Such helpful tips ! Thank you

Plz help me im pregnet but i dnt want breastfeed what should i do becoz my mental health not ok im deppressed about breastfeed nightmare😢

My baby is 4 weeks. I had a really traumatic birth and breast feeding has been taking a further toll on my mental health due to baby having tongue tie. I just am.not mentally equipt for this. Ive started combi feeding with formula and breast milk to try and take the pressure off me slightly while still giving baby majority breast milk. However she seems to prefer the bottle now and its become stressful again. I feel so hopeless. I do think I would be a better mum if we dropped the pressure and went to formula. But I feel so guilty 😢

The fact that society pushes mothers to have a "good reason" for not breastfeeding is disgusting to me. You shouldn't have to justify yourself to anyone, period.

I'm so sorry that the nurses didn't give you enough time of day, especially after such a long and traumatic delivery. That really sucks. I really appreciate you posting this video because so many mothers feel this pressure of the "holy grail" of breastfeeding. It's such a terrible mentality to believe that one specific way of parenting or mothering is superior to others when you really don't know someone else's story. Personally, as a first time mom, I'm planning on bottle feeding only - and the side eyes I get from mothers at parenting or birthing classes is insane. What they don't understand is my mental disability and the struggle I've had to endure these last nine months with being off of my regular medication. As a precaution, I don't want my baby feeding off of those medications and becoming addicted from a young age through my breastmilk. Also, I selfishly do want my body back to some degree after baby is born. With that said, I'm not jealous of breastfeeding mothers in any way, shape, or form. If anything, I'm disgusted by the attitude they hold and the judgement they reserve towards their fellow females. Thank you for sharing your story- it means a lot to me personally and I think more moms need to have the courage to share their pros of bottle feeding instead of seeing it in such a negative light.

Thank you so much for making this video!

It's just amazing how many times you had to plead for people to be kind to you in the comments, for making a perfectly acceptable and rational decision about feeding your baby, which is 100 percent your personal choice. I am a postpartum doula in the US and I know from reading the stories on the FED is Best website that the country with the most militancy around breastfeeding is the UK, so I'm not surprised you would be having these uncomfortable feelings. It seems very clear since breastfeeding has become an international public health issue the intensity that accompanies the initiative is also responsible for women feeling shamed and guilty if they are not breastfeeding. This has to stop.

Thanks. For your bravery. I and millions of women live breastfeeding aversion for Multiple reasons. And still avenging and hateful people continue to judge Moms and dads that choose fórmula. I AM a cientist. There is no scientific valid evidence that formula is bad. Studies about breastmilk are biased . As for Many other decisions....parents know best. And we have to respect that.😊😊 Thanks you for your courage.

We need more videos like this that provide different mom first experiences. I tried my best to breastfeed my firtborn with lots of pain but I could tell he wasnt feeding well. Turns out he had a tongue tie, which was only resolve at 10weeks plus. By then I was supplementary with formula and mostly expressing which was how I brought my milk in. When he went on the breast, he cried loads as he bever fed properly. But he didnt cry when he fed from expressed milk or formula. Determined to provide him my milk, i expressed for almost 6 months with ny first which resulted in PND. With my second, I breastfed easier and expressed for only 3 months, but it was a much more pleasant experience. Now with my third - again questioning how long I can go on expressing...

I hate the “breast is best” mantra because it completely ignores that the breast is attached to a whole human being. An emotionally present and happy mom who decides to formula feed because they have the choice may in many cases be better for the baby as well. We’ve been oversold the benefits of breastmilk to the point where we are putting the mental health of women at risk and ignoring the fact that mothering requires more than the availability of her breast.

I had a completely similar experience

Thank you so much for making this video! I feel the support!! I have struggled so much with breastfeeding bc I don’t produce enough and my 1st child was so dehydrated bc I was following the “breast is best” rule when my body wasn’t producing. I wish we could do away with the stigma of formula feeding. Your video really helps!

Installation is a headache.. Definitely.. And my newborn head wasnt still and the lack of recline means my newborn was almost up right even with full tilted.. I wonder how this car seat has all these awards etc that they mention

STOP LYING !!! You have plenty make up on…. Typical drama queen

What worked for me was taking breastfeeding classes before giving birth. I knew what to expect and it definitely calmed many of my worries. I think it’s about consistency with the latching. My daughter latched immediately at birth, then somehow forgot how to and we kept trying , but after a few moments of trying to breastfeed, I’d have to use alternative methods like a syringe of expressed milk or expressed milk in a bottle. There have been times where I didn’t have my pump on me and it was hard for me to hand express and my daughter was crying hungry and I just broke down because she couldn’t latch and my nipples were peeling, but I’m glad I didn’t give up because now it’s relatively easy for me although she does alternate between boob and bottle of expressed milk. I personally like to bottlefeed because I can see how much she’s drinking. As long as your baby is getting fed, that’s all that matters.

What did your baby weigh at birth?

You don't want the backlash because you do not want to admit that you did not want to do it and do not want to be judge. It is better to breastfeed

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Man I needed this

As a mum who breastfed her child, I support the mums who don't want to do it. It's your choice, and if you don't feel like doing, it's just ok. Fed is best.

I’m sorry you had that experience momma. I’m a doula and exclusively breastfeeding mom of 4 and I totally understand what you were saying in this video. You made a lot of valid points. Breastfeeding information and support is so key to breastfeeding successfully and its best to get it during pregnancy cause it’s a HUGE learning curve for most moms after baby is born. That’s why I started my channel to help other moms and family get the correct breastfeeding support they need. Thank you so much for sharing ❤️🙏🏿!

Thank you for this video. I'm doing a counselling research project on this whole matter and welcome your story. Wishing you all the best. x

When you started day time naps in cot did you put him to sleep in the cot over night at the same time ?

When you put him in cot for day time naps did you put him in cot for night time too on the same day??

Video is blurred sorry

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Fully agree with this video. I had an emergency section, really tried to breastfeed but just found it really stressful. Felt I was a better mum also when I formula fed him, me personally, so I completely understand that! Choice is important, in all areas, including feeding. You’re right, this does need to be talked about x

First time mom here. When I was pregnant I had set my mind that I was going to breastfeed, but sadly that didn’t happen. I ended up giving birth via c-section and what they don’t tell you is that the anesthesia cloggs your milk ducts making it even harder and more painful to get your milk supply out. So not only did it make me depressed that I was having a near impossible time to breastfeed I realized that a fed baby is a happy baby. It was mentally draining that my milk supply didn’t come in as I hoped, but then I realized as long as my baby is fed that is all that matters, not only that he still needs me so I focused on recovering from my c-section and taking care of him. Now I bottle feed him and he is one growing happy and healthy baby.

It's completely impossible to install, and the review magically skips over the installation part. Honest? Haha

This is where I am at, at 36 weeks pregnant. Feeling this exact feelings. She feels lodged high up, yet she’s engaged down below, but I’m short and she just has nowhere else to go. 🤯

Thank you for this! When I have a child I do not want to beastfeed either

I agree with you on the sunscreen thing. Its better to just make sure you use the sunscreen than risk your baby with sunburn etc

Maybe safer and more effective to spray a lamp shade rather than a bulb.

Just another "buy this product" commercial. Eczalema is a symptom of disruptive digestion, anything you put on your skin is just covering the problem not curing it. DONT SPEAK ABOUT CURING IF YOU ARE COVERING THE PROBLEM!

🇺🇸🇺🇸 Can I clean my baby's face with COCONUT WATER???

This was a very helpful video ,the only thing is the perfect prep machine. I was going to buy one for a friend but was told they are not reccomended by health visitors/ health nurses. The nurse in the hospital usually tells people not to use them.

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Thanks SO MUCH for making this video, I don't have children yet, but I have my own reasons in regards to my mental health, that means I am planning not to breast feed. Thanks for talking about it ☀️

In Africa , sometimes we give babies whose mothers couldn't make it very light porridge made mostly from 🌽 corn....They don't die , they don't get sick , they are energetic too. If you want to breast feed , do it ...if you don't want to , don't do it.... Do what makes you comfortable.

It’s okay to bottle feed but just know that you are in fact depriving your child. If your excuse is just you’re too tired, you need sleep, you don’t want to struggle with night feedings then you’re not ready to be a mother, sorry. There’s a lot of valid reasons for choosing not to breastfeed but for your own comfort really shouldn’t be it. I thought most mothers wanted the best for their children? Formula is a last resort for when a mother can’t or isn’t producing enough, when work dries up milk supplies, adoptions, etc. Im tired of so many moms being too selfish to do what’s best for their babies. The formula companies have marketing and ad dollars to convince you that formula is somehow better. There’s ZERO comparison other than they both keep a child fed. That’s it. If you’re giving a child formula it’s like giving a dog pedigree. Yeah they’re not gonna die but you’re literally doing the bare minimum for them

I don't need help. We need a cure. Literally nothing works.

I’m so small too

A lot of people are mis-using Zoflora purely for it's scent / fragrance. Leaving it in your sink overnight or mixing it with hot to boiling water can be more harmful than it is good.

She does it for fame she's obsessed with looks and has nothing better to do!

More women need to realize breastfeeding is not easy but it’s absolutely the best thing for your child in terms of nutrition (provided you have a good supply and no other issues). It’s okay to be overwhelmed but giving up so easily on something so important is sad. I might become a lactation consultant because I see so many women these days are completely lost and aren’t being guided properly when it comes to breastfeeding.

Such a good idea !!!!

Everyone wants me to “just try”…I have 0 desire to even try but I’m doing it for “pressure” reasons cuz it’s suppose to be “free and better” for the baby…….

Wow your tiny baby had a big baby ;)