I’m forever thankful for finding your channel Your messages have given me my truth this channel is my go to for my truth and redirects me when I find myself in the shit zone

❤ thank you. 🌹🥰

I had one relationship that had a few of these dynamics though not that bad. The panic in them when you leave them is unreal.

Awesome stuff, thank you so much Candace 💚

So should I say something to the person who u know constantly invalidates you?

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You have a beautiful face. Wow! Thank you!

Thank you for sharing this video. I believe you are saying the best thing about trauma bonds. I was never aware about these things untill I started watching your videos and I relate to it. Rejection from love is very hard even though I still have feelings for her and I was to travel 1000s of km to just see if that person wants to even meet me. It would hurt more but I am not sure about this. I don't use facebook or Instagram atm. But when I do I will also check your videos and podcasts too. Take care 🙂

This is happening to me right now.

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Hey candace, my narc father died by suicide last year, I know I should out him but I feel guilty. It’s confusing to try and get help cause processing stuff like normal grief seems a bit irrelevant but at the same time I don’t want to not process and get stuck in grief Also everyone going round pretending he was the best 😭

As a HSP, this was very hard for me to watch because of all of the triggers and realizations 😔 I know my heart needed to hear this. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ME! 🤍 I am 29 and it is time I start reclaiming my personal power.

Thank you Candace

Finally i realize that the bond between me and my parents is not love it is trauma bond. Because when i think about them i feel like they are distant relatives living in another planet

The goal can be enlightenment? That’s a purely egotistical exercise. Ego death is not a revelation or slow process. It is a chemical explosion like kundalini in which you experience nothing but pure bliss and love. There is no other perception. Mine lasted nine days.

I`m Baron Surreal Nuqzuln templar vampire in Cocobridge where the best nymphs are, FVG the racial intuitor and i find pilgrims rude

True a become a parent when i was seven.

Loved this podcast, thank you!

Thank you you’re amazing!❤

Love that

She was timid and she said she was scared. She was holding a little plushie bear.

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In my experience, the emotional disconnect had to come first before the physical :(

Yes us older ones got institutionalized goddamnit hehe. <3

Thanks for your time

Yes everything comes via the Universe not people! Doh. Hehe love you Candace. <3

It’s mistaking peace for boring hehe! <3

3rd input might put a spark it

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So emotionally disconnect from those that emotionally disconnected from us in the first place?

Wow, that's intense and inspiring.

Its real.

Good Stuff!!

Today I had a lesson from God that his "Will" doesn't override mine. God respects my No and I don't have to "bend" to His will. It was a great lesson.

How to survive in a ruthless world being sensitive is not easy

I think you people can play an important role to transform all that banes (hypersensitivity, empathy -actually they are not banes but in the view point of a narcissit based society the are banes )to boons

This is me at work all the time. It's debilitating and I usually end up having to hide from them and the crowds. It's almost like an automatic fawn and freeze response to a situation.

In the dating world, I get only fake people who initially validate me. After a couple of months, they show their true colors.

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love this video = seriously working on creating a healthier relationship to my inner child

Thank you for this needed reminder. I am in my cocoon faze, leveling up, and letting go of 3 of my closest friends who I thought I'd have by my side for life but as my self-love grows I realize they, sadly, were not treating me the way I deserve. I have to walk away. Gosh, it's so lonely, but I TRUST. Leap and the net will appear <3 Thanks Candace.

Can being an indigo child go with having the 6th sense? Or do they overlap? I resonate with your video a LOT.

I was a child of narcissist parent. I was homeless with him, for a very long time in the past. I managed to escape that, and went to go be with my extended family that had found me on the internet. They flew me in first class to go be with them. But I left after only 3 months because of how difficult they were to live with, and how conditional their love and regard was towards me. Years later a former friend who I randomly met on a bench somewhere, ended up going against me and he invalidated me and said “Well they raised your brother! They raised him and not you so he’s their kid!” and he laughed at me. So I came to figure out, that the reason that I wasn’t being loved, cared, treated, regarded just the same as my brother who I never got to grow up with since we were born, was all because they raised him, and not me… it’s incredibly unfair to me, how my upbringing got robbed by a narcissist father, while my full blood brother got to have what they called a “privileged life”. I remember I stayed at a friend’s house and his family because his mom couldn’t sleep at night knowing that I was sleeping in a car on a piece of property that my dad owned. They treated me as equally as their 2 boys, I thought I could have that with my family. Yet, after everything that I went through with my father, I finally got to be with my extended family, only to be met with this sort of rejection of not being allowed just the same home life as my sibling, all because they raised him and they never raised me… and my aunt questioned why I went to go be with them… even though she initially invited me and said “why not come stay here?” Isn’t every kid and young person deserving of a family home? Shouldn’t it be the norm and standard for every kid and young person? We never chose our parents… and I never chose this life…

Omg I haven't watched the whole thing and I write this as you're talking but I feel so HEARD and SEEN!!! T H A N K Y O U!!!!!

111 likes <3 is feeling unloveable the same as feeling unworthy? like if someone likes me, i always confound myself bc i dont get why? i think "what did i do that they like me for? why why why?" is it just a matter of training our thinking daily to getting used to positive thoughts towards ourselves?

For me it was in friendships and family where I had feelings of unworthiness 8:11 now abandonment doesn’t control me

Spot on.This i so me.Sometimes you have to learn late in life. In my life I thought this was love. But in this case, the body is so smart that it signals. Just that I didn't understand. My body went on total strike. This was tough work. But worth actually taking my life back. But I have seen this type of relationship since I was a child. So it was like inborn. But went out of my own programming to never again abandon myself for anything. Abandoholic is not a life. They kill the inside of yourself. But started to live. So looking forward to life in the years I turn 50. Better late than never.

Thank you, Candace, for these invaluable tips. 💖🕊️

Wow, this video makes so much sense to me. It’s so important, informative and powerful. It gives me a better understanding of the relationship with my mother. Thank you, Candace! 💖

🔥❤️‍🔥🔥YES!!! 💯 %. I can love you but will do something to make you not like me. Alcohol doesn’t help that either. I just want to be loved no matter what. I will even go to the point of pushing people away. What a beautiful mess 🔥❤️‍🔥🔥I feel everything even when I don’t want to