Please dont make video's like this Woman are very gaslit and we woman are made to adapt. It kills us but we can adapt for a short time. This video makes us think that we are not autistic but jest need to work harder at being "normal". I am a diagnosed autistic person and you could be talking about me in the not having autism, because i did not get my diagnoses as a kid. I kill my self all day because i learnd to adapt

Meditation practices have been helpful with regards to turning down the volume on my monkey brain. And, I love the endings of these videos. This one in particular: I do accents too, repeating a phrase over and over with varying emphases. With no purpose, no reason, other than it's fun to do variations of a phrase, in life as in music.

All of this resonated with me. Thanks for the info Chris. 😊

I massage the top of my thighs, moving my hands back and forth - no matter where I am! 😢

Half of them seems to be "you might not have ADHD"

yeah now i think im definitely autistic lol

I have ARFID and its not so i can take control. Saying it that way makes it sound like were being "dramatic". Maybe it's more related to autism as most people with ARFID (men and women both) struggle with the same food items all over the globe.

Sometimes we chew on ideas, and sometimes ideas seem to chew on us!

The boy who was into WWII tanks probably died in one in his past lifetime. He loved his previous experience.

The bloopers at the end is my new favorite thing ever. Watched it like 10 times already. Love it. I do the same heaps when I'm alone. I make weird noises and say things in funny ways to test how it sounds.

I was diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder because I chronically avoid so many things. But they discounted my autism because of my social engagement

INTJ woman here … and Enneagram 5 Felt connected to autistic people…

I had no idea they all grouped under 'cognitive distortions' and yes I have them all, except what is wrong about it? if I did not, and it is hard to tell if I did not I would probably develop that kind of aptitude myself anyway, very rational, and logical. And ruminating over bad things people did/can do/might do/will do to us is not being paranoid if it is based on past events as basis for avoidance in the future What is wrong with the word they want to paint everything grey, sweep under carpet, and pretend it does not exist/affect them, so we have wars, hunger, children abused, and other things some people would do to other since they would avoid repercussions anyway easily, so yes I would rather go black and white thinking to have it straight

you just described me like you were living my life. What does that mean? What do I do? Does that mean that there is actually a treatment to help?

The showering thing is so true. And the sun!!! Sigh. Thank you for this information.

Hello. I have seen that some autistik peopel are not walking on the heel ore they are just touch the ground with the heel. Have you ore youre wife seen that?

I might be realizing something here...

Physically could not look at the screen for those 9 seconds you were making unwavering eye contact with the camera.

Thank you for your very much for your very informative video.

I think one of the other reasons might be that people keep insisting on asking all these questions they never really wanted an actual answer to. So the, or so I was told, ritual words of 'Morning, how are you?' answered with a 5min explanation of how things are actually going - that's considered self-centered. BTW: so is just ignoring all the people in the hall who may or may not be attempting to use me in a ritual. I'm pretty sure I zoned out for a few days trying to fit this into the universe (and wondering why no one ever told me this before), and may have decided I don't care. People can either learn to not ask me questions they don't want answered, cut me off when I answer the non-questions, ignore me, put up with it, or go with the flow. But not answering questions makes my brain feel funny, and I don't like you enough to put up with that.

I got called a narcissist once when a friend told me her pet died. She told me over text when I was having a meltdown myself, and I remember that I didn't wanna let it out on her, but knew she would be upset if i wouldn't reply at all, so i said "I'm sorry for your loss but I'll talk to you later, i don't feel so good." A couple weeks later she ended the friendship when we had a big dispute because she said I'm never there when she needs me and always prioritize my own mental health over her feelings and even forgot about her birthday. Still to this day I'm so upset with how things ended because there was a lot more to that but in the end she made me look like the bad guy in front of our friends. Even though I was letting her live at my place for months when she had no where to go and even gave her a couple hundreds of starter money when she got an apartment. I don't know why people always forget the treatment over years when it comes to issues like that. I asked myself far too long if it was really all my fault since I didn't know that im autistic back then but eventually even if I knew and she knew, people always tell me she wasn't a real friend and just took advantage of me so I'll never truly know. Sorry for this long TMI 😅

5:10 The way I can relate to this 💯 😂😢

Hahaha😂

Thank you for this ❤

great video! lmao oh man that car skit cracked me up xD thank you

Good lord, you just described me to a tee. I was diagnosed with ADHD in my late 20's. Now in my 50's, my daughter and 2 grandsons have been diagnosed with the ADHD/ASD dual diagnosis and my nephew with ASD. My dad also has ADHD. Our family is very neuro-spicy. I really feel that i have ASD, as well. After watching your video, I am sure of it. Thank you. 🙂

I can't tell you how much I relate to this.

People tend to assume that all behavior is self directed and conscious, which is really not the case for anyone. But when I am behaving in ways that, I acknowledge, seem egocentric, and in some ways are - monologuing is my biggest issue - I’m anything but self directed. I really try to thwart that these days, but I never do great and sometimes cannot control myself. At those times, I’m engaging in addictive behavior, and my addiction is the little hit of dopamine I get from anticipating the next thing out of my mouth. I don’t say that it’s desirable behavior, or that it’s not difficult for other people to deal with. But it’s not because I’m full of myself: I hate the idea of being self aggrandizing, I’m very self critical, and I really can’t stand the idea of someone thinking they are better than other people, especially me. My desire not to do that has tended to drive down my self esteem. Of course, when I say that, it sounds self aggrandizing and self justifying to some people. But what I’m trying to do is what you described: explain how things actually work with me, the good and the bad. Or as I put it to someone who once accused me online of being a narcissist: “I am not the kind of sh*t you think I am. I am a different kind of sh*

Almost everything fits, or is an opposite for me. #8 I love these changes so much!! It makes things exciting #9 my brain breaks every small thing into smaller and smaller steps, and that’s exhausting #10 I sometimes feel exhausted, but sometimes i just disassociate and feel no exhaustion at all.. especially social. But later I’ll pay for it

Chris- do you really not know? Because I don’t have a good solution to offer but… guess you’re just being tactful but I was just trying to have a life I never did. This is a great video but does cover something up possibly via repetition sorry to get sad on this

Well, I guess I am pretty autistic because about 88% of what you described is what I deal with.

🏆 Great Video. Thank You.

I learned I like supermarkets, lucky me 😅

I am like my cat - I only want attention when I am in the mood for it or lonely.

Now I know all of this sounds a lot like me. But I’m sure it’s just a coincidence. I just have ADHD. Right ? RIGHT ???

I'm learning so much about myself, but I'm scared that my doctors may brush it off, especially when - as they said - treatment options that I might seek won't be available. There's also a part of me wondering if there's a part of me that's simply relating and I'm not autistic. Either way, all of these highlighted different parts of my life...

I've not been diagnosed, but man do I relate to 80+% of what you discuss in your videos

No way- sunlight makes me sneeze too!

When I want a good read of someone, i do make eye contact. Thats why I avoid it with my friends. I can't help but see every little emote peek through and I can see a lie before it leaves the mouth. It took me a while to realize this but now I know.

Some are both. It is less likely, because autism implies that a person seeks relevance and logics, and narcissism is flawed and full of irrelevance. But doesn’t personality remain?

It took me years to figure out that when someone says ‘I would try it this way,’ that socially implies they want you to try something that way too. My brain always took it as ‘thanks for the suggestion. Let me see can find a way that works best for me.’ If the task is process-specific, you need to be upfront with me about that; it’ll save both of us time.

Well damn im autistic 😢😮

so there was a 6.4% chance for my odds for a narcissist autistic mother... amazing

2:41 I don’t know why, but this little clip totally disoriented my train of thought within this whole video

Somehow the way Chris went "good god man" in the end with the British accent instead reminded of charles boyle from Brooklyn 99 going turkey day! "Gobble gobble!" 🙈🤣 this has nothing to do with anything but my brain made connections and now I am gobbling along. And on a more serious note, Thank you so so so much for wording this like you did. And this video couldn't have come to me at a more perfect time. I had a fight with one of my closest people because of being perceived self-centered and misunderstood and the whole double empathy of it and was spiraling and contemplating if our friendship is going to survive this fight. So, thank you for this. I really needed this. Definitely looking forward to the cognitive distortion video next!

One thing I learned to pull myself away from things that look like narcissism is when you’re in a relationship and it’s either you’re right or you’re wrong sometimes being wrong in the argument as in letting the other person win is the better way to go about it, even if you know that they are factually wrong about a subject That you hundred percent know is true relationship dynamic you have to give up a certain form of correctness to be able to flow correctly with your partner sometimes you have to let someone else be wrong but still be right. It’s so that you can keep the relationship from having some major problems I figured out through my experiences.

Also, I wanna know where you got your factual evidence about only 3% of autistic people have been diagnosed with NPD and ASD. Where did you pull that information from? I wish to research.

If you wanna hear from a person who’s been studying narcissism for literally years due to the fact that I was labeled a narcissist, then found out later that I was autistic, but I did have quite a bit of narcissistic tendencies, and some things that can be perceived as narcissistic tendencies. There’s a big overlap difference in a lot of areas. Narcissist: are not blind to their motives or emotions they can be in denial at times which is a form of blindness, but it’s the psyche blocking itself. Autistic people can have narcissistic tendencies, but that also comes from a lack of understanding of others in the social nuances that are expected from the social construct of what neurotic individuals have in mind . Autistic people might be limited in some areas where our emotions strongly understood by ourselves or our emotions stop at a certain point and they level off instead continuously growing up like other people we might have a monotone expression Narcissist manipulators Autistic people can also learn manipulative. Tactics not meant for malicious intent, but survival mechanisms. Usually it is from years of abuse they become codependent and no matter what codependent does not mean you are fragile victim codependent means that you can have some manipulative tendencies To it shortly, a narcissist from a artist person can be actually difficult at times, depending on the severity of the psychological issues autistic people are not genuinely trying to be narcissistic. They just don’t understand because they have a limited understanding in certain areas you have to approach each individual from a different angle to try to figure out. How can you reach that spot of logical understanding and emotional awareness. A narcissist unfortunately, is someone who is in literal law, law world, denial, and will not choose to go out of their grandiose personification of who they are or if they are a vulnerable narcissist then they will try to act like the victim become a master manipulator, and they will try to make you feel bad for them all the time . I could break down even more explained,

Ok, so how do you find a clinician who understands this and can diagnose autism in girls/women? My DD has seen several and has had many different diagnoses.

I felt very seen watching this video. So thank you, so much for making it.