I appreciate this insightful question - it’s an important one. If the invited guest symbolises a challenging aspect of yourself, then acceptance involves consciously selecting a perspective on how you engage with that part of yourself. However, acceptance does not equate to surrendering, giving in, or even having to approve of that aspect. It signifies easing the internal conflict and permitting it to exist as it is. By lessening the resistance, you may find more energy to focus on the aspects of life that hold true value to you.

I'm not sure what the name of the track is.

Thanks Rivka! I appreciate the feedback 😀

Absolutely, embracing life as it is can bring a sense of peace and harmony. Thank you for sharing your insightful perspective!

@JoeOliverContextualConsulting Thanks for the vid man, show it to my clients! 😉

They were developed by Louise Hayes. Check the description for details on where to get them.

​@@JoeOliverContextualConsulting, thank you.

Glad you liked it! 😀

Very welcome. I hope it was helpful

Very welcome - I hope that they are helped

Here you go: Passengers on the Bus ACT metaphor (with Spanish subtitles) kzbin.info/www/bejne/rnXNeKanh8mmhdU

Cool, glad you liked it. And that's a really nice observation ❤️. I find it a bit like physical fitness - I need to keep working at it to maintain it. If I don't, then I start to lose the ability. But if I keep practicing, it's more likely I'll have it available and ready when I need it

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I really appreciate that. Thank you - I'm glad to hear it landed well

Glad you liked it. And I love the overly helpful friend metaphor. I like that it moves us away from treating thoughts as the enemy that need to be battled with. Thoughts can be just thoughts - sometimes helpful and sometimes not

Glad you liked it 😁

Hi Cynthia! Thank you so much for this feedback. I really appreciate it and I'm so glad to hear this hit the mark

@@JoeOliverContextualConsulting Hi Joe! You're doing great work that helps me help my clients. I keep liking them and noticed that you're starting to get quite a few comments on one of your videos recently. Well done!!

Totally agree! Seeing our emotions like shifting weather in the big sky is a cool way to step back and view our inner world from a different perspective.

Thanks! Great question. Yes, we can fuse with in various stories or thoughts, across situations - or even within a situation. Sometimes it happens so quickly we don’t even notice it occurring. The ones that tend to cause us the most trouble tend to be the ones that we return to regularly, across lots of different scenarios, and that have been around a long time. Usually they are the ones that just feel true and can come with a real emotional punch to them. They are incredibly hard to reason or argue with and will be quick to come back with supporting evidence to any push back. They often take some time to unpack and build a healthier (defused) relationship with.

Ah, thanks very much! I'm pleased to hear it landed well

I’m pleased to hear you had a positive experience 🙂

Thank you!

Great, I'm really pleased to hear that

I think we all have a bit of Brian in us

Thanks Liz! That's much appreciated.

Thank you. I'm pleased to hear that

Hi Dawid

Great, I'm pleased you liked it! Yes, I find it works great in Telehealth situation.

Although it's probably true that emotional pain can exceed physical pain, it's a bit like comparing apples and oranges - they are two distinct types of human experiences. While physical pain serves as a warning that we are causing harm and need to stop immediately, emotional pain functions differently. Emotions provide us with valuable information, signalling what we care about, indicating loss or dislike. Physical pain has a clear purpose of self-preservation, whereas emotional pain serves as a guide for our values and relationships. It's important to recognise and honour both types of pain, understanding that they play different roles in our lives.

I agree - it's such a useful and versatile tool.

The metaphor of the comfort zone illustrates how our decisions can be influenced by old habits and the desire to stay safe. While there's nothing inherently wrong with this, it can hinder us from living the life we truly desire. It's important to remember this at crucial decision points. I strongly encourage you to seek help for your trichotillomania. It can be challenging and painful, but there is definitely hope, and effective therapies like ACT or CBT can make a real difference. These therapies are structured and evidence-based, with a proven track record of helping individuals. Best of luck on your journey.

Are you from Kerala?

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