is spanking addictive. Means someone can't be in right mind after long break of spanking.??

Good talk. Sometimes I find it difficult to know what to do. I know she hates being punished but I also know that when she needs it she is much happier when it's been done and done properly. Due to our age, I also to factor in her health (we're in our sixties), which also creates another bit of uncertainty. But once I've made the decision, absent a health issue, she needs me to stick with it.

Just listened. I think its something you can bring up if you want the correction. The other way round will never result in anything positive. Asking for discipline is different from asking to discipline someone.

Hello just discovered your channel. Think its excellent for people to get an honest look into what the dynamic involves from couples that live it. Can i ask if you both shared this interest before meeting. And if not, who suggested you should try it out? Maybe advice on how to discuss this with a current long term partner or bring it up without shocking them. Thanks.

Thank you so much for this. I have been struggling with keeping a good attitude towards my husband. This is a wonderful thing to do to put ourselves at a submissive position. My husband agrees fully that this punishment can really discourage my bad behaviour. ❤ You both are my light when it comes to relationship dynamics.

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How long did it take before you could sit down without having pain

Thank you for your description of the spanking. Sounds like a very solid one. A punishment spanking definitely needs to be thorough, as you describe, and make the woman wish it were over. It pushes her to be motivated to behave better in the future. It impresses on her that she is under the control of her husband. When my wife knows she deserves a spanking, I find those are the ones that are the most effective. Three minutes of continual spanking is definitely not easy. Most of the spankings I give are longer than three minutes, but there is some talking in there as well.

Hi! Yes, please. Tell us more about your punishments and practices around it especially that changes and why. Also it would be nice to hear from you how you deal with pain during the punishment process, maybe some practices, tips or something like that. Since my husband and I are also starting to practice domestic discipline and your advices and experience is simply superb.

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Koda's sigh at the very thought of you coming to him every day with thoughts. 😂 That is soooooooo relatable! My King doesn't love this talks either. I'm getting better about not being pushy with my opinions constantly. I do wish he were harder on me. I find it hard to keep control when he's so lenient with my behavior. I respect him with all of my being, but I still find it difficult when he doesn't enforce his hand more often. I hope that doesn't sound bad. Please send advice if you have any.

Thank you another wonderful episode

Thank you honey for sharing.

OMG YES. I start with a hand warm up with my undies up tight. It doesn't hurt at first but with time it stings. My actual punishment is with an old, heavy, wooden spoon. While I pull my nightgown up as high as possible, my husband takes my undies off completely. Than he spanks my lower cheeks and that area where your behind and legs meet. I scream and cry just like a baby literally.

Very Good Idea. I would be very interested in hearing a longer, more indepth take on developing a deeper Submission and how we the HOH can assist in facilitating that journey for and with her.

How often do you get a maintenance spanking and how often do you get a punishment spanking?

They need to work out a contract. If you don't tell each other what they want and expect then misunderstandings can occur.

Ok honest question. What are your thoughts on domestic discipline in an LGBT relationship. I’m trans myself but I’ve been yearning myself to be taken in hand. And I mean that in a true desire for discipline and not a pleasure thing. Just wondering if you think this dynamic is extendable beyond the traditional relationship if that makes sense

What do you do if you're taking a hand says sorry after you warn her about a behavior in public

How do you maintain discipline with cats in the house

Thank you so much for the wonderful video! I have a question for something similar to this question. Would you quit DD if one of the spouse is not as actively working towards DD? I personally brought DD to my husband along with the sources you have given as well. I want DD so badly but my husband is not as enthusiatic. He is good with it but he himself does not look into DD and he will give me a very light punishment. I am losing alot of hope and my husband doesnt find it very important to work on together. Do you think it is worth while to continue?

Very nice to hear your HoH starting the podcast, leading the discussion for a change - as it should be. The gist of this episode is that as the leader, the HoH has to... Lead! I.E., go first. A submissive cannot relax, and let go into a void. The HoH must create the consistent framework and structure, *before* the TiH can relax and relinquish control.

When I was living with my ex girlfriend we agreed I would be head of household and I would spank her. We agreed to that before we started dating. I told her it was non negotiable. When I felt she needed it she would be spanked. Occasionally she would request one. If she has a guilty conscience or if she saw I was upset over something she would get a spanking with no argument.

If we are just in our house alone is it better to just dicepline in the moment or wait

How many strokes of the cane did you have? Also can you confirm if it was in your bare bottom or not. I am HOH and discipline my wife with various implements, she is terrified of the cane because here in England it brings back memories from our Schooldays. I love this channel please keep your stories coming.

I think we disagree with this one.

Modeling for other women the willingness to say, essentially, "I was wrong", and "I am sorry" is so valuable, and so important. Keep up the good work!

This is an important topic. Thank you for sharing your experience, and explaining your thinking. There have been a few instances in which my wife objected to a spanking she was going to receive, but she always accepts it, since she respects my leadership. On the whole, there is always something there to learn from a spanking, even if you don't agree with it. There's a lesson there. Looking back, a wife might realize her objections were poor anyway. Thanks for all your work on this channel.

Hearing of a child being raised seeing respect for the HoH makes my heart happy. Good job!

Good episode. I would characterize your behavior (obedience) as an embodiment of the respect you feel for your HoH. Respect is the precursor to obedience. If you obey, but with foot dragging, eye rolls, negotiating, etc - that's not sincere, congruent behavior. There is no underlying respect. That's talking the talk, without really walking the walk.

I think you missed the mark. Many men use dd wrong and seriously hurt the woman. She may be asking for help. You should read the blogs of what happens in some unhealthy dd relationships.

It's a reminder of what could happen if you lose your focus.

This is purely curiosity, not criticism: I wonder why it is that you seem to need so many/such frequent punishments, over so many years. I compare & contrast your relationship with Dawn & Andrew of Infinite Devotion, where they have a no-punishment rule, a boundary that Dawn set at the beginning of their D/s dynamic. Could there be a brat element, that you (consciously or subconsciously) could be provoking him into punishing you? As intense as you describe some of these paddlings to be, it just seems like you would course correct your attitude and behavior after a pretty small number of these intense experiences. As much as you describe these experiences as generating deep remorse and understanding that you were in the wrong... Your behavioral problems apparently persist. Could there be some underlying masochism at play, and you *want/need* these experiences for their own sake? The value you place on the headspace they put you in seems to reinforce the idea that without those intense punishments that linger for days afterwards, you wouldn't be able to be as submissive as you say you have the desire to be, and value.

This is GREAT info! ❤

Absolutely loved this storytime. Canes are super intense, I just bought an extra whippy one. My partner knows it’ll take an extremely bad attitude to earn it :)

I think you’re spot on with accountability

Thank you, this is right where I am in thinking about leading my family, so it’s a huge help! Could you do a follow up episode on how you make decisions with regards to those things on which you trust the input of your TIH and/or on things that you have primarily delegated to her, but on which you need to make a decision?

Wait until we get home young lady!

What app did you use

Thanks for sharing this. It sounds like it definitely was a turning point in your relationship. I’m excited to follow the change it may have evoked.

That's very interesting to listen to. I had to give my wife a spanking for the exact same thing not long ago. You could say it was part for the lateness, and part for the disrespect. It was a long one.

Thank you. This is a very good overview of how important the different parts of a spanking session are. I always lay my emphasis on being able to give a stern lecture, and a long thorough spanking. However, every element is important.

That sounded very sincere my dear.. I have been reading a lot on female led relationships which I enjoy very much.. from your description, it seems like you backside must have been an interesting color at the end.. I’m almost glad that your HOH treated this punishment as severe as he did.. it seemed that the severity of your spanking almost convinced you to write this comment.. explaining how much it meant to you! Stay safe and be good! I’m sure you don’t want that type of spanking in the near future!

Loved this story, great insight into an effective punishment and the taken’s headspace :)

I've been listening to your episodes for quite some time, despite your HoH clearly taking a more passive role behind you in these conversations. It sounds like quite a watershed moment for the two of you. I'm curious to see whether his new level of confidence comes through in the way the two of you interact in future episodes.

I'm so glad that your HOH has such a strong reserve. I wish mine would be harder on me. I just had to tell on myself as well. I told him that I've been slacking off with my tasks lately because he's been so easy on me lately. I'm a bit terrified of his reaction. I have no idea what his reaction is going to be. 😬

Love this. Great window into the mindset of what makes your punishments effective.

As a spanker in the house, the most important part is after :)

I am wondering if your husband disobey if he gets a spanking.