Can also increase the anger in them as well you project arrogance to them

Respect is so closely related to trust that you can't have one without the other. You can get compliance from authority or power but you need trust for true respect. Also If love is involved, the trust and respect are much higher. When solving difficult problems, respect becomes a gray area. All difficult conversations risk offense. If I only listen to you when it it a benefit to myself and when it isn't, I devalue your input, I am not in a mutually beneficial relationship, I am in a toxic relationship.

ya'll funny guys in the comments: if you responding to someone's angry confrontation by just looking at them means you get punched in the face, you were going to get punched in the face either way. so..

More podcasters should do short talks like this...

Beautiful. Thank you.🙏🏻

This is an everyday occurrence in US.

Hope you are doing well. Thank you very much for the great content.

There are people I know if I did that smile @ 1:57 theyd probably punch me ...this advice really depends on who the angry person is ...

Sometimes a person is just out to cause trouble and all these techniques fail .

I had a guy chase me in November 2021 when I screamed at him for cutting me off and almost hitting the back of my car 🚗. It was a really scary 😟 situation and I’m glad I wasn’t hurt or no property damaged but more importantly that I was okay ✅.

Thanks man

Horrible advice, I got angry while watching this.

I've tried for 5 decades ..... everything. This technic actually makes my abusers even more angry. Now days I just act like I don't care. Sometimes, I take a hot of weed and just let it bounce off the wall.

I don’t believe that at all, people get the idea that you're a coward and take advantage of it, the way i deal with it is show authority, confidence, and pay attention to everything thing around me, without looking nervous, that's how i trained for my job as a security officer, it works for me 99% of the time, if it doesn't i try to de-escalate the situation until the cops show up, the way people perceive you is what matter, if you show fear they'll take advantage of it, if you show strengths and confidence they will back off, the Darwinian theory still works. Breathing comes naturally by being calm and confident

If the anger is a fire, lower your anger to a frost.

Basically, calm yourself down and think of your calmness as a gift you would like to give this person. But you have to have that gift of calmness to give it. You can’t give them what you don’t have.

Staring at them in silence (even smiling) after they've asked you a question could be taken as a direct insult, especially if they think you're smirking, and even more so if you have done something which warrants their anger. I feel this could work in some situations and aggravate others.

2:23 what? Thats eminently going to be followed up with " Hello? Did you not fucking hear me? are you stupid?" Source: fast food. People dont feel that discomfort when irrational or on drugs. "Thats life" What.... Thats a comeback youre gonna piss people off. The first rule of de-escalation is validation. What are going on about? I wanna know what you do for a living.

I find this is bypassing. This method only uses our mind or head space to intellectualy think our way out of a feeling. We need to use our heart space to move through it by processing it and I mean all of itm . the only way out is in. Going into the emotion and deeply feeling it reveals personal truths and it allows it a way out. Like holding poop in. Doesn't work. N we can't wish it away with our mind lol. We deal with it. We let it out. To let p emotions out we need to see into their message n feel into it . usually strong emotions come up to reveal personal truths we have.

Thanks Mark

“that’s life, huh?” ohhhhh you tryna get fucked up huh

This is bad.. It wouldnt work if a person has an innocent face of babyface. You have a stare of a prison killer. You may have practised it.

Genius!

Awesome video

I have watched a lot of useless videos about this subject. But this one is good. Thanks ❤️✝️

So true. I did this in a family situation and it worked!

Thank you for taking the risk to educate me more. I've learned some things on how to deal with dealing with angry people. I'm glad you came back. I thought you would after we connected. I'm glad that we can talk. Communication is such a gift.

Hi Mark @Personal Development Perspectives, I've recently found your videos while beginning my own journey into personal development. It's been some time since you last posted. I was wondering, how would you say you have grown since making this series? Your conflict de-escalation video has been helpful, and I'm glad you took the time to film your thoughts; thank you for your efforts and I hope that life is treating you well.

Malteaser

I have a very long term cough. It's not COVID. I've had it for 30 years operations, drugs trials , you name it! I wear a mask and cover my mouth. I get verbally attacked by strangers lately on a regular basis. Today was bad. This is brilliant. I will try it next time and maybe post an update! I get tired of defending myself ...

Sorry but this is the worst advice ever. That pause, stare and the "that's life, huh?" will get you whacked - every time.

Another method is to use a completely nonsensical word or sentence that completely confuses the aggressor and often they'll either stop shouting while their angry brain is attempting to make sense of what you said so they will either adopt a more milder response or just walk away. I done just that, a neighbour who was storming up the hill to roar at me about my child finally standing up for himself against his children who were bullying him, just as he was finishing his sentence I shouted that my mother in law painted her house pink and green. His confusion was that bad he let out a huge sigh and just walked away. I really don't like confrontation and favour de escalating a situation because arguing back or using violence really solves nothing so I studied psychology and some mentalist tricks and in the 36 years of adulthood I have had many confrontations but had been involved in zero physical altercations so I guess I'm doing something right.

I like your lighting, what if you had some object in the scene too? Just a suggestion.

There's people I've dealt with whose reaction to your silence would be to attack your long pause, either that you're dumb, or have nothing to say, or just continue their tirade.

plz make more video! HELPED ME LOTS!

Are you retired from KZbin?

Yeah that's a very good technic. It's very important to remember that's a lot a lot mentally ill person out there. Sometimes people are not only mad they sick. Mental disorders like borderline disorder makes people go apes. In this scenario you should definitely step back not only because the person is mental and can actually hit in you in the face but because it needs medical treatments not your answers.

Eye seen a man get shot for doing diss.

Brilliant! This is def helpful. Thank you. Do you have more info on diffusing, deescalating?

Oh man, I don't know I ran into this but you're amazing dude. I wish there were more videos in this channel, both stories and personal development

Ok Agent 47 thanks for the tips

Are you still around ?

Love it thanks :)

Haha I’m training to be an officer, I can’t just say “that’s life”. Haha really good video it helped me a bunch

So there's this guy who keeps fucking with me bc I apparently messed with his gf, and he's AGGRESSIVE and I'm talking aggressive. I'm a peaceful guy and I like to chill so I don't want to get into a fight with him. How do I deal with him?

tnq for this they should've taught us these things in school

Well spoken. Another way I can maybe respond would be um got to learn something unique today and say nothing else.

This definitely helps against black females

All your words are so convincing. Thank you!

Thank you for this.