was asked if I had been sexually abused as a child, (no), told to drink alcohol before sex and basically not offered any help at all. I needed IUI and IVF to have my children. It eventually caused the demise of my marriage. I am so glad there is help for this today. Thank you for being a voice for this heartbreaking condition.

As a boyfriend going through same journey with my most awesome girlfriend, thank you.

Hey, just wanted to say that there is a similar condition in men. It's mainly called chronic pelvic pain syndrome (CPPS) and as somebody that suffers from it, I deeply relate to the feelings you shared. Especially as a 20-something person, sex is a huge topic anytime, even if you're not in a relationship or not dating. Just mentally knowing that there's something wrong with you down there is immensely stressful and it's hard to really accept it. I'm currently starting my path to recovery and I'm already feeling a bit better about myself, both mentally and physically but there are days when it all comes back. I think the worst thing about it is feeling alone, because it's not an everyday condition and you can't just talk to most people about it openly. Sometimes I wish I just had a broken arm because then I'd at least know how my path to recovery looks like and other people would understand what's going on. But I know it will get better if I put in the work. So thank you, Lucy, for sharing your experience and for shining a light on this condition. And to everybody that is in a similar place (men or women): You're not alone and we'll get through this! ☺✊

Love this, thanks so much. I was diagnosed 3 years ago and started PT 3 weeks ago. I'm a Christian and can relate so much to what you're saying. Praying for you both!

Thank you so much for being brave and sharing this ❤️ I have two fears for myself 1) That my husband and I will never be able to have kids because of my vaginismus and 2) If we do somehow conceive one day, that we may suffer a miscarriage. Thank you for sharing these parts of your life, it's not easy but many women unfortunately go through difficult things like this in silence and it means a lot for these difficult things to be shared so that we don't suffer alone ❤️

Lucy i am so so heartbroken for you. there's honestly no words that one could say to help make it better. i just pray that you and your husband will be able to get through this. <3

I have been married for two years and suffer from vaginismus. I can't train with my husband. This is exhausting. I want a solution to this disease

Thank you so much for sharing this. It helps me not feel so alone through this process. My husband and I waited to be married to share Gods covenant in marriage and I recently was diagnosed with vaginismus. I appreciate your vulnerability and sharing the Godly aspect on it as well. I am now going to doctors getting the proper help. Did you state you went to a PT? I’ve heard of possibly going to one but I have not brought myself to find one.