@@EddieLong-j1m we should always strive to speak life. Agreed. I do think we can correct and not condemn. We can speak truth in love.

@@pamelaolson5614 is that a good or bad thing in your opinion?

@@myaccount2825 well said

@@monaengen7792 doing my best to keep learning.

@@donnamoore4494 just trying to be better everyday.

@@dianekilbourne5734 appreciate that

@@fbbWaddell I agree that parents are responsible for understanding where their kids are developmentally and should be engaged enough to know what they are and are not ready for. I don’t know that simply having an age that you go by is the best way.

@@SixteenTonesStudio I don’t think we should set them up for failure.

@fatheringourfuture I didn't think so, I'm just reacting to an upbringing I had, where financial and emotional leverage was used to sabotage anything I did that went against their desire

@ I hate that for you. I think parents often have good intentions in what they attempt to teach their kids but God intentions are not good enough.

@@DJ_Stroodle exactly.

@@HeimerHahz ??

You did amazing!! I would have done the same thing. We have animals (horses, chickens, etc). My kids know that if the animals don’t get fed or watered, then the animals end up suffering and the kids don’t want that to happen. They are up early daily to do chores before we start with schoolwork (we are a homeschool family.). You did awesome and are raising a leader, not a follower! 💕

@ I have a cousin who grew up waking extremely early to help feed horses and chicken. He has great work ethic today.

@@Kaluanadi 😂 thanks for the feedback

@@AmysAttitude I’ll have to look up this Ruby Franke.

@@anthonymort5202 I’ve done that every time previously but this was a good opportunity for him.

The best person to depend on is yourself. Yes it’s ok to ask for help sometimes but it’s also important to help yourself as well.

@@jessecara expect the majority of the time I do help and go above and beyond. He knows I help and will help. However, it is my responsibility as a dad to teach my children how to be independent. Allowing them to “fail” at independence while under my care is the best place for that to happen because I’m able to teach, console, and be there for them.

​@@fatheringourfuture my parents tried this kind of parenting and now I'm aggressively self reliant and can't trust anyone to do anything. While what you doing isn't wrong and will teach independence, too much of it will hurt him in the long haul

@@somnus970 for sure. There is balance and moderation to everything. This instance didn’t result in consequence but inconvenience. I’m sorry about your situation though. I couldn’t imagine living and not being able to trust in others.

@@jennierenzi8739 for sure. My natural instinct as a dad is to come to the rescue and save the day. However, there are times it’s best I don’t.

@@spook-q4r sounds like a pretty rough school.

@@MommaMolly for sure. I think we should extend more grace and make it crystal clear we are there for them. There are also moments we have to let them learn. I chose this particular instant because there is no huge consequence for him but it’s still a learning opportunity.

@@fatheringourfuture also you realize like you could warn them about it so they see the connection not just that it happens. They may not connect the dots on what happened.

@@MommaMolly of course. At least three times I gave the reminder and instruction. After the fact, I made sure to have a conversation to help. Lessons like these require time, grace, and repetition.

@@albertkleppin2320 happy to do it!

I don't believe that completely.

@@JessicaKastanek thank you

@@newSOUPP the cutest!

@@luiscortes4538 who is the universal god?

@@pinkybro5671 This is why I recommend dads, and parents, continue growing and learning. Our children should be different and I believe they will and should be better. If we don’t grow and instead become complacent in our present state, we will fail to recognize the goodness in our children.

@@fatheringourfuture thanks for being a good role model for dads and parents in general. I wish my father had you to look up to, but oh well, I can only do better :)

@@pinkybro5671 I appreciate the kind words

@@joematthews7726 I wouldn’t agree with that.

@@LordPichael9mm I get that from time to time.

@@zumato3371 you’re right, which is why I have one example to use for this lesson. First time parents are usually embarrassed and humiliated by the impressions of other. The point for parents is their task is not to cater to everyone around giving them looks and making comments. Their task is to cater to their children.

@@fatheringourfuture then your video is terribly worded. You're making it sound like you shouldn't care if your kids are bothering others in a public setting.

@@zumato3371 I’ll accept that feedback but I thought it was clear I spoke of action and not carelessness.

@@StevenTurner-iy2dw people without kids expect kids to be adults or robots. When our kids cry at the table, I take them out to calm them down. I’m way more considerate than some lol but still, people often have really skewed expectations of small children.

@@philgreer3300 thanks

@@LacieBranza-vq2np I know I helped her but this really is a great way to help them do great when riding a bike.

@@gretanooe5818 thanks :) just trying to love these kids the best I can.